NutMagnet

Never bar fine a girl with wet hair.

NM

I wonder how many "git" your post? You don't like ROADHOUSE.....

Not so much anymore since Mark moved back to the states. Great happy hour there, cheese, sausage, crackers and buy one take one. Good place to start the bar hop. "THUN-DER!"

Much of the previous appeal has been destroyed by Dollhouse, Tropix, Crystal Palace and KOREA TOWN. Subic & Baloy Beach area is rockin' even better since the expressway opened!

Cheeers!

NM

Are there any Asian or Oriental grocery stores close by? I'm sure she is getting hungry for "real" food. Many of these specialty stores carry free Asian community newspapers, a bulletin board up on the wall somewhere, and the owners can help with networking too.

Try this http://www.thefilipino.com/filipinostores/...oresinOhio.html

and here: http://www.google.com/#hl=en&source=hp...;fp=1&cad=b

If you don't have one already, I would strongly consider buying her a Magic Sing karaoke microphone. She'll know what it is and it will help with her boredom. In fact, nothing will say "I Love You" more than a dried fish and a Magic Sing. Get the set up with 2 microphones so you can join in also (talent not required).

In addition, there are 10's of thousands of karaoke songs in all languages and genres avaliable on the Internet and in the Usenet newsgroups along with the software to play and sing on your computer, or burn to CD-R and play on a multi-format karoake standalone DVD player.

Keeping busy helps with the adjustment. PM me for more info on the karaoke stuff.

Good luck!

NM

Many American Men who visit the Philippines, Have plans to go back and live in Philippines

He will be like a kid in candy store, and basically have almost any woman that he wants. (Sorry to be blunt, but it's the truth).

Angeles City, Pampanga Here We Come! Honky Tonk Bar on A. Santos street, directly opposite the Wild Orchid Resort for the 1st stop. The shwirma place opens up at 1330 daily. Let's have a look-see at the Dirty Duck while we wait. Or get that P50 "haircut your hair" at Bong's place.

Never bar fine a girl with wet hair.

NM

Here the Self -Serve Family Law seminars and pro-bono attorneys (rookies) operate out of the main Court House.

I believe the bro-bono attorneys are granted a "rented room" to hold such a fracas on a calendar basis, so to take some load off the incoming phone calls to the clerks,

See if your state is a No-Fault divorce state, in which situation you can simply state the reason to be an irrevocable breakdown in marriage. Otherwise a mandated separation period will result in the same.

What state are you in?

Your man has Yellow Fever and is living like a rock star in the RP. Give him time to chill out and he will be back home. I am certain of this.

Best,

NM

Hi,everyone!

new member here!i'm going to point right away.i need a free legal help and i hope someone here can....

me and my husband agreed that he's going to pinas,to put up a fishing business,since his work here on sale i slow.but to the promised that he's going to stay with my family the whole time that he's in pinas.but to make it shorter....he ended up moving out from my family and he started doing monkey business as well.no phone calls,and he's not letting me know his phone no.and his address!sounds crazy but that's whta he did!but eventually i found out that he met a girl,and that girl become his companion until now.he lft us june 22,he's still there until now...and probably not planning to back.we have a 5year old son!and he's start looking for his daddy!my mother-inlaw is worried too because his the only and yet we don't know where he is!he's just sending us an email when he wants to ask something.so now i have no choice but to file for abandonment and separation.he got our money,so i'm trying to find a free legal help with this matter...i can't believe until now that my husband for almost 7years is going leave me here in the states!i don't have any family here,except friends.and my mother inlaw.he wants to retire in pinas but i told him,that its too early,he's only 45.and the fact that retiring in pinas is not a big joke!we need to be financially stable first.

please,i appreciate any input.

Britthaven

Wow! brave american lad in hybernation with a chic in the Philippines ,huh! Mark my word, he'll go back to the States

For now,I would suggest that u exercise ur right to ask free legal assistance in the US logal government(i presume ur a naturalized american , arent u?- easy to process) A marital legal counsel would definitely know the details of the hows and what of your case ,besides ,will give you alternatives/options applicable to your situation. You would more likely understand the whole picture with whats gonna happen later on if case be pursued. For the record, Take relevant,valid, tangible evidences/proofs of ur husband's infidelity. Dont just rely on mere hearsay,thats immaterial. Let him know that you already know what he does. Before its too late( that chic leaving him penniless in the Philippines)Give him a knock knock call !

THE POWER IS YOURS!

I wasn't aware that any local governments in the US provided free legal assistance in family court matters. This would put a lot of divorce lawyers out of business. The free legal workshops that I'm aware of are run by private non-profit groups.

His infidelity might not matter. It depends on what state she lives in. California, for example, has only two grounds for divorce - irreconcilable differences, and insanity. Infidelity would be considered irrelevant, and the courts won't even allow you to introduce it.

I do agree that she needs legal assistance. What she needs to do is probably relatively easy, but the information is buried in a minefield of family code statutes. A free legal workshop would help her focus on exactly what she needs to do.

