Fiancee Got Arrested, Serious Question to Ask

[bobela 2]

I would ask for everyone on here to reserve judgment, without knowing the facts.

In this country, the government sees men as guilty until proven innocent, even many posters here feel that way.

My own situation is similar in many ways, even though I ALWAYS supported my son in every way, and had custody 49% of the time, as spelled out in the Joint Parenting Agreement. Meaning, he was physically in my home, and I never ducked my responsibility. Add in the amount of time we spent out of town on different trips, and I had him over 50%.

My ex-wife was all about how much money she could get from me, and how little she could spend on him.

There was a child support order entered at a court date I was not at, because it had been rescheduled. Then that support order was stricken, but DCFS still had me on the hook for the money. It climbed to $5500, all the while I was fighting in court (and paying for lawyers) and still supporting my son. I worked as much overtime as I could, so I could support him and my family.

The Catch-22 here is that a child support order is based on your entire income, overtime and all. But going to court regularly means that you can't work your off days, so your income goes down.

I vacationed in Costa Rica (while my son was on a class trip to Russia that I paid for), my passport was stolen, and when I went to the US Embassy to get a replacement, they told me, "You owe $5500 child support." So they gave me a passport good only for 3 days, and only for entry to the US.

Still fighting the support order, still paying lawyers, and still supporting my son, DCFS took the $5500 out of my bank account. At great financial, mental, and emotional cost. this was straightened out, the money was refunded, and I got custody of my son(3 years ago). Even now, Cook County has me owing money for still having an open support order, which I thought I cleared up last year. I'm sure they will take some of my tax refund to pay it. Now I must take a day off work to try to fix it again.

If someone else came here on VJ with a story like that, I wouldn't believe it either. But it really happened to me, and no embellishments.

This didn't happen to them that's the reason why they have a diff. point of view. You have similar situation with what's happening with my fiancee right now. It is a nightmare.

I just want to ask if this had any effect on your process especially your AOS?

I hope you know where I am coming from.

Thank you.

Edited May 22, 2014 by bobela

[bobela 2]

I would ask for everyone on here to reserve judgment, without knowing the facts.

In this country, the government sees men as guilty until proven innocent, even many posters here feel that way.

My own situation is similar in many ways, even though I ALWAYS supported my son in every way, and had custody 49% of the time, as spelled out in the Joint Parenting Agreement. Meaning, he was physically in my home, and I never ducked my responsibility. Add in the amount of time we spent out of town on different trips, and I had him over 50%.

My ex-wife was all about how much money she could get from me, and how little she could spend on him.

There was a child support order entered at a court date I was not at, because it had been rescheduled. Then that support order was stricken, but DCFS still had me on the hook for the money. It climbed to $5500, all the while I was fighting in court (and paying for lawyers) and still supporting my son. I worked as much overtime as I could, so I could support him and my family.

The Catch-22 here is that a child support order is based on your entire income, overtime and all. But going to court regularly means that you can't work your off days, so your income goes down.

I vacationed in Costa Rica (while my son was on a class trip to Russia that I paid for), my passport was stolen, and when I went to the US Embassy to get a replacement, they told me, "You owe $5500 child support." So they gave me a passport good only for 3 days, and only for entry to the US.

Still fighting the support order, still paying lawyers, and still supporting my son, DCFS took the $5500 out of my bank account. At great financial, mental, and emotional cost. this was straightened out, the money was refunded, and I got custody of my son(3 years ago). Even now, Cook County has me owing money for still having an open support order, which I thought I cleared up last year. I'm sure they will take some of my tax refund to pay it. Now I must take a day off work to try to fix it again.

If someone else came here on VJ with a story like that, I wouldn't believe it either. But it really happened to me, and no embellishments.

This didn't happen to them that's the reason why they have a diff. point of view. You have similar situation with what's happening with my fiancee right now. It is a nightmare.

I just want to ask if this had any effect on your process especially your AOS?

I hope you know where I am coming from.

Thank you.

Edited May 22, 2014 by bobela

[Rich and Wen 101]

This didn't happen to them that's the reason why they have a diff. point of view. You have similar situation with what's happening with my fiancee right now. It is a nightmare.

I just want to ask if this had any effect on your process especially your AOS?

I hope you know where I am coming from.

Thank you.

My child support nightmare was over before I began the I129F process, so it did not have any effect. That would have sent me over the edge, to be battling my ex-wife, and have that throw a monkey wrench into the search for my future wife.

[VOL 425]

Get rid of Child Support in USA and watch divorce rate drop.....

[christeen 966]

Get rid of Child Support in USA and watch divorce rate drop.....

And the amount of children living in poverty skyrocket.... If you make em' you gotta pay for them....