jbanya

Wow this topic has really kinda gone places I didn't expect. We have one young lady here saying quite bluntly that in her culture it is NOT acceptable for a young woman to LOVE an significantly older man. That is interesting as there certainly seem to be many looking. Be that as it may, my fiance and I have a significant age difference and I have struggled with this since the start. My heart lead me a different direction then my logic. My primary reason for finding an overseas wife was twofold. First is the culture in the Philippines frowns on divorce, an option here all to common in the US of A. Second I truely love the Philippines and will be retiring there in a few years. If I had any doubts about her love for me I would not be filing a K! visa. I have met her whole family from Mom, Dad, Aunts, Uncles, Brother, and Sister. Not once did they indicate there was an issue with our age difference rather they were very accepting and charming.
To all of those here truely IN LOVE, there are no guarantees in life but LOVE is a blessing. To all those devote Catholics who frown upon us, ask your Priest how old Joseph was and how young Mary was.
God bless everyone here and may the Heart lead us all on our own journies.

Congratulations on your NOA2! I wish you happy birthday and I know it already is!
Good luck to all the honest people out there who just want to be together with people they trully love.
For all the other cases, I wish the USCIS had a lie detector to immediatly reject those petitions, which are fraudulent.

Usually the older one have fear than the younger one I guess; he said he feel bad as Asian usually look younger and he actual age 10 years elder than me. Once at London we lined in to visit a Museum, and the counter officer told me "student and age below 21 is half price".
I am a bit naughty, I like to address him "Uncle" as well...

I lived in the Philippines for a short while, my fiancée is from there too, and eventually we plan to probably retire there. I partly agree with you. A huge age gap turns an eye there, here, most anywhere.
Do people think there are other intentions… sure… guess what, they think that to some degree with any Filipina with any foreigner. I would bet money that those same people even believe that about your relationship too.
Are there women who feel they will just endure what they need? Yes
Are there women who marry an old man hoping to inherit when he dies? Yes
Are there women who just want a GC? Yes
Are there men who are basically seeking a Filipina just for sex? Yes
Are there men who are think of a Filipina as submissive maid type? Yes
Are there men who think a Filipina will work and improve his financial situation? Yes
Each of those kind of people is probably going to get a rude awakening.
Anyone who has been in PI for any length of time has seen some terrified looking 18 year old girl with a grumpy looking 70+ year old man. And we ALL think the same thing at first sight.
Ann and I have a 20 year gap. But don’t assume.
I know her dad, he is several years older than me, and I get along well with the man and have a lot of respect for him. I asked his permission to marry her. I think at first he was leery of me, I would be more worried if he hadn’t been. I made a promise to him to not only always support her, but to always love and care for her.
As for her intentions. She was NOT looking for some imaginary better life.
She is educated, intelligent, and confident. She comes from a relatively wealthy family. One had ran for political office and has a beautiful home on a mountain with a breathtaking view of the manila skyline at night. Her family has no expectation of us supporting or helping them financially. When we met she was doing very well at her job and in the beginning wouldn't even let me buy her load for her phone to talk to me.
Yes I support her now. She quit her job at my request to be able to spend more time together. We Skype most every waking minuet, and often even while asleep. While I am writing this she is currently napping and I can see her in the corner of my screen. I think our longest non-stop Skype call was 60 hours. The one thing that can upset her or piss her off is if I’m not on cam for too long. And I get out of sorts without her too. Are we a little OC with each other? Yup.
She is 24. Are Filipinas 18-25 a gamble? Sure. So are American women the same age. Guess what American women 30+ are a gamble too. I would bet a Filipina or any woman of any age is also a gamble. Hell, I bet men of all ages are also a gamble. I think its part of being human.
Before her I dated girls here that were even younger than her. (Granted they were insane)
Why was she interested in a white guy? Honestly that part is superficial but easy to understand. She told me about how when she was young she was friends with Mormon missionaries, they were kind, clean cut, and she found it attractive. She still prefers when I wear a tie.
I have a similar history. I was born in Okinawa, and have always had a deep attraction for Asian women. My first crush was on the singer Mitsuyo Nemoto back in 1980. So much so I had special ordered albums from japan, not exactly a common thing back then. My Ann pushes all the right buttons, she is the most amazingly stunning woman I have ever seen.
Sure we talk ####### about ‘those’ couples. We talk ####### about lots of stuff. And we know others probably talk ####### about us too.
The truth is we are perfect for each other and very well aware that if we were with anyone else we would drive them insane. We are too needy, too demanding, too OC, for anyone but each other.
Yep we have an age gap. But don’t read a lot into it. Don’t bet on me dying decades before her either. My family lives OLD and vital lives. My grandmother is still alive and maybe a little insane because she has a crush on a guy in his late 20’s (shhhh, he don’t know). lol
We like the same music, she cried like a baby when I held her and sang ‘your song’ for her. We like the same TV shows and movies, we even sync watching them online together. She is my match, my soul mate in every way!

