ezzy

15 minutes ago, SusieQQQ said:

Leaving family behind is the choice we all make when we immigrate.

 

And it’s not always the case that everyone wants to immigrate with us even when we reach the stage that we can sponsor family members. Especially parents - some parents are very eager to rejoin their child and do so as soon as they can , others find the thought of being uprooted from what they’ve known their entire lives to be put in an alien culture with an alien language where they may not know anyone other than their child, a highly disruptive and traumatic experience.

 

incidentally, immigration is a privilege, not a right.

 

I had forgotten about that phrase.  

40 minutes ago, CEE53147 said:

 

You made the choice when you decided to immigrate.  Don't whine about it now. You likely came as a spouse or fiance,. That person is your primary family now.

Lol. This seems like an attack. But rather than be triggered, I would agree. This was a choice. And, to be honest, saying that it's lonely to not have family around is a normal feeling. And I also share this feeling with his family.

That being said, I do have a choice and a right to reunite myself and my husband with all the family I could get. Thanks for your input, though.

3 hours ago, carmel34 said:

If visiting family members are turned away by CBP, refused entry because of the pending petition and a concern about overstaying or immigrant intent, you can always go and visit them in the Philippines. 

I would have to think hard about what to do. Unlikely things will get rolling this year but I want to be prepared with possible scenarios. 

Understood. I will just have to focus on my parents for now, then.

I am also curious if anyone has had experience with being the petitioner/recipient of IR visa while also holding a valid tourist visa and was able to visit the US with active petition. Thanks for your input!!

1 minute ago, Boiler said:

For Siblings Philippines you are looking at 30 years? impossible to say but so long that immigration intent would be generationally.

That's a long time....🤮

I had thought it was around 15~

7 minutes ago, Going through said:

It may be harder for them to be admitted as tourists (even with valid visas, actual entry/duration of stay is still at the discretion of the POE officer) once there are pending i-130s...  The pending i-130 is going to show immigration intent, but not entirely impossible if they are able to convince POE they would return to their home country afterwards.

 

What is their country of origin?  Wait times depend on that.

The Philippines. I am worried about the immigration intent part. :S I guess there is no easy way to go about it. We are using the visa's as intended - as tourists on a short term period to visit me....They can show ties to the Philippines at POE that makes sure they go back but those strong ties may also make their immigration intent seem like they really do not want to be here?

What do you guys think?

Yup. I did read about the long wait for siblings. We're not really in a rush.. I just don't our ability to see each other on an annual basis with tourist visa once I petition them be compromised. Am I just paranoid, then?

17 minutes ago, aleful said:

hi

 

first of all, if you petition for your sister, depending on the country of origin it will take 14 or more years, for some countries, sibling petitions take over 20 years

 

they can visit in the mean time

 

and your parents can visit as well once you file for them, as long as they don't stay for a long time, short visits

 

 

Hi all! I just got my US Citizenship recently and thinking of moving forward with petitioning my parents (and hopefully my siblings after) over as immigrants. It really gets lonely without readily accessible family close to us.

However, I am hesitant to start this process mainly because my parents, my sister and her husband all have 10-year multiple entry visas and I am scared their tourist visas will be cancelled or revoked at POE (maybe?) if they come and visit while my petition in process. Can anyone share their experiences?

Each couple had already been to the US once. My parents got through immigration (CBP) fine but, when my sister and her hubby came to visit the next year, they got stuck at immigration for about 6 hours for extensive interrogation. I am worried it would hurt them the next time they come to visit and I have a petition pending.

Thanks in advance! Much love!

A few weeks late for reply...

You may schedule a group interview for your parents (couple) and sister if she is unmarried. This was what I was told when I called.

I had to schedule 2 separate appointments for my sis and bro-in-law and my parents.

Congratulations and celebrations.

Thank you! Congratz to the approved and the very best of luck to the rest! :)

Just got my new card in the mail yesterday..

19 days from getting approved. See you next time for Citizenship! God Bless us!

Received bio too...

