Purple Turtle

For starters, it's great that you have enrolled her in ESL classes and that your family is her support group. Is she fond of books? She could join a book club in the local library. It's a great way to meet new people.

DCF is fast when everything's submitted accordingly. I remember preparing myself for a 6 month wait. We got approved a day before it turned a month old.

Hope this helps:

http://www.visajourney.com/content/k1flow

As for the medical, you can go there a week before your scheduled interview. It's a first come, first served basis so it's better if you go there around 5 AM to be able to breeze through everything before lunch. For the letters of intent, I'm not sure with the other VJers, but it's usually sent beforehand to USEM.

I'm sometimes puzzled with USEM and St. Luke's I read a lot of posts here and it seems to me that they're usually not in the same page. USEM should know that those who are good to go to have their interview will bring with them documents needed EXCEPT the medical results (minus your personal vaccines and X-ray CD).

I would suggest that too - call St. Luke's to verify if they forwarded your result and think about other red flags that might have triggered the AP.

It's usually an in depth investigation. Would you recall any information or instances that could have been deemed a "red flag"? Age gap, months you know each other, etc?

More here http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/295137-february-2011-immigrant-visa-filers-cr-1ir-1/

More here http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/295137-february-2011-immigrant-visa-filers-cr-1ir-1/

I had my medical last Wednesday and Thursday and I only have the xerox copy of my NVC letter, passport and 2x2 pictures but they asked for other copy of my letter from the embassy and confirmation letter.

Vaccinations are included in the medical fee. I got two shots, Tdap and MMR, if I'm not mistaken. I didn't get the vaccine for the chicken pox because the doctor found a mark and said it's a chicken pox mark but it's really a small pimple mark

Hi sis! Congrats passing the medical. I think we got the same Dr. She thought my pimple mark was a chicken pox mark too :lol:

Usually one week after Good luck!

Sent you a message!

I've clicked the link and it's working.

I wasn't aware that a CENOMAR has an expiration date. It's good for how many months?

Hello, Roberta! Welcome to Visajourney. Don't hesitate to post a topic if you have any questions

Sorry but I have to totally disagree on this one.

If the OP did not want us to make any assumptions or conclusions about his girl, then I suggest he lessens shared information and just give, oh I don't know, a tamer situation? Not something that will make us feel like he's a fish nibbling on a bait casted by the girl. Given the situation, we extremely FELT bad for him. Just because he asked us if he's cheap or not doesn't mean we'll answer it with a Yes or No. Again, with the sitch that he gave, of course we'll give an advice/answer and back it up with the obvious reason why. If he's the type who's just waiting for someone to tell him what he just want to hear, then this isn't the perfect place for that, I'm afraid.

What is up with that 2nd job thing too? He's going to break his back just to fulfill her shopping appetite? Redonkulous!

TO OP

I re-read your post few times and I believe some people are making the wrong conclusion. Your question is "ARE YOU CHEAP" the answer is no.

Now let me elaborate a bit more. I have the impression that you are older than her. Am I correct?

If your answer is yes my advice is, keep doing what you are doing but lessen the amount you are spending on her. I am not saying you should buy the world to her but at least give her some fun. Some of those girls need the attention you are giving her. I really really do not see anything wrong by treating her nice. (My opinion)

Keep telling her that you are not rich, if in the future she complains that you are no buying her gifts any more just tell her, listen Mary (that is her name right?), I kept on telling you that I was not rich but you never believed me. Now if you think she gets VERY moody and for one reason or another you really like her or really want to keep her? Do this, tell her you will find a second job just for her shopping. (I met a guy doing that. So do not be shy about it) Who knows maybe that will make her even happier because she will understand you really care for her and really want to make her as happy as you can.

TO REST

Guys, the guy came here asking if he is cheap or not, why do you need to make wrong assumption about that girl? Okay, there are some girls out there who do not like accepting gifts from guys. I applaud them and actually most guys like those girls.

