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Status Updates posted by Olomi_811
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God grant me the courage to change the things I can!!
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I just noticed VJ has reputation points...You have got to be kidding me! A person can have thousands of posts filled with nothingness and lies and get hundreds of points for that to have an "excellent" reputation rating. Can we say middle school or better yet that section of the high school yearbook? Voted Most Likely To Lie. Reputation points my foot!
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I guess the more sympathy you seek the more points you get..so post away...screaming and laughing out loud..see I wrote something. That mess is ignorant who in the life thought of this idiot behavior point system. I guess if I wanted to post fictitious delusions of grandeur I'd have 50000 rep points...lol
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People are quick to question the genuineness of their foreign spouse and the spouses of others. When people venture onto the Visa Journey and this site, there is enough angst and stress in the natural course of things that present doubt and misunderstanding. You hope to find others for comfort and guidance. Some never think that perhaps they need to question the realness of the American poster. For months on end, their status updates and posts read like The Young & The Restless and Day...
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I agree totally.Because of the stressfulness this process bring to the forefront there is absolutely no need to make up fictitious stories that may deter or confuse others in need of true and real advice. This journey is so difficult and long I feel that each and every one of us who reaches out for help should get the very best not "your story" instead show where to read, teach how to research but be a listening ear. It's good to see the best come from a situation but it's bad...
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A major part of adjusting is allowing the other person to JUST BE. At some point you'll realize who you courted online/over the phone and met in person is not who you married (both parties may feel this.) You can overcome this, but you both have to want it. Watch your spouse sprout their wings in self-discovery and you do the same.
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I so agree. It takes time..and the will to want to make your marriage work. It's easy to jump into an unwarranted argument, get mad and point the finger...but wouldn't we rather learn,listen and learn not just from our spouses but from our own internal growth line. Then we can love and that's the end result we all want.
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Looking forward to our date tonight!
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As I'm perusing pages this morning, seeing couples still enduring prolonged separations I thought to myself "Lord thank you, because I couldn't do it." Then I thought of my story and the challenges I've endured. Only those who need to know will know it. This morning I can say "Lord thank you for this form of hardship, growth, and loves continued renewal!" No matter your story speak life into it. Proclaim the positive and pack all the dead and decaying thoughts ...
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I love it.. Having hindsight I'm not sure if I could endure that distance ever again having my husband here with me now. I see the new couples trying to pull through and I'm reminded of the strength, endurance, hope, faith, trust, prayer and love it took to make it thru and in does not stop when they arrive..it continues. My prayer is that the stories we hear will be filled happy beginnings. Thanks for putting this out Olomi
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"Between a man and his wife nothing ought to rule but love. Authority is for children and servants, yet not without sweetness." William Penn
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Bittersweet memories that is all I'm taking with me. So goodbye, please don't cry... we both know I'm not what you need...And I... Will always love you. I will always love you.
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Lord thank you for giving me what I thought I wanted so I could know to pray for what I really need.
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Let me start by saying anyone married to a Nigerian man has probably experienced that their sense of humor can be a little off, but there are times when you can throw them for a loop...lol
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Six months in and last night he verbalized "...I want to do my job as your husband." Two months ago this might have impressed me. Today it just pisses me off.
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I am afraid to spend...and you know he has no trouble with it. My brother said to me...you must trust your husband with the finances..I looked at him like his head fell off and rolled down the hall. Prince was all up in the chest like "yea!" My brother looked at him and said she will trust you but if one bill falls behind...the s#!! is on you and you better be damn sure you can handle it.
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So I'm in training to trust. but watching the money too...I aint no fool. Willingness, to try despite all odds with adjustment in self refection and teaching by showing...not always "you need to..." because it just shuts them down. Be pissed off but see if he owns his statement...then own yours..let's see..but not give up just yet...I know I know I know...and I love you sis. whew this was long!
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The one evening I show up unexpectedly at his job and he happens to be working overtime and he is no where near doing his job description...lol! Now I see firsthand!!
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Ooo lawd I just watched him drive the jack at work...damn that was sexy!!
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I forgot my phone and refuse to go home for that alone.
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OK, so tell me why I wanted to be like you and went to work this morning blind. I found some contacts in my drawer and decided to use them not knowing how long they've been there. All was well while I was in the house, but once I got outside and started driving things went downhill fast. Pretty much everything is blurry. If it's not right in front of my face, then I'm not seeing it too well. Bad thing is I didn't even bother to turn the car around to change them, but I ha...
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Thinking about going to Priceline and try my luck for tickets to see my parents. Yesterday my mom told Yemi she would give him $100 to get in gear and get his drivers license so he could help drive down.