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And thanks to all who wished me luck!! About an hour after my job interview this morning, I got a call from my recruiter saying the company wanted to hire me I of course accepted! I start Wednesday And being that it's a full-time job, I'll only be able to check VJ after work from then on

Got our case completed!!! Got back from a long vacation and finally called NVC and they told me that my wife is scheduled for her interview on April 14th!!!

PRAISE THE LORD!!! WE'VE BEEN APPROVED!!! THANK YOU JESUS! NOA2 notice sent today 3/10/14 at 2:30 P.M. via text message.

That is awesome news. Seems like NSC has finally started to process July. Please fill out your timeline!!!

PRAISE THE LORD!!! WE'VE BEEN APPROVED!!! THANK YOU JESUS! NOA2 notice sent today 3/10/14 at 2:30 P.M. via text message.

I agree, I haven't seen any July approvals from Nebraska.
Congrats etrangals.
I'm only 1 day behind you with the transfer, I just really hope I get it soon!

A May 31 PD with a transfer date of Dec 23 just got approved from NBSC.
Almost there

Still here and another day gone by without any news. 7.5 months since I saw my wife & kids. I've managed to maintain a fairly sunny disposition up until now but the bitterness is starting to get the upper hand...

Oh dear, absolutely, DO NOT DO THIS.
Proof of sex is not proof of a relationship.

I'm so sorry to hear this. I can't imagine the hardship that this is causing. This isn't easy but when you can embrace your husband these painful memories will slowly fade away.

1. Why does the fact that I met my wife while studying abroad on a US-government sponsored program make my relationship invalid?
2. Why is it that countries like Spain and India are able to give foreign spouses of their citizens permanent, legal residence in less than 1 month?
3. If they have to "scrutinize everyone entering in this Country t's their job" why shouldn't illegal immigrants have to leave and go through the same process?
4. Where do you get off telling us not to "whine" when the only reason people are talking about amnesty, and the only reason DACA is a reality, is due to the incessant whining of the Latino and illegal immigrants communities?
5. If our "whines" should not be heard, then why should we listen to the "whining" of people who knew what they were doing when the broke the law? The KNEW that there was no path to legal citizenship when they came here 20 years ago, so why should we give them a prize just for being able to cheat the system all these years?

My husband and I have known and done the LDR for 5 years. We started this process about two years ago. We have been push and pulled by USCIS for the k-1. Last summer we got married and decided to do the cr-1. But this year has been the hardest on both of us. It feels like I cry myself to sleep more than not.
I am a student so its summer time. Meaning when I can go visit him, but the money is not there how we need it to be. I contemplate moving every day! I just dont know what I would do about my school loans and if I would be able to pick up where I left off when I come back. And I would be coming back with no job. But I am very close to just moving, at least until he has a visa. \
It is the worst feeling its like our lives are on hold. Everyone tells me keep busy, but how is that possible when everything you do is just a reminder that the one you love is not with you. This has been a difficult month!
(We filled cr-1 in September)

It sucks really. Mine was arranged marriage in june 2013. We started skyping, chatting in feb 2013. Now its been 1 year ever since i met him, 8 months from marriage. We were together n spent time only for 10 days during wedding. Every day and night is horrible for me without him. Still i m trying to be strong. The best part is my husband s a strong person. He s hiding his pain and missing me so much. I could see n feel when we were on vchat. But He wont express it out coz he thinks it would make me worried. Really USCIS is the cause. Honest people were screwed up. GOD SAVE EVERYONE HERE....

"If I knew then what I know now....." we would have just filed a K-1 and he'd be here now. Or he could have just stayed and adjusted status, but that wasn't realistic as he had a job to return to and most of his possessions!
I too hear ALL the time "I don't know how you do it" to which I think they've never been in love and that's sad. The one question I loathe is "how is married life". My response would get the ##### on this thread so I won't type it!
Sometimes this site burns me out, but you're all here and you all understand better than anyone!

I forgot to mention.. one of my cats is a 13 year old Himalayan. Recently, she was gravely ill and is under a lot of antibiotics. The vet suspects cancer and will do the biopsy next week after the antibiotics treat the infection she has in her bones. This cat was so close to my husband and he forged a special bond with her. It's heartbreaking that I may have to put her down and he can't see her or be there to hold her. Pets become our families too.

We are October filers and new to this waiting game, everyday I think about packing my bags and heading off to live with my husband. The only thing that keeps me going on my bad days is listening to him sing to me. Thank God for whatsapp recordings "tell me this tell me that, why should I give all my love to you"? I love him so so much!!! I ask God everyday for a Quick journey for us all.