I have my corporate taxes handled by an accountant/CPA because I prefer to do other things with my time. I am certain that many people hire attorneys to fill up their Immigration paperwork for the same reasons.

We have a choice and so we pick our own battles.

Trust that the USCIS would rather deal with Petitioners and not attorneys. You can get copies of the NOA's regardless to where they were previously sent in c/o of.

You have to ascertain that you are not breaking a legally binding agreement with your present attorney, should you decide to dump him/her. It does not help that the attorneys are 1/2 way across the country, but satisfy yourself that you made your best decision at that time, and now you are ready to pick up and hoof it on your own.

Educate yourself with the guides on this site and also the instructions of the forms your are filling up from the uscis.gov site.

Its a pretty straightforward process. I wish you luck in your pursuit. If you wanted to takeover the process on your own from that attorney you hired, write the USCIS to cancel the G-28 Representation form that he submitted and to further direct them to send all correspondences to you, with your explanation.

Best to ya,,

NM

The I-864 becomes valid when signed, however it is not enforceable until the point in which the 10 year permanent green card is issued for Permanent Residence.

This is not true. The I-864 becomes enforceable as soon as the foreign spouse is granted LPR status; whether conditional or not. And the petitioner cannot rescind this contract with the US government.

Please review the quote in bold from the CFR. You can read the entire thing here http://edocket.access.gpo.gov/cfr_2007/janqtr/8cfr213a.2.htm

For K1 the I-864 is adjudicated at the time of AOS along with the I-485 and without I-864 the package is incomplete. No support, No 10 Year green card. In the case of K3, one would write to cancel his I-130 Petition prior to AOS.

I-864 is considered "valid" upon signing as without it, and the other qualifying submissions, Conditional status can not be granted. The I-134 remains in effect (for what that's worth) up until the time of AOS.

Myself as well as others here on VJ have done this with success with K1 during the 2 year conditional resident period. The document is placed on the inside left cover of the alien's A# file.

Family court may order property division, but that's a civil mater.

Google [ "withdraw and disavow" I-864 support ] and variants. For further edification, consult a good immigration attorney or a competent Immigration Officer.

Good day,

NM

I don't understand what you are saying here. AOS takes place when the I-485 is adjudicated, that's at the time the FIRST green card is issued, whether it is a conditional one or a 10-year one. Don't be misled by the work "permanent" - someone with a 2-year green card is a permanent resident, although the permanent residence is conditional. Removal of conditions does NOT involve readjudication of the I-485 petition. In the bold section to which you refer:

(2) In an adjustment of status case, once the sponsor, substitute

sponsor, joint sponsor, household member, or intending immigrant has

presented a signed Form I-864 or Form I-864A to an immigration officer

or immigration judge, the sponsor, substitute sponsor, joint sponsor, or

household member may disavow his or her agreement to act as sponsor,

substitute sponsor, joint sponsor, or household member only if he or she

does so in writing and submits the document to the immigration officer

or immigration judge before the decision on the adjustment application.

the "decision on the adjustment application" is the initial decision to grant the first green card, whether

a two-year or a ten-year.

Whatever.

There is a confusion about AOS as it it filed for after marriage on a K1 to obtain Conditional Residency. The submissions are inspected for thoroughness, however the actual adjudication of such happens at the time of filing the joint I-751 within 90 days of expiry of conditional residency. That is also the time when the couple may be called in for an interview to their local filed office, but otherwise not before.

At any point prior to the alien obtaining their 10 year green card, the sponsor may, in writing withdraw and disavow their obligation to act as sponsor under the I-864 Affidavit of Support. This is laid out in simple language in the CFR and not of my own opinion.

No sponsor. No 10 year green card. Out of status. NTA sent and removal proceedings commenced. Bye bye blackbird.

I-485 as an Application to Register Permanent Residence or Adjust Status. The adjudication of such, along with joint signatures on the I-751 and evidence of a bona fide marriage occurs at the point of the expiration of conditional residency period.

Ask, what is the purpose of a two year Conditional period and why aren't K1/3's given permanent residency from the get-go? Why are CR-1's given their 10 year green card prior to hitting the states? (hint: they have already proved the bona fide's of their marriage)

Satisfy yourself, that you can relieve yourself of the obligations of the I-864 during the conditional resident period, as described the CFR as many a brother and fellow have done before. And, if receipt of such withdrawal is not sent to you by the USCIS, please make an Infopass appointment and a receipt of your withdrawal of support will arrive in your own mailbox within a week or so. Happy days are ahead and good luck in family court.

Your immigration attorney, who if, buy the way does not direct you to author such a letter upon hiring them, is probably not worth their salt. But then most of this readership prefers to handle things themselves sans legal assistance.

Respectfully to all,

NM

The I-864 becomes valid when signed, however it is not enforceable until the point in which the 10 year permanent green card is issued for Permanent Residence.

This is not true. The I-864 becomes enforceable as soon as the foreign spouse is granted LPR status; whether conditional or not. And the petitioner cannot rescind this contract with the US government.

