Wanda and Amel

Ha ha...ja ja...Thank you!! It's the same process as the rest of the world, but Cubans actually have an EXTRA hurdle...permission to leave Cuba.

Hello everyone!!! I am so happy. I can't even express to tell you all. Amel got here on May 5. His flight was delayed around 4 hours. He didn't get out of immigration/customs until 11:45 p.m. Before his arrival I was so nervous. I have been feeling nervous for months. I thought it was because things were gonna to change, etc. I convinced myself that things would be different when he got here. Well, they were different since he got here. After everything I did, I just wasn't feeling him. We spent a day a half in Miami with his sister. Then, on Monday morning, we headed to West Palm Beach. I felt awful. I didn't want to take him with me. How could I be feeling this? How could I do this to him? Well, I took him to West Palm Beach anyway. We spent Monday together. I got up Tuesday morning to go to work. My heart felt so heavy, I felt a lump in my throat, what the heck was I doing? I got to work and broke down in my car, hysterical, sobbing, snot and all. I did not want to live the rest of my life with this man. I went home and sat him down, three days after he arrived... Amel, I don't want to be with you. Once I got the words out, I felt a weight lifted off my shoulders, the lump in my throat went away.
Well, now the funny part... how about this man has not one, but two girlfriends sexting him from Cuba, lmao!!! I feel so relieved that I was able to get out of this. I thank God for opening my eyes before anything further can happen. Of course, I am not gonna marry him, that has been decided. I am so happy I don't have to deal with that. God opened my eyes!!

OnMyWayID: I know this COULD have been the case of someone uprooting, but it wasn't. And even if it was, how is it my fault that he turned out to be a dog? Am I to stay with him no matter what the circumstances just because he may have uprooted? He should have thought this thru before uprooting too, don't you think? He should have behave like a gentleman and honorable not like a hound dog.

Hello everyone!!! I am so happy. I can't even express to tell you all. Amel got here on May 5. His flight was delayed around 4 hours. He didn't get out of immigration/customs until 11:45 p.m. Before his arrival I was so nervous. I have been feeling nervous for months. I thought it was because things were gonna to change, etc. I convinced myself that things would be different when he got here. Well, they were different since he got here. After everything I did, I just wasn't feeling him. We spent a day a half in Miami with his sister. Then, on Monday morning, we headed to West Palm Beach. I felt awful. I didn't want to take him with me. How could I be feeling this? How could I do this to him? Well, I took him to West Palm Beach anyway. We spent Monday together. I got up Tuesday morning to go to work. My heart felt so heavy, I felt a lump in my throat, what the heck was I doing? I got to work and broke down in my car, hysterical, sobbing, snot and all. I did not want to live the rest of my life with this man. I went home and sat him down, three days after he arrived... Amel, I don't want to be with you. Once I got the words out, I felt a weight lifted off my shoulders, the lump in my throat went away.
Well, now the funny part... how about this man has not one, but two girlfriends sexting him from Cuba, lmao!!! I feel so relieved that I was able to get out of this. I thank God for opening my eyes before anything further can happen. Of course, I am not gonna marry him, that has been decided. I am so happy I don't have to deal with that. God opened my eyes!!

I was married before and I forgave all them mistakes over and over thinking he had not had freedom and he was experiencing new found situations. When I married this time around I made it clear to my husband that those mistakes would not be forgiven by me. I can love him and accept errors within boundaries but not mistakes where he knows he is doing wrong and believes I love him so much that I will forgive him over and over. I will not live being suspicious and looking over my shoulder. I did that before and it tore me apart. I was crazy and stupid before, I am only crazy now. Just ask my mom.

My ex-husband, the father of my children, is African American, I was born in New York from a Cuban father and a Puerto Rican other. I have learned early on in my children's lives that the best way to deal with this is to raise your children to grow up being proud of all their parts and to have knowledge of the history associated with each. There will come a time, usually pre-teen, when they may face difficulties, i.e. they are too light to be black, they are too dark to be white (or in this case Cuban/Puerto Rican). This too shall pass.
As far as the racial remarks, you have to consider the source. All "racial" remarks are not meant to be "racial." I will explain, my Dad, who is not a racist, but has a pronounced accent as he is Cuban, upon the birth of my granddaughter, who clearly is much, much, darker than the rest of us because her mother is 100% African American, any my son half, called her "his brown baby." Does that sound racist on the surface, to some it may. But, I know that there is no racism associated with it because I am considering the source.
Having a mixed child is not easy, back when I was raising my children, it was even worse, especially here in the south. Now, not so much, it is common thing to see. Are there racist out there, of course. You can't change that. The only thing that you can change is your reaction to it and to raise your beautiful child to be a strong well rounded educated individual.
In your case, the reality is that your son may have a different color pigment due to his "mixture." The child who made that comment was just a child. The mother, was she a racist, don't know. Was her failure to instruction him wrong, maybe. But the reality is that your child is "mixed" and hypersensitivity to that fact may create much stress in your life. Just embrace it and teach your child to embrace it!!! Of course, I am not saying you should accept out and out racism with racial slangs and epithets. That is another subject all together.
I hope I am not being too harsh and I hope that the words from someome who has been there help you.

