MrMadCat

This is exactly what happened.
It started with the talking down, then she'd call me lazy, then remind me how she's bringing in all the money, and start fights all the time. She never appreciated the stuff I did for her, it was NEVER good enough in her eyes. Real controlling and called me insults all the time, yet when I'd answer back and tell her she's acting like a b****, the world would fall down around her and she would get SO aggressive, because no one could insult her. Couldn't ever tell her to calm down or relax or she'd get go crazy. Wasn't like this at first, but after we were married she changed into someone I didn't recognize, especially near the end. It's now confirmed that the dude she was emotionally messing with when we were together is indeed her new boyfriend. So lame! She was gonna cheat on me no matter what, I believe.. meh...

Thanks Brian. I have 2012 tax return filed jointly with her. Is this strong evidence of co-mingling, would you say?
The co-mingling thing, and about the property/bills. To clear things up a little more and now that I have more time to sit down, think and reflect on everything in more detail... The problem is that when we married she already had a house, and all utility bills were naturally in her name as she'd been living there. Now looking back I understand why she wouldn't put my name on the house, etc. Because of the refinancing, etc, I think. That's what she meant by it's too expensive, so I totally get that, and the bills well as said they were all in her name. So that pretty much is the reason I don't have much evidence. So it's a little hard since she was, and always wanted to be "the head" of the household, so to speak, and was very controlling.
I have printed out all the statements from our joint bank account (thank god she didn't shut it down yet), and on each statement it has both our names. On some of them it has her maiden name before it was changed to my name, a month or 2 after marriage. I have the debit card still, which ends with the 4 numbers of that of some bills on a statement (on the statement it gives the last 4 digits of the debit card used for purchase) from later the same month I got my green card. Purchases were made up until obviously my flight back to tend to my sick mother and the decline of the marriage, in which after I stopped using our joint account, so nothing after Jan 2013.
I just, I'm not sure what to do about the whole thing regarding not having my name on any property or cars. I didn't drive, had no license, and well everything she acquired before me is what we had.
I have some pictures of us at various events during our marriage, and we were members at an animal shelter that we both volunteered at. In fact this is where the statement came from, a mutual friend who saw us every single week together and always saw us holding hands, things like that.
What do you do when you marry someone who already has a very established life and you're a new immigrant, and you love them but they say they are financially stable and will take care of everything? That I can stay home, cook, etc. Yeah I know it sounds embarrassing I was being a "house husband", but that's what it was to be honest. Then when I found out she was messing around with another guy, and emotionally as well, I just couldn't take it anymore. Now I know I'm probably going to have a hard time, but should I attach a statement from myself explaining the reason there were no joint ownership since she already had all that stuff before we married? Would that be a bad idea or ??

So sorry to hear this. Sadly the system is against you. I do find it rather messed up though that a USC Husband can be a douche by cheating, then a double douche by forcing someone to go back home. It actually happens to people that have been building their life for a while and have given up everything to be with their spouse, and they're left going back to absolutely nothing. There are so many topics on this forum about USC getting "scammed" and "revenge" posts, yet this is a perfect example of a USC screwing someone over. It happens a lot too.

I just thought I would update.
"On June 27, 2014, we ordered production of your new card. Please allow 30 days for your card to be mailed to you. If we need something from you we will contact you."
I filed for my I751 waiver in early April, went to biometrics May 2nd. Waited, and got this.
The evidence I had was:
List of contents
· Cover Letter
· Personal Statement
· I-485 Green Card Welcome Letter (with barcode).
· Check made payable to U.S. Department of Homeland Security for $590.
· Form I-751 signed and dated.
· Paper showing additional address.
· Copy of green card. Front and back.
· Copy of British passport biometric page.
· Copy of my birth certificate.
· Copy of marriage certificate.
· Copy of divorce decree.
· Copy of ex-wife drivers license showing name change.

Financial Co-mingling

· 2012 Joint Tax Return Transcript.
· Health insurance card listing myself as a dependent.
· Life insurance policy form filled by wife.
· Credit card in both names where she listed me as an authorized user.
· Joint checking account statements spanning over many months of our marriage.

