Time: First meeting to Proposal

[Alfia & John 10]

Questions for the RUB forum

What was the time between first contact (email, snail mail, other type of contact) and your formal proposal for marriage? I know we all move at different paces, I do not wish to turn this into a judgement session for those of us that are fast compared to those that take more time. So, please, no judgmental posts about times posted. Just curious where I fit in the overall population of RUB VJ'ers

[Sveta & Ron 23]

start talking to sveta via website in aug 2011 met in person nov 2011 start k1 feb 2012 formal proposal may 2012 as wanted it proper return visit aug 2012 for 6 weeks then dec receive visa and dec 18 met in houston 10 later was married jan 15th file aos

[Alfia & John 10]

start talking to sveta via website in aug 2011 met in person nov 2011 start k1 feb 2012 formal proposal may 2012 as wanted it proper return visit aug 2012 for 6 weeks then dec receive visa and dec 18 met in houston 10 later was married jan 15th file aos

Thanks Ron, so you met online in August 2011 and filed K1 in February 2012. Thanks so much for your post.

[baron555 934]

Three months from start of correspondence to meeting in person and agreement to pursue the K-1.

Filed within two weeks of return home from that meeting.

Had interview first scheduled later that year in September but had to reschedule it until later November.

Arrived December 7, a date that will live in Infamy!!

[Alfia & John 10]

Three months from start of correspondence to meeting in person and agreement to pursue the K-1.

Filed within two weeks of return home from that meeting.

Had interview first scheduled later that year in September but had to reschedule it until later November.

Arrived December 7, a date that will live in Infamy!!

Thanks so much, very helpful!

[Amy_and_Victor 159]

If we will consider proposal as also an engagement (we didn't want to do any party out of it, it was just for us two, very funny and romantic day together), it was 7 months after our first conversation, and 1.5 months before we filed K-1.

- Victor

[PhilC 5]

Starting talking an Skypeing in Nov.2011. Met in person one year ago today. Feb. 11,2012. Married Feb.21,2012.. Maybe fast but you can't sit still and watch the world go by.

[Alfia & John 10]

Starting talking an Skypeing in Nov.2011. Met in person one year ago today. Feb. 11,2012. Married Feb.21,2012.. Maybe fast but you can't sit still and watch the world go by.

Not fast at all, very tender!

[Alfia & John 10]

Starting talking an Skypeing in Nov.2011. Met in person one year ago today. Feb. 11,2012. Married Feb.21,2012.. Maybe fast but you can't sit still and watch the world go by.

Phil, what is your status, I see by timeline that you are AP, any word when visa will be issued.

[Turboguy 6]

It was 6 1/2 years ago so I could be off a little on my times but I would say we started to communicate in July, met in October and got engaged on our second meeting in December. I filed the paper work right after I returned from that trip. The rest of my timeline is in my signature.

[SMR 368]

We first met in August 2006. We were engaged in September of 2008. It took a little while.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Questions for the RUB forum

What was the time between first contact (email, snail mail, other type of contact) and your formal proposal for marriage? I know we all move at different paces, I do not wish to turn this into a judgement session for those of us that are fast compared to those that take more time. So, please, no judgmental posts about times posted. Just curious where I fit in the overall population of RUB VJ'ers

Our "first contact" was a chance meeting at the Prague airport, so our first contact was meeting in person. We spent two evenings together in Prague (we were both there for business so we were busy during the day) We were up until 3-4am each night.

I told Alla she would marry me 2 days after I met her. Specifically she asked...

"What will we do now?" As I walked to the subway with her to return to the airport and leave Prague

"I will send you an email every day for the rest of my life. Even after we are married"

She then said..."What happens now is up to you, you go ahead, I will follow behind"

A couple minutes later, as I went to go down the steps, she kissed me in a way that my toes have yet to come un-curled from. I took that as an acceptance.

I got home and there were THREE emails from her.

Technically I did not "propose", ask her "Will you marry me?" Until January 2008. I had met her in September 2007, so 4 months, BUT during that time we had been discussing the procedure, the children, education for her and the boys...it was kind of a foregone conclusion by Halloween, 6 weeks after we met, that we were preparing to get married.

We filed the petition in March 2008 after having gathered every document we needed and received the permission letter from the father for the children to get visas. We did nothing until we had everything prepared and in hand. Since there were children involved we felt that had to be first.

I still send her an email everyday, always have, only missed a couple days when I was in a coma following bypass surgery.

I had been living in Ukraine for two years and had a lot of Ukrainian women experience, But the moment I looked in her eyes I knew I had just met my wife. If that sounds "corny" so be it, it is a fact. That quick, everything changed

Edited February 12, 2013 by Gary and Alla

[Alfia & John 10]

Thanks Gary, not corny at all, I totally understand!

[Robert&Liliya 31]

Good God Gary, you let a little thing like a coma stop you from emailing your wife??

Liliya and I started talking in November. We both knew that we would get married if we were the same people when we met in person that was on the other end of Skype, phone calls and email. We met in March in Moscow. We talked to the Family after we flew to her city and they gave us their blessing. We started the process in April and she arrived on September 13th. We got married on October 8th 2011.

[Robert&Liliya 31]

By the way, I still write to my wife every day on Skype or text messages. Seems like we got so used to talking to each other this way for so long we can't stop.