I found out why everyone is so angry!

[Amby 490]

South Africans are among the top in the world when it comes to having orgasms, the Durex Sexual Wellbeing Global Survey has found.

In all, 66% of South Africans orgasmed almost every time they had sex, a figure equalled only by Spaniards, Mexicans and Italians and which beat Brazilians into second place at 65%.

"The survey shows that having a fulfilling sex life contributes to our overall sense of wellbeing and general health, and that orgasms can play an important part in achieving this," said Durex South Africa brand manager Byron Bekker in a statement.

People from Hong Kong and China were least likely to orgasm at 24%, followed by the Japanese at 27%.

87% who orgasmed 'happy with themselves'

The research was conducted among 26 000 people in 26 countries, and questioned aspects of people's sex lives, their health, general wellbeing, education, beliefs, sex and relationships, attitudes to sex and social circumstances.

According to the survey, 58% of all people who usually achieved orgasm were content with the emotional aspects of their sex life, compared with 29% of those who rarely climaxed.

In addition, eight out of 10 (77%) of those who frequently orgasmed felt close to their partners during sex, as opposed to 54% of those who had difficulty having orgasms.

In South Africa, nine out of 10 (87%) people who usually orgasmed felt at ease with themselves sexually and 60% were psychologically healthy compared with 50% of the British.

Although 83% of South African men almost always climaxed during sex, only 49% of women did.

The survey found that massage could be effective in improving the number and intensity of orgasms, as could spending more protected time with partners, and that sex toys could enhance the quality of women's orgasms, as could more foreplay. – (Sapa, October 2008)

http://www.health24.com/news/Sexuality/1-944,48155.asp

[IAMX 3,055]

No problems here. Foreign women rule! Outside the grasp of Hollywood.

But yeah, in my experience regarding American women, I was surprised to see how many don't even know how to be pleased, and thus made things a bit more boring. We live in a culture of sexual repression because of stupid stigmas which the media perpetuates. The only thing you need TV for is porn and hockey.

Edit: Well, I've heard some people let porn get to them too, so maybe just hockey.

Edited October 2, 2008 by SRVT

[Amby 490]

No problems here. Foreign women rule! Outside the grasp of Hollywood.

But yeah, in my experience regarding American women, I was surprised to see how many don't even know how to be pleased, and thus made things a bit more boring. We live in a culture of sexual repression because of stupid stigmas which the media perpetuates. The only thing you need TV for is porn and hockey.

I actually agree with you on something...WOW

I'm surprised by how many of my friends are like that. Poor women

[Jenn! 918]

Maybe they've had bad teachers.

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

Maybe they've had bad teachers.

You had a teacher?

[Jenn! 918]

Maybe they've had bad teachers.

You had a teacher?

Er, yes I've had sex before. How else does one learn how to be pleased?

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

Maybe they've had bad teachers.

You had a teacher?

Er, yes I've had sex before. How else does one learn how to be pleased?

Easy now, I was just ribbin ya.

[Jenn! 918]

Maybe they've had bad teachers.

You had a teacher?

Er, yes I've had sex before. How else does one learn how to be pleased?

Easy now, I was just ribbin ya.

I thought you didn't get what I meant.

[IAMX 3,055]

Maybe they've had bad teachers.

You had a teacher?

Er, yes I've had sex before. How else does one learn how to be pleased?

Well, usually they don't just start out having sex with others as soon as they hit puberty. They find out how to please themselves first. As far as I know, that's merely natural. On the other hand, it's not hard to please a guy. It's as easy as shooting a supersoaker.

Experience with an ex of mine found she was rather difficult to please, as she had no idea what pleased her (she never tried), so it took far longer to please her, and because of that, and certain stigmas attached to certain positions (someone like this you know is far too affected by negative stereotypes about women taking certain positions, i.e. associating porn with #######), it made things sometimes either more frustrating or just more boring.

Thankfully this is not the case currently, and because both of us know what we like, and like doing other/new things, it makes it a lot more fun and enjoyable.

