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My first reaction was the same. Why wouldn't the family believe her? It's fishy, to be sure. Yes, we're not hearing the husband's story.
But then I think about what it means to commit to a marriage in India, and conversely, what it means to contemplate divorce -- and furthermore, how intensely gendered these questions are. Particularly if it's an arranged marriage -- or even if it's a love marriage but the parents are operating in a cultural framework that assumes arranged marriage -- it's highly likely that the parents wouldn't believe her only because they wouldn't want to. It's possible that she's exaggerating and her parents a denying it, but it's equally possible that this is an instance of classic Indian patriarchy operating so effectively that this girl is rendered unreliable in comparison to her husband in her parents' eyes. I have seen it happen so many times with my girlfriends in India (and even NRI friends in the US).
And if it is the case that her parents are choosing not to believe her, then this might be her only outlet. Where else could she be heard?

A person presumed innocent? I quote from the OP: "...he admitted his intent was just to obtain his visa, and divorce me...He wants to divorce me and go back to India and marry a girl he knows and have her come here like he planned for so long."
What facts are you referring to, SingleDad?
Enough. @Merrytooth your post mad me laugh.

But it's not possible to be "objective on the rights of a man in exactly the same position [as a woman]" because gender defines the position itself (Judith Butler, anyone?). Even if he does "just want a divorce," that's going to be much harder on her, as an Indian woman, living within her most immediate social circle, than it will be on him, as an Indian man, living half the world away from his most immediate social circle. There is no "objective" here.

I know this is unusual, but I hope your wife the best luck. It must be very difficult for her to had have to live with a mother-in-law, a father-in-law and not her own home for the sake of her marriage and personal well-being. I think if I would have been in the same conditions I would have gone crazy. Also who told you that she will be happy with you after being forced to marry you, and how it was that you brough this culture to America. Your case makes me think of slavery. She has the right to keep living in this country if she wants to. Remember you come from a country with huge violence against women. Also the violence is not always physical is most of the time psychological. It is just so sad. And sorry if you do not like my comments...
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But it's not possible to be "objective on the rights of a man in exactly the same position [as a woman]" because gender defines the position itself (Judith Butler, anyone?). Even if he does "just want a divorce," that's going to be much harder on her, as an Indian woman, living within her most immediate social circle, than it will be on him, as an Indian man, living half the world away from his most immediate social circle. There is no "objective" here.

I'm sorry, but I can't just leave it. This thread shouldn't end with that post.
Singledad, you couldn't possibly know that. And your posting in this manner isn't particularly constructive or interesting.
As a side note: have you ever been to India? Most of my friends have been in long-term long-distance relationships that baffle American dating sensibilities. There could very easily be a girl in India.

I am so upset when I hear people harming others and intentionally. I am sorry Taal!
I am against divorce but that only when there are not based circumstances, your case is different and even though the fraud fact may sound so common, you are in a state of abusive and manipulative marriage. My husband thinks, what about hiring a private detective? A friend also bought a hidden pen microphone that helped her to get at least one of the confessions of her ex. It may work, but above all, don't let anyone control you. Best of wishes!
More 2 cents, if the man is a victim of conspiracy, then why the heck he pretends in front of her family that everything is "OK"? He knows clearly the game he is playing, a reason why Taal's family don't believe and tell her that she needs to work out more in her marriage. Seriously? What else does she need to do? Based on this woman's testimony, where is the evidence that man is "voiceles"? Puaf.

I'm confused by your post... did you not read the OP? The OP stated that her husband told her he wants to bring his girlfriend to the US. The OP told us he has admitted, on several occasions, that he married her just for a GC. The OP has told us that he offered to "compensate" her for the years lost, to the tune of $25K. She also told us her parents told her it would be a "great embarrassment" if she were to divorce them. She also referenced indian culture... so again, I'm confused by your post.

Stop.
Waited to remove conditions?? please... most people don't know the next steps in immigration. he waited until he got the the US. One year anniversary of being married... most of that time was spent apart waiting for the visa. He came and said/did this soon after entry.
This is a common scam: get GC, then file for new wife. It's like the number 1 scam in the books. That being said, if it weren't the truth, her testimony is not enough to kick him out. USCIS will do their own investigation.
Your attacking and blaming the victim and pop-psychologizing her is not needed. You side with the man because you only see yourself in this situation. Sad. Disgusting display.

