Filipino Fiancee after three weeks here wants to go home!

[Caryh 5,206]

She's undergoing emotional breakdown and people with this decide terribly during this stage. You need not say anything or listen for anything even if she's begging to go home, just be patient and understanding. I wonder how old your fiance is, if you don't mind me asking, but begging to go home is an impulsive immature decision after everything you've done in this process!

My first few weeks was extremely difficult for me. I live in Ellsworth, Maine, absolutely NO Filipino community, nothing at all! Very different culture and most of all, language barrier (Down Eastern Mainer accents UGH terrible!). Not to mention my husband is not with me right now because he's stationed somewhere as he's in the Military! She's lucky to have you if I may say.

Try to make her feel home, cook Filipino food like Adobo or Sinigang which is the easiest. If she's Catholic, try to go to a Catholic Church there, the church would make her feel home too! And yes, enrolling her in some class is a very good way to divert her attention to avoid extreme homesickness.

I can give my number to you or I can call you, your fiance and I can talk any time. I am dying to talk in Tagalog. :-D

Good advice, my wife went through the same type of stuff. Down to the begging to go home. It was about 3 or 4 months in when it started. Lasted a long time to, for over a year she'd gets bouts of homesickness, but eventually she did get over it. She still misses home and family. Says when we return she's going to eat everything! Its not that she doesn't eat Filipino food, as that's about all we eat, but she misses the freshness of the fruits and fish. We don't have a huge Filipino community here, but its been growing pretty fast the last 5 or 6 years.