flora01

I don't understand this part of story.

Marriage was going well until i751 and then there is a sudden divorce in the middle of i751.

It means that the marriage was definitely not going well, beneficiary wanted to remain silent until the completion of ROC.

Anyways, you need to inform USCIS about it.

Better consult an attorney and file for new I751 on waiver because if they call you for interview then it's gonna be a problem.

You got married in feb. last year, what took him so long to file for I130?

This is the part of process that both have to wait until application gets approved, I don't understand a story that one wants to end the relationship because of distance now when it's just few more months for the process to be over.

So you two have never had sex before marriage? Maybe she had different expectations as to the physical side of the marriage from what you had?

I highly support it.

'She is not physically attracted to him' may be just half part of the story.

I assume it's an arranged marriage, that's why you had to keep on living with him in India even after realizing that he is a messy person. In arranged marriages, women have to follow few old society norms.

Right now you should try to find job for yourself (i assume you don't have one) and once you find it , it's up to you whether you want to continue this relationship or not.

I don't think this is a good idea to leave him just after getting green card because it will indicate you came to this country just for green card (since you already knew that he is messy person and kept on living with him).

It will affect your case of citizenship later on.

So it's better to give him an option to improve once you settle yourself. Give both father and son this option to improve their living style once you find job.

And most important, keep records of all conversations and proofs of their behavior and living conditions in order to defend your case of citizenship later on. Even if you separate or divorce right now, you will have proof of the reasons of divorce.

Not an easy thing to admit, but with much embarrassment, I have to admit to being played... after so much work trying to get my wife into the US now I have to work at getting her away. Only three weeks here and her intentions are very clear.On second night she stated at 60 I should not have a desire for relations and stated she never had sexual feelings, ever.I asked why she had not previously mentioned this to me and that it was odd considering not one month before we agreed that she should be on the pill which she started before leaving for the US. The next day she said she didn't love me "but who knows, in a month I might". This from a female in her 30s. I offered to fly her home if she was so unhappy and she liked that idea because she thought I would continue to pay all of her living expenses as I had been doing since before we were married.No, that meant divorce. Not a good reaction from her. Now,we seldom talk and if so fight. She spends her days watching tv and smoking and talking to her new filipina friends. She moved into the spare bedroom on day 3 and has yet to unpack her suitcase.Next stop I guess is a lawyer to get me out of this mess as best I can and as fast as I can.And right now, all she will talk to me about is "when will the green card and ss card get here?".And I really did not see this coming. Love can be stupid as well as blind.

You need to protect yourself at the earliest as she has been talking to her Philippine friends. She might be exploring other options here.

Better to go through other stories about false domestic voilence accusations by spouse after reaching here.

It seems odd but USCIS tells me I have no right to know the status.

I had a positive relationship with my wife until about 3 weeks ago, and to my knowledge no RFE had been issued. At that point I'm fairly sure she consulted an attorney, he may have pulled the file and found there was nothing submitted, and started working on pulling together evidence. My wife has asked me for a list of the trips she took to the USA before she moved here, and photos of us together. There is no question that we had a relationship, but it was devoid of most of the things USCIS looks for.

Reconciliation is impossible. Divorce will happen eventually. I want to know the implications of certain things on her immigration case. I will say plainly that I feel used, that I waited patiently in a long distance relationship for 4 years (1 1/2 before marriage and 2 1/2 after) to move in with her, and that when she told me to move out literally the day she moved here and spent the 6 weeks before I actually did move out mostly saying "I want to start dating" I am none too happy.

Looking at all of your stories from all threads, the conclusion is

1.A woman unwillingly marries you and moves to this country 2 months before filing I751 just for a green card.

2.Her intentions are clear as soon as she moves here. She asks you to leave.

3.You already know that marriage can't be worked out and divorce is inevitable.

4.You want to remain married to her just for health insurance which you need urgently. After knowing that she

never loved you, never tried to live with you and not willing to work out this relationship you are still worried about her status and keep on asking different scenario questions about I751.

That is why you still had a positive relationship with her until about 3 weeks ago (are you serious).