Additional Information

· 1 affidavit from my mother in law.
· 2 affidavits from mutual friends.
· Photos spanning our marriage together.
· Additional documents.

So no interview, even though we separated at 7 months into the marriage, even though our financial mingling was limited, even though I was in the UK for 4+ months right after getting my conditional green card. All I had was a 2012 tax return, a joint bank account and some other little pieces of info. No cars together, nothing like that. I think her mothers affidavit might have helped a lot, because it did state that her own daughter basically likes to use men, and some not so nice words about how her daughter treated me bad. When a mom talks bad about her own daughter, it doesn't look good (on her kid).

The craziest bit of news I got was finding out from her own mother a few days ago that my ex wife is pregnant with the man she cheated on me with (the man she married like a week after our divorce). That floored me a bit, but I don't feel sorry for him because he knew about me, but decided to pursue something with her anyway. No mater what sob stories she gave him about how much of a monster I am, he still made a decision to get involved in my marriage, based on her lies. None of my business about their life now though, I know, but her mother and I know that she really dislikes kids and has said some really disturbing things, like "If I ever have kids and they disobey me I am going to beat them black and blue". Sad thing is she was serious. Oh well. Anyway, time to move on with my life. I just wish the guy realized that if she cheated on her husband (me) with him, she's going to do the same thing to him, and with a child mixed up in the mess, there is only going to be one victim here.

So what next? I guess citizenship. I'm not sure if the years I have been a conditional resident apply to the 5 or so years, or not. Guess I will do some research into it when I get time. All I know is I must file my taxes every year so far.

I posted this mainly to give hope to everyone out there going through the same thing. Maybe you don't have that much evidence, like me. I avoided the interview entirely and I am so thankful for that, I also got no RFE. If you get all your evidence together properly, it should be ok. My case I believe was quite suspicious due tot he ways the marriage broke down, and if I can do it I know people with stronger evidence can do it.

Good luck everyone!

I just thought I would update.
"On June 27, 2014, we ordered production of your new card. Please allow 30 days for your card to be mailed to you. If we need something from you we will contact you."
I filed for my I751 waiver in early April, went to biometrics May 2nd. Waited, and got this.
The evidence I had was:
List of contents
· Cover Letter
· Personal Statement
· I-485 Green Card Welcome Letter (with barcode).
· Check made payable to U.S. Department of Homeland Security for $590.
· Form I-751 signed and dated.
· Paper showing additional address.
· Copy of green card. Front and back.
· Copy of British passport biometric page.
· Copy of my birth certificate.
· Copy of marriage certificate.
· Copy of divorce decree.
· Copy of ex-wife drivers license showing name change.

Financial Co-mingling

· 2012 Joint Tax Return Transcript.
· Health insurance card listing myself as a dependent.
· Life insurance policy form filled by wife.
· Credit card in both names where she listed me as an authorized user.
· Joint checking account statements spanning over many months of our marriage.

Additional Information

· 1 affidavit from my mother in law.
· 2 affidavits from mutual friends.
· Photos spanning our marriage together.
· Additional documents.

So no interview, even though we separated at 7 months into the marriage, even though our financial mingling was limited, even though I was in the UK for 4+ months right after getting my conditional green card. All I had was a 2012 tax return, a joint bank account and some other little pieces of info. No cars together, nothing like that. I think her mothers affidavit might have helped a lot, because it did state that her own daughter basically likes to use men, and some not so nice words about how her daughter treated me bad. When a mom talks bad about her own daughter, it doesn't look good (on her kid).

The craziest bit of news I got was finding out from her own mother a few days ago that my ex wife is pregnant with the man she cheated on me with (the man she married like a week after our divorce). That floored me a bit, but I don't feel sorry for him because he knew about me, but decided to pursue something with her anyway. No mater what sob stories she gave him about how much of a monster I am, he still made a decision to get involved in my marriage, based on her lies. None of my business about their life now though, I know, but her mother and I know that she really dislikes kids and has said some really disturbing things, like "If I ever have kids and they disobey me I am going to beat them black and blue". Sad thing is she was serious. Oh well. Anyway, time to move on with my life. I just wish the guy realized that if she cheated on her husband (me) with him, she's going to do the same thing to him, and with a child mixed up in the mess, there is only going to be one victim here.

