ForeverAmen

Read the guide for the cr1. It takes about a year.

Thank you Transborderwife.

Another question ... what forms will we need to file should we marry abroad? I would like to check out the time for these forms.

Thanks for the feedback Anh map.

My fiancé currently has a 10 year multi entry tourist visa. We would like to have a destination wedding abroad. Have him come back to the USA with me (using his tourist visa) THEN file his papers for a Green Card on the basis of marriage to a US Citizen. Is this possible? If not, please share with my possible options.

Thanks.

Whew! It's been forever since I've been on VJ. I hope all is well with each of you. By the grace of God, I was able to have my marriage ANNULLED on the basis of fraud. Nevertheless (and most important) my daughter and I are great. She is 1.5 and filled with laughter and good health.

By the way - I've been doing some writing. Please check out my blog .... www.macysview.com. You can also follow me on twitter @macysview

All the best!

Thanks to all of you for your words of encouragement and your PM's. I constantly remind myself that God will not put more on me than I can handle, and ALL things WILL work together for my good.

Boaz my heart goes out to you. I too have been suffering in silence since November, my husband after 5 years left me when his 10 year greencard came in the mail. He left me and never looked back. It was very hard for me, I just wanted to die. I loved that man with my entire being. LL and 1 other person here on VJ know the truth. I can not hold it in any longer. Boaz my heart is with you. Please if you want to talk I am here for you PM me and I will be more than happy to give you my number or you can get it from LL. Peace we will carry on and be stronger for our experience.

Perseverance

Sorry to hear about your situation Perseverance. I have sent you a PM.

So sorry to hear this. I hope you have supportive family members and friends to help you through it all.

There were no signs or red flags? Was there pressure from his family back in Cameroon for anything?

Do you need to do anything to protect your finances or anything?

Now that I look back on things, he started becoming very distance right after the baby was born. This is also the time he received his Citizenship. When I have asked in the past 'what's wrong?', he told me that he was stressed out from school. As for pressure from his family back in Cameroon .... none that I know of. As for protecting my finances, I have taken care of matters. So I believe I'm fine.

Never would I imagine that I would be on VJ sharing what I'm about to say. For those of you who know me, you know that for the most part, I've always had good things to say about my husband. Long story short .... it's been almost 2 weeks since my husband of 4 years walked out on me and our 2 month old child. No good byes, no warning, not even an argument between the two of us. He received his Citizenship less than 2 months ago. And .... he left the country. Please keep me and my entire family in your prayers.

Hello! Sorry I have not been posting much. But ... I'm still here. My husband and I have been married for 4 years. We recently gave birth to our first child almost two months ago. Our marriage is not perfect, nor is it aweful. Each 'valley' experience is a moment to strengthen our relationship for the better. I must say that we've endured matters in which I really believed we were at the end of our journey, but with an attitude of love and fortitude on both our parts, were still holding strong.

Oh well ... it's time for another feeding. So I will come back again when I have more time.

Boaz

Hi Everyone!

Hope each of you are doing well. My husband has his Citizenship, is still in school, and we are adjusting to parenthood. We are very busy, and could use a night of 'uninterupted' sleep. But oh well .... life is still good.

How is everyone doing? I miss you guys ...

Charles - I like the new sight.

Whidbey - Hang in there.

Boaz

Thanks for the B-Day wishes! My day was great, even with the cold weather.

Everything is moving along on my end. We've been working hard towards getting the nursery together. We have a baby shower coming up, so hopefully things will come together soon.

Take care!

Boaz

Hi Everyone!

Happy Birthday to M-E !!!!!!!!!!!!

Hello Everyone!!!!!!! Where are you? Hope things are going well.

My goodness! I can't believe you had to go through all that. So far I have had two very responsive senators. The constituent aid at my congressperson's office told me to give the consulate 30 days to work and then call here back. She was the only one that made me feel like calling so soon after the interview... What else am I supposed to do???

I am bouncing off the walls here.

Thanks again for sharing your experieince Boaz.

From what I know about your case, you are on the right track. I too contacted my Senator's office. They were very responsive and helped us out a lot.

Very helpful! Thank you Boaz, for starting this post. I use Jupiter card. I have to call the provider for the call details

We get about 245 minutes for $20. I may switch to pingo and/or ustelelinks to avoid the hassle.

