Attitude Change to Live In The philippines

[ED*Riza 0]

just give it time. your wife is new in america and she misses the phils, her family and her friends. after some time, she will find a job, meet new friends and start to adapt to life in the states then she wont feel so homesick. at the same time, due to the economic recession, you might consider moving to the phils years from now because the cost of living is cheaper here. who knows? so many things can happen in just a few years so just wait and see. my advice: take one day at a time. enjoy the present moment because eventually things will fall into place.

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[scotty's girl 1]

i read your post, my fiancee is from ph. i was the one that hint to her that i would like to move to ph when i turn 50 or so. I think after 10 years here in us, saving a few thousand a year for some time we could live in ph very well. quality of life there is great! only downside to usc is there are not many jobs. so i figure take care of the money part and live life carefree in ph!

like that plan or not?

My fiance and I have the same plan as yours. He really likes the idea of retiring here in the Phils. I also agreed because it would be nice to be close to my family and friends.

[MikenKyhen 0]

Like others have already said, I would just give her some time to adjust. Myself, I absolutely love to the Philippines and would retire there in a heart beat if thats what my baby wanted..Bagiuo, Borocay, Cebu, Subic, Palawan, Davao etc..you name it. I love everything about it. Actually, I think I will have to try to convince my so to let us retire in the PI. Hang in there. She just got here. Good luck to you both. Mike

[nurse1967 287]

Have any of you experienced meeting a Filipina and falling in love with her and discussing her moving to your country and marrying you and then right about when the petition is approved or shortly after she gets to your country she starts hinting to you about moving to the Philippines when you retire? But before that it was all about her saying she had NO problems moving to your country and marrying you and having a happy loving relationsahip forever? Seems like having you move to the Phils was in her mind all along and she only was agreeing to come to your country for as short as a time as possible. I have nothing against about moving there and actually have thought about it prior to her mentioning it but it just seems as if that was her plan all along and she never was truthful to me about it.

Seriously?? She is 23 and how old are you????? Do you think maybe she was planning this all along??? HMMMM

[MikenKyhen 0]

Well Heck I am sure you'll get some interesting relpys to this one. But for the root of your guestion from what I get is that you were suprised by her thinking about moving and retiring in the Philippines and you feel that was left out of earlier duccessions and feel a little deceived. Of course I don't know how you feel or how it was brought up. But do try and remember english is a second langauge for her. As good as it may seem there is things said that are not understond by you or ment to be said by her the way it is either spoken or heard. You took a long journey to get together and must have love to have accomplished that. You ask if anyone her has had similar experiances. I would say close to all. Just from the couple of relpys I have read pretty much shows most of us men that fall in love with these beautifull ladys intend to do just that move to the philippines or at least spend alot of time there. So I don't beleive she ment to deceive you. Just my simple thoughts as others have also said. Communtication is key to any marrage. understanding what is said even more important.

You said you would or at lest thought about that yourself moving to the Philippines. I would think she must of know you have that interest. So talk and share your ideas. come up with the best plan to make you both happy and enjoy your great life together.

As for me. well if you move to the Philippine we may end up as neighbors. I also plan to retire there. Hey I love the US. spent 20 years in the military and would then and now belad to defend it. But I can live a happy carefree life with my future wife in the Philippines. could do so here too but what the heck. Like the site is named life is also a Journey and I enjoy adventures.

Good luck and work out this little missunderstanding

Great reply. I totally agree.

[rheanick 42]

Have any of you experienced meeting a Filipina and falling in love with her and discussing her moving to your country and marrying you and then right about when the petition is approved or shortly after she gets to your country she starts hinting to you about moving to the Philippines when you retire? But before that it was all about her saying she had NO problems moving to your country and marrying you and having a happy loving relationsahip forever? Seems like having you move to the Phils was in her mind all along and she only was agreeing to come to your country for as short as a time as possible. I have nothing against about moving there and actually have thought about it prior to her mentioning it but it just seems as if that was her plan all along and she never was truthful to me about it.

My hubby and I are now planning our retirement... And we dont have plans to retire in the Philippines. We have something in our mind for our retirement have and searching for appropriate place.

Home is where your heart is. It does not pertain to a particular location. My husband is my family now. And where ever we decided to stay, that is my home.

You just need to talk to your wife....

[jom 4]

Give her time. It was a long process bringing her here but believe me, it is harder for her to get used to the different lifestyle in America.

My wife and I are also planning to retire in the Philippines , maybe in 15 years time. It is an issue not worth discussing at this time because we are more focused on our married life, hopefully having children, saving for the future and just being happy being together.

On the other hand, hopefully your new bride will not be too consumed of the thought of retiring in the Philippines since she just arrived here. I hope she will be more focused on her new life here with you.

Goodluck and I am sure things will be better for the two of you.

[Psoas10 17]

My wife has said she does not want to live in PI again, maybe a long visit though. I guess being in Hawaii helps, coz there is no culture shock here.