So what next? I guess citizenship. I'm not sure if the years I have been a conditional resident apply to the 5 or so years, or not. Guess I will do some research into it when I get time. All I know is I must file my taxes every year so far.

I posted this mainly to give hope to everyone out there going through the same thing. Maybe you don't have that much evidence, like me. I avoided the interview entirely and I am so thankful for that, I also got no RFE. If you get all your evidence together properly, it should be ok. My case I believe was quite suspicious due tot he ways the marriage broke down, and if I can do it I know people with stronger evidence can do it.

Good luck everyone!

I just thought I would update.
"On June 27, 2014, we ordered production of your new card. Please allow 30 days for your card to be mailed to you. If we need something from you we will contact you."
I filed for my I751 waiver in early April, went to biometrics May 2nd. Waited, and got this.
The evidence I had was:
List of contents
· Cover Letter
· Personal Statement
· I-485 Green Card Welcome Letter (with barcode).
· Check made payable to U.S. Department of Homeland Security for $590.
· Form I-751 signed and dated.
· Paper showing additional address.
· Copy of green card. Front and back.
· Copy of British passport biometric page.
· Copy of my birth certificate.
· Copy of marriage certificate.
· Copy of divorce decree.
· Copy of ex-wife drivers license showing name change.

Financial Co-mingling

· 2012 Joint Tax Return Transcript.
· Health insurance card listing myself as a dependent.
· Life insurance policy form filled by wife.
· Credit card in both names where she listed me as an authorized user.
· Joint checking account statements spanning over many months of our marriage.

Additional Information

· 1 affidavit from my mother in law.
· 2 affidavits from mutual friends.
· Photos spanning our marriage together.
· Additional documents.

So no interview, even though we separated at 7 months into the marriage, even though our financial mingling was limited, even though I was in the UK for 4+ months right after getting my conditional green card. All I had was a 2012 tax return, a joint bank account and some other little pieces of info. No cars together, nothing like that. I think her mothers affidavit might have helped a lot, because it did state that her own daughter basically likes to use men, and some not so nice words about how her daughter treated me bad. When a mom talks bad about her own daughter, it doesn't look good (on her kid).

The craziest bit of news I got was finding out from her own mother a few days ago that my ex wife is pregnant with the man she cheated on me with (the man she married like a week after our divorce). That floored me a bit, but I don't feel sorry for him because he knew about me, but decided to pursue something with her anyway. No mater what sob stories she gave him about how much of a monster I am, he still made a decision to get involved in my marriage, based on her lies. None of my business about their life now though, I know, but her mother and I know that she really dislikes kids and has said some really disturbing things, like "If I ever have kids and they disobey me I am going to beat them black and blue". Sad thing is she was serious. Oh well. Anyway, time to move on with my life. I just wish the guy realized that if she cheated on her husband (me) with him, she's going to do the same thing to him, and with a child mixed up in the mess, there is only going to be one victim here.

So what next? I guess citizenship. I'm not sure if the years I have been a conditional resident apply to the 5 or so years, or not. Guess I will do some research into it when I get time. All I know is I must file my taxes every year so far.

I posted this mainly to give hope to everyone out there going through the same thing. Maybe you don't have that much evidence, like me. I avoided the interview entirely and I am so thankful for that, I also got no RFE. If you get all your evidence together properly, it should be ok. My case I believe was quite suspicious due tot he ways the marriage broke down, and if I can do it I know people with stronger evidence can do it.

Good luck everyone!

