RFQ

Time will tell if I should have loaded my I130 with amazing amounts of evidence right off the bat, but I hadn't spent much time on Visa Journey then. I sent in 2 letters/affidavits and I think one 8x10 print out collage of 6 photos from our Nikkah (wedding), a couple with family, and a couple with my children. We were approved 3 months later.

For the interview I have put together a portfolio for my husband with collections of ticket stubs, more photos, a random selection of facebook, email, skype, and phone records excerpts, flight itineraries from our visits here and there...

I'm sending in my NVC packet this coming week, and I will throw a couple pictures and recent flight stub in with that packet, even though I'm not sure it will do any good. Its been 6 months since our NOA2 came so I'm hoping they'll glance at it and notice the ongoing relationship. It will be 10 months since we filed the I130 with the initial evidence.

Husband is HAPPY. We are adjusting very well thanks for asking.

Congrats on your Egyptian Wedding. No pics?

My sister in law had her wedding celebration at my husbands house while I was there in Maroc and I went to bed EARLY at 2 am

Music and dancing continued til dawn

I'll PM you a link if you want to take a look more. I'll post a couple here just as teasers.

Before the event- in the main hall:

Zaffa:

Main hall, bride's entrance, with Uncle in law

Cake!

lovely day! How does your husband like it there?

BUT MY CO SPONSOR IS IN THE ABOVE POVERTY GUIDELINES..WHY THEY NEED TO REQUEST W-2 AND I-864A FOR MY CO SPONSOR SPOUSE..

What documents did you send in the first time?

The way I understand is if you and your spouse/household member are doing the sponsoring together, then you file with the 1864 for yourself, and an 1864A for the household member, and submit tax documents to verify both incomes.

email works for my husband too

I agree... and its not just me that is damaged !

Just being single ,I am meeting some hot mess men out here! I dont know if even having a "type" is the greatest idea LOL...

Is it ok to admit this #######? I think I feel bad about ADMITTING that I would like to have something resembling a satisfying relationship...Its like wanting to be96 pounds when you are 150 or wanting a new car when you can barely afford the car you have...

Is it ok to long for normality? For intimacy? To have faith that things will improve? Isnt there a fine line between being realistic and being a dreamer?

Everyone's experience is individual, but this is mine: in the first 6 months of separation I really wanted some intimacy. After 6 months I had done some counseling and was really feeling confident again in myself, and I was content with life. I had no desire then to get into a serious relationship, or to be dating. I knew I was ready when I didn't NEED that anymore. I began to cherish my independence and rekindle real life relationships/friendships that had been damaged or neglected since my unhealthy marriage began.

Then one day I actually wanted it. So I started looking with a fresh outlook. I knew that I didn't need anyone and I could walk way and say no confidently if anything didn't sit right with me. So on so forth... and here I am.

As for the right guy waiting until your ready-- my husband was my acquaintance for years. About 9 months after my legal separation from my X, he asked if I thought there might be some day be more between us--he had some idea that we would be good together having the same interests and religion. I told him to go away and leave me alone!! I couldn't deal with anything or even entertain the thought at the time. And he did... we didn't speak once in 9 months.

Thanks! It was an amazing and crazy night, lol. Truly Egyptian Debated posting a picture...don't think I will since this forum is so...public

Egypt has treated me well too. I have only 5 days left here and am trying NOT to think about the departure. We've done all kinds of suprising things including going to Dream Park. Who knew they'd have lots of roller coasters and rides? We've driven to Alexandria for a mini-vacation and visited more pyramids I've not visited before. All in all the trip has been so successful. After all the worry about what the current state of affairs might be, I am very happy I've come. RFQ, I'm glad you are enjoying the time too!

You have left or are leaving today, I think, so I figured you need a great big <<<<<hug>>>>> I almost went to dream park with my niece but I couldn't fit it in the day they had planned.

My stomach is in knots already about the last few days but I'm trying not to let it ruin my wedding today... but its the last big hurrah...

Malesh!

Promised some pix

Pyramids (I'm in the 1st picture somewhere ), Porto Sokhna Red Sea, Al Azhar Mosque

Allahu akbar!

I'm home in Cairo x 2 days, and enjoying all the beautiful madness here.

I leave Saturday, and last night I had to unpack all of my items. I keep standing on a scale with my luggage, and it is over 50 lbs. I am trying to pare down my items, but I just can't decide what to leave out. Sure, I could pay the extra fee for overweight luggage, but I am stubborn. I do not like paying extra fees. I try to avoid it at all costs. So, we'll have to see what wins out--my vain desires for lots of material things or my stingy, money saving personality. Maybe the gravitational pull on my luggage will just lessen the moment it goes on the airline's scale. One can hope...