Either you are not telling the other half of the story or its just helping someone for money. You both know there is no relationship going on, it's just a deal for money which you did with her.

Thats why you are too concerned about her status that you think about it day and night.

The thing is though, it's a game of both people wanting to do bad things to each other in a way. How can you suggest he's a cheater, when the op is trying to play the game too and get him punished? She has admitted her evidence is not strong against him (on a betrayal/scam level). She doesn't even know what's truly going on. This is a case for marriage counselling or divorce, not "I think our marriage is over now I want to destroy your life because you hurt me". I understand where you are coming from but we don't know the whole story.

Perhaps after marriage he learned that his wife was not whom he expected her to be, and vice versa. Yeah it's not cool to list on a dating site as single, but it ain't cool to try to ruin his new life either. As an immigrant myself I see both people as doing bad behavior and showing signs of inability to handle married life here. Their conversations as described seem more like roommates, and that's coming from both sides. Something ain't right about this and I'm not going to point fingers at the immigrant, only advise the damage that can be caused. And if it backfires, he can make the USC a misery. There's that affidavit of support thing, and if he does manage to fight it and eventually get his conditions removed, he could get some payback if he knew that his "ex" tried to ruin his life. It's a dangerous game to play and I think people should just move on, deal with their marriage/divorce and get on with life.

Exactly, if you learn anytime in life that the person you married is not the one you loved the best step is divorce.

Searching someone on dating site while being married and stating single is called over-smartness, opportunist and cheating. Husband just wants to remain married for immigration purpose. If his status had been cleared, he must had dumped her after getting permanent GC. So technically he is waiting for time to dump her and searching another woman on a dating site. I don't understand the meaning of 'his new life'.

I never said that thinking about withdrawing sponsorship or ruining his life is justified on the part of OP. She can file for divorce on the basis of cheating or send letter to USCIS for the beneficiary's immigration intentions of marriage and move on in her life.

Thinking about ruining beneficiary's life after getting him/her here is completely wrong.

My husband has now became this alcoholic, non working, lying, cheating man! He is wanting me to move out our home! He has been here 14 months now. He said he dont have to go back to morocco even though its not been 2 years. I want to revoke my sponsorship. Im also filing for divorce.

What are the steps for me to revoke my sponsorship?

How do I notify imigration of him, or do I?

Do I need to do anything else???

Desperate for answers...

To be on dating site stating you are single when you are not completely not justified on both parts no matter what's the issue in marriage. Only a cheater goes to dating site after being married. If its your home nobody can force you to leave. If you are not happy with your married life and have proof of husband cheating on you, you can file for divorce on this basis. You can notify immigration by mailing letter stating that you found your husband cheating and got to know that he married you only for green card (make sure you have enough strong proofs to prove it). You can't cancel sponsorship at this stage but these things will defenitely harm to his immigration status. Keep all the records of him abusing you or your family.

I strongly believe you can't think of your future with cheater so better take decisions at this stage.

i received following update this morning on my case status:

On July 2, 2014, we mailed the new card directly to the address we have on file. You should receive your new card within 30 days. If you do not, or if you move before you get it, call customer service at 1-800-375-5283.

Will it have any tracking number?

With this status usually comes the tracking number. You might get tracking number today or tomorrow which you can track on usps website. Card comes with two days priority mail which you normally get by next day in most cases.

If card production is ordered and card is mailed then nobody can cancel the card.

When i came to this country, i thought of proceeding as teacher ( as i was teacher in my home country). I applied to sfud (san francisco unified school district). I had experience of 7 years as teacher and experience of international schools. They gave me even experience certificate which i added with job application.

I got my degrees evaluated, its equavalent to US masters and got CA teaching certification. After 2 months of applying when i didnot get any response, one day i was working in business area of my apt building, i happened to talk to sfud teacher who lives in apt building for last 10 years. She listened to my story and approached sfud on my behalf. On her assistance i got rejection email after 1 week. I went to in person to the office and asked what should i do in order to imporve myself as teacher or what's the reason of rejection. To my surpirse the guy didn't give me any reason and instead said nobody knows the rejection reason. I wanted to meet the manager he didn't allow.

