I-130 Married name/maiden name

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I am wondering if anyone can help me on this issue. I submitted my I-130 with all the supporting document required and some. I also changed my name to my husband's family name in February, 2010. WOW, what obstacles that I am facing!

First of all, the IRS has my tax return pending for over 8 weeks because of my name change even though I filed after the SS administration updated name change prior to me filing my taxes. I never received anything in writing from the IRS. I checked online. I requested a referral, but who knows how long that will take? I am early in the process, but I worry that I may not get my 2009 transcripts, because of this issue, when I need it for my affidavit of support. Not sure what to do.

Secondly, I received my NOA1 yesterday and they have my last name with my maiden name hyphenated and married name. On the I-130, I put my family name, but I included in parenthesis my married name. Should I have that corrected? All my ID's including SS card, driver's license, and passport only has my married name, not maiden name. If I request that to be corrected I know we are looking at an additional 30 day delay on top of the normal processing time. Should I let it go and let USCIS request a RFE if they deem it as an issue or not?

My husband wants me to fix it, but he is not familiar with how fast things can go wrong. I am not sure either.