The bar girl...

[madtownguy 164]

I can't believe I wasted time reading this post. All sins are forgiven so who says what is worse then another sin?

Seriously??? That is some crazy reasoning, so if someone rapes and kills millions of people their sins should be forgiven just as if someone used gods name in vein? I don't agree with that at all. I'm just saying a prostitute isn't really wife material. I suppose it can be for some, I personally think it has more to do with laziness than actual preference if they know they were dating a bar girl.

[OnMyWayID 1,489]

Or maybe it is not a sin at all.. Its just sex.. Maybe I worked real hard getting a former lady-of-the-night (they probably don't fall in love easy) to fall for me knowing that my world was going to be beyond interesting from that point forward.. Every time after that when I heard from a goodie-two-shoes trying to tell me how they feel others should live their life or how they judge others living a different path I can nod, smile, and think... man.. If I had to live your boring life I think I'd jump off the nearest building. Meh. I think they are OK if you don't approve.

Edited September 7, 2013 by OnMyWayID

[Niblet 22]

Or maybe it is not a sin at all.. Its just sex.. Maybe I worked real hard getting a former lady-of-the-night (they probably don't fall in love easy) to fall for me knowing that my world was going to be beyond interesting from that point forward.. Every time after that when I heard from a goodie-two-shoes trying to tell me how they feel others should live their life or how they judge others living a different path I can nod, smile, and think... man.. If I had to live your boring life I think I'd jump off the nearest building. Meh. I think they are OK if you don't approve.

I agree 100%,,,thanks for explaing something to these folks that I could not,,,

"aint no shame to that game"

[Crashed~N2~Me 970]

I gotta believe that a "bar girl" has adopted some attitudes & behaviors of the environment. Longer at it = more deeply ingrained into psychological composition.

1) Fidelity - Effectively rehabilitated? To what extent? What is her definition of "faithful"....

2) Irresponsibly Materialistic - Money is the name of the game = How she proves her success & skill is with a status symbol...

3) Excessive Vanity - Gotta keep the product in market condition. Does cosmetic surgery become an obsession....

4) Cut throat Competitive - personal happiness comes from #2 + #3 + her skills as a performer outshine her "best friends"...

5) Biz is biz = I gave up my life of easy money = now give me what I want or else...

6) Party party - Can't seem to step away from the bar scene. Got to play sexy dress up & go clubbin'...

7) Trustless - Can't trust any1 & can't be trusted by any1. Narcissism is the norm...

Perhaps I'm naïve but...if a woman is willing to sell her sex...that woman would sell anything = including you.

Human nature = present & future behavior is an evolving continuation of the past. Difficult not to do so.

My wife & I came into our relationship with very clean moral attitudes & backgrounds (subjectively defined by our understanding of Christian ethic). We discussed our values at the very start. & what I learned about my wife told me = our core value system matched up = best chance (for us) we will keep our vows & build a happy marriage.

Some men prefer a Pizza which comes with many toppings. Some men prefer the single topping. Women ain't Pizza but I'm sure you get my point.

Edited September 7, 2013 by Crashed~N2~Me

[madtownguy 164]

I agree with crashed, although if a guy knows she did that going into the relationship I don't find a problem with it. If they are prepared for what might happen... it's more those that meet a girl on the internet and don't know enough about the Philippines to realize she is a bar girl or some form of. Although wanting someone good in the bed isn't a bad thing, I think everyone can be taught so I don't see that as an advantage to a bar girl.

[Niblet 22]

I agree with crashed, although if a guy knows she did that going into the relationship I don't find a problem with it. If they are prepared for what might happen... it's more those that meet a girl on the internet and don't know enough about the Philippines to realize she is a bar girl or some form of. Although wanting someone good in the bed isn't a bad thing, I think everyone can be taught so I don't see that as an advantage to a bar girl.

And who exactly is going to teach them? the same old man who picked her out of a line up of hundreds of girls off the internet?? ,,your joking right?

[DavenRoxy 1,073]

Why not? Don't you think that old men are more patient, forgiving, understanding, and therefore better teachers than younger, more impetuous fellers?

Edited September 7, 2013 by DavenRoxy

[Niblet 22]

Why not? Don't you think that old men are more patient, forgiving, understanding, and therefore better teachers than younger, more impetuous fellers?

Why not? Don't you think that old men are more patient, forgiving, understanding, and therefore better teachers than younger, more impetuous fellers?

Why not? Don't you think that old men are more patient, forgiving, understanding, and therefore better teachers than younger, more impetuous fellers?

heh heh well that depends on the old man I guess,,,I know I can,,but I am different than 98% of society

[DavenRoxy 1,073]

heh heh well that depends on the old man I guess,,,I know I can,,but I am different than 98% of society

I doubt that very much.

[DavenRoxy 1,073]

Just to be clear, I mean that you are not all that different as you may think. We are all humans, with the same basic needs. Granted, some people have stronger moral compasses than others, and certainly different ways to attack a given problem that makes them individuals. (Then again, being a-scared of them nether regions does make you a bit more different than most, I guess. )

[OnMyWayID 1,489]

If you have read my posts from other threads you know I could care less how two people meet... I've gone after those that give on a superior air when talking to those that met online.... But come on, half the people reading this thread started the journey by creating a profile on cherry blossoms, browsing pictures and "some how" end up talking to a beautiful girl from a poor family that is 15 years younger despite their best efforts to find a school marm of their own age. Wow what are the odds?

If you are both adults and happy with it... That is awesome and I wish you a long and happy life together.. Those that have an issue with you deserve the middle finger in response. Finding fault in others and calling them out and using words like "Strong Moral Compass" and "Shared values" .. I'm smelling hypocrisy.

[Niblet 22]

If you have read my posts from other threads you know I could care less how two people meet... I've gone after those that give on a superior air when talking to those that met online.... But come on, half the people reading this thread started the journey by creating a profile on cherry blossoms, browsing pictures and "some how" end up talking to a beautiful girl from a poor family that is 15 years younger despite their best efforts to find a school marm of their own age. Wow what are the odds?

If you are both adults and happy with it... That is awesome and I wish you a long and happy life together.. Those that have an issue with you deserve the middle finger in response. Finding fault in others and calling them out and using words like "Strong Moral Compass" and "Shared values" .. I'm smelling hypocrisy.

spot on buddy,,,,

[OnMyWayID 1,489]

I doubt that very much.

I'm guessing niblet is a reformed monger that has spent time in Angles City, Pattaya, Sosua, etc.. He's not shy I'm sure he will let us know if that is the case... That being true he would be more qualified to speak on the subject of bar girls and their motivations than the rest of us who have strong moral compasses and have only passing knowledge.

..or do you maybe have more experience that you have let on?

[DavenRoxy 1,073]

Well, I have made it this far in life, so I guess I have a bit of experience.

And don't interpret my term that you seem to be dwelling on as just relating to pre-marital sex. There are other morals that come into play in life that have nothing to do with sex.

[Niblet 22]

I'm guessing niblet is a reformed monger that has spent time in Angles City, Pattaya, Sosua, etc.. He's not shy I'm sure he will let us know if that is the case... That being true he would be more qualified to speak on the subject of bar girls and their motivations than the rest of us who have strong moral compasses and have only passing knowledge.

..or do you maybe have more experience that you have let on?

I spent a majority of my time in Angeles,,,,,and yes I am qualified ,,,,,,others need to come forward and admit they married bar girls before i will tell my story,,I know there is some here who

found thier wives in bars,,,and they wont come clean,,,,besides whats the differnce? a bar or the internet? I personally like to test drive something before i make a purchase if you get my drift