Risks associated with marrying a foreign girl

[Empress of Groovy 373]

I seem to remember someone's caveat a while back regarding a gal's possession of a coarse voice and lack of giggling ability. Adam's apple could be relevant.

Again, please don't overlook the importance of a well-kept hairstyle.

[NickD 203]

Plenty of successful couples meet online. I doubt very many successful couples meet at "pick up" bars. At any rate, I'm not suggesting that all women who are trying to meet Americans are frauds. Not at all. But I think it's reasonable to say that there is a higher fraud % among that group, simply because "people trying to get to America" is a higher risk group for fraud than "people in general." For any given desirable thing, you'll have people who try to get it honestly, and you'll also have people who will try to get it any way they can. US citizenship is no exception.

Seems like the USCIS is also interested in fraud and especially for the USC trying to get a foreigner here with some rather severe penalties. Then there is the I-864 where you are literally signing your life away.

Certainly enough mail order bride sites on the web, and for just about any country, also good places to stay far away from.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

For me, I found paradise when I found the Philippines.

Woman are in shape and have nice figures, they are very easy on the eyes, and they are regarded as some of the most beautiful women in the world.

They tend to be very caring, and put family high on their value scale. They carry themelves like a woman should in public, they are not loud and they have a high regard for how they carry themselve in the public eye.

Did you rip that straight off one of the foreign bride sites?

One reason is Divorce doesn't exist in PI, so the woman are not raised in a society like the USA where they can take a man to the cleaners in divorce just because they have a child.

I have heard American woman say many times "I will divorce you and take everything you own",. I have never heard an American man ever say that to his spouse.

Divorce is not permitted in the PI because over 90 percent of the country is Catholic, unless a couple gets a marriage certificate in the court (civil marriage). Their only option is an annulment, which is lengthy and expensive. There is a high rate of children born out of wedlock and unfortunately for the mothers, it is difficult to require the man to pay child support.

As for divorce in the U.S. - perhaps you're just bitter from your own divorce because many states like California, are community property states, which means if you divorce your spouse, she gets 50 percent of everything and as far as the children, the amount of child support is determined by the court using a formula. If you wanted to get married again in the U.S. and didn't want to face those numbers, you should have made a prenuptial agreement, but even with one, you cannot remove your financial obligations towards your children, should you end up divorcing.

Good luck with your marriage to a Filipina, but if you really believe they are demure, obedient, faithful and keep a nice figure, you've bought into the biggest sale pitch by these foreign bride sites. There have been many guys like you here on VJ, who later are shocked to find that the Filipinas they had purchased are defective.

Edited December 27, 2008 by Mister Fancypants

[one...two...tree 2,762]

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[NickD 203]

If you wanted to get married again in the U.S. and didn't want to face those numbers, you should have made a prenuptial agreement

Not in WI, courts do not recognize a prenuptial agreement. Ha, feel if reading all the divorce laws of your state is a requirement for getting a marriage license, nobody would bet married. But WI covered that too, is a couple is living in the same household together, unmarried, they are considered married by common law.

Also as a guy, watch out where you stick that thing, if gets a girl pregnant and over 18 will be liable for child support until that kid reaches 18, if under 18, your parents will be responsible for child support payments, until he reaches 18 years of age. Can marry and have a kid, wife can divorce and keep that kid where the guy has 60% of his wages taken away for child support and alimony, happened to a close friend of mine, not enough money left over for him to do anything, including getting remarried. Can only hope his ex gets remarried to avoid alimony, but will be stuck with child support until that kid hits 18. His wife has no intention of getting remarried, has it too good.

[HighwayStar 0]

One of the things I'm most grateful for to my husband is that he NEVER once compared me to American women, or said that I was better because I am not American - and believe me, he lived through ten years of hell with a woman he met (as many do) when in college, his same age, and all that.

Now, I am a bit of a different case than the 'girls' who seem to be discussed here. I am 48 (almost nine years older than my husband), from Italy (which is a Western country, with a divorce rate that is steadily increasing), and financially self-sufficient. In order to move here I left more than just family and friends - I left my home and a steady job (which I hated), and am very happy about it. I am also financially better off than my husband, and own the condo where we live.

This is just to prove that not all 'foreign girls' are the same.. I may be an exception, but I am quite sure I am not the only foreign woman for whom love was far more important than material things.