California Service Center (13 applicants, 0 approved - 0%)

VJName..............Date of I-751...NOA1 Date....Biometrics.....Approved
HNUBNO................03/30/15......04/02/15......--/--/15......--/--/--
SA&AR.................04/03/15......04/--/15......--/--/15......--/--/--
EZZY..................04/04/15......04/06/15......05/04/15......--/--/--
FULLYAWAKE............04/09/15......04/--/15......--/--/15......--/--/--
FELI114...............04/09/15......04/--/15......--/--/15......--/--/--
AMERASLAM99...........04/10/15......04/--/15......--/--/15......--/--/--
ZEE481................04/13/15......04/14/15......--/--/15......--/--/--
NLR...................04/--/15......04/--/15......--/--/15......--/--/--
CASPERGHOST...........04/14/15......04/--/15......--/--/15......--/--/--
ORANGEDESK............04/15/15......04/--/15......--/--/15......--/--/--
CARLADAVE.............04/17/15......04/--/15......--/--/15......--/--/--
E-A...................04/18/15......04/--/15......--/--/15......--/--/--

DAGNYLET..............04/18/15......04/--/15......--/--/15......--/--/--


Vermont Service Center (22 applicants, 0 approved - 0%)

VJName..............Date of I-751...NOA1 Date....Biometrics.....Approved
WISHIN-N-HOPIN........03/24/15......04/04/15......--/--/15......--/--/--
CARAMEL SWIRL.........03/30/15......04/01/15......04/28/15......--/--/--
SALAZAR...............03/31/15......04/06/15......--/--/15......--/--/--
TATI_TATI.............04/01/15......04/02/15......04/30/15......--/--/--
1.618.................04/01/15......04/03/15......--/--/15......--/--/--
MELA17................04/04/15......04/07/15......05/08/15......--/--/--
KIWIVISA..............04/06/15......04/07/15......05/04/15......--/--/--

LA&JK.................04/07/15......04/--/15......--/--/15......--/--/--
CARNEY................04/08/15......04/--/15......--/--/15......--/--/--
BALINGOMINGO..........04/08/15......04/--/15......--/--/15......--/--/--

MIKE-ALE..............04/08/15......04/--/15......--/--/15......--/--/--
LUDAKRISHNA...........04/09/15......04/--/15......--/--/15......--/--/--
SMASHRUN..............04/10/15......04/--/15......--/--/15......--/--/--
CELESTE & C...........04/13/15......04/--/15......--/--/15......--/--/--
ELICEAREA.............04/14/15......04/--/15......--/--/15......--/--/--
GANNICUS..............04/14/15......04/--/15......--/--/15......--/--/--
NITEHERO..............04/14/15......04/--/15......--/--/15......--/--/--
DONNA & PAUL..........04/15/15......04/--/15......--/--/15......--/--/--
PATSGAL54.............04/16/15......04/--/15......--/--/15......--/--/--
SUNSHINE25............04/17/15......04/--/15......--/--/15......--/--/--
PREETYGIRL............04/17/15......04/--/15......--/--/15......--/--/--

LOLASOY...............04/22/15......04/--/15......--/--/15......--/--/--

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Niel Patrick Harris

Hi ezzy, what is the Receipt Date on your NOA letter? You need that date for the list

Oh... Receipt date is 04/06 btw

added myself....

just received my NOA today!!! Good luck to us all!

California Service Center (4 applicants, 0 approved - 0%)

VJName..............Date of I-751...NOA1 Date....Biometrics.....Approved
SA&AR.................04/03/15......04/--/15......--/--/15......--/--/--

FULLYAWAKE............04/09/15......04/--/15......--/--/15......--/--/--

NLR...................04/--/15......04/--/15......--/--/15......--/--/--

EZZY..................04/04/15......04/10/15......--/--/15......--/--/--

Vermont Service Center (4 applicants, 0 approved - 0%)

VJName..............Date of I-751...NOA1 Date....Biometrics.....Approved

WISHIN-N-HOPIN........03/24/15......04/04/15......--/--/15......--/--/--
CARAMEL SWIRL.........03/30/15......04/01/15......--/--/15......--/--/--

TATI_TATI.............04/01/15......04/02/15......--/--/15......--/--/--

SMASHRUN..............04/10/15......04/--/15......--/--/15......--/--/--



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My husband and I just got back from a second honeymoon.