Please review the quote in bold from the CFR. You can read the entire thing here http://edocket.access.gpo.gov/cfr_2007/janqtr/8cfr213a.2.htm

For K1 the I-864 is adjudicated at the time of AOS along with the I-485 and without I-864 the package is incomplete. No support, No 10 Year green card. In the case of K3, one would write to cancel his I-130 Petition prior to AOS.

I-864 is considered "valid" upon signing as without it, and the other qualifying submissions, Conditional status can not be granted. The I-134 remains in effect (for what that's worth) up until the time of AOS.

Myself as well as others here on VJ have done this with success with K1 during the 2 year conditional resident period. The document is placed on the inside left cover of the alien's A# file.

Family court may order property division, but that's a civil mater.

Google [ "withdraw and disavow" I-864 support ] and variants. For further edification, consult a good immigration attorney or a competent Immigration Officer.

Good day,

NM

"I met Alla online in 1976, shortly after I invented the internet for the purpose of meeting foreign chicks in the Soviet Union. I flew to Ukraine last year and she met me at the airport"

HEY! You stole my line!

thanks for replying although your reply has nothing to do with my questions at all

Sorry, I forgot to provide a phone number and that is what you specifically asked for.

I gave only their website and tips about getting that 1st time one way immigrant discount fare to the US (currently MNL-LAX $420 USD on EvaAir via TPE) and a free ride to the airport from Ermita/MM.

Just trying to be as helpful as possible.

Have fun.

NM

Why did you lie on the kid's live births?

1.How will I get an annullment decree when in the first place we were not married even though his name is in my kids's Birth certificate and shows date and place of marriage(Fake).

I am familiar with this sort of situation.

You have received RFE's for the I-130 Petitions you submitted in behalf of your kids. In applying, you needed to send copies of their Live Births to the USCIS. Copies of those documents will forever remain in your A# file.

According to your posts, your kids' Live Birth's list a Place and Date of Marriage of Parents, although you claim to have never really been married to the kids' father, even though it says so on the kid's live birth's. Most likely born after 1988 when legitimacy was no longer such an embarrassment.

You have presented those falsified public documents to the Philippine Government (DFA, etc.) for their passports, and also to the USCIS with the intent to gain US immigration benefits for the kids, I-130.

One of the major reasons why they are asking for death/annulment papers is to verify that your previous marriage, as stated on the kids' live birth's, was legally dissolved prior to marrying your American husband on a K-1 Visa. Without evidence of that "fake" marriage being dissolved, you are under suspicion of bigamy.

Its going to be difficult, if not impossible to convince the USCIS to accept any valid reason why there is a marriage listed on your kid's live birth's when no marriage occurred.

In explaining so, you will admitting to estafa falsification of public document. Your kid's passports were derived from those falsified documents. USCIS can not accept them has they were issued based on falsified documents.

In lieu of this willful and fraudulent misrepresentation, the I-130's for your kids will be denied. You could face removal proceedings for immigration fraud - submitting known "fake" documents to the USCIS with the intent to gain immigration benefits for your kids and misrepresenting a material fact.

There was no legal requirement to fill up that line on the kids' Live Births. I feel sorry for when they grow up and realize that their parents lied on their permanent records. Why is Manila regarded as a high fraud embassy?

Ignoring these RFE's and allowing the I-130's to expire, fixing the Live Birth's in the Philippines, and then filing I-130's again will only open up your same A# file where the copies of their old Live Birth's and unanswered RFE's are, making it clear that the original submissions of their Live Birth's were falsified. All of which you swore to be true and correct at the time of original filing.

Having a clean CENOMAR simply means that there are no likely matches for your name on file at the NSO.

They also know that documents, most especially marriage documents can easily be arranged to "disappear" from the archives of the NSO and LCR.

What are they supposed to believe, that you were lying then, or lying now?

It is a moot point to fix their live birth's with annotations and supporting affidavits as you have already submitted copies of their real live births to the USCIS under oath as being true and correct. Covering it all up simply illustrates the original fraud.

Good Luck.

NM

Nothing can kill an already approved 485, she is a conditional resident already. OP can write for a withdrawal but it cannot be revoked. Notarized letters, delivery stamps will not disavow his sponsorship. The burden of proof to deny her application and eventually remove her is on the USCIS, she needs a little proof of good faith marriage for an approval. The government understands not a lot can be collected with just 8 months of marriage. Without proof this will not stand in the courts, it will be just a matter of hearsay or an unconfirmed word of mouth mud slinging. op. u need high quality evidence to remove her out.

The I-485 is the Application to Register Permanent Residence and Adjust Status. The corresponding documents include the I-864 Affidavit of Support and G-325a bio data forms. The I-485 does not become approved until AOS.

The I-864 becomes valid when signed, however it is not enforceable until the point in which the 10 year permanent green card is issued for Permanent Residence. The I-134 Affidavit of Support is designed to cover the alien until that point, however the I-134 is utterly unenforceable.