On the other side lot of my relatives and friends told me stories about these consultants. I was never convinced with the idea of faking resume and getting job in IT with it.

So here i am working hard in sales everyday, the field in which i never worked in my home country,applied with real resume and getting lot less than what one can get in IT.

All i can say its difficult to stick to principals in this hard economy where you see people around you getting benefitted with lies.

But i am still not convinced with the idea of faking resume.

Hi, I just wanna share that I file my ROC based on abuse last Feb. 2014 and it was on card production status June 27, 2014. I did all the paperwork...I received my Divorce decree June 25th...I didn't get any RFE...and no interview! I was surprised for the fast approval.

That is really fast, you are a lucky VSC waiver filer.

I think it depends on documents too. If you have strong documents to prove then lawyer is not required at all.

I do, but it is subject to expiration. I am in no way looking to apply for citizenship in the near future. I just want to know all my options and prepare.

If applying for naturalization was the main problem, it would have been the first question I asked. Being the best mother to my daughter and having a solid plan for our future is my main concern at this point. But, this is an immigration website and people ask immigration-related questions here, so that's why I posted my questions here. (I was once a long time member who helped many, but don't wish to post under my old screen name for privacy reasons)

Again, if you have nothing nice to say, keep your snarky comments to yourself. I don't wish what I am going through right now upon anyone. I have never been so heartbroken in my entire life.

I was confused on whether it would be 5 years from the date I became an LPR or 5 years in total.

I don't know whom you are addressing in first few sentences but would like to answer the question in last sentence.

5 years from the date when you got conditional green card. Look at permanent green card you have, LPR starts from date of 'residence since' on permanent green card, that is the date when you got conditional green card.

I am the LPR wife. I met my soon-to-be-ex-husband in 2008. We dated for 2 years before I moved to the US on a K-1 visa in 2010. I adjusted my status in 2010. We had our only child together in 2012. We applied for ROC in 2013. I have been eligible for citizenship since 2013, because we were busy with other things and it never occurred to me in a million years that we would ever get divorced! We were quite the happy little family until a month ago. He is insisting on divorce and says that he is not happy and hasn't been. I am distraught over this! So are both of our families! He had already made it clear that there is no room for working things out and he refuses counseling... He even said he would sign our daughter's rights over to me...!

Here's my dilemma: I never had a plan B! I loved him so much (and still do), but I really think he has already started preparing for the divorce process... I have no family in the US and I am absolutely scared of the thought of raising my daughter on my own with no support system. I have less than 10K in savings on my own and my car and that's it! Raising my daughter where I grew up is not even an option. I do not think it is safe. She is American and I believe raising her here is far better option than raising her in country in so much political chaos and less opportunities than she could ever have here. How do I prepare myself for being a young single mom in the US on my own?

Also... Since I became an LPR in 2010, I am assuming I will be eligible for citizenship in 2015? I was out of the country for 2 month in 2011, and 5 weeks in 2013, and already have a long trip scheduled at the end of this month after learning that my mother was diagnosed with cancer (my husband dumped me just a week after I told him of the bad news and on the same day I booked my ticket!!!!). Will the long periods out of the US affect the process?

Legally speaking is there anything I should be careful about? He has already been through a divorce and custody battle before and he is nothing but a jerk to his ex. I am really worried about seeing the other side of him and I want to prepare for anything that could come up in a divorce/custody process... If anyone has been through that before, I would greatly appreciate any tips.

Thank you!

Your divorce seems to be inevitable and you already removed your condition, can apply for citizenship after 5 years of LPR. What are you worried about?

I think you should be more worried about job and settling life over here if you have to take care of your daughter.

I still didn't understand 'marriage was arranged hastily'. I think that was a strong way to prove that you both entered into marriage in good faith and got all family members involved in wedding.

Here is what happened.

I had wanted to get married but she had been resistant. We had been told that if we got married in the USA, USCIS or ICE or someone would say that she had lied when she came to the USA that weekend, saying she said she entered as a tourist but in fact entered intending to get married. So I was exploring ways to get married in Canada, although she still had never agreed to get married.