Ah! Yes, I must weigh things. These Costco size bottles of shampoo for my MIL weigh as much as my clothing... She believes that her shampoo (same brandname) is not so good as ours. I won't pay the extra baggage fees either... I guess if its overweight, I just can't bring my school books. >.> :-P

Just because this is making me a little nostalgic - I left for Egypt for my first trip on Dec. 26 (2005). I packed the night before and morning of lol. I am such a procrastinator. Hope you have a safe flight and a nice time in Egypt. I hope you're still able to do some site seeing and shopping, safely. Khan el Khalili was my favorite.

My husband packs 2 hours before he leaves. Me... I have to do something to help calm my nerves so packing and unpacking has become my new favorite pastime. isA, I'll get some shopping done. I have requests already and even one person gave me money! My first week though is to the north coast... maybe I can adjust where its a bit more quiet before I get thrown into the craziness that is Cairo.

7 days--- 75% packed... 1 paper to write...no room in my brain to think about sociology... whats a girl to do?

you just never imagine this happening in your own back yard... happy to hear you're alright. I am guessing a bit of PTSD will be with many people that were there.

I don't have anything to add to the discussion except an appreciation for this comment:

I was on the floor! Mostly b/c I feel the same, mine is the same way and the blinders were taken off a loooooong time ago!!

LOL... it is pretty terrific comment. My first marriage made it 10 years and I was blind as a bat for most of those. The good thing is, this time I went into this with a total different mind set and 10 years of marriage taught me oh so well what becomes of that flitty little emotion people think is love. I definitly know what marriage ISN'T.

My hubs totally gets made fun of if he tries to BS me. #jaded.

It would be good if you have your wife come here and learn more about the process and exactly what you two will be facing with Casablanca. "Hard" does not adequately difficult embassy that you will be interviewing at. She and you will need thorough research to address any potential issues right from the beginning.

This is just my advice having now watched and read so many sad and difficult stories relating to the embassy.

How frustrating. I am so sorry this is the outcome. Keep fighting, and I pray you get the answers you need.

I will force my daughter/s to read "Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" by Lundy Bancroft, before I will let them marry. This book opened my eyes on so many levels to subtleties and patterns that I didn't use to recognize. It helped me see the faulty train of thought I had before in judging people. These abusers and users are clever. They are masters at manipulation. They may have even lied to themselves so much that they actually believe some of the bull that comes out of their mouths. Once you know what to look for though, its just about impossible to miss.

No one falls in love with the nasty side of a man/woman-- the abuser knows how to lay on the sweetness when being sweet gets him/her what he/she wants. I think that reading a book such as the one above can help you spot such a personality even from a distance relationship. Its not foolproof, and the newborn love can definitely make judgement cloudy.

I have every single female relative on both sides of my husbands family from all over Cairo and Giza (that are actually are known to be on fb ofc), on my facebook, as well as two girls I consider my best friends, that I've known before I became engaged to my husband. I don't have an issue getting first hand information.

But regardless of that, I have no issue of anyone telling me to be careful in a volatile country or even when telling me to be careful when traveling to a destination within my own town. Its about what is said, why its said,how its said, and the attitude its said with. Take for instance the completely different approaches to "help" you find on this forum....

I suggest interview coaching and a resume review.

I don't see why you would need another certification to work as a CNA. It could be your area. I'm in a heavily flooded area for nurses and nursing schools and we still have jobs. Maybe working as a volunteer at the hospital would be beneficial.

Goodwill offers resume review and interview coaching and even help finding jobs.

http://www.goodwill.org/goodwill-for-you/specialized-services/immigrants/

I fail to see the relevance to the original topic, but I'll be in Cairo.

This went from your naivety about the situation to a reality check. Again, where exactly is that "environment" you "shall" be in, the one in which you will arrive with your brand new, very first passport and be segregated from the rest of the world?

Seeing as how I neither brought up this topic, nor asked for advice on the matter I do not really wish to discuss it. Many people have come in this thread and made presumptuous accusations, then fed off each other into different tangents. I choose to ignore these things because I feel no need to defend or explain certain things irrelevant to the subject I initiated discussion on.

If you or anyone has a real, personal, friendly concern for my well being, you know where my inbox is. We can cultivate our friendship in private.

DP

back to the OP, post #1.

this is a class? you need a grade. don't p|ss off the instructor - class should be over soon.

get your grade and walk on.

just cause the teacher is an asshat, is no reason to take offense whilst he/she/it controls your grade.

get your grade, and forget about it.

Yeah, more or less thats what I left it at. I am not the kind to get personally offended and stress myself out about it. More just like... roll my eyes, have a sarcastic laugh, and maybe post about it...