[one...two...tree 2,762]

If you wanted to get married again in the U.S. and didn't want to face those numbers, you should have made a prenuptial agreement

Not in WI, courts do not recognize a prenuptial agreement. Ha, feel if reading all the divorce laws of your state is a requirement for getting a marriage license, nobody would bet married. But WI covered that too, is a couple is living in the same household together, unmarried, they are considered married by common law.

Also as a guy, watch out where you stick that thing, if gets a girl pregnant and over 18 will be liable for child support until that kid reaches 18, if under 18, your parents will be responsible for child support payments, until he reaches 18 years of age. Can marry and have a kid, wife can divorce and keep that kid where the guy has 60% of his wages taken away for child support and alimony, happened to a close friend of mine, not enough money left over for him to do anything, including getting remarried. Can only hope his ex gets remarried to avoid alimony, but will be stuck with child support until that kid hits 18. His wife has no intention of getting remarried, has it too good.

If there are any circumstances here in the states which look out for the best interest of mothers and their children, they aren't carried out to that extent in countries like the PI - but Amerikanos shouldn't take that as an indication that if they marry a Filipina and bring her here, then have a child, that she wouldn't take full advantage of the laws here should they end up divorcing. There may well be cultural/familial traits that one might find attractive in a foreign mate, but the foreign spouse can and will change as they become more acclimated to living and working here in the states.

[AlHayatZween 2]

I dunno, dude. It sounds like you're making a lot of judgments (despite your claims to the contrary) about women's motivations. Everyone--male and female--wants something tangible from a relationship. Love may or may not be involved. The rise in divorce rates has coincided largely with the rise of the love-based marriage.

In addition to that, every time you open up your heart and trust someone, there is always a risk that the person will let you down. This is for men & women, all across cultures and nationalities... you can't generalize... There are good and bad apples everywhere.

That being said, if you are really interested in Russian women or whatever-kind of women, maybe you should do some traveling over there yourself...

[Amby 490]

every time you open up your heart and trust someone, there is always a risk that the person will let you down. This is for men & women, all across cultures and nationalities... you can't generalize... There are good and bad apples everywhere.

I agree with you my hairy friend

[AlHayatZween 2]

every time you open up your heart and trust someone, there is always a risk that the person will let you down. This is for men & women, all across cultures and nationalities... you can't generalize... There are good and bad apples everywhere.

I agree with you my hairy friend

My situation was different. Aside from a few close seconds and thirds in Jersey and New York, i had to go abroad to find someone whose hotheadedness, love for strong spices, and hairiness matched my own.

[symbiosis 0]

For me, I found paradise when I found the Philippines.

Woman are in shape and have nice figures, they are very easy on the eyes, and they are regarded as some of the most beautiful women in the world.

They tend to be very caring, and put family high on their value scale. They carry themelves like a woman should in public, they are not loud and they have a high regard for how they carry themselve in the public eye.

Did you rip that straight off one of the foreign bride sites?

One reason is Divorce doesn't exist in PI, so the woman are not raised in a society like the USA where they can take a man to the cleaners in divorce just because they have a child.

I have heard American woman say many times "I will divorce you and take everything you own",. I have never heard an American man ever say that to his spouse.

Divorce is not permitted in the PI because over 90 percent of the country is Catholic, unless a couple gets a marriage certificate in the court (civil marriage). Their only option is an annulment, which is lengthy and expensive. There is a high rate of children born out of wedlock and unfortunately for the mothers, it is difficult to require the man to pay child support.

As for divorce in the U.S. - perhaps you're just bitter from your own divorce because many states like California, are community property states, which means if you divorce your spouse, she gets 50 percent of everything and as far as the children, the amount of child support is determined by the court using a formula. If you wanted to get married again in the U.S. and didn't want to face those numbers, you should have made a prenuptial agreement, but even with one, you cannot remove your financial obligations towards your children, should you end up divorcing.

Good luck with your marriage to a Filipina, but if you really believe they are demure, obedient, faithful and keep a nice figure, you've bought into the biggest sale pitch by these foreign bride sites. There have been many guys like you here on VJ, who later are shocked to find that the Filipinas they had purchased are defective.

Actually, it's more like 80% Catholic.