[Joan >3 Bob 20]

i read your post, my fiancee is from ph. i was the one that hint to her that i would like to move to ph when i turn 50 or so. I think after 10 years here in us, saving a few thousand a year for some time we could live in ph very well. quality of life there is great! only downside to usc is there are not many jobs. so i figure take care of the money part and live life carefree in ph!

like that plan or not?

Yers I share the same feelings on your plan and intend when my wife and I visit the Philippiones the next time researching places and finding all details about living there and then when retirement time comes my wife and I can make our decision on this matter. Good luck to you and thanks for your reply to my original post and for not attacking me as others have done here.

[Joan >3 Bob 20]

i read your post, my fiancee is from ph. i was the one that hint to her that i would like to move to ph when i turn 50 or so. I think after 10 years here in us, saving a few thousand a year for some time we could live in ph very well. quality of life there is great! only downside to usc is there are not many jobs. so i figure take care of the money part and live life carefree in ph!

like that plan or not?

Not a bad plan at all....

we may have a choice of 2 in our case....my native country (not USA) or her native country...

and why not...maybe summer time in mine and Winter time in hers.....so we always basking in the sun!!!!

We can always dream.....cant we !!!

To be honest about everything... living there half a year and here the other half sounds good but the trip expenses would get very costly.

[Joan >3 Bob 20]

Well Heck I am sure you'll get some interesting relpys to this one. But for the root of your guestion from what I get is that you were suprised by her thinking about moving and retiring in the Philippines and you feel that was left out of earlier duccessions and feel a little deceived. Of course I don't know how you feel or how it was brought up. But do try and remember english is a second langauge for her. As good as it may seem there is things said that are not understond by you or ment to be said by her the way it is either spoken or heard. You took a long journey to get together and must have love to have accomplished that. You ask if anyone her has had similar experiances. I would say close to all. Just from the couple of relpys I have read pretty much shows most of us men that fall in love with these beautifull ladys intend to do just that move to the philippines or at least spend alot of time there. So I don't beleive she ment to deceive you. Just my simple thoughts as others have also said. Communtication is key to any marrage. understanding what is said even more important.

You said you would or at lest thought about that yourself moving to the Philippines. I would think she must of know you have that interest. So talk and share your ideas. come up with the best plan to make you both happy and enjoy your great life together.

As for me. well if you move to the Philippine we may end up as neighbors. I also plan to retire there. Hey I love the US. spent 20 years in the military and would then and now belad to defend it. But I can live a happy carefree life with my future wife in the Philippines. could do so here too but what the heck. Like the site is named life is also a Journey and I enjoy adventures.

Good luck and work out this little missunderstanding

You are exactly correct and I feel bad for stating here that maye my wife was not truthful to me. I did not understand exactly what she meant because of the language she used and we have discussed this. This is something we will work on to make sure we fully understand each other in our future communications on everything before we jump to wrong assumptions.

Have any of you experienced meeting a Filipina and falling in love with her and discussing her moving to your country and marrying you and then right about when the petition is approved or shortly after she gets to your country she starts hinting to you about moving to the Philippines when you retire? But before that it was all about her saying she had NO problems moving to your country and marrying you and having a happy loving relationsahip forever? Seems like having you move to the Phils was in her mind all along and she only was agreeing to come to your country for as short as a time as possible. I have nothing against about moving there and actually have thought about it prior to her mentioning it but it just seems as if that was her plan all along and she never was truthful to me about it.

Talk to her, nobody else should know her better than you... Not us! But for the sake of argument, ask her why she wants to move back to her home country.

If she's from Mindanao you have to be careful. With so much terrorism/kidnapping going on... I don't know, for security reasons, I'd love to live and die in my adopted country - USA.

not all places in mindanao has terrorism/kidnapping...hehehehe...

Correct to a point but Ozamiz City is a very safe place and people there are very friendly. But again the MILF can strike any place in Mindanao at any time.

[eros_EX_Plumber 0]

i read your post, my fiancee is from ph. i was the one that hint to her that i would like to move to ph when i turn 50 or so. I think after 10 years here in us, saving a few thousand a year for some time we could live in ph very well. quality of life there is great! only downside to usc is there are not many jobs. so i figure take care of the money part and live life carefree in ph!

like that plan or not?

Not a bad plan at all....

we may have a choice of 2 in our case....my native country (not USA) or her native country...

and why not...maybe summer time in mine and Winter time in hers.....so we always basking in the sun!!!!

We can always dream.....cant we !!!

To be honest about everything... living there half a year and here the other half sounds good but the trip expenses would get very costly.

Joking aside...

Honestly,

I cannot afford go back to my Native country anymore because of the EURO dollar.... Unless we become BILLIONAIRES in the next decade or so....which i doubt it....

So that leave only RP for the moment to retire but unless something changes drastically in her region, I will not be able to afford hiring my own security...to live in that REGION.

Had to hire them on my first visit to meet the FAMILY i and I was only there less then a week and could not wait to go back to the resort in Cebu/Bohol and enjoy ivacation without having an escort of four MEAN looking dudes following us around everywhere we went.

That is not the way I plan to spend my retirement either....

But on the bright side, since I have olive skin...I could pass for an RP after the 2 year...

I will be as tanned as the best of them...hahahha