One Friday afternoon I went to see a lawyer in the USA, who said we would have no problem. When she arrived that night I told her. Now keep in mind, I wanted to get married. I found that you can get married anytime of the day or night, but you can only get a license during business hours, and the license is good for 60 days. So I proposed that the following weekend she come on Thursday night and we get the license Friday. I didn't actually say "Let's get married" - I was afraid that might scare her off.

So the following Friday we went and got the license. Then she said "Let's go across the street and get married," It was the first time I realized we were getting married. We got there and it was too late - the courtroom was closed for lunch. So we went out to lunch and then for a quick trip to Macy's. I had a bridge partner who was self-employed and his wife didn't work so I knew I could at least try to call him and ask them if they'd come downtown and be witnesses for us, but I was afraid it would scare my wife, so I didn't. And that's how we ended up in front of the judge without any of our own witnesses.

I felt kinda bad not waiting long enough to invite my parents. Her family could not have come, as they live in Europe. From time to time in the past, I had discussed possible wedding scenarios that would include some kind of video link to Europe, but she had never seemed too keen on the idea.

Its one sided love and relationship. I completely understand your situation and sympathize with you, you were in love but she was not. She proceeded with you only for green card and you expected it to work out sometime in future. Now you need to come to reality that she doesn't love you so better move on in your life.

All the best!

I support that she must have heard back from USCIS.

People from different countries marry in order to live together.After reading your story i am convinced that you entered into marriage in good faith but she didn't. I don't know what does it mean 'our marriage was hastily arranged'. Who arranged it? GC is filed after marriage and ideally both are supposed to live together after getting conditional GC. That's why its called conditional green card. They want to check whether you fulfilled the conditions or not.

You are absolutely right, if marriages break its easy to say move on but difficult to do. But in your case it is easy to move on since you lived with her for a very short period of time and now separated for almost 10 or 11 months.

I think you should move on with your life and forget about her green card.

If she didn't make effort to live with you till now and you think its girlfriend and boyfriend relationship which could work out sometime in future, then you are big time emotional fool whom she is using for green card. If you think this marriage will not work out and still filing jointly, its wrong on your part.

I still didn't understand 'marriage was arranged hastily'. I think that was a strong way to prove that you both entered into marriage in good faith and got all family members involved in wedding.

Hi Everyone,

Getting ready to start the ROC procedures and I was wondering, do you include evidence of marriage for the total length of the marriage or just the 2 years while in the US? (We were married and lived together for a year before immigrating to the US).

TIA

Merc

You need to include evidences for last 2 years since you got your conditional GC. They already have your whole file. We get conditional GC after submitting evidences for marriage and only if they are satisfied with those evidences.They want to see progress in relationship after getting conditional GC. I just submitted evidences and pics for last 2 years and got approved within 3 months.

Hello fellow members,

My husband just did his fingerprints and photos on Thursday, June 26, 2014. It was fast. No issues.

Now what happens next? How long before we know what to do next?

Depends on your service center. For CSC it might take from 2 to 5 months after bio (depends on your documents). For VSC it might take more than 6 months. I have seen VSC applicants waiting since november.

You also might want to get some tutoring or take a college class in English composition. The way you write, especially if you are writing a cover letter in a similar style, could be a bit of a turn off. My husband has a 9/10th grade education from another country and his grammar and usage of English is by far superior. I realize you are writing informally on here, but a few pointers in American English can't hurt.

I think he is not seeking advice on english improvement. I have seen worst english posts here. People come here to seek support and advice in hard time and people guide each other for betterment.

Yesterday I sent my first work application and resume. Today they replied and asked me to come for an interview next week. It will be my first interview here in USA.

I need advices to prepare myself on "Do & Don't" at the interview.

please share!

What kind of job is it?

Better to search on google the possible questions regarding job.I remember when i tried for teller position when i came to US,i passed three interviews 1 on phone two face to face by just googling possible questions and preparing them in advance.Even i passed the interview with area manager,but i think i did not get job because they did my credit check,i did not have any credit history in US at that time.

