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Update: She was able to use the return ticket, that she had originally came on, that had expired, but after explaining the situation with united airlines was able to update and use the ticket. She is back home in Brazil, recently had the baby, will be able to get her old job back (as a firefighter).  I hope she is able to do DNA to prove fatherhood, so she can get some child support. 

10 minutes ago, Boiler said:

http://cgwashington.itamaraty.gov.br/en-us/jurisdictions.xml

I looked at the site, and it does show Washington as the correct embassy for Ohio, but I don't see any contact information. I only see for Houston, Los Angelos etc. Since she married in Arkansas, possibly the Houston embassy might work? Who knows, she may have already tried to email, and they answer their emails once a month. I will try to find out from her the details.

2 minutes ago, Going through said:

She can try visiting them in person to find out how they can help her, maybe?

With no money or transportation, I don't think she can travel to Washington from Ohio. Almost as hard as trying to travel back to Brazil.

On ‎3‎/‎28‎/‎2018 at 6:22 PM, Maria1989 said:

She should go home, she can’t be too far along if she just got here a couple months ago....... let her file an answer to the complaint and ask for child support via an attorney after she is back in Brazil. He is the US Citizen  and she can receive her child support on a card which she can use there. Also they can’t make her stay now, if she waits until she has the baby then she will need to seek permission to leave. I just really don’t think she wants to leave. Try a Catholic Charity, the Consulate. She can get into a shelter and try to seek assistance in getting funds to return. 

The people at the shelter are attempting to get in touch with the Consulate, but is very difficult, I am told. I am also being told that the Consulate is very tight with their money, and only after months and months would they possibly help in the tickets. We are telling her to try to contact Catholic churches for possible assistance. The shelter I believe is called helping hands, and does not offer ticket money. I just wanted to update on what I'm being told...Thanks

5 hours ago, Going through said:

1) There is nothing she can do about him refusing to file the affidavit of support for her to get a green card.  He has the right to refuse.

2)  She arrived to the US on a tourist visa, as you said in your original post.  How did he "bring her here" unless there was an intent to adjust status once in the US when crossing the border? (If there was intent, then she committed immigration fraud)

3)  Her job....do you mean she was working in the US after arriving 4 months ago on a tourist visa?  If she was, she was working illegally since she cannot work on a tourist visa, which is on HER not him.    If you mean her job back in her home country---she lost it because she chose not to return to her home country after her vacation in the US to continue that employment, nothing to do with him.

I have copied a sent to her, so maybe she can save herself some energy. Thanks for putting so clearly.

17 hours ago, Going through said:

Basically, if she has no intent on residing in the US (and it sounds like she'd rather go back to her home country), she just leaves---there's nothing she needs to do on the immigration end of things.  She can proceed with the divorce once she is safely back home through a US-based lawyer if she wishes (or no lawyer at all if she wishes).

 

Situation with child support won't begin until she actually delivers the child and goes through legal proceedings to request child support.  If the husband goes on to claim the child isn't his just to avoid support payments, then she can prove he's the father through a court-ordered DNA test.

 

 

Everything you said is what I have basically been telling my wife to tell her. However,  she is wanting to basically find out if there is anything that can be done about him bringing her here, and not following through with her paperwork to be legal, and causing her to lose her job...

I am thinking she will only be eligible to possibly draw some child support after the baby is born, and that's it. 

I'm sure she is really emotional, and just needs to find out for sure from a professional what is possible and not possible. Her husband first said he would give her tickets for next week to go back, but now that she is in the shelter, he says she is on her own...

8 hours ago, JoBri said:

Never heard of a shelter denying someone based on immigration status, nor of a shelter advising to go back to a bad situation

I am thinking there was a  language barrier, and the shelter didn't quite understand the total situation at first. They finally sent a police car to pick her up yesterday, and she is there now. However, the lawyer there knows nothing about immigration, and basically told her that he couldn't do anything for her, she just needed to go back to her country if possible. She contacted another lawyer today, associated with the shelters, and he is going to see what he can do.

24 minutes ago, Iwo_Jima said:

My wife is Brazilian. I can donate some money to her fellow countryman.

I would do the same too, but as of right now, her husband is saying he is buying tickets for next week. Will have to wait and see... Thanks!!

27 minutes ago, Iwo_Jima said:

There are many Brasileiros live in Ohio.

 

May be they can raise some money to her?

 

https://www.facebook.com/groups/52812747194/about/

 

https://www.facebook.com/groups/584900455001391/about/

 

https://www.facebook.com/groups/1713672542199954/about/

I clicked on all 3 links and see that she is already a member on all 3, but thanks anyway.

7 minutes ago, Boiler said:

I assume you needed a live birth to kick off the Child Support issue?

Yes, that seems like what is required, even though in the divorce complaint he is saying it may not be his...after she is in Brazil, it may be next to impossible to collect child support.

14 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Excellent, let us know how they help her.

So far, they have given her a phone, to try to work on the situation. They have a lawyer there, not sure how good...but he has pretty much said there is nothing they, or she can do for her. It aggravates me that he is saying they are living in Arkansas, to keep from paying taxes where he is living now in Ohio. Seems like that would be nice for the judge to know, that the divorce complaint has false information. Of course the bottom line is that she gets back to Brazil safely...

12 hours ago, carlinhoswave said:

Hello woods, how are you? Well, I'm in Brazil and maybe I could be a contact trough you with her family. We can also try to raise some money using some websites. I have groups on FB of Brazilians living in USA.