Now on the other side of the coin, there are some very decent girls who are just them. They like to be glamorous and feel like they are little princess. Those like to be treated such. They like guys who are very tentative either with material things, love, respect, and so on.

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I just disagree with you guys heavily. You guys always jumping into conclusion. From my reading, you always look the dirty side. (I am saying that with respect, don't get offended please)

Back to the OP

Enjoy your princess dude or sir (depending on your age), they can be as fun as they can be.

My 2 cents.

No, I was referring to his defense against her actions. It's a syndrome where you take the side of the erring person and defend them. But I'm well aware of that lambing and tampo. I do that sometimes :rofl:

More like the Pinay version of blowing hot and cold: Lambing and Tampo.

Stockholm Syndrome?

I don't wanna sound harsh but I have to say that the point of this being posted here is because you KNOW something's not right. Stop defending her actions. Educated or not, she's up to something and that's why you're asking us for our opinions. We can't stress it enough or even underline it enough - a better half is someone who won't stoop to calling you names if there are times you can't afford to give her what she needs or wants. It's the reason why we vow to love them for richer or for poorer. Not when they have cash in their wallets or a high-end lifestyle.

Some times, I feel it is my fault. I think I am the one trying to offer her things to make her happy. It is as if I am scared not to see her happy.

Agreed 100 percent.

I re-read your post and can only conclude that she's manipulative. She likes to pull the guilt-trip card on you because she knows you'll feel bad about it afterwards. My sister's ex ALWAYS borrowed from her and if she wasn't able to lend him money, he'd throw a male version of a b***h fit and make her feel so bad. As a result, she acquired tons of debts that wasn't even her purchases. In the end, she was able to break free from this very, VERY toxic relationship and threw him back at the fricken curb where he belongs. It was a hard lesson, seriously, and hopefully you see the light and find someone who's not a gold digger.

First, let's review our vocabulary.

1. If you are giving somebody money or buying them things then you are "generous" not "cheap". You are very generous.

2. If somebody does not appreciate your generosity then they are "selfish" and "greedy". Is this who you want to be with?

Whether the girl from the Philippines is college educated, has kids, or is poor is irrelevant. Selfish and greedy can come from anywhere. Those are the people you should avoid.

And somebody said that good girls from the Philippines do not ask for money. That is very true. When my fiance and her family have a financial problem, it is incredibly difficult to get them to tell me about it and to find out how much would help them. I always get the same answer "don't worry, we'll be okay." You are simply being used for your money. What is going to happen when you run out?

If I were you, I'd be very very worried. She already has her visa in hand? There are plenty of women in the Philippines, and in other countries, who just want a loving relationship and don't care about money and appreciate generosity. You have a very serious problem.

And by the way, did you say you sent $100 for her and her kid to go to Jollibee? Really? That's insane.

You need to really think about what your future is going to be like. If things don't change, you need to run from this as fast as you can.

Best of luck.

Thank you! I really hope this year's a different year too

Wow Hopefully your luck turns around this year and something amazing happens!

Advance Happy Birthday!

Now that you've mentioned it, I consider MY birthday every Nov.7 riddled with bad luck over the years. Either a close friend's engagement got cancelled on that day, someone got suspended, etc. Last year, my husband got sick with the dengue fever and we rode an ambulance on my birthday. So I'm more scared of my birthday than the 13th :rofl:

Thanks, Saylin! I do remember watching an evening program called Friday the 13th.

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My interview's on the 13th of May (Friday the 13th). Good thing I'm not superstitious

That message was from the husband. The girlfriend (the OP) convinced him to get a divorce from his existing wife with 3 children? VERY BAD..........and later on, she CHEAT on him.

Very manipulative, right?

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/298288-fraud/

that link shows a post from the OP's husband who petitioned her. It's much better if you'll just pack up and go home.

I stopped after the 'other man' line. It's very upsetting. I

Where exactly in Manila?