gwenneh

It can be pretty vicious, frankly. Speaking from close experience, I've seen some *very* unfair deals enacted under the name of "child support". It all depends on who has a better lawyer, mommy or daddy.
My ex's brother is currently getting reamed in the name of "child support", the situation is pretty dire, and he is ANYTHING but a deadbeat dad. I've had the "privilege" of being present at some of the court hearings (as ex's brother can no longer afford a car, gas, or insurance) and, frankly, it's a joke.
Re-evaluation? Total joke. He's been trying to get this re-evaluated for several years now, with no success - god knows he can't afford a lawyer better than the mother's (who isn't footing the bill for it, her parents are). He is working two to three jobs to meet the amount they require of him and has nothing - and I mean NOTHING - to live on afterwards. The court doesn't seem to be interested in the fact that this makes him unable to support himself at all, even though he lives with his blind and disabled dad (along with my ex, who works two jobs to pay for the both of *them*).
So yes, I think the OP could possibly be correct in that the system might have a bit of a punitive nature, and it's a slippery slope, too.

You can do it -- I did -- but it is a pain since the Wii is not HDMI. The power supply is fine, but we needed a maze of wires to get it to work on our US television.

As part of the "engaged in three months, married in six" brigade, I can tell you that abiding love was, in fact, the only reason in our case -- neither of us knew anything about immigration at all, and it would have been hard to have based a relationship on immigration when we didn't know what country we were going to live in. We have been very happily married for nearly seven years now, have lived in several different countries and are looking forward to living in more. We are both of "sound age and solid education" and we knew this was the right relationship more or less instantly. Sometimes, you do just "know." So yes, I can tell you that abiding love is the only reason in some such cases.
You don't have to "buy it" because frankly, peoples' reasons are none of your business and those of us who have managed our relationships differently aren't trying to sell you anything. Judging other peoples' emotions by your own measurements is a fairly large mistake.

As part of the "engaged in three months, married in six" brigade, I can tell you that abiding love was, in fact, the only reason in our case -- neither of us knew anything about immigration at all, and it would have been hard to have based a relationship on immigration when we didn't know what country we were going to live in. We have been very happily married for nearly seven years now, have lived in several different countries and are looking forward to living in more. We are both of "sound age and solid education" and we knew this was the right relationship more or less instantly. Sometimes, you do just "know." So yes, I can tell you that abiding love is the only reason in some such cases.
You don't have to "buy it" because frankly, peoples' reasons are none of your business and those of us who have managed our relationships differently aren't trying to sell you anything. Judging other peoples' emotions by your own measurements is a fairly large mistake.

You keep saying this. I understand that you're frustrated at the moment, but this really is the least of your problems right now.

This should have been the clue to you that these were not lawyers you should be hiring. A real immigration lawyer would be able to tell you what those codes mean and what the repercussions are *before* you hire them. These are common codes; justified or not, the POE does not just write things in people's passports arbitrarily. Someone, somewhere felt that you represented a security risk - for whatever reason, again, justified or not.
Frankly, entering with a visitor visa, 10,000 Euro, and a one way ticket raises a number of red flags for immigrant intent! I'm not surprised that someone picked up on this. You had nothing to prove your ties to your home country, a large amount of money, and a one-way ticket, FFS!
Whether or not you feel that Detroit's decision is justified is completely irrelevant at this point - these things are in your passport, on your record, and you have to work around them. You need a good attorney who specializes in waivers, because nothing you say or do and no amount of "But it's a lie!" is going to cause them to go "Oh, really? We're sorry about that, here you go, have a visa. Those wacky border officers, they lie all the time!" You need to stop being fixated on the fact that you feel it's unjustified and start getting your waiver together if you want to salvage your case!
I don't say this to be harsh, but because you have a limited amount of time to appeal, and every day you spend in "But I didn't do anything wrong!" is another day gone for you.

Sorry, this is a bit confusing. You say your fiance visa was approved on November 4th, 2010 but you were married on October 28th, 2010? If that is the case you were no longer a fiance and the visa no longer applied to you -- you cannot use it to enter the country.
How did you enter the U.S.(on what visa) and when?