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

Maybe they've had bad teachers.

You had a teacher?

Er, yes I've had sex before. How else does one learn how to be pleased?

Well, usually they don't just start out having sex with others as soon as they hit puberty. They find out how to please themselves first. As far as I know, that's merely natural. On the other hand, it's not hard to please a guy. It's as easy as shooting a supersoaker.

Experience with an ex of mine found she was rather difficult to please, as she had no idea what pleased her (she never tried), so it took far longer to please her, and because of that, and certain stigmas attached to certain positions (someone like this you know is far too affected by negative stereotypes about women taking certain positions, i.e. associating porn with #######), it made things sometimes either more frustrating or just more boring.

Thankfully this is not the case currently, and because both of us know what we like, and like doing other/new things, it makes it a lot more fun and enjoyable.

Its as simple as paying attention to your partner, not yourself. Simple really.

[Amby 490]

a lot of my friends are too self conscious

[Jenn! 918]

Maybe they've had bad teachers.

You had a teacher?

Er, yes I've had sex before. How else does one learn how to be pleased?

Well, usually they don't just start out having sex with others as soon as they hit puberty. They find out how to please themselves first. As far as I know, that's merely natural. On the other hand, it's not hard to please a guy. It's as easy as shooting a supersoaker.

Experience with an ex of mine found she was rather difficult to please, as she had no idea what pleased her (she never tried), so it took far longer to please her, and because of that, and certain stigmas attached to certain positions (someone like this you know is far too affected by negative stereotypes about women taking certain positions, i.e. associating porn with #######), it made things sometimes either more frustrating or just more boring.

Thankfully this is not the case currently, and because both of us know what we like, and like doing other/new things, it makes it a lot more fun and enjoyable.

I wonder how many American women masturbate before becoming sexually active. I would think that it would be most, but what do I know? As you said, it's natural - so I can't imagine there are too many women who really do not *know* what they like.

If someone truly doesn't know how to be pleased, then she needs someone to show her, and if her sexual partners haven't done that for her, well then they weren't very good.

Being uncomfortable with sex is a whole different situation, i.e. knowing what you like but being too timid to ask for it.

[IAMX 3,055]

I wonder how many American women masturbate before becoming sexually active. I would think that it would be most, but what do I know? As you said, it's natural - so I can't imagine there are too many women who really do not *know* what they like.

If someone truly doesn't know how to be pleased, then she needs someone to show her, and if her sexual partners haven't done that for her, well then they weren't very good.

Being uncomfortable with sex is a whole different situation, i.e. knowing what you like but being too timid to ask for it.

It's a mix of both. Timidness can be a factor (which is more personal, and not really that directly related to the OP), but also it is a stigma, especially being known in public, that a girl who is sexually active at an earlier age is looked down upon -- regardless of whether or not it's masturbating or oral sex or straight sex. This is a societal stigma that keeps the U.S., in these respects, amongst the most sexually repressed and highest amongst the most dissatisfied.

Think of it as being a guy and asking your girl to suck it in a more aggressive manner. In many cultures, especially European ones, this is a normal thing. Here it's seen as grossly barbaric and makes women look like dirty whores.

That is the prevailing norm in this country which, sadly, I grew up with.

Why do you think there are so many magazines or Oxygen shows or whatever specifically designed for women and dealing with their femininity in these regards? If there wasn't a problem, there wouldn't be a reason for so much help and sudden public awareness.

Edit: Oh, health is also another issue that's directly related to the OP. Obviously having one's face stuck in TV all the time, or games, or in a Mc Heart Attack burger, is going to greatly affect their sexual life and/or sexual drive.

Edited October 2, 2008 by SRVT

[one...two...tree 2,762]

"...sex toys could enhance the quality of women's orgasms..."

Hmmmm.

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

"...sex toys could enhance the quality of women's orgasms..."

Hmmmm.

Step away from the strap-on Steve