A few days ago, my in-laws just got into a really big fight; one took an indefinite medical leave to keep her sanity (her job is so stressful). It should have been a good thing - it should have allowed her to recover and all. However, her husband felt betrayed by this action and their fight showed a side of him that no one knew existed. My mother-in-law said, after that day, he refused to talk to her about the issue, became aloof or something like that.

We had our first dinner together since we got back. They seemed civil and my father-in-law seems to be doing an exceptional job at hiding any tension, my mother-in-law not so good. Wounds were still fresh. We were still hopeful that they would get through this but my mother-in-law told me this morning that she is convinced things are not going to work out and that there is a definite separation. My father-in-law is the best father-figure I have ever met - he's superman; kind; smart; everything you could ask for in a dad - he is that. They seemed to be the perfect married couple. And then this happens.

Where I come from, separation and annulment are rare and it only happens when there is absolutely no way that the married couple can stay together anymore, ie abuse or something like that. It's not normal for me. So I don't know how to deal with this. I don't know how to react or act around my in-laws, what to say to my husband, how to tell how he manages it. My husband is the kind of person who prefers to keep his emotions hidden and here I am wondering how I can get him to not keep his emotions hidden. What can I do?

thanks everyone.

we had an honest conversation a few days ago and we basically, at least for now, got him hopeful and undepressed. just wanna thank you guys for the support and advise.

xx

You just gotta have a good talk with him And tell him as long as he rely's on Allah swt (GOD the glorious) for Every need of his then there is no need to worry. Allah swt (GOD) is watching every thing and he hears every thought.

Tell him after every difficulty there is relief.

Notice in our lifes after every bad thing there is always something good that happens.

We just have to be patient and keep trying hard and do the best we can.

We humans are weak but we are capable of anything.

We can make it !

there is good ppl in this world.

All humans are brothers and sisters of one another.

Tell him he will be ok and tell him you trust him that he will do good, it takes time

I was loooking for a job since 2 months And i now just got a job, it takes time, but NEVER ever give up. tell him that.

And always look on the bright side at least we have food to eat

there are ppl who are starving.

at least we have arms and legs there are ppl without arms or legs.

were blessed if we really think about it. but ikno that even though were blessed we still feel depressed somtimes about life.

theres so meny things that go on, but just hold on and keep yur head up, excercise and get healthy becuase your health is your wealth.

Use your tme wisely, while he is looking for a job he should read books excercise clean set up an schdule to help him succed in life.

new ideas

new thoughts

new everything

just never give up , you too just pray for a better day.

thank you for the advise. i really had been trying to get him to be positive, offered encouragement but i just can't get through all the negativity he has

unfortunately, he's agnostic. :(

Take him and go in person to places to make applications... Sometimes it takes the right team being in the right place for them to hire you... Keep at it, something will come along! It's hard, but you guys are a pai and two is stronger than one.

thank you. it's really been hard to get employers to consider us - even if we have a decent amount of experience and education. i try to be a positive influence but there's little response.

Only your Husband can POP out of this. He seems to be spoiled by his parents and reliant upon them. Are you doing the same? That Yada Yada is a hint. I'm sure you love eachother and they care about you. Parents will always give "lib" when they interfere and sometime, rightfully so. I will stand by the Parents based upon your post.

thanks. well, his parents have been very supportive and they try to be encouraging. no, i don't think we are "holding on to momma's skirt," although they are the ones providing the food and shelter. as much as possible, we don't want hand-outs but there's nothing we can do for now since we are not employed.

**

today, we went to a county fair and i tried to make the experience fun but long story short, day was ruined.

i understand that the only way he can get through this is by having a job...might take a while. do relationships get ugly because of unemployment depression?