Guys, I know you don't want to hear this but hang in there. I have not lived with my husband under the same roof since June 2011 (different immigration issues involving a J-1 visa, two year rule - we could not file for the IR-1 until about six months ago.)
I fight with my husband a lot and this is only lately. I also have thought of divorce and this has affected me psychologically. I missed all of my wedding anniversaries and never got to celebrate any bday with him since we got married. I can't even go out to public places without feeling anxious or depressed when I see couples together. I seriously sit there with the worst jealousy and wish that was me.
Two weeks ago, I went to the ER in the middle of the night because of an asthma attack brought on by anxiety... this never happened to me before. I was lying in bed thinking about all sorts of things - including immigration and I couldn't breathe.
It sucks but there is nothing we can do but wait. I would suggest keep bugging the senator, congressperson, the NVC, or whomever.
The only thing that keeps me going is to know that the love I share with my husband (regardless of my thoughts, which we all have) and this experience is something that very few people can go through. Just about everyone has told me "I don't know how you do it. I could never do it" which to me says "I don't love my spouse that much." In fact, yesterday, someone was complaining to me (again) about having to drive 2 hours to see a girl he's dating. And then criticized me for having a long distance relationship saying those never work. well you know what FU is my answer! And all these things serve to show me that what I have is unique and that when we are, in fact, together again, things will be better than before (after marriage counseling if necessary because let me tell you from past experience... it takes adjusting to your spouse who has essentially become somewhat of a stranger. Skype is no substitute for being together as we all know.)
I have faith that things will be better for all of us and that we can show people what love is... regardless of the turmoil our hearts feel and our relationships endure.
HANG IN THERE! <3 I am so grateful for you guys... we can all relate to each other and understand each other!

We filed back in September, still waiting for at least a transfer to give us some glimmer of hope. Things got really bad around the holidays for us. I think it was largely due to us realizing that we were in for a much longer delay than we originally anticipated. We're both very upset with the system, the bureaucratic and public apathy, and seemingly no way out. I got to see my husband as Christmas, but for a very short time and naturally did the family circuit and managed to squeak a few days alone. I feel so weird typing this, but you all are the only people who would remotely understand, but I felt so envious hearing his family members talk about things they all do together, or will do together. The simplest things, too. Everyone gets to spend time with my husband but me.
We've started to discuss me moving to England. When we're feeling whimsical we talk about settling in a 3rd country - as unrealistic as it sounds, those dreams do help. We're in a dark place with no map, but we still make plans together. My husband and I are learning how to 'be married' which is impossible 4,000 miles away. We make do with what we can and remember this distance is only temporary. Should this wait extend too long and I will sell the house, get the cats micro-chipped and vaccinated and go to him.
I get angry every time I think about this process. We're all being punished for following the letter of the law. It's not right. I'm hopeful that my petition will get transferred this week, but I feel like I'm setting myself up to get punched in the gut.

I feel the same way man. Not an arranged marriage, I chose this, but still the government has completely changed I feel about my marriage. In 3 years of knowing my wife I have spent less than 6 months face-2-face with her. I never imagined anything could cause this much psychological torment.

I have no control over the path my file took. So yes, we are all going through the same process. There's no need to take your frustrations out on me simply because my case got processed faster. I gave up a lot to move to Toronto to be with my husband, and there's no stopping anyone else from doing the same to be with their SO.

Don't let the injustice that's been done to your family end a life with the one you love. I've followed your posts and see the passion that you have and I admire the way you've fought for your loved one. Remember that nothing worth having in life is easy. I would suggest that in this moment you need to rely on your faith more than ever. Seek out someone out in you could speak to in confidence if you are not ready to share it with your wife.
Respect yourself
In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. Ephesians 5:28
Respect others
Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. Romans 12:10
Be responsible for your actions
Let all that you do be done in love. 1 Corinthians 16:14
Hang in there, dude! Don't forget someone's counting on you.

The dude,
I don't know how to say this without being blunt, but you need help. It is normal to have a lot of stress with this process, but if you are struggling so much, and from your posts I believe you are, then there is no shame in getting professional help.
Maybe you need help with depression, anger, anxiety, coping skills. Maybe it's something else. A professional will be able to help you sort it all out and get clarity on this issue.
Good luck.

Err... after reading your post, I seriously think you need medical help asap, you may be clinically depressed.
Clinical depression symptoms may include:
Depressed mood most of the day, nearly every day Loss of interest or pleasure in most activities Significant weight loss or gain Sleeping too much or not being able to sleep nearly every day Slowed thinking or movement that others can see Fatigue or low energy nearly every day Feelings of worthlessness or inappropriate guilt Loss of concentration or indecisiveness Recurring thoughts of death or suicide

I just got word that the article will be running tomorrow on the front page of that National Section! I'll let you know if I get a link online for it. (I'm going to go run out and get a copy, just because.) YAY!

So it seems that I lost the marathon indeed. Bowing out from the race and wishing that no one wins this darn race. I want everyone to loose really really fast.
I just got the approval...I guess signing Happy song all day was good...now I can sleep happy.
I honestly pray for each one of you and wish that everyone is out this sooner than later.