Pam, moving to another country is difficult on the immigrant. Some handle it better than others, but a new marriage based on this is also difficult for both parties too. I don't know your circumstances, but I see a lot of bitter people on here who are unhappy with their marriage and automatically think they've been used for a greencard. I think it's because people try to find excuses as to why their marriage did not work, and it's easier to run to an external excuse (like being used for a gc) instead of face the reality that the marriage just didn't work out, and there were too many differences.
If he was on dating sites 2 months after, you should be trying to understand why. Perhaps he is listing himself as single because he is unhappy in the marriage? I'm not saying it's cool, it's not, but you really need to find out all his reasons and have a good talk with him. Marriage isn't something to just throw away when things aren't working out, and most fail due to breakdown of communication or difference beliefs/culture/opinions within a marriage. Seems you guys don't talk that much about things and just argue/have conflicts?
I just think you need to figure out what your marriage actually is, and what is going on with it, before you try to get his immigration benefits removed. That is usually the LAST option in a dead marriage for bitter partners. Your marriage isn't dead yet? And you still live together? So why are you jumping ahead of yourself and going this route when the proper route would be to figure out what you want to do with your marriage?
You're acting like the relationship is completely over so at this point, it's a domestic issue and he can do whatever he wants with other people online or offline, considering when you talk about messing up his life by reporting him and getting him into trouble, well you've admitted right there that you don't really care about the relationship anymore. So why should it matter what he does anymore. What he did in the past is between you and him and you guys need to divorce, fix your marriage, or figure out what you want to do WITHIN the United States, not get immigration involved in your mess just because it isn't working out for you.

The thing is though, it's a game of both people wanting to do bad things to each other in a way. How can you suggest he's a cheater, when the op is trying to play the game too and get him punished? She has admitted her evidence is not strong against him (on a betrayal/scam level). She doesn't even know what's truly going on. This is a case for marriage counselling or divorce, not "I think our marriage is over now I want to destroy your life because you hurt me". I understand where you are coming from but we don't know the whole story.
Perhaps after marriage he learned that his wife was not whom he expected her to be, and vice versa. Yeah it's not cool to list on a dating site as single, but it ain't cool to try to ruin his new life either. As an immigrant myself I see both people as doing bad behavior and showing signs of inability to handle married life here. Their conversations as described seem more like roommates, and that's coming from both sides. Something ain't right about this and I'm not going to point fingers at the immigrant, only advise the damage that can be caused. And if it backfires, he can make the USC a misery. There's that affidavit of support thing, and if he does manage to fight it and eventually get his conditions removed, he could get some payback if he knew that his "ex" tried to ruin his life. It's a dangerous game to play and I think people should just move on, deal with their marriage/divorce and get on with life.

Pam, moving to another country is difficult on the immigrant. Some handle it better than others, but a new marriage based on this is also difficult for both parties too. I don't know your circumstances, but I see a lot of bitter people on here who are unhappy with their marriage and automatically think they've been used for a greencard. I think it's because people try to find excuses as to why their marriage did not work, and it's easier to run to an external excuse (like being used for a gc) instead of face the reality that the marriage just didn't work out, and there were too many differences.
If he was on dating sites 2 months after, you should be trying to understand why. Perhaps he is listing himself as single because he is unhappy in the marriage? I'm not saying it's cool, it's not, but you really need to find out all his reasons and have a good talk with him. Marriage isn't something to just throw away when things aren't working out, and most fail due to breakdown of communication or difference beliefs/culture/opinions within a marriage. Seems you guys don't talk that much about things and just argue/have conflicts?
I just think you need to figure out what your marriage actually is, and what is going on with it, before you try to get his immigration benefits removed. That is usually the LAST option in a dead marriage for bitter partners. Your marriage isn't dead yet? And you still live together? So why are you jumping ahead of yourself and going this route when the proper route would be to figure out what you want to do with your marriage?
You're acting like the relationship is completely over so at this point, it's a domestic issue and he can do whatever he wants with other people online or offline, considering when you talk about messing up his life by reporting him and getting him into trouble, well you've admitted right there that you don't really care about the relationship anymore. So why should it matter what he does anymore. What he did in the past is between you and him and you guys need to divorce, fix your marriage, or figure out what you want to do WITHIN the United States, not get immigration involved in your mess just because it isn't working out for you.

