How is your Filipina / Filipino Adjusting?

[sld 5]

I'm still new to Tagalog but have never heard the term 'Tampo' From what I read, I should be worried. LOL.. Please explain Tampo to me.

me too

[biaobiao 40]

I can't be any prouder of my wife. She has mostly adapted to my diet and cooks what I like. We just got a drivers manual for her to lean the driving laws. She made her first snow man (more like a snow polar bear) last week. We are so much in love.

And the best news is that she has a tampo session ---- get this ---

IT LASTED ONLY 10 MINUTES. :dance:

filipina just want affection a little lovin'

[biaobiao 40]

me too

tampo - its like sulking. you may have hurt her feelings. she felt bad or she did not get what she wanted (not necessarily material thing) most likely its your attention and affection she wants

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

I'm still new to Tagalog but have never heard the term 'Tampo' From what I read, I should be worried. LOL.. Please explain Tampo to me.

This has been passed around the netz for a while:

TAMPO - Pouting/Sulking

If you’re planning to enter into a relationship with a Filipina, it’s important to gain an understanding of what “tampo” is. Let’s do this in a clinical fashion...

Definition: While the analogy isn’t perfect, you can think of tampo as “pouting” or “sulking”.

Cause: Typically, a Filipina will exhibit tampo when she feels she has been neglected or ignored, but she may also invoke it when she is jealous, or basically anytime her feelings are hurt.

Symptoms: The Filipina will seem withdrawn or sullen. She may be unusually silent, or she may express he dissatisfaction by “whining” in a melodramatic, almost child-like fashion. She may refuse to eat (only in the most severe cases!).

Duration and Severity of Condition: Tampo is a strictly short-term condition and should not be considered life threatening. Tampo is the result of mild dissatisfaction, not of actual anger. The behavior is a cultural norm in the Philippines and a westerner should not be overly concerned the first time he encounters it. Tampo is a very useful tool, because it allows a Filipina to show her displeasure about something you have done. Remember, confrontation is generally unacceptable in Filipino society, so disagreement or displeasure must be expressed indirectly.

Here is an example of tampo: You’re with your fiancée walking hand-in-hand down a crowded street. You notice a beautiful young woman walking toward you wearing a tank top that’s cut way too low, and you can’t tear your eyes away from her. Your fiancée notices this behavior.

A non-Filipina might react by saying, “Put your eyes back in your head! I can’t believe you were staring at that girl right in front of me! What has she got that I haven’t got!?” At which point she may stalk off, cry, or punch you.

A Filipina in that same situation, however, would probably squeeze your hand and say something like, “She’s pretty, di ba?” Then you’d stammer something about not noticing, blah, blah, blah, and you’d think you’d gotten away with it. Yet your fiancée would seem suddenly distant. She’d not proffer her hand to you as you walked together, she’s speak only when spoken to, and she’d probably shrug indifferently when you asked her a question. You’re on the receiving end of tampo.

It’s very important that you understand this: Tampo is merely intended to let you know that you’ve committed some minor offense, for which you must make amends. It is a mild behavioral reprimand that verges on role-playing. The worst thing you could do is to get stressed out over a tampo session, because an over-reaction on your part may escalate the situation to the point that your fiancée or wife becomes genuinely angry.

On the other hand, don’t misdiagnose genuine anger, sadness, or depression as mere tampo. If you’re girlfriend, fiancée or wife seems deeply depressed, that is NOT tampo. If she’s crying hysterically, that is NOT tampo. If she’s hurling dishes at you, that is NOT tampo. Tampo is mild and controlled and is the direct result of some perceived offense of a minor nature. It is short in duration. If an emotional abnormality seems unusually severe or extended in duration, and you cannot identify the cause, it is not tampo, and consequently deserves serious attention.

[Jack&Maria 5]

Tampo means "Grumble" - act as we want to "mope"..hmmm..its the way we show "lambing" or sweetness!

@ BENEDICTION!! me and Imee met in the interview in USEM..Take care of her as she loves you much!

happpy trip Imee!!!

[Tintin and Mike 127]

Lambing is the one I hate. So obvious, so childish.

"Baby, I want you to buy something for me."

"You have your own money."

"No! I want you to buy it for me."

Pout, pout, tampo.

One hour later....

"Okay. What do you want?"

"I will send you the link."

"What about what I want?"

"I am the wife. You are supposed to spoil me, silly."

"I want blonde girls."

"You can't have them!"

Pout, pout, tampo.

[Caryh 5,206]

"I want blonde girls."

"You can't have them!"

My wife is so jealous the blonde girls comment would get me in the dog house for at least a week. But the rest of the conversation is totally spot on. Except with my wife "No! I want you to buy it for me." would be "But I'm saving that money for something else". On the plus side though, its not unusual for that something else to be a gift for me.

[Caryh 5,206]

Hi everyone. I was just wondering what part of Minnesota you guy's are from? I was born and raised in Eastern South Dakota and attended many Fiipino parties there with people from both states. I've been living here in Pangasinan now for a few years but will be coming back to the US with my wife later this year, I don't know if we will go to SD or Florida as I have family in both places

I'm from the Northern Twin Cities area, near Circle Pines. My wife was from Davao City. One of her friends here was from Pangasinan.

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tampo - its like sulking. you may have hurt her feelings. she felt bad or she did not get what she wanted (not necessarily material thing) most likely its your attention and affection she wants

Yep it was her feelings. I left for work and she knew it but I didn't give her the customary goodbye kiss as I was walking out the door, even though 5 minutes earlier I did. Lesson learned: Give her the customary goodbye kiss as I walk out the door, not a few minutes earlier.

[biaobiao 40]

cute. You should get use to it. I wont let my husband go without a kiss. It should be the last thing you do before you leave and 1st thing you do when you arrive. Same as before going to sleep and 1st thing waking up. Just Simple gestures which very much appreciated.

[Hank_ 9,174]

[biaobiao 40]

just a question. Why do American husbands or husbands tend to ignore their wife. But was so sweet when still dating. Don't get offended guys. Just asking.

[biaobiao 40]

just a question. Why do American husbands or husbands tend to ignore their wife. But was so sweet when still dating. Don't get offended guys. Just asking.

[I AM NOT THAT GUY 5,715]

just a question. Why do American husbands or husbands tend to ignore their wife. But was so sweet when still dating. Don't get offended guys. Just asking.

The hunt is always better than the kill.

The hunt is better than the kill

We chase chase chase and cant keep still

Hearts race race race take some time let it chill

On the phone till 6 in the morning just to cop a feel

It’s on next month finally after all those expensive meals

Girl lets bump boy use your shield

Now you all done are you gonna call? Come on keep it real

Still aint convinced that the hunt aint better than the kill?

Compare the charges from last month to this month’s phone bill

You do it just to say you did it

And when it’s all said and done you hit split and quit it

Your boys give you props and I know you hate to admit it

But…... The hunt is better than the kill who the hell you kidding

See the girl you bumped and her heart is all cut up

So was it love? Or lust? Nah none of the above

It’s the hunt cause the kill is just like a rub

I hate to say it even though I know you had enough

But the kills just a kill now the hunt that’s what’s up

You still look confused the hunt is how you move

The kill is what you do the wait is the hunt

The kill is just a nut you still aint caught up

The hunt is what you want the kill just a screw

Edited February 21, 2013 by The Patriot

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The hunt is always better than the kill.

just a question. Why do American husbands or husbands tend to ignore their wife. But was so sweet when still dating. Don't get offended guys. Just asking.

They need to be trained