I'm 25 and my fiancé is 29. Oh let's just face the truth that a lot of Filipino benefiaries are after green card, i honestly think that most of those people who have a large age gap can be doubtful about their real reason of marrying their fiance/fiancee not only in PI but other countries as well. but lets take considerations for those who are not.
My fiancé and I decided to have prenup agreement, so definitely I'm not after his money.
I insist before that I will go in US via working visa because I'm a professional here in Philippines, but our situation has turned to other route since we're now having our baby.
With our small age gap, I can't say whats on others mind and I will never be in their shoes.
Who knows what they're really feeling? But it feels so good to be love and be loved back.

The problem is not getting approved from USCIS with an age difference, the problem would be at the consulate and more so with K1's than CR1's.
Older men and younger women not as much of a red flag as older women and younger men. Sexist, but true.
It is also embassy specific and culturally viewed by the interviewing CO.
It is not a "one size wear all."
Different strokes for different folks and different assumptions and speculations by different consulates, especially in high fraud countries.
Age difference should not matter but unfortunately it sometimes does.

Found out that we were approved when I woke up this morning. Call my love at her work which suprized her cause I have never called her there before. Actually she thought something may be wrong with me that I called her there. But when I explained why, she started screaming so loudly. Good thing she is the shift supervisor and no boss was there.................LOL.
As she would say, keep faith in God and all will come to you in good time.
Next part, how do we update our timeline? I can't get the page to open under this new "FB" type of look here in VJ.

I think it will create a bit of problems but if your relationship is true you just need to be patient. Maybe plan on taking a lot of pics next time you meet?
My husband and I barely have 10 pics of us together but we have paperwork that could be used to prove that we're a true couple (like his life insurance and his military clearance). Maybe open a shared bank account or something similar?
I'll leave more detailed answers to people that know more.
Good luck

In agreement with the other members, I think she actually has more chance of successfully adjusting status while in the U.S. if she marries this random guy she met, than she does if she marries you while on the tourist visa. This is because it is fraud to enter on a tourist visa with intent to immigrate; but it is not fraud as long as she didn't have intent to immigrate when she entered and changed her mind. It is much easier to argue that she did not have intent to immigrate and somehow changed her mind while here, if she got together with someone new, than if she is immigrating through the person who sponsored her for the visa.
Really, at this point I think you should worry less about what she does, and more perhaps about the custody and welfare of your daughter.

Honestly, i am really sorry for you. Feels like she is doing some immigration scam.

He must have his reasons as it has only been a little over 4 months so far and that's not long.
I do not know how long you have known this man or why he has said he doesn't want to carry on with the application, but after such a short time of waiting I think I would be questioning his commitment to you. I think you may have had a lucky escape.

This process does try one's patience but, so does marriage from time to time.I hope things work out for you but, maybe it's better you found out this quality, or lack thereof, before you were with him in the U.S.