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11 minutes ago, Daniela M_______ said:

I was quoting OP, not a reflection of my opinion.

There are exceptions .  Sometimes you get lucky and a find a good woman.

Just now, Jaquelly said:

 

1. You were the father of the child and hold equal responsibility for raising that child, including caring for the mother (especially since, at that point, you were in a relationship). 

2. Her father has a right to an opinion but couldn't force anything on her if she wanted to have it.

3. Her mother is her own person with her own free will and sounds like a jerk, but again, your wife cannot stop her mother unless she forcibly physically does so.

4. Was the visit from an ex a friendly visit? How did you react to it? 

 

Context, unfortunately, only holds so much weight when you make previous comments that are derogatory in nature. 

In vn culture, it’s very patriarchal.  Her father was a wife beater.  He has a strong hold on the family but of course she could’ve ran away from home.

once I came back to vn to take care of her and unborn baby , she did not work a single day.  I even hired a cook to and the cook cleaned as well. 

I took care of things and was responsible.

She had promised me she would not contact the ex for the sake of our relationship.  Likewise I did not contact any exes.  Not the first or last time she broke her promises to me.

6 minutes ago, Orangesapples said:

If women in the US don't find you attractive enough what makes you think foreign women will? The only reason would be the green card because that's the only thing you can offer them that you can't offer American women. Your attitude towards women is not healthy 

It’s not me.  It’s the male to female ratio in the city I live.  Go to the clubs and you see 8 guys to 2 girls.  I have a lot of friends that have gone to Vietnam yo marry a wife from there.

4 minutes ago, Jaquelly said:

 

VAWA fraud does exist, however, it sounds like your attitude toward her is pretty sour. You've talked about how she used you and that you've found a 'better woman'. Maybe she expected more out of you as a father than you were willing to give, since she was 'poor' and not what YOU wanted, even though you wanted her enough at one point to marry her. 

 

Marriage is not a buy and return policy sort of thing. Stop treating women like merchandise.

Like I mentioned in other posts you dont understand my situation to make such false accusations about me.  I even moved back to Vietnam for 9 months to take care of her so she can give birth.  Her father wanted to abort the baby.   All this time her mom goes pawning the engagement jewelry I bought for her.  Then while in the US for two weeks for work she invites her ex over to our apartment.  So I was hanging in the relationship as much as I could.  

1 minute ago, Roel said:

I'd be careful with generalization - all poor Vietnam women are scammer, all Man Jose women are arrogant...

 

How long do you know your current fiance? How much time did you spend together in person?

It counts, especially since your case will raise extra questions.

I’m not engaged to the current woman as I’ve know her only a few months.  I plan to get to know her more but it seems we miss each a lot and talk to each other everyday.  

Maybe in my second trip back I propose in 3 months.

we plan to take a trip to another country together.

6 minutes ago, Jaquelly said:

If being poor or having a poor family is a red flag, I just don't know HOW my husband decided I was a catch. Sheeeeesh.

Personality counts just be careful

4 minutes ago, AshMarty said:

I am just in awe after reading this .... 

 

Have a child with someone because you love them and having a family together is what you both want, not to strengthen your immigration case.

 

A career tells nothing about someone's personality and intentions. I know many kind people who are barely getting by and some pretty awful people that have become very successful financially. 

I’ve mentioned this already.  I do love her and we do plan to have children together.

I wrote her the most beautiful love poem.

Just now, CEE53147 said:

OP,

 

You really need counseling before you jump into another relationship.

Please read up on VAWA fraud.  

4 minutes ago, ronniebreda said:

Take responsibility. You chose the woman. You wanted to marry her. You were 50% of the relationship. 

I did not choose wisely the first time.  I’ve dated women in the US and unfortunately living in Man Jose , women are arrogant 

1 minute ago, NovaDC said:

that's just one hasty generalization.  i have friends from Vietnam that married USCs that have been married for almost 20 years now. again, i'm sorry that your marriage at first didn't work but to make a marriage work,it needs both the husband and wife to work as a team. even when challenge arise , each spouse think in terms of "We" not "Me".

She was thinking “me” and “her family”.  After coming to US she wanted to send $10k to open a tv repair shop for her brother.  Did she think about investing $10k into our son?  She didn’t understand priorities.  

1 minute ago, ronniebreda said:

So much hypocrisy here..whining about a woman using you for a green card and filing VAWA, but ASKING if having a baby with a woman would better your chances.....

If you want to talk with people that have had VAMA filed against them - use the search bar. 

You even said your family came here as immigrants that were poor, yet you are throwing the exact same people under the bus. 

 

Poor is one thing but I didn’t betray someone and ruin their life to get a green card 

4 minutes ago, YoungPadawan said:

Having a VAWA filed against you puts your under scrutiny, naturally.

