Let's pray for MIAMIWIFE!

[tammy2688 1]

Miamiwife - at 13 months, my mind quit, my body quit, but my heart didn't. I do not know how deeply your connection is with God, but the Almighty is in your mind even for 1 second in your life, you will never quit in your heart. It is something like a test and you should treat it that way. Do not let a wait win and lose your love. You will hate yourself in a few years, but if only you keep on trying to live day by day until this visa arrives, you will have a life that you dream of, and be so glad you didn't give up. I know it's good to release yourself and say it's not working, but then again, what has ever been easy in your life?

Gogo- same for you, Nouri has waited over 24 months, Belina, 17 months and me a meager 13 months compared to them - but the visa comes, and there is no law that can separate you from your spouse. Patience is not only waiting to your limit then saying you waited enough and getting angry. I know how you feel, how frustrated and disheartened but most things in life do not come on YOUR time, it comes when every single other factor has been completed in order for your wants to come true. Our fate is tied to the 9 billion others we share our lives with, and in this case the embassy, the other applicants, the paperowrk, the nature of your marriage, your personality, your spouses, your age, your status in life, how whether or not you country is one of the T countries - everything. It depends on everything. Sure, you see people gliding by and getting visas upon interviews - I still cringe when I remember lying to my husband and convincing him that the Dhaka embassy has a minimum of 6 months of everyone and finding only 2 other people with AP and knowing full well it wasn't fair. But fair from what view? My desires? Well my desire conflicts with every other possibility of what can happen. So there, I had to wait 13 months when everyone else who got called with my husband got their visas. I went crazy, lost taste in my mouth, my husband got into a motorcycle a month into our marriage and I feared losing him while far away and does the embassy know or care that I was sufferring, that my husband was losing his job, mind, hope? No, and the embassy nor DOS nor the interviewer does this deliberately. Believe me I understand each and everyone of your pain, and it kills me to see Miamiwife, paciencia, gogo, and others still waiting - but the people of my time had to wait too, sometimes much longer and I am not saying two wrongs make a right, but life is just full of obstacles and if you succeed in keeping your marriage alive to your best ability, that is your asset, your compliments and your good quality and your credit. No one elses's. So call your spouses, e-mail, chat, letters, gifts, as most of you are the USC on VJ, tell your foreign spouse of fiancee/fiance that there IS an end to it. Any time the visa can be issued, and it is only a matter of weeks for some of you which a matter of days for others of you until the visa is issued. Spring is a time for new beginning. I always believe that when the last leaf fell, my husband would be here and on Nov 13, the last leaf fell and so did his day arrive. I am not trying to be poetical, though I love writing poetry and I am not saying this is easy, I am saying though, faith is one of the strongest things to have. It is more valuable that anything, even if we don't always get what we went, we must try and keep trying. So to all of you, please make up your mind to eat, sleep, breath normally, don't walk down the street like zombies and get hit by cars like I used to, don't forget what you did yesterday or wore and don't forget the things you used to enjoy. Continue planning what you will do or have to do when your spouse arrives, clean, like Ana had told me (her AP was 11 months) and know that your lawful relationship will be honored and the visa will come.

God bless,

Tam

[WonTanNara 0]

Aww Sibel, I am so sorry you are still waiting. I think about you every once in a while and will definitely pray for you. During my 8 months of hell the only thing that kep me going was visualizing in my head what it would be like when my fiance (now my husband) finally got here. You know what? That awful wait made our relationship a lot stronger. Tammy is right, after you've been through something like that you seem to appreciate each other a lot more. My husband and I rarely fight and when we do it's over stupid stuff like him terrorizing my poor psycho cat who is terrified of him (not really terrorizing, but he won't leave her alone because he wants her to like him).

You will get your big surprise soon. You'll be in a flurry of change making preparations for him to arrive and then it will all seem like a really distant bad dream. I promise! My husband and I actually laugh now over everything we went through to get him here...

Hang tough.

[tammy2688 1]

Ditto on the distant bad dream. That is what AP becomes. Soon for all of you too.

God bless

Tam

[gogo 6]

that is why I am going to do another lawsuit (writ of mandamus) and fight it.. did you guys actually believe all those "security/name/background checks" they are doing? Write to everyone like I did and get letters (especially keep writing to the FBI - but I did that through the White House, President, First Lady, Vice President, daughter, cousin, son, anyone in there.. Condolezza Rice, Secretary of State Clinton, White House staff).. that is how I got a letter stating I didn't have any security checks on my case.. so with the lawsuit (not for money, force them to give answer within 60 days), then I'm sure to win.. if the person DOING the checks says I don't have any, then bring it on!! what kind of BS are you holding up against me and all these people? if they say something else, then I go that department and find out why.. usually it is the USCIS that lies though..