Can my fiance apply K1visa after his wife died?

[sasha414 0]

i didnt say anything more than answer your question pointblank because i thought it wasnt my business to poke my nose but since it has been started already, i might as well offer unsolicited advice. a man who still cries and talks to an urn everyday has not gotten over his grief yet and is using you to fill a void in his life. are you willing to listen to him talk about his first wife and how good she was everyday? are you ready to listen to him talk about his first wife's good qualities whenever you are at a gathering with friends? eventually, you will feel like you will never be good enough for him . you will always feel being compared to his first wife and you will always have 2nd place in his heart. i know a woman who is in the same situation, she would constantly cry because each time they are with friends, her american husband would not stop talking about his deceased wife . in the end, life will be miserable for you. however, if youre willing to go ahead with this, the decision is yours and as i said before, as long as he has the death certificate, there should be no problem.

[=FoxyBLUE= 2]

i didnt say anything more than answer your question pointblank because i thought it wasnt my business to poke my nose but since it has been started already, i might as well offer unsolicited advice. a man who still cries and talks to an urn everyday has not gotten over his grief yet and is using you to fill a void in his life. are you willing to listen to him talk about his first wife and how good she was everyday? are you ready to listen to him talk about his first wife's good qualities whenever you are at a gathering with friends? eventually, you will feel like you will never be good enough for him . you will always feel being compared to his first wife and you will always have 2nd place in his heart. i know a woman who is in the same situation, she would constantly cry because each time they are with friends, her american husband would not stop talking about his deceased wife . in the end, life will be miserable for you. however, if youre willing to go ahead with this, the decision is yours and as i said before, as long as he has the death certificate, there should be no problem.

VERY WELL SAID Ate Ganda!

Sorry I started reacting about your situation, I'm just shocked that a 22 year old, single, beautiful(all filipinas are, no doubt about it!) woman will end up as a shock-absorber?

Think again,maybe he is very sensitive with your feelings right now, because he himself is sensitive too.

I'm not even near telling you to leave him,,,if he is your happiness, and if you can manage to do all the above mentioned, then I'll be happy for you.

Goodluck on your journey kapatid!

[DARUMA07 25]

I for one have lost 2 wives in death. He should have no problems at all petitioning you. Word of advice! Make sure that this is what he wants. Everyone deserves to be Happy and to be with someone that they can love and be loved by. I just don't want to see you as a quick replacement for his deceased wife.

Mourning and grief affects everyone differently. There is no time limit or set pattern that a person has to go by. If possible, delay sending in the petition for a few more months. This will help him clear his head and hopefully help him overcome the pain he is going through right now. I wish you both the best!! Stay close to each other and let time heal the pain. Good luck to you!!!

Edited July 2, 2009 by DARUMA07

[maritoni 3]

I always believe,it's polite not to pry...But Death is more difficult than a breakup you seem to be more tolerant of your fiance who will blubber about his former wife and how sad he is that she’s gone...A marriage to a widower isn’t all about his grief and tiptoeing gently around it. YOUR feelings matter, too, and they deserve validation, no matter how petty, insensitive (to grief), and unrealistic the outside world may find them...

You cannot love a widower enough to make him forget his late wife. Yes, time is a healer, and along every grief journey, sadness turns to joy at some point. However, do not be fooled into thinking that your fiance’s late wife’s death anniversary or their wedding anniversary, her birthday, or holidays will be grief-free.

So good luck and God bless on your Visa journey

[=FoxyBLUE= 2]

I always believe,it's polite not to pry...But Death is more difficult than a breakup you seem to be more tolerant of your fiance who will blubber about his former wife and how sad he is that she’s gone...A marriage to a widower isn’t all about his grief and tiptoeing gently around it. YOUR feelings matter, too, and they deserve validation, no matter how petty, insensitive (to grief), and unrealistic the outside world may find them...

You cannot love a widower enough to make him forget his late wife. Yes, time is a healer, and along every grief journey, sadness turns to joy at some point. However, do not be fooled into thinking that your fiance’s late wife’s death anniversary or their wedding anniversary, her birthday, or holidays will be grief-free.

So good luck and God bless on your Visa journey

and the "KAMAHALAN" had spoken!!! LOL :devil:

Edited July 2, 2009 by Mariel_Esteban

[maritoni 3]

I always believe,it's polite not to pry...But Death is more difficult than a breakup you seem to be more tolerant of your fiance who will blubber about his former wife and how sad he is that she’s gone...A marriage to a widower isn’t all about his grief and tiptoeing gently around it. YOUR feelings matter, too, and they deserve validation, no matter how petty, insensitive (to grief), and unrealistic the outside world may find them...

You cannot love a widower enough to make him forget his late wife. Yes, time is a healer, and along every grief journey, sadness turns to joy at some point. However, do not be fooled into thinking that your fiance’s late wife’s death anniversary or their wedding anniversary, her birthday, or holidays will be grief-free.