2 months in, I'm still unemployed but hopeful.

My husband's story is different though. He got a job last May but got fired after a month (2 days after I arrived in the US) because he said a word that means "#######."

He's been looking since - submitted maybe 100 or more resumes all over the place but there were no takers. Lately, he's been depressed, or has mood swings, irritable, and been sighing a lot. We're living with his parents, since the plan was that we were gonna get a good job, get enough money for our own place,etc. Lately, his parents are starting to hint subtly that we should have jobs by now checking up on our jobhunting, yada yada...and this adds to his depression and negativity.

I don't know what to do or how to deal with a really depressed husband. Nothing I do cheers him up.

anyone have the same experience?

i think you should get clearance from the last address...

and welcome to vj gl

Hello again, VJers!

Arrived and got reunited with my husband in the US a little over a month ago (on a CR-1 visa) and I had started with my job-hunting thing and driver's test and all that. yay. :S

Anyway, a few days ago, my husband got contacted by someone from Europe about a possible job offer. It sounds great and it looked like something he would love to do...but the problem is that they might require him to move to Europe...which is also great! However, he will accept the job offer if, and only if, I come with him...! I might be thinking too much or worrying too much about this (as i always am about a lot of things . lol) but I can't help but feel guilty that he would be turning down a great offer and an opportunity to actually have a job he enjoys doing!

Now, I know I can't stay out of the country for too long without losing my GC but it would not make sense if I stay here without him. the only solution i think would be to give up the GC and when the time comes we're both ready to come back, reapply for an IR-1 and go through the whole process again.

That's the only way, right?

Any response would be ever so helpful! Thanks.

*didnt know how to edit.

i meant to say..if the question was already asked and answered, my apologies for repeating it. I'm just a little confused because I hear different answers all the time. :S thanks

You have up to a year to pay the fee. It just delay's getting your actual green card until it's paid. The endorsed visa in her passport howerver acts as a temporary green card which allows her to get an SSN and work if she wants. It also allows her to travel outside the USA.

I'm confused. CR-1 immigrants CAN travel outside of US w/ no problems whatsoever (within the 2 years of their conditional residence)?

*if this question was asked, sorry to repeat it. thanks!

you need to give them both at the interview. main sponsor's I-864 and recent tax return and co-sponsor's I-864A and tax return and other relevant docs...

(that's what i did..)

good luck!

nvm...

I was also very doubtful of that one hank. I didnt know what to put so I decided to leave it blank because my reasoning was I have never been to the United States so I couldn't likely answer US however it simply earned me a scolding and was instructed to put US since that is where I will be living in the future and no longer in the Philippines. It was a customs declaration form, it means I have already passed immigration and I already have a stamped visa, that being my temporary green card because of the problems they were having with the payment site. I was told that I could travel back and forth using the same (since that is valid for a year) until I get hold of my physical card. I was able to make the payment 6 hours ago and the payment method was kind of complicated but Just follow instructions, keep your email open so that you could back and forth with the security pin.

I'm not really sure if it will be the same for everybody. But for first timers like me who will be flying out within the next few days, I would like to remind you guys of the most important thing I learned here in vj, answer only the questions that are being asked briefly and concisely, to avoid staying long at the line. Do not provide extra answers as this might cause your delay. Anyway in my very limited experience all the people that I have come across so far were nice but have short fuses they easily explode when faced with difficult immigrants who do not know how to follow instructions.

As for the green card, the site said they were having problems with payment processing. The steps were not simple so I guess many were probably complaining. In my case my husband was not able to make the payment because it confused him so he had to wait for me so that I could pay for it myself! Lol!

I hope you guys will benefit from my experience. Yes, magic sarap is banned in the US due to some component in its ingredient. meat, poultry, balut (lol!), fruits, seeds... All of these will be discussed at pdos, pati anting anting n bala bawal kahit s checked in. You could get checked for that.

*about the fee...

our payment didn't show in my hubby's bank statement.. no updates from the site either (it only shows "accepted" and "will be reviewed or something like that. :S)

what did yours show?