With the I-864 being withdrawn and disavowed by the sponsor as detailed under the CFR (8CFR213a.2), there is problem at AOS time. The AOS package is no longer complete for adjudication due to the lack of sponsorship. The I-864 is a companion document to the I-485. Permanent Residence can not be granted without sponsorship guaranteeing that the alien will not become a public charge. AOS application denied - application killed due to withdrawal of sponsorship. K1's can only adjust status through their Petitioner.

If the parties were married abroad and the alien spouse arrives in the USA with Conditional Residence status, a written cancellation of the I-130 petition prior to AOS will cancel the entire process, as there is no longer an active petition.

Sec. 213a.2 Use of affidavit of support.

Withdrawal of Form I-864 or Form I-864A. (1) In an immigrant

visa case, once the sponsor, substitute sponsor, joint sponsor,

household member, or intending immigrant has presented a signed Form I-

864 or Form I-864A to a Department of State officer, the sponsor,

substitute sponsor, joint sponsor, or household member may disavow his

or her agreement to act as sponsor, substitute sponsor, joint sponsor,

or household member if he or she does so in writing and submits the

document to the Department of State officer before the actual issuance

of an immigrant visa to the intending immigrant. Once the intending

immigrant has obtained an immigrant visa, a sponsor, substitute sponsor,

joint sponsor, or household member cannot disavow his or her agreement

to act as a sponsor, joint sponsor, or household member unless the

person or entity who filed the visa petition withdraws the visa petition

in writing, as specified in 8 CFR 205.1(a)(3)(i)(A) or 8 CFR

205.1(a)(3)(iii)©, and also notifies the Department of State officer

who issued the visa of the withdrawal of the petition.

(2) In an adjustment of status case, once the sponsor, substitute

sponsor, joint sponsor, household member, or intending immigrant has

presented a signed Form I-864 or Form I-864A to an immigration officer

or immigration judge, the sponsor, substitute sponsor, joint sponsor, or

household member may disavow his or her agreement to act as sponsor,

substitute sponsor, joint sponsor, or household member only if he or she

does so in writing and submits the document to the immigration officer

or immigration judge before the decision on the adjustment application.

In other words, send it to the local USCIS field office and service center where you mailed your application documents, it will be placed in her A# file. Notarized withdrawal letter and affidavit of mailing with delivery confirmation will serve as your receipts of submission.

NM

NM

"Hawaii is a no fault divorce state, meaning there are no fault grounds for divorce under Hawaii law. You can obtain a divorce in Hawaii based on one of two grounds: living separate or an irretrievable breakdown on the marriage. To qualify for a divorce based on living separate, you must meet the following criteria:

1. The parties have lived separate and apart under a decree of separation from bed and board entered by any court of law with competent jurisdiction, the term of separation has expired, and no reconciliation has been effected;

2. The parties have lived separate and apart for a period of two years or more under a decree of separate maintenance entered by any court of law with competent jurisdiction, and no reconciliation has been effected; or

3. The parties have lived separate and apart for a continuous period of two years or more immediately preceding the application, there is no reasonable likelihood that cohabitation will be resumed, and the court is satisfied that, in the particular circumstances of the case, it would not be harsh and oppressive to the defendant or contrary to the public interest to a divorce on this ground on the complaint of the plaintiff.

(My husband wants to go to the philippines to study next year, so will that be considered as separation? will this affect my status here, because the USCIS specifically instructed us before that we are suppose to be together for two years.)

Please advice me coz i'm confused

1) Someone advice me to do diary and have a record of all the things that is happening especially the mental and emotional abuse that he is doing. Then I can use it as my defend when he files the divorce coz i'm not gonna file it so it will be at his cost. The only ground that he can use is irretrievable breakdown on the marriage, if he can prove it. That is why I have to document it that we are getting along, that its him who is rejecting & resentful to me. That he only wants to get out of the marriage because of this other girl. There might be a possibility that his petition for divorce will be dismissed, but what if we really cannot fixed it anymore? Because I will never sign the divorce papers willingly like it was our mutual decision. If he will insist the divorce what is going to happen? If they find out that this other girl is involved will she be banned in coming here in the US for destroying a marriage? She has a visit visa here. I know its sounds revenge but truly she deserves it. She knows for a fact that my husband is married. That's adultery and i wanna make sure she can't get away with it even if it will result to imprisonment for both of them.

2) Or should I just go on with the flow, pretend that we are getting along, so in the future he would have no reason/ grounds for the divorce. And prove that we are married in goodfaith. Because he promise to support me until 2 years til I get my PR, just pretend & show to our parents that we are getting along. But he keeps on changing his mind that's why i'm worried.

Maybelle,

It is understandable that you are upset, perhaps try to concentrate on what YOU can do about surviving your situation and forget about revenge against the other woman. You have discovered that your husband is not as dedicated to your relationship as you would have hoped, so there is no sense in nagging him about it. I would think you have more important things to think about at this moment. The other woman knows that your husband is married, and he also knows he's married to you! However no one is going to jail for adultery. The confrontations and snooping about may soon have the same effect as teasing a rabid dog, try to get along with the jerk and keep it civil for your safety.