So good luck and God bless on your Visa journey

and the "KAMAHALAN" had spoken!!! LOL

Yikesss you scare the living hell out of me...hehe saan ka ba galing?

[=FoxyBLUE= 2]

I always believe,it's polite not to pry...But Death is more difficult than a breakup you seem to be more tolerant of your fiance who will blubber about his former wife and how sad he is that she’s gone...A marriage to a widower isn’t all about his grief and tiptoeing gently around it. YOUR feelings matter, too, and they deserve validation, no matter how petty, insensitive (to grief), and unrealistic the outside world may find them...

You cannot love a widower enough to make him forget his late wife. Yes, time is a healer, and along every grief journey, sadness turns to joy at some point. However, do not be fooled into thinking that your fiance’s late wife’s death anniversary or their wedding anniversary, her birthday, or holidays will be grief-free.

So good luck and God bless on your Visa journey

and the "KAMAHALAN" had spoken!!! LOL

Yikesss you scare the living hell out of me...hehe saan ka ba galing?

as usual tinatatmad na naman sa trabaho..hehehe

Very well said Ate Toni...

[maritoni 3]

as usual tinatatmad na naman sa trabaho..hehehe

Very well said Ate Toni...

Bat kasi magtrabaho pa eh?ako nga Pal. eh

[Loolie 56]

He had relationship with his deceased wife for almost two years online plus in states as husband and wife. Yeah although he is very happy being with me online, but I can see and I can feel he still loves his wife and he is still remembering her and he is still crying when someone open up a topic how a good wife he had. He is truthful about his feelings, he said to me he is still talking to his wife everyday (just holding the urn) and thanking God for giving a wonderful and great wife.

He said to me do not feel bad. The first time we met online, i was just listening to his stories, about his wife. We did not expect that we will fall in love to each other. I said to him I will let him first to grieve and mourn about what had happened to him and to his wife.

To be honest, I am hurt sometimes but I always listened to him unconditionally. I did not leave him rather appreciating him more because he is very loving husband to his wife.

I am 22 years old and he is 45 years old.

Thank you very much again.

since he and his late wife met online...so it only means he is just talking to you online too because thats how they met.

dont rush girl...take it easy anyway usa wont disappear. God bless you always.

[sojen 0]

He had relationship with his deceased wife for almost two years online plus in states as husband and wife. Yeah although he is very happy being with me online, but I can see and I can feel he still loves his wife and he is still remembering her and he is still crying when someone open up a topic how a good wife he had. He is truthful about his feelings, he said to me he is still talking to his wife everyday (just holding the urn) and thanking God for giving a wonderful and great wife.

He said to me do not feel bad. The first time we met online, i was just listening to his stories, about his wife. We did not expect that we will fall in love to each other. I said to him I will let him first to grieve and mourn about what had happened to him and to his wife.

To be honest, I am hurt sometimes but I always listened to him unconditionally. I did not leave him rather appreciating him more because he is very loving husband to his wife.

I am 22 years old and he is 45 years old.

Thank you very much again.

since he and his late wife met online...so it only means he is just talking to you online too because thats how they met.

dont rush girl...take it easy anyway usa wont disappear. God bless you always.

[-mitch- 3]

i read all the thoughts, opinions, reactions that was said and shared from the beginning of this thread and its giving me goosebumps.

i cant imagine myself listening to my husband's to be ... CRIES, MOURNINGS, STORIES, ETC about his wonderful life with his wife ( like he talks about her and even talks to the late wife's picture everyday?) and here i am, a fiancee and is willing to listen to all that?

but, as what one above said, there is no time limit for healing and its not my business to say whats best for you and your situation.

think it over KAPAMILYA! as what they've said, "IF IT'S MEANT TO BE, IT WILL BE", " THE END DOES NOT JUSTIFY THE MEANS",

maybe give it time for you and your lover to think and pray for it..... no rush.... USCIS will always be here till who knows when and is always ready to process any application any time.... no time limit to file K! visa.... ponder and unwind...

Good luck kaibigan!!! and God bless to your fiance too.

[RonMay 1]

if you're sure and ready to all the consequences good or bad then go ahead... though you're still young 22, so much life ahead of you. dont rush on things please... im not saying go find something else to do, but please do listen to those people who give good advices. those who wont take advantage on the situation. go talk to a pastor or a priest or someone whom you really trust... its ok for you now coz this guy is in the US and you're there in phil. the effects is not that obvious yet. but once you're living in together, trust me its not gona be fun at all... that "all out support" you're giving him now wont be there anymore... trust me. why? because its so damn unfair in my opinion if your partner hasnt move on and still lingering from the past and talks about it in front of you. you can be friend to him and perhaps thats what you should be till he moves on (really moves on)... this is just what im thinking and only you can decide WHAT IS IT YOU REALLY WANT AT THE END OF THE BARGAIN? could be love, companionship, a supporter or a friend or whatever. something that is deserving and worth having... think about it... good luck and God bless!!!