You need to show confidence in all replies and be honest.I got job in sales after qualifying two interviews,they were all 45 min long and detailed.

Dress professionally and answer with smile and confidence.

U send you package at Vermont or California?

If you see on left at the bottom of everybody's name,you can see filing location as 'filing service center'.

Its highly slim chance for her to get approved because she did not maintain her LPR after getting green card,she just continued living in her home country.(i think petitions are filed in order to live with spouse,if she did not want to live in US or with you,why did you file I130 and why did she continue living in canada after getting green card)

If relationship is not working out why did she come to US in 2013 and sold house in canada,bought condo here.

It will be difficult to explain to USCIS that why you both lived together just for 1 month when it was time to file for ROC.Its clear that ROC is applied just to get green card.

Almost impossible to get ROC approved.

There is not time limit of how long case can go without decision.There are few people who filed 2 years back still waiting to hear back.

You say that you both lived together just for 1 month,where were both of you from 2011 dec to 2013 jan ,if she got her green card in nov 2011?

What do you mean by she came to US in 2013?where was she before that?

If she lived all this time out of the states that its difficult to get case approved cos she lived most of her time out of US.

Also if you both don't plan to reunite,then its wrong to file jointly if you are living separately.

Your docs listed above are weak to get case approved.

What i don't understand is why are you concerned about her status,whether she gets approved or not?

All you should concern is ,you should not support joint petition when you both are living apart and relationship is not working out.Filing jointly when not in relationship is wrong in USCIS eyes and you are equally responsible for it.

Hi flora thank you for the interesting post,

what do you mean by cards on N 28 and 29 ? witch cards?

good luck to you

By #28 i meant joint occasional cards received at address,which were addressed to both(although few mentioned my nick name instead of official name,but had same last name so USCIS figured it out that it was me as only me and my husband are mentioned on joint lease doc)

By #29 i meant letters received at home which had just one name(either him or me).I submitted them to give address proof.(i am not on car insurance of my husband so car insurance doc just have his name,few letters were from my friends which just had my name)

Hope this helps

Math Solution

Let the conditional card issue date = X

Therefore conditional card expiry date = (X + 2years )

Let the ROC approval date = Y

Therefore, Expiration date of the new 10 year card= Y+10 years

note: New 10 year card issuance date = X

Doesn't get easier than that

Let me explain it in layman's way,everybody is not math expert …lol(although i have masters in math)

conditional green card granted date: 6/01/2012

conditional green card expiration date:6/01/2014

ROC approval date(card production order) : 7/01/2014

new permanent green card expiration date: 7/01/2024

Moral of story: new permanent green card expires on the day of year(after 10 years)when your ROC was approved

Math problem.

So the conditional green card expires after 2 years. A "regular" green card expires after 10 years. What is the expiration date of the new green card after ROC if the original date of issue is 01/25/2012? Is it a simple add 10 years to the aforementioned date? or is it 10 years after the conditional green card expiration which in this case was 01/25/2014?

Bonus question.

Where do they print green cards?

Thanks!

I thought card delivery is usually about a week from approval...

oh well.... the "how soon it arrives" is the least of issues anyway.

Its incredible that not one of January VSC has been approved yet, May be I will relocate to the faster processing center when app-ing for N400

If it's any consolation especially to VSC folks, Early/late ROC approval doesn't change or affect N-400 app.

That it took, say 9 months to get ROC doesn't mean you won't be eligible for N400 before someone in the group who got approved in two months. AOS and not ROC approval date is the determining factor.

I guess Its just the stress/anxiety of not knowing when approval will come as time ticks by.. hopefully twill be soon

Godspeed to the rest of the group.

I really feel for VSC filers.Its a complete partiality on the ground of processing center which i don't understand.

I think its just not anxiety,ROC affects traveling plans too.

But small benefit i see in late approval,i checked my green card expiration date.Its the day of ROC approval in 2024.So if ROC is approved late your green card will expire late.Well its small a benefit,but better than nothing..lol.