Irretrievable breakdown of the marriage is simple as "It didn't work out" The divorce/family courts in your state don't care about the reasons why, nor do they want to get involved in details of marital problems. Continue your diary for your own piece of mind, the divorce court will not care who did wrong to who, just that one party claims that the marriage is broken beyond repair. As my ex told me, "easy to get divorced in America" and she got her wish, but not so easy, or cheap after all.

Being divorced, in itself is not a reason, or a black mark that would prohibit you from re-entering the USA, or visiting Canada if you were to return to the RP.

Perhaps it would be wise to consult with an attorney or a free legal aid agency who specializes in both family law and immigration. You have a complicated situation that needs to be addressed professionally. I have to say this, but you need the direction of a professional and need to avoid taking opinions and advice from your local immigrant neighborhood, those who know a friend of a friend who did this and that, or perhaps someone who thinks that have fooled the system themselves by being clever and circumventing laws. Its different over here, an entirely different ball game than in your country.

Keep yourself safe. This will all work out over time.

NM

After reading this post I called my cable company and they do have an international plan a lot cheaper than the calling card I was using. I got rid of my movie channel and will pay for the international calls instead. Through Comcast I will get 300 minutes for $14.95 per month to call 100 Countries. I didn't realize I could already call Canada and PR for free. Also I can request phone logs with the number I called and the minutes.

Thank you guys for all your help because it is so important when you get to the Embassy stage to have proof of ongoing relationship.

How can you make calls through comcast?? I have comcast but know nothing about it. And you can call the middle east??

Comcast is a Cable TV company that is located in various parts of the country. They also offer Cable Internet and local phone service. For the local phone service, they usually attach a large grey modem box to the exterior of your house where the electric and old land line service enters. They coordinate with your local Telco about transferring your existing phone number to their service. They splice into the same wires entering your home that provided your old land line service.

Technically it is VoIP that modulates at a different frequency than the TV or Internet service you have with them. It is full bandwidth phone service what is unaffected by your TV or Internet use. Sound quality is equal to Telco's land line. Your phone service will go down with any electrical power outages in your neighborhood, same as your Cable TV service would - and you are watching a battery operated TV.

Vonage and other VoIP companies like Google Voice, Yahoo Voice, Gizmo5 who use a "soft phone" application on your computer to make and receive calls use a part of your allocated Internet service bandwidth for phone calls. If you are doing some heavy downloading, the quality of your phone calls will decrease. Comcast's local phone service is unaffected by your Internet or Cable TV use.

They always are offering promo deals, and package offers to get new customers. Beware of contracts and hidden costs.

If you are simply looking for cheaper phone calls, try one of the "rechargeable phone card" services as found on the Internet, then use your exixting phone to place the calls. www.pincity.com and www.idt.net have been the most reliable in my experience with no monkey business and hidden charges.

The lowest cost service will probably give you the lowest quality service and cost you more in the long run. Connection fees, rounded minutes ex. 6 minutes minimum for all calls even if you only talk 1 minute, weekly service charges, no online call date records, are all part of the phone card game.

Its a savage industry with phone cards, they seem to work fine for some people who can burn up a $5 card all in one shot.

Most Telcos, cellular and cable telephone providers offer an International Calling Package, where you get a competitive rate on overseas calls for around $5 extra per month. Mind you that these utility based outfits also will charge you local and federal tax plus other fees that will make the $0.21 per minute call to the Philippines actually $0.33 when they add in the taxes. This is why I stick with my choices for overseas calls - no extra taxes! Skype and Gizmo5 are also good if you want to make calls from your computer, but remember to close down all unnecessary programs when using these "soft phone" services.

Hope this helps!

NM

again my sincerest thanks to every one.My husband and I will be callin the numbers u gave us guys and check for a better deal.our sincerest appreciations to y'all.anyone from south jersey pls do contact me that we can meet sometimes...in cherry hill mall hehheehhehhe.seriously

If you are in Manila, or will be staying there the night before your flight, may I suggest Swagman Hotel and Travel www.swaggy.com Their office and hotel is across Roxas Blvd from the main gate of the US Embassy and 1 block east on A. Flores Ave. The Embassy CO's eat lunch there! Honest Australian operation will full service travel agency and hotel, good breakfast buffet, starts around 5am, and otherwise good restaurant, plus FREE mini-van to and from the airport, with no monkey business in dealing with the taxi mafia.

This hotel is not The Ritz diba, but they have made many renovations in the past years. I'll call it 2.5 star accommodations with 4 star service. It is very safe there and 1/2 block from 7-11 and Wendy's Hamburgers, both 24/7, Pizza Hut 2 blocks away. Swagman's steaks are some of the best in the RP and they have Tagalog food too all at reasonable cost.

Ask them for the 'First Time Overseas Traveler" discount on all air tickets. I have never heard that any credit card numbers have been misused by them. I have booked my ongoing air tickets by phone and email through them for over 10 years from the USA and they give me the tickets upon check in. No surprises, seamless transactions. BTW; Swagman has hotels and offices in many popular destinations in the RP, they have a good visa renewal service for those staying over 21 days.