He came on a spouse visa and he is quite capable of removing conditions on his own so waiting isn't necessary.
On a side note, I cannot understand why you are still allowed to post on this forum. The person who hopes to twist the word "residence" to mean "residency" and at best offers non-applicable advice, peppered with criticism, about how to obtain welfare benefits, should be banned.
My $.02.

The difference in relationship culture and family drama as seen in India may seem strange to those not familiar with it - do a little research and be amazed by the absolutely crazy stuff that can come from these relationships...also, for kicks, look at MENA for similar issues too. It's all fun to think that there are crazy women who imagine the "true love" back home as some conspiracy theory but there is much, much, much more at play culturally. The sheer amount of infidelity even seen in the subcontinent is astounding. Plus, there is a HUGE reason why Delhi is such a gigantic pain in the backside to get through - this type of thing is tried, ALL THE TIME.

I'm sorry, but I can't just leave it. This thread shouldn't end with that post.
Singledad, you couldn't possibly know that. And your posting in this manner isn't particularly constructive or interesting.
As a side note: have you ever been to India? Most of my friends have been in long-term long-distance relationships that baffle American dating sensibilities. There could very easily be a girl in India.

I'm sorry, but I can't just leave it. This thread shouldn't end with that post.
Singledad, you couldn't possibly know that. And your posting in this manner isn't particularly constructive or interesting.
As a side note: have you ever been to India? Most of my friends have been in long-term long-distance relationships that baffle American dating sensibilities. There could very easily be a girl in India.

singledad regarding your questions "why a spouse claiming to have no psychological issues leaves the spouse who they claim to have issues".I truly believe the "sane" person leaves because we're supposed to be surrounded by people who love,respect and cherish us. Love is not supposed to hurt.I applaud those who had the strength, courage and respect for themselves and left their abusers.

Am I understanding this correctly, you entered the US on the VWP with three children in tow, met a man and proceeded to marry him in 3 months? Was there something you were running from in your home country? Is the father of your children aware you are married and the kids may now be in danger? Have you filed for AOS, if so how could you afford to if your husband has spent all your money? What were your intentions on entering the US with your three children? You have no ties to the US so why don't you return to Switzerland, its a beautiful country, you're free there, just wondering what is holding you back from returning home.
Don't get me wrong I don't condone anyform of violence and he should be punished for what he has done, I'm just trying to figure out your situation and how it came about.

Can the kids go stay with bio-Dad(s) for their safety while you sort this out?

Since I am from India, I can understand the issue from OP's point of view. Divorce is still a taboo in India and woman who divorces always finds it difficult to find a never married guy. That's why the family is not supportive of her. Also friends and extended family would look down on a divorced woman. Yeah it is true. India is growing fast as far the divorce rate is concerned, but we haven't caught up yet. From what she said her husband is a fraud. She can't change what happened but she can change what's going to happen. As the previous member commented, gather proofs. Since she was married in India, I don't think she can divorce from here. It has to be done in India. And if possible block his any chances to petition for anyone else.

My first reaction was the same. Why wouldn't the family believe her? It's fishy, to be sure. Yes, we're not hearing the husband's story.
But then I think about what it means to commit to a marriage in India, and conversely, what it means to contemplate divorce -- and furthermore, how intensely gendered these questions are. Particularly if it's an arranged marriage -- or even if it's a love marriage but the parents are operating in a cultural framework that assumes arranged marriage -- it's highly likely that the parents wouldn't believe her only because they wouldn't want to. It's possible that she's exaggerating and her parents a denying it, but it's equally possible that this is an instance of classic Indian patriarchy operating so effectively that this girl is rendered unreliable in comparison to her husband in her parents' eyes. I have seen it happen so many times with my girlfriends in India (and even NRI friends in the US).
And if it is the case that her parents are choosing not to believe her, then this might be her only outlet. Where else could she be heard?