The thing is though, it's a game of both people wanting to do bad things to each other in a way. How can you suggest he's a cheater, when the op is trying to play the game too and get him punished? She has admitted her evidence is not strong against him (on a betrayal/scam level). She doesn't even know what's truly going on. This is a case for marriage counselling or divorce, not "I think our marriage is over now I want to destroy your life because you hurt me". I understand where you are coming from but we don't know the whole story.
Perhaps after marriage he learned that his wife was not whom he expected her to be, and vice versa. Yeah it's not cool to list on a dating site as single, but it ain't cool to try to ruin his new life either. As an immigrant myself I see both people as doing bad behavior and showing signs of inability to handle married life here. Their conversations as described seem more like roommates, and that's coming from both sides. Something ain't right about this and I'm not going to point fingers at the immigrant, only advise the damage that can be caused. And if it backfires, he can make the USC a misery. There's that affidavit of support thing, and if he does manage to fight it and eventually get his conditions removed, he could get some payback if he knew that his "ex" tried to ruin his life. It's a dangerous game to play and I think people should just move on, deal with their marriage/divorce and get on with life.

Pam, moving to another country is difficult on the immigrant. Some handle it better than others, but a new marriage based on this is also difficult for both parties too. I don't know your circumstances, but I see a lot of bitter people on here who are unhappy with their marriage and automatically think they've been used for a greencard. I think it's because people try to find excuses as to why their marriage did not work, and it's easier to run to an external excuse (like being used for a gc) instead of face the reality that the marriage just didn't work out, and there were too many differences.
If he was on dating sites 2 months after, you should be trying to understand why. Perhaps he is listing himself as single because he is unhappy in the marriage? I'm not saying it's cool, it's not, but you really need to find out all his reasons and have a good talk with him. Marriage isn't something to just throw away when things aren't working out, and most fail due to breakdown of communication or difference beliefs/culture/opinions within a marriage. Seems you guys don't talk that much about things and just argue/have conflicts?
I just think you need to figure out what your marriage actually is, and what is going on with it, before you try to get his immigration benefits removed. That is usually the LAST option in a dead marriage for bitter partners. Your marriage isn't dead yet? And you still live together? So why are you jumping ahead of yourself and going this route when the proper route would be to figure out what you want to do with your marriage?
You're acting like the relationship is completely over so at this point, it's a domestic issue and he can do whatever he wants with other people online or offline, considering when you talk about messing up his life by reporting him and getting him into trouble, well you've admitted right there that you don't really care about the relationship anymore. So why should it matter what he does anymore. What he did in the past is between you and him and you guys need to divorce, fix your marriage, or figure out what you want to do WITHIN the United States, not get immigration involved in your mess just because it isn't working out for you.

Pam, moving to another country is difficult on the immigrant. Some handle it better than others, but a new marriage based on this is also difficult for both parties too. I don't know your circumstances, but I see a lot of bitter people on here who are unhappy with their marriage and automatically think they've been used for a greencard. I think it's because people try to find excuses as to why their marriage did not work, and it's easier to run to an external excuse (like being used for a gc) instead of face the reality that the marriage just didn't work out, and there were too many differences.
If he was on dating sites 2 months after, you should be trying to understand why. Perhaps he is listing himself as single because he is unhappy in the marriage? I'm not saying it's cool, it's not, but you really need to find out all his reasons and have a good talk with him. Marriage isn't something to just throw away when things aren't working out, and most fail due to breakdown of communication or difference beliefs/culture/opinions within a marriage. Seems you guys don't talk that much about things and just argue/have conflicts?
I just think you need to figure out what your marriage actually is, and what is going on with it, before you try to get his immigration benefits removed. That is usually the LAST option in a dead marriage for bitter partners. Your marriage isn't dead yet? And you still live together? So why are you jumping ahead of yourself and going this route when the proper route would be to figure out what you want to do with your marriage?
You're acting like the relationship is completely over so at this point, it's a domestic issue and he can do whatever he wants with other people online or offline, considering when you talk about messing up his life by reporting him and getting him into trouble, well you've admitted right there that you don't really care about the relationship anymore. So why should it matter what he does anymore. What he did in the past is between you and him and you guys need to divorce, fix your marriage, or figure out what you want to do WITHIN the United States, not get immigration involved in your mess just because it isn't working out for you.

