DutchmansLady

You seem to be in San Diego. Go to this site: http://www.sandiego.gov/sandiegofamilyjusticecenter/ for domestic violence hotline. Number is: (888) DV-LINKS (385-4657)
Here is another 24 hour San Diego domestic violence hotline number: 619-234-3164 from this site http://www.ywcasandiego.org/inquire/24-hour-domestic-violence-hotline.html

Ditto to that miracles do happen ..all we can do is wait and see

Nope thats the 125% already figured for you. WOW it went up from 29334 almost $500 yikes.

Congrats

Do you have online banking enabled? See if you can find a scanned copy of the check online. Make sure it has the USCIS endorsement in the signature area. Best to be safe.

Sorry to hear that...hope you can work it all out .Good luck :-)

Did your mother in-law just tell you that you were rejected and you haven't seen whether that is true or not ?Did you receive a text or email stating that you application was rejected ?

We both have in the same situation.. Its been 10 days since we sent out form l-130. As of now No email notification verifying they review our petition . We havent receive our first NOA from the USCIS yet.
Cheer up maybe this month of march is our month. I read some post some filers receive thier NOA1 30 days later.
just be patient and ask the guidance of our Lord
God answers in 3 ways
He says Yes and gives you what you want,
He says No and gives you something better,
He says wait and gives you the best.

no, of course we will never give up. and we are trying very hard to regroup :-) we did after the first shock about the denial, then waited and waited for the letter. regrouped again. focused on the infopass and thought we will be wiser after that. last night very happy and enthusiastic about what the USCIS lady at infopass said. sleepless night because of doubts : isn't it sort of illegal? but why would she suggest that ? is that crazy ? today all day gathering information what to do. after all I read here and elsewhere and after 2 phone calls to tier 2 people again deep frustration. regrouping....feeling absolutely helpless and at loss at the moment. it will pass and we will sort this out somehow. just happy about all you guys here trying to help. Big thank you !

Are you looking for someone to Sponsor your husband from this forum ? If so..I dont think that will happen .

I know you must be very upset. I would be too.
I would really follow up on this "never sent RFE." The person at your infopass clearly said it was never sent. Get someone to rattle cages to amend that.

Why is it assumed intimate means sex. I sent a photo of the wife kissing during our wedding; is this not intimate.
If the OP means actual sex shots then no don't send those.

Maybe it's my desperate optimism speaking, but I highly doubt we'll be waiting ~8 months. From what I've gathered, ~March filers waited 9 months for approval whereas ~July/August filers waited an average of 6 months. I don't think we'll be waiting longer than they have, considering we're post-Oct/Nov filers (i.e. after they implemented the new system in an attempt to speed things up). Also taking into account that they're planning to meet a goal of 5 months by May, I'd say we'll get updates in July (even if they're a month or two off in meeting that goal). Now whether the NVC will have picked up the slack by then is a whole other story, but we at least have a slightly shorter NOA interval to look forward to.
(at least that's what I tell myself. That's my story, and I'm sticking to it )

I think you've confused folks because you've selected DCF on your timeline. DCF means that you've filed the I-130 direct with the local consulate. You haven't. DCF is only available in a very tiny number of locations (NL not being one of them).
Everyone filing I-130 abroad, whether it goes to the USA or your local consulate, eventually deals with their local consulate post I-130 approval. You should set it as regular IR/CR-1 timeline (without the DCF) to have your data entered into the correct section (leaving it in the wrong section will skew the results for other people). It's the timeline data that allows VJ to make predictions and estimations on when folks can anticipate getting their petition approval.
Does that make sense?