Across A. Flores St from the Swagman are photo studios who can set you up with Kodak passport photos. I think it was P120 for 6 pieces. They have collar shirts, ties and jackets that you can wear for the photos. Directly across the street from the hotel in a white building next to the alley. 10 minute service. They know their business, best to get extra passport photos anyway for the paperwork to be filed in the USA.

Good luck,

NM

I don't think that is true. If you are granted a U.S. divorce, that is the end of the matter and you are free to remarry here in this country.

Old Dominion,

They got married in the Philippines. If the USC filed for divorce, then it would be recognized by the Philippines government.

If she wants to file, it should be an annulment in the Philippines. Its the Philippines law.

If she got married here in the US, she could file for divorce.

Yes she could file for divorce in the US, however it will not be recognized in the Philippines. Then, being a citizen of the Philippines she lacks the legal capacity to marry again in the US or elsewhere, as she is still under the laws of her own country. It would be an unconscionable decision by any family court outside the Philippines to grant a Filipino a divorce as a Petitioner and a citizen of the RP. Family court is conveniently ignorant of foreign laws, and has no jurisdiction over immigration matters.

Once all your valuables have gone missing, joint bank accounts drained, phone calls made to every phone number in your house in an attempt to destroy you, as well as valuables destroyed and threats, false accusations, and visits by the police face a man on a daily basis, it is not long before he will start the divorce himself.

Some will take the risk in playing out the above as they have nothing to lose.

With all due respect to PI laws (where divorce is not available), the OP should just file and then plan not to return to the Phils if she remarries. Her safety and emotional well-being are at stake, and she can't remain paralyzed until her playboy husband decides to act.

Truthfully, I wonder how many "bigamists" actually get arrested in PI for remarrying after a divorce? I wonder if only the Catholic church really cares?

I fail to see an example of "due respect" or any respect whatsoever in your post. You are advising the OP to circumvent the laws of her own country. Shame on you and TOS violation on this board as well.

In true due respect to your thoughts of how many bigamists (sans quotes) wind up getting nailed for polygamy in the RP, is probably low and ultimately and directly related to the amount of consideration donated by the reporting party (which can be anyone) to whomever has the power to push it through the RTC. Anything can be bought for money, diba?

Marriage in the Philippines ultimately remains a civil matter irrespective of the religious denomination of ones affiliation.

Very sad case for the OP, I believe your heart is true. Your discovery of the airline ticket he booked just after your marriage date should be enough reason for you to leave him. Try not to drive yourself crazy by searching to recovering further evidence of his shenanigans. You can't polish a #######, and you can not be the one Petitioner to any divorce, as the RP won't recognize it. Calling abuse in itself won't change your marital status in the RP. You will have to wait until he petitions for divorce for you.

Should you decide to go home, the US and other Embassies in MNL are keen to this situation and will not issue another marriage based visa to you as a Citizen of the RP if you are the Petitioner in a foreign divorce. It matters not if you failed to register your marriage abroad to the RP Consulate and have a clean CENOMAR. Visa records and fingerprints are shared amongst governments and embassies through a data base.

As far as you remarrying, that will legally be delayed until such time as your wonderful husband and long time friend files for divorce. Given his alley cat ways, that may not be too far off. Returning home and later filing for an annulment under presumption of death is a trick ill played. You can probably get such a judgment with reasonable effort that would be recognized in the RP, but the Embassies of the rest world are too smart to buy that. Nor will they circumvent national law and give you a marriage based visa behind the RP's back for marring in another country.

If you can somehow stick it out in the USA until you obtain legal USA citizenship, then the laws of the RP will no longer apply to you, as you would then be a US citizen. The I-751 waiver on good faith once the dissolution process has begun is your only practical relief.

Its a tough break, but whatever you do, keep your faith close and your chin up. It must be devastating to be shown so much disrespect by a person whom you have known and trusted. Remember that karma works.

Nothing can restore you ability to remarry or receive a marriage based visa in the eyes of the RP except a foreign divorce initiated and granted to your foreign spouse, or an annulment granted to you in the RP.

Currently Philippines, Vatican City and Malta are the only countries with ancient views of divorce by their citizens.

Hang in there and may your best resolution serve you well.

NM

Hello, has anyone had experience with identification? The file the embassy has on me lists me without my middle name, but my passport and NSO have my middle name listed. Will this be an issue for me? My interview is on this tuesday.

Thanks

No worries, they already know your middle name from the G-325A. They will include it where necessary.

Good luch,

NM

Hey

To make the long story short, my wife an I got married 8 months ago. I find out she has been cheating on me for many months now, with 3 different men.

Now she wants to get a divorce and live separately. She also wants to stay in America.

I feel like she may have used me to get here, because how can someone newly wed cheat on their husband with 3 different men and care about her husband at the same time?!!

I am torn into pieces by all this. I do not want her to be able to come into my life, immigrate fully at MY cost, sleep around with whoever she wants, tear my heart apart, then get a free ticket to America after it all.