Pam, moving to another country is difficult on the immigrant. Some handle it better than others, but a new marriage based on this is also difficult for both parties too. I don't know your circumstances, but I see a lot of bitter people on here who are unhappy with their marriage and automatically think they've been used for a greencard. I think it's because people try to find excuses as to why their marriage did not work, and it's easier to run to an external excuse (like being used for a gc) instead of face the reality that the marriage just didn't work out, and there were too many differences.
If he was on dating sites 2 months after, you should be trying to understand why. Perhaps he is listing himself as single because he is unhappy in the marriage? I'm not saying it's cool, it's not, but you really need to find out all his reasons and have a good talk with him. Marriage isn't something to just throw away when things aren't working out, and most fail due to breakdown of communication or difference beliefs/culture/opinions within a marriage. Seems you guys don't talk that much about things and just argue/have conflicts?
I just think you need to figure out what your marriage actually is, and what is going on with it, before you try to get his immigration benefits removed. That is usually the LAST option in a dead marriage for bitter partners. Your marriage isn't dead yet? And you still live together? So why are you jumping ahead of yourself and going this route when the proper route would be to figure out what you want to do with your marriage?
You're acting like the relationship is completely over so at this point, it's a domestic issue and he can do whatever he wants with other people online or offline, considering when you talk about messing up his life by reporting him and getting him into trouble, well you've admitted right there that you don't really care about the relationship anymore. So why should it matter what he does anymore. What he did in the past is between you and him and you guys need to divorce, fix your marriage, or figure out what you want to do WITHIN the United States, not get immigration involved in your mess just because it isn't working out for you.

So sorry to hear this. Sadly the system is against you. I do find it rather messed up though that a USC Husband can be a douche by cheating, then a double douche by forcing someone to go back home. It actually happens to people that have been building their life for a while and have given up everything to be with their spouse, and they're left going back to absolutely nothing. There are so many topics on this forum about USC getting "scammed" and "revenge" posts, yet this is a perfect example of a USC screwing someone over. It happens a lot too.

So sorry to hear this. Sadly the system is against you. I do find it rather messed up though that a USC Husband can be a douche by cheating, then a double douche by forcing someone to go back home. It actually happens to people that have been building their life for a while and have given up everything to be with their spouse, and they're left going back to absolutely nothing. There are so many topics on this forum about USC getting "scammed" and "revenge" posts, yet this is a perfect example of a USC screwing someone over. It happens a lot too.

So sorry to hear this. Sadly the system is against you. I do find it rather messed up though that a USC Husband can be a douche by cheating, then a double douche by forcing someone to go back home. It actually happens to people that have been building their life for a while and have given up everything to be with their spouse, and they're left going back to absolutely nothing. There are so many topics on this forum about USC getting "scammed" and "revenge" posts, yet this is a perfect example of a USC screwing someone over. It happens a lot too.

So sorry to hear this. Sadly the system is against you. I do find it rather messed up though that a USC Husband can be a douche by cheating, then a double douche by forcing someone to go back home. It actually happens to people that have been building their life for a while and have given up everything to be with their spouse, and they're left going back to absolutely nothing. There are so many topics on this forum about USC getting "scammed" and "revenge" posts, yet this is a perfect example of a USC screwing someone over. It happens a lot too.

So sorry to hear this. Sadly the system is against you. I do find it rather messed up though that a USC Husband can be a douche by cheating, then a double douche by forcing someone to go back home. It actually happens to people that have been building their life for a while and have given up everything to be with their spouse, and they're left going back to absolutely nothing. There are so many topics on this forum about USC getting "scammed" and "revenge" posts, yet this is a perfect example of a USC screwing someone over. It happens a lot too.