I agree with Brit Abroad. Everytime I see someone comment about USC's property prior to entering in these relationships and how they can get part of it, it just sends a craw up my butt. Why? Because it happened to me. My ex-husband is an immigrant (I did not bring him here. When I met him, he was already in the US). We were married approximately 6 years, and when we divorced, I ended up having to refinance MY house to pay him off or he was going to take me to court and make me pay him half, yes half.
Sorry I took over the OPs post. And I in no way mean to be judgmental, but this really stings for me. I apologize in advance.

I agree with Brit Abroad. Everytime I see someone comment about USC's property prior to entering in these relationships and how they can get part of it, it just sends a craw up my butt. Why? Because it happened to me. My ex-husband is an immigrant (I did not bring him here. When I met him, he was already in the US). We were married approximately 6 years, and when we divorced, I ended up having to refinance MY house to pay him off or he was going to take me to court and make me pay him half, yes half.
Sorry I took over the OPs post. And I in no way mean to be judgmental, but this really stings for me. I apologize in advance.

I haven't gotten one, and you have two. Can I have one?

I haven't gotten one, and you have two. Can I have one?

Congratulations!!!

and I hope I don't upset or offend anyone as it is not my intention. It really frustrates me when I see VJers get on this site with issues, problems, status updates, such as approvals, and they don't have a timeline or they fail to update their timeline or they don't share how their issue or problem was remedied. SMH just saying...

and I hope I don't upset or offend anyone as it is not my intention. It really frustrates me when I see VJers get on this site with issues, problems, status updates, such as approvals, and they don't have a timeline or they fail to update their timeline or they don't share how their issue or problem was remedied. SMH just saying...

For the record, I am chilled. I am just trying to wish them to hurry up. I realize they will have to pass January, February and March to get to April. I wish ALL of us a speedy approval.

Exactly!!!

I asked my fiance to sign one and he agreed. I am not well off, by any stretch of the imagination. I am just a hard working girl... I make a living, I pay my bills on time, I own a home, I have a car, 401K, life insurance, nothing over the top. However, I have worked hard for the little I have and I want to leave it to my children. I have been taken by my ex-husband and I had to refinance a home I already owned when I married him in order to "pay him off." Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.
My intention, to build up a separate "wealth" for a lack of a better word with Amel, where he will have to also work as hard as I do to build. I love him with all my heart. But contrary to popular belief, love is not (or should not) be blind.

Actually, this thread was highjacked as I was the original poster as I posted about my legal problems 30 years ago. But thats okay as I understand that she must be stressing as well. With that being said, as well as the fact that I have learned alot in this process, the young lady with the fiancee with the legal problen involving the 11 year old, the best advise I have for her is to seek attorney representation. There are many attorneys that will at least give an initial consultation at no cost. Good luck to us all.
Now, back to my topic... do you guys think at as the US petitioner, my 30 year old arrest, with adjudication withheld, probation and retitution, cause denial of my petition?

Actually, this thread was highjacked as I was the original poster as I posted about my legal problems 30 years ago. But thats okay as I understand that she must be stressing as well. With that being said, as well as the fact that I have learned alot in this process, the young lady with the fiancee with the legal problen involving the 11 year old, the best advise I have for her is to seek attorney representation. There are many attorneys that will at least give an initial consultation at no cost. Good luck to us all.
Now, back to my topic... do you guys think at as the US petitioner, my 30 year old arrest, with adjudication withheld, probation and retitution, cause denial of my petition?

Actually, this thread was highjacked as I was the original poster as I posted about my legal problems 30 years ago. But thats okay as I understand that she must be stressing as well. With that being said, as well as the fact that I have learned alot in this process, the young lady with the fiancee with the legal problen involving the 11 year old, the best advise I have for her is to seek attorney representation. There are many attorneys that will at least give an initial consultation at no cost. Good luck to us all.
Now, back to my topic... do you guys think at as the US petitioner, my 30 year old arrest, with adjudication withheld, probation and retitution, cause denial of my petition?