Don't try to have a baby to play the system... not only would that be obsolete, but it is deeply troubling to even consider.

If you hold women and Vietnamese women in such low regard, maybe stop trying to marry them?

 

For someone who went on a vendetta against his ex-- to ruin her life after the divorce-- I think you have some stuff to work through internally before jumping into the next marriage.

You don’t know all the facts of my case.  She told me her parents pressured her into the marriage.  Her mom pawned our engagement jewelry.  Before you criticize on your soap box, know the facts.

seems I’m better off going to an immigration lawyer and offices.  The responders to my post gloat preaching from their soap box.

2 minutes ago, RLE said:

I am from Vietnam and I can tell you: no. I have helped (filed for free) so many cases for my community and poor is not an issue.  Less face-time is an issue.

I’m from Vietnam too.

Fir those who are not educated on VAWA fraud please read 

http://voif.org/

has anyone gone fir a second fiancé visa and the first fiancé/wife filed for VAWA?

22 minutes ago, Roel said:

Being from a poor family is NOT a red flag.

From Vietnam it is 

1 minute ago, Roel said:

Then stick to the US women.

I mean, it sounds like you "shopped" for you current fiance, rather than fell in love.

But good luck.

There are warning flags you look for when getting into a relationship.  Is the person an alcoholic?  Is the person a gambler?  Is the person from a starving family ready to screw you over?

1 hour ago, Going through said:

 

Look, no matter what country the woman comes from, marital problems can occur----divorce and failing relationships are not country-specific.

There are born US citizens who will use people for money too.

 

The only way to fully eliminate the potential for marital problems is to never get married.

Some marital problems can be worked through and some can’t 

1 hour ago, Orangesapples said:

No, and please don't have a child in order to make your case stronger, that would be absurd. 

We'd like to have children in the first place.

Should I go the route of fiancé visa or marriage visa?

I’m looking for others who have applied for a 2nd fiancé visa and if possible who have had their first fiancé file VAWA 

29 minutes ago, geowrian said:

Affidavits alone present a very weak VAWA case. It certainly has been done, but it would not be an expectation for approval of a VAWA claim with just affidavits from friends/family.

There was a police report of her admitting to slapping me and they were going to arrest her.  I told them not to arrest her.  

19 minutes ago, Diane and Chris said:

SMH. This is an absurd conclusion, IMO. You felt that she and her family scammed you?  Did her family come, too?  Was she able to stay after accusing you of abuse?  Obviously, the police and USCIS believed her and did not believe you. But since you “picked” a better one this time, maybe things will work out for the two of you. 

19 minutes ago, Diane and Chris said:

SMH. This is an absurd conclusion, IMO. You felt that she and her family scammed you?  Did her family come, too?  Was she able to stay after accusing you of abuse?  Obviously, the police and USCIS believed her and did not believe you. But since you “picked” a better one this time, maybe things will work out for the two of you. 

The VAWA is a joke.  The only evidence she has to provide are affidavits from friends, family , whatever.  And I can’t even defend my own name. I’m not even made aware. The police only matter if she got arrested.  USCIS isn’t involved much other than this one office that sees her paperwork.  She doesn’t even get interviewed. Please learn about VAWA fraud before you comment. 

3 minutes ago, Sunnyland said:

 

That the 2nd woman is a dentist does not make her any better person. She could be using you for a GC as well, you know? Get to know her better and if all is fine then petition her for K1 or marry her and do spouse visa.

 

 

 

Having a child does not make any case stronger.  Only proves 2 people had sex.

I'm learning from the last time where the ones from really poor families are in it for the money and think money grows on trees in America.

please note the first fiance filed for VAWA so I'm labeled as an abuser in the eyes of USCIS.

Just now, NovaDC said:

Having a child with the 2nd woman won't make your case stronger. When did you apply for your first fiance's visa? 

6 years ago.

Hi,

I'm looking at applying for a 2nd fiance visa for a different woman. 

The complication for my situation is with my first fiance visa.  After bringing her and our child to the U.S., I felt her and her family scammed me to come to the U.S. so I divorced her after 4 months of marriage.  She then filed for VAWA with the help of the Womens' Shelter to get her green card.  I have evidence she committed crimes that would be considered Crimes Involving Moral Turpitude (CIMT) but the police did not do anything.  I did turn in a private investigator's report into the police and USCIS.

For my second fiance application, what issues am I looking at?  How much longer will it take?  What if I have a child with the 2nd women? Would that make my case stronger?

Thanks.

Well for my wife they also said they could not talk about because to me. I guess that police report I gave to the fraud officer will stop any claims of abuse on her part, my immigrant spouse was labeled the aggressor here in Kansas. Even a i751 based on abuse will be tough.

Hi,

What is the in the police report that would stop her claims of abuse? Was she arrested?

I got a police report of her hitting me but she was not arrested. I gave this to USCIS.