I've been down that road before. I am a Filipina , married to a US citzen under K1. When i arrived here in US everything was fine.. After 2 weeks i felt like i wanna go home, leave US without AOS. It was so hard for me- i just cried for NO reasons all i wanted is to go home.But my husband was very supportive to me all the time that i've been through.It gets more worst and worst everyday.. my husband always prayed for me to recover, until one day he told me and convinced me to go to a Counsel- I go with him without hesitation because i want to save our Marriage after all BUT still " i wanted to go home"- In my 1st visit when they talked to me about 'anything & personal questions they knew that I am " Depressed " Till they let me answer those 400 questions for some reasons - Until they wanted me to see a Doctor. So we went there the Dr. issued me a " CELEXA " for anti- depression. It helps a lot after all- I was more relax- i feel sleepy most of the time. It was a "BIG HELP" for me, God really help us especially in my case- It's not easy guys if you will not be in this kind of ' situation' You will not understand "WHY" -
I hope your wife can fully recover where she is now... It' hard and i knew it! Don't give up- Keep on praying.. God will hear you.
Matthew 7:7~ 8
Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.

Tuck, I'll share my thoughts and personal experiences, but unfortunately it all comes down to the two of you. At the end of the day the TWO of you will make it work or you won;t. Nobody can do it for you.
Our first three months together were hell, the next three months were slightly less hellish. In the next thee months my wife asked how she can file for divorce. Twice my wife has taken herself to the airport. Marriage made in heaven right?
There is so much at play here that you have no idea about.
I do not subscribe to the idea these girls plan these things out. I think they have every intention of making a life with us. But, the reality of middle class life in the US is very different then they imagine it to be.
Those of us who like to travel and experience new cultures don;t realize how traumatic this move is for family based cultures. We live alone and like. Asians not so much. They love the family, social aspect of their life. Suddenly it's just the two of you. Face it your not that charming after a long day of work.
Most likely she is bored, lonely, and homesick. mostly homesick.
You also need to consider what is going on in the background with her family. Are they pressuring her for money? After all, now she has a rich American husband she should be building a new house for mom, buying motorbikes for her siblings, etc. If she is torn between her responsibility to her family and to you, who does she choose?
I am completely convinced my wife would have left in the first three months had it not been for a couple Thai girls here in town who knew exactly how to handle her. Finding that support system is crucial to the adjustment. You can tell her truths over and over, but they don;t ring true until she can hear it from her sisters. My wife thought I was lying about having to make a mortgage and car payment each month. When the Thai girls told her it was true, then she believed me. She couldn't understand how I could afford to stay in Thailand for months at a time, go out party, eat, tour, etc. but in the US I had to live on a budget. What really made it real for her was finding out the other girls work two or three jobs so they can have a house and car and "stuff".
My wife is very independent. She had her own business. Car, motorbike, etc. she could go and do as she pleases. Suddenly she is completely dependent on me for everything. money, food, transportation. I'm sure you don;t treat her like a slave, but she could easily feel like one.
When my wife asked to go back home for the umbteenth time. I said ok, but we have put so much time into this process please wait until the AP comes through otherwise it's a one way trip. I said the day you get the AP, if you still want to go home I will buy a ticket. The AP arrived, she put it on her wallet and she is still here.
Tuck, this process is much more difficult for her then it is for you. I'm sure there is more going on in the background then you are aware of. You have to be the better person here. Turn a blind ear to what she says and try to hang in there.
If she is intent on self pitty there isn;t a lot you can do. But Phils girls are by nature fun and light hearted. You just need to find that part of her again.
A few ideas:
Get a tablet for her
Set up a facebook account for her
Set up a skype account for her
Get her on the phone with her family
Get her access to native tv programing. Movies, tv shows, etc. If she spends all day looking at soaps, thats ok.
If she won;t go out to meet local Phils natives, ask a few to come to your house. They will know just how to handle her.
Give her an out. Do this and this for me, if you still want to go I will buy the ticket. Give her some control over her life.
*** Self serving Soapbox moment ***
For those of you who do not have a spouse from a poor country. Please refrain from comment like "she planned this" "this doesn't sound right" "she has an agenda" etc. If you come from a wealthy western country, you have a skill and a good job, you have no idea of the dynamics at play here. You need to spend time in these cultures to understand them. Our western morals and attitudes just don't fit in all situations. So please, be supportive and respectful. Give her the benefit of the doubt and let Tuck decide if she is genuine or not.
*** Stepping off soapbox ***