I told her I am willing to try to forgive her and give her a second chance, and I told her that 3 weeks ago. At first she didn't know what she wanted, then after being talked to by my family she said she would like a second chance (but I never really felt she meant it, like she's even sorry about what she did).

Now, 3 weeks later, she is telling me she doesn't want to try to work it out because she's not in love with me anymore.

Is it really likely that she can get her free 10 year green card even though she is the one who destroyed this tmarriage? I don't want her to get her 10 year green card if we do not stay together. That is total abuse and is unacceptable. Right now she is a conditional permanent resident who entered on a K1 fiance visa. I heard that the only way to remove the condition is to stay married for 2 years.

Thanks for the help and support.

Good thing you found out in just 8 months time. Consult an attorney who practices in both family and immigration law. File for divorce, send USCIS a notarized letter w/delivery confirmation that you withdraw and disavow your obligation to act as sponsor on I-864 and other Affidavits of Support you have filed on her behalf. Be sure to include her A#. Cancel all joint accounts and anything of yours that she may gain access to, change all of your passwords, back up all photos & documents on your computer(s) twice to CD and then delete them, round up every single living piece of paper from your immigration process - marriage - joint cohabitation and give them to a trusted friend or your lawyer to hold on to.

Bone up on your state's laws regarding divorce, google and research all concerns, learn your options. Document EVERYTHING.

It is possible that she can remove her conditional status by herself, look up the instructions for USCIS Form I-751. However, by you withdrawing and disavowing your support, it kills the I-485 application that was filed to get her conditional green card. Your attorney can best advise your strategy in getting her out of your house. You need to be very careful that she doesn't drum up allegations of abuse. Still, the BCIS can not bind you to an affidavit of support that you withdraw and disavow during the 2 year conditional period, property division of some sort will likely be granted by the family court in lieu of alimony.

Good Luck,

NM

Many companies to choose from. And I have tried 10 or so before sticking to one service. I like www.pincity.com you can track the calls right away online and they keep 3 months worth of history online that you can print out with date, time, phone number called, & cost. They have a Live Chat to customer service online and they have always have issued credit for poor transmission and the occasional 1 minute calls they didn't connect properly. Many local access numbers throughout the USA and also 800 # access - at a slightly higher rate.

she has an uncle here who is willing to fight to keep her here so im sure he will provide a rent free place for her and her child to live at.

Uncle is a known Genius in aiding and abetting his fellow countrymen to milk the system. He has probably covered his carpeting with dirt and is growing vegetable plants in the extra bedroom of his subsidized housing. The other 27 people that live there share the master bedroom, hallway, bathtub, and living room, so the only space for Ms. Fraudster is the battered woman's shelter. There she can earn VAWA points by staying there and then the over helpful advocates, supported by the Federal government will help her file an Order For Protection to keep their shop on the dole and try to build a case against the OP.

I believe Uncle F*cker thinks that because the child is a US Citizen, his niece will have some staying power. I don't know about the laws when children are involved, but I think they need to be born in the USA for the mother to be able to stay and raise them until they reach legal age.

There was a situation here in SoCal where a pregnant Mexican woman in labour was squeezing herself through the cyclone fence along the Mexico/USA border. Apparently the laws are such that if the child is born in the USA, the mother is allowed to stay and raise it until the child reaches maturity. At least one-half or more of the mother needs to be physically across the USA border when giving birth to qualify.

Stuck in a hole like Winnie the Pooh at Eeyore's house after consuming too much huney, paramedics pulled her through the fence on the US side and she blew her baby towards the direction of the Rio Grande. Baby born in America, 18 years of welfare for the mother and child, have a kid prior to every 5 years thereafter to avoid working and to keep that extra income coming in.

"how many single moms are in this country?"

I don't know. How many kind and well intending men have suffered utter financial ruin and employability problems due to a smear campaign created by a fraudulent intending immigrant aided by their associates on hard earned tax dollars?

The best advice seems to come from ex-pats residing overseas. That is, wait until you retire and move to the country before getting involved with a foreign girl. People from developing countries just do not adjust well here in the USA and have been biased by false ideas of unlimited wealth and unlimited daily spending, thanks in large to to the illusion that the media and Hollywood have displayed. Nobody wants to watch a movie that shows the reality of budgeting expenses and building savings.

I'm jumping off the soap box now.

NM

Hipilongstokins:

Have a look at the Discussion Forum message boards at http://britishexpats.com http://britishexpats.com/forum

I trust that you will find your answers as they relate to UK Immigration there.

Good luck always,

NM

To Nutmagnet:

You gave some of the best advice (Gary & Jim were also good). You could have used "Enry Iggins" for your handle.

I'm not sure if the OP was addicted to texting but just may be dyslexic or have some kind of neurological disorder

not indicative of lack of intelligence. Some people have a problem where they want stuff to come out straight but

it just comes out garbled, no fault of their own. A spell-checker would be strongly advised (I guess spell checking

is done on my browser courtesy of the browser as others have hinted, not courtesy of VJ. I doubt the problem is

related to age.