Years ago when I tried to get the call details from the calling card company, I was told they could only do this if they received a supeona from the courts involving a criminal matter. I literally had to go to the court house, find a judge, explain the matter to the judge, and BEG him to put this information in writing to the Embassy. Needless to say, my efforts paid off. Things may have changed since then, but as of 5 years ago, that was the case.

I don't know why I'm having so much of hassle with sending this post. I hope the format comes out correct.

I have been reading various postings regarding visa's being delayed due to lack of evidence. Five years ago my then Fiance and I went through the same thing. So I've decided to start a post to share what type of additional evidence have been submitted. Please feel free to contribute as much information as possible. Too much evidence can't hurt. I hope this helps someone.

1) Emails between family and friends talking about you and your SO. IMO, this helps the CO see that there is some validity to the relationship especially since members of your inner circle knows about you and your SO.

2)Have a friend/family submit a letter on company letterhead attesting to your relationship. Be sure that the letter contains positive character traits about you, and how they think highly of your decisions.

3)If you are strictly using calling cards to communicate ... trash it! As with my case ... how do they know who you really called? Instead, opt for something like Pingo or any other service that tracks your phone calls.

4) Be sure your photos are relative to your visit. It's nice that you've taken photos in the hotel room. But try to have photos with places relative to the area in the background. Photos with various relatives and close friends. That way there is no question as to whether or not it was the two of you together in his/her hometown, etc.

5) Send emails between you and your SO family. I understand that for many of our SO's, some family members (ie., older relatives) do not understand how to use a computer. But I'm sure there is at least one relative who you can start communicating with via the internet from your SO's family. This again shows that this relationship extends beyond just the two of you.

6) Do not delete or sratch through your emails. So what if you and your SO decides to have a few spicy cyber conversations?! I hope you wouldn't do that with just anyone. So why do you have to hide it?

7) If applicable to your situation, submit Western Union / Money Gram receipts. On the flip side, know the Embassy you are dealing with. For some embassys this is not seen as a good thing.

8) Drill your SO as though both of your lives depend on it. Be sure that your SO knows as much about you as possible.

9) Be confident! For example: my husband can initially come across as shy and timid. Of course, after a few minutes all of that changes. BUT to a CO officer this can come across as being uncertain. Uncertain about what? (you fill in the blanks).

Hope this information helps someone.

In HIS Word,

Boaz

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It's 3:45 AM, and I can't sleep!!!!!!!!!

Charles - nice picture.

Hello Everyone!

Please join me in congratulating Dana0402, and her husband on the arrival of a healthy baby boy. He was born Saturday, January 23, 2010.

Forchika - thanks for the congrats.

Besangin .... GIRL! You may find this hard to believe. I logged onto VJ this morning with the purposes of reading the latest happenings, and sending you a PM requesting your phone # (again), just so we could play 'catch up'. I have goose bumps as I type this post because I can't believe that you happen to have logged on the very day I happen to make contact with you. Wow! How is your son donig? By the way, aren't you suppose to be coming to Charlotte to set up the nursery?!?!? Hurry. Hurry.

I always enjoyed being pregnant. Feeling the baby move inside and the glow that the skin takes on, it was all wonderful once I got passed the morning sickness.

Hey what colors did you all pick out for the babies room ? Do you have a theme yet?

Most of the time, it is a great feeling. As for colors / theme .... I found a ensemble called Raspberry Swirl that I like. It's different shades of pink, burgandy, and green. I'm not into the girly pink, instead I like lots of bright colors.

Whidbey,

Sorry for your struggles. Hopefully, you both will find some type of mutal compromise.

Take Care.

Boaz

Dear Whidbey,

We had the exact problem with my husband living here in Michigan? He tried for almost 2 yrs and just couldnt do it, he is now back in his hot enviorment, and its been 40 days and im doing ok, we both made alot of sacrafices, him leaving his homeland and me financing his immigration. But in the end love was just not enough for us. anyway,I hope things will get better for you and your spouse...Hang in there and move if you can, I couldnt so Im alone.

Look at all the oldies, but goodies.

Boaz how are you feeling!!!!

God is good and faithful.

Hi! I am doing well. Fastly approaching my 3rd trimester. How are you?

Have a great day!