Erik And Anum

Hey guys just received an approval from USCIS in Vermont for my wife. Her date of decision was on 12/30/2014. Keep your fingers crossed everyone

Responses to your post above. It seems to me that you were promised, or expected, a pretty shiny new life and what you've found doesn't live up to your standards.
You expect more from your husband and expect him to be the breadwinner and the one paying all the bills and worrying about money. You expect to be taken sight-seeing and have gifts bought for you and you're not getting that.
Don't get me wrong, I too believe the man should be the main breadwinner but I married a man who feels the same way. I work as well of course but we live up to his income so we can have kids one day and not miss my income. If you prefer a different kind of man then leave him. If you love your husband then realise your relationship dynamic is off at the moment, be SUPPORTIVE of his job hunt but try not to nag. If you love your husband but he just isn't "doing it" for you then leave him. It's up to you. If you're not happy being the one to pay the bills... leaving him isn't going to change the fact that you are the one supporting yourself at the moment... but maybe your issue is you feel like you're carrying dead weight...
There are ways to fix that. Don't give him "spending" money. Get the car title put in YOUR name (or joint names) so you are paying to fix YOUR car. Buy food that you like, and that you need to survive... not expensive food. Put some of your income into savings so you're building a little nest egg for yourself. Maybe having less money to "play" with he'll feel more drive to get a job. Have him be the "house husband" so have him do the cleaning, laundry, cooking and dishes. There are ways to make it work if you WANT to make it work...

Yes, of course it happens everywhere in the world, but IT IS NOT ACCEPTED as a social norm.
It is becoming MORE and MORE accepted in the USA because of one simple reason: the losing grip of religion.
In Latin America, women are still brought up in the Catholic religious ways. This does not guarantee that cheating will not happen, but the STANDARD is there.
The same can be said of the Philippines and Buddhist countries in Southeast Asia.
The difference is MORALITY is still respected, while in the USA, that thought of MORALITY is frowned upon (heck, any type of prayer has been taken out of the schools). When you have no standard/no morals, you have no lines to cross, and you're more free to choose the hedonistic carefree lifestyle that the 70's generation dreamed. I mean having a Paris Hilton or Kim Kardashian (two women who have shown themselves having sex in films) as role models? Give me a break.
It is my opinion. It is my observation. If it hurts too much for you, perhaps I may have hit some truths, because as the old saying goes, TRUTH hurts.

This post really chapped my hide, so my response will be much testier than normal.
I highly doubt this is some grand conspiracy to deny you. You didn't follow directions. Of course the USCIS is going to take your money. You sent them a package and asked them to complete work, which they did by reviewing it and recognizing that you failed to follow directions.
Wait for the letter in the mail, it may be an RFE after all. If it is a denial, well, serves you right for not following directions. You have no one to blame but yourselves. And the only people who should be posting with righteous indignation about this situation are the people whose cases were delayed by a few hours because someone wasted his or her time reviewing yours, which wasn't even complete.

if the system were faster, it doesn't mean you wouldn't have enough time to get prepared for your marriage. you could simple prepare and get everything ready before you apply for your visa. and those of us who don't need a long time to prepare wouldn't need to suffer the long wait in vain.