You seem like a very good person. At this point, she is thinking that her soon to be ex-husband may be going to buy her tickets to leave. She is still concerned whether or not there are things that need to be settled before leaving, such as child support, but she knows she can't get it before she has the baby, and she has to leave before the baby is born so as to not get stuck here...Thank you very much for the offer!!

13 hours ago, ThomasNC1988 said:

Well I found the cheapest way for them to get to Rio I think. Take the 5 hour drive to Dallas flu to Miami for 90 bucks then from Miami to Rio is 460 so that's less than 600 a piece even if you figure in a bus ticket if no one can drive her. Not sure how helpful that is. I always drive or fly to another airport when I go to Thailand because they charge you way more if you connect in the states for some reason.

She is actually in Ohio, where she is living. Me and my wife are here in Arkansas, but in the north part, so would be a lot further than 5 hours to Dallas. Here in Arkansas is where they married, but have lived in Ohio the whole time, and of course, doesn't appear he will be bringing her back to catch a plane here in Arkansas. She will be needing a flight out of Ohio...Thanks for the research though!!

15 hours ago, Boiler said:

Has she spoken to the Consulate?

She is planning on calling them today.

4 hours ago, Boiler said:

Sounds like the Consulate is her best bet.

 

Makes you wonder how her and the children got a B in the first place, sort of assumed everybody has a CC nowadays.

 

Mind you sounds like you do not know here and your wide only vaguely.

My wife says the way she got her B was because of her job in Brazil, a military firefighter. There firefighters are much different there than here.

2 hours ago, Maria1989 said:

She should go home, she can’t be too far along if she just got here a couple months ago....... let her file an answer to the complaint and ask for child support via an attorney after she is back in Brazil. He is the US Citizen  and she can receive her child support on a card which she can use there. Also they can’t make her stay now, if she waits until she has the baby then she will need to seek permission to leave. I just really don’t think she wants to leave. Try a Catholic Charity, the Consulate. She can get into a shelter and try to seek assistance in getting funds to return. 

The womens shelter sent a police car and picked her up to bring her back to the shelter. The shelter has a lawyer, and is going to reply to the divorce complaint. She is planning on going back long before the baby is born, but wants to try to get what she wants settled before leaving, and also has to figure out how to get money for airline tickets.  I hope she gets some assistance from the shelter.

She was a federal government firefighter in Brazil, which was a very hard to get job there, but gave it up to come here, and therefore, not allowed to return to it...

56 minutes ago, mcdull said:

Which is not true. 

The complaint for divorce says they have lived in Arkansas for the last 60 days. They have lived the last 90 days in Ohio...

45 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Has she spoken to the Consulate?

No, she hasn't been able to. She is in Ohio. Since her kids are in school in Ohio, and she is living there, I think the shelter lawyer is going to sue him for claiming they live in Arkansas, where his hometown is...maybe they can get something going...Thanks for the suggestion though.

1 hour ago, Ontarkie said:

I have seen many ppl recommend catholic charities. Check them out they may be able to help get her home asap. Also who ever that lawyer is at the shelter needs to be reported. Telling an abused women to stay in a dangerous situation is horrible. 

Since she doesn't know English, possibly she wasn't clear at first, but in the mean time, the lawyer did have a police car pick her up, and she is now at the shelter.

2 hours ago, NuestraUnion said:

Where is she currently living? And what city in Brazil she needs to go to?

 

I just checked. Three one way tickets from Miami to Rio or Sao Paulo are $1300 and $1500 total.

 

I just wanted to add that I think it is nonsense to not want to go back to your home country where you will have safety and support from family and friends. Also, child support here can be ordered but that doesn't mean she will receive it. There are plenty of people who dodge child support. Not only that, he could claim custody of the child himself.

I guess I wasn't clear. She does want to go back to Brazil. She does NOT want to stay in USA.  Yes, that is what I do know, from Miami is ALWAYS cheaper to Rio. Try a flight from Little Rock Arkansas to Rio.  I do appreciate your time though. She has gotten a ride from the police to a womens shelter. She still needs to find out how to get to her home country though.

3 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Same distance as going to the UK and returns cost less than that.

 

Put it on her CC?

 

As you say if she waits until the child is born could get very complicated.

I couldn't tell you why it is so expensive to fly there. That's on a good day, usually is higher. Out of Miami is cheaper, but that's no help. LOL She has no credit card, or money. Thanks for trying to help though.

7 minutes ago, Boiler said:

She could look to get child support but obviously that is a long way away.

 

Perhaps friends and family could help with the plane ticket, contact the Brazilian Consulate?

 

PS sounds a lot, maybe shop around?

 

 

It's a 5000 mile flight, and will be 3 tickets. Her mother in brazil is disabled, and is not able to help. After she ends up in Brazil, I'm thinking the child support will be very hard to acquire. If she stays, she loses the ability to bring unborn child with her, after is born.

1 hour ago, mcdull said:

It is totally legal to marry whilst on a tourist visa.

 

Are you asking if she could obtain any immigration status? 

 

 

It is legal to marry, but not to travel to USA on a tourist visa with intent to marry.

She is in fact pregnant. I do not have the money for 3 plane tickets, which would be approximately $3000. She would like to get some child support I'm sure. She doesn't want to stay in the USA. One other thing, he married in one state, but they have lived in another state the entire time. The divorce complaint says they both live in the state they married, but they don't. Is that anything she can use to her advantage?

1 hour ago, samiam5211 said:

If she is married to a US citizen and he is abusing her, she can file an I-360.  She needs to be able to document the abuse, but if she can prove it she can get a green card as the self petitioning spouse of a United States citizen.

She wants to go back, but just doesn't have the money. He knows that. He also knows that if the baby is born here, the baby can't leave without his authorization.