What we've seen is nothing but sentence fragments and bad spelling/punctuation/grammar,

but I can't rightly say what the cause is. Let's hope she gets this sorted out in the right site.

I saw you joined in 2005, but I don't see any particulars in your timeline or story.

If you'd rather keep that private, no problem.

Thanks for the kind words and an idea for a future nic, however the current one still shines on just fine and fits to a tee (with or w/o crumpets).

I got the Higgins reference, and his story turned out to be a happy ending as long as the cameras were running and close curtain. Seems that you can not polish a #######, yet sometimes the kind intentions of a person will be recognized after deep thought and heartfelt examination. Just so it fits in two 3-reel shipping containers, the distributors won't mind handling the show.

Interpersonal magic as portrayed on film or stage is part of this fantasy world the media tries to ram into our heads, sensationalizing its existence by attenpting to combat the boredom in this world.

How can a person be expected to practice honesty when we have been taught to believe and accept fantasy? Santa, Easter Bunny, dreams, social security? With the current widespread behavioural goals being centered around how clever one must be, there is little room for honesty to prevail. You need to be honest in order to trust an honest person. If you want a friend, you have to be one yourself, and ultimately, you can not bowl without a lane.

No time line, photos or details listed anymore. I signed up in '05 just prior to submitting a K1 petition for a woman who lived about 20 degrees east of your flag. Now she's about 20 minutes in the same direction from my house. Still waiting for things to come to their finale'. Alone again...naturally.

I wish you chock dee mak mak in your own endeavours.

Your response truly made my day, tnx. B)

NM

Hipilongstokins:

Have a look at the Discussion Forum message boards at http://britishexpats.com http://britishexpats.com/forum

I trust that you will find your answers as they relate to UK Immigration there.

Good luck always,

NM

ok this is long winded so imma shorten ...

usa fiance im in uk....we applied for coa and got ....we planned wedding for sept5th as coa asked forevidence of plans etc he got a jo( great job!!) to start in sept...

we decided to go for a fiance visa so we cud marry in church near where my mums buried i just lost..and on finding i was pregnant...i didnt wana fly n we ddnt wana be apart after marriage...

ok so fiance papers file by him when he flew home ...aug 13th.......went for biometrics 21st......all sent...wanted a document...26th aug...sent back same day....heard nothing...finalli got sum1 on sept 2nd...( 3 days before wedding)....they hadnt recieved any documents he wasnt on the system.....UMM WHATTTTT!!............thy loacted them in the mailing room where they had laid for a week !!!........apologys and that the case wud be started right away ...he got *process has begun* email finalli.......and was called friday 4th to say approved n wud have by tues latest n to make travel plans.....nothinggg......until he got threw to lady in ny office who now refuses to put him threw to the lady dealing with the case....who tho sed the file was now upstairs waiting to be stamped.....which then turne dinto days later...waiting on a report...and here we are now....5 weeks later?wedding day gone....job lost this week if he doesnt start...and above all that...i since lost our child iw as carrying since he left...which has put immense stress on us both n heartache being apart....its my birthday tomrrow...n i shud be married n pregnant n with the man i love....instead i have none and alone...

shud we wait ...or shud he use the 3 weeks hes got left of his 6 months visa allowance to come home n help me threw this time...then figure owt what next?

This must be a new aberration of the Queen's English or an intentional embarrassment thereof. This is not a cell phone hunney. If you want adult answers please address your situation accordingly, the better for this forum in trying to help you.

In any situation, happy birthday and sorry for your miscarriage.

God executes his wisdom in mysterious ways for the betterment of all. Its all about faith.

Your USA fiancee needs to work and to start his new job, it is very unlikely that anything can be accomplished by him being there in person, emotional support notwithstanding.

When dealing with any government agency, expect delays and incompetence. It seems that you are approved and your visa will be issued in due course.

Stress is part of the game when going through the visa process, anyone who has been through this process can testify to the headaches involved.

Keep strong and take care of yourself. You say that your visa has been approved, so its only a matter of time and waiting. Tough and painful waiting, however all this heartache will be forgotten when you fly across the pond and become reunited with your fiancee and start your new life.

Good luck always,

NM

Moreover my friend, if you take her back you will be a fool.

I truly understand your hurt, rage, and fear. Please report her abandonment and their threats. The reason for calling 911 is to get a time stamp on the call and an incident report on file prior to any action the girl and Uncle may follow up with.

ICE takes calls 24 hours a day, let them know ASAP. You can always call ICE back later to update information on your report. Best to be pro-active and take copius notes on all details from here out. Make sure all Immigration documents, copies, photos, NOA's, etc are in a known safe place and preferably away from your home. If she wants to come collect her belongings, be sure she brings a police escort. I would avoid all contact, especially in person, they have threatened you with some very serious charges that could easily affect your freedom, employability, pocketbook, lost time from work, and your own emotional health.

A consultation with a local attorney practicing both Immigration and Family Law would be a wise decision.

Take care and protect yourself.

NM

NM