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Hi kababayans,

Im new here but need some advice. I came here and got married December 2007. it's May,less than 6 months married and my husband wants a divorce. I love my husband and dont want a divorce but I cant be on a marrige on my own.I

I filed my AOS and EAD on Feb 2008 and just got my EAD card. I'm working now and can barely support myself. I dont really want to return to the philippines right now because of the stigma of divorce.I dont want to be 26 and divorced so early into the marriage. Wala akong mukhang maihaharap. I dont want to go back to all my friends and family with my tail behind my back after I defended this marriage albeit wrongly. I had a good career there and if I return now, I dont have any money on my own because I send my extra cash to my family. This is another reason I dont want to go back-I have siblings I need to support. I'm well educated and have good working experience.

My question is: What are my options after divorce when my AOS is still pending, I dont have a greencard yet and my husband will definitely not support my getting a greencard. He actually wants me to leave ASAP so that I wont be able to get it because we are expecting an interview this June or July or he is afraid Ill be TNT which obviously I wont be doing. What can I do while we are going through the divorce process? I dont even know how long it will take. I was thinking of going to Canada or Middle East instead so atleast Ill still be earning more. What are the chances that if I go back to the Philippines and cancel my AOS application, I can get a US visa in the future? Im really lost, please help me.

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I'd go see a immigration lawyer. If your hubby has shown any signs of mental or physical abuse you may be able to get the GC on your own.

Hopefully your AOS was transfered to CSC and you have a good chance of getting your GC without an interview.


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I'd go see a immigration lawyer. If your hubby has shown any signs of mental or physical abuse you may be able to get the GC on your own.

Hopefully your AOS was transfered to CSC and you have a good chance of getting your GC without an interview.

How do I know exactly what is happening to my case or if it was moved to the CSC? Last I checked online it was transferred to National Benfits center or something.

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Hi kababayans,

Im new here but need some advice. I came here and got married December 2007. it's May,less than 6 months married and my husband wants a divorce. I love my husband and dont want a divorce but I cant be on a marrige on my own.I

I filed my AOS and EAD on Feb 2008 and just got my EAD card. I'm working now and can barely support myself. I dont really want to return to the philippines right now because of the stigma of divorce.I dont want to be 26 and divorced so early into the marriage. Wala akong mukhang maihaharap. I dont want to go back to all my friends and family with my tail behind my back after I defended this marriage albeit wrongly. I had a good career there and if I return now, I dont have any money on my own because I send my extra cash to my family. This is another reason I dont want to go back-I have siblings I need to support. I'm well educated and have good working experience.

My question is: What are my options after divorce when my AOS is still pending, I dont have a greencard yet and my husband will definitely not support my getting a greencard. He actually wants me to leave ASAP so that I wont be able to get it because we are expecting an interview this June or July or he is afraid Ill be TNT which obviously I wont be doing. What can I do while we are going through the divorce process? I dont even know how long it will take. I was thinking of going to Canada or Middle East instead so atleast Ill still be earning more. What are the chances that if I go back to the Philippines and cancel my AOS application, I can get a US visa in the future? Im really lost, please help me.

Hi, I wanted to reply to your letter. To be clear you were sponsored on a K-1 Visa, and you are married now.

Your husband, sponsor, petitioned the US government to have you come here and he married you. He obgilated himself to support you by that sponsorship. It is a binding deal, read the Affidavit of support, any good lawyer will tell you the same thing. Marriage is legitimate and legal. The process assures the beneficiary not to become a public charge.

You are here and he wanted you here. He asked his government to have you here and he would provide for you through this process. Find a lawyer who practices divorce and or immigration law. You have all the rights now that you are here and more so you have a sponsor who filed a AOS. The government wants to know who is taking care of you before you get here and who is taking care of you if that marriage fails in the first two years. Let me know if you need help.

Hi kababayans,

Im new here but need some advice. I came here and got married December 2007. it's May,less than 6 months married and my husband wants a divorce. I love my husband and dont want a divorce but I cant be on a marrige on my own.I

I filed my AOS and EAD on Feb 2008 and just got my EAD card. I'm working now and can barely support myself. I dont really want to return to the philippines right now because of the stigma of divorce.I dont want to be 26 and divorced so early into the marriage. Wala akong mukhang maihaharap. I dont want to go back to all my friends and family with my tail behind my back after I defended this marriage albeit wrongly. I had a good career there and if I return now, I dont have any money on my own because I send my extra cash to my family. This is another reason I dont want to go back-I have siblings I need to support. I'm well educated and have good working experience.

My question is: What are my options after divorce when my AOS is still pending, I dont have a greencard yet and my husband will definitely not support my getting a greencard. He actually wants me to leave ASAP so that I wont be able to get it because we are expecting an interview this June or July or he is afraid Ill be TNT which obviously I wont be doing. What can I do while we are going through the divorce process? I dont even know how long it will take. I was thinking of going to Canada or Middle East instead so atleast Ill still be earning more. What are the chances that if I go back to the Philippines and cancel my AOS application, I can get a US visa in the future? Im really lost, please help me.

Hi, I wanted to reply to your letter. To be clear you were sponsored on a K-1 Visa, and you are married now.

Your husband, sponsor, petitioned the US government to have you come here and he married you. He obgilated himself to support you by that sponsorship. It is a binding deal, read the Affidavit of support, any good lawyer will tell you the same thing. Marriage is legitimate and legal. The process assures the beneficiary not to become a public charge.

You are here and he wanted you here. He asked his government to have you here and he would provide for you through this process. Find a lawyer who practices divorce and or immigration law. You have all the rights now that you are here and more so you have a sponsor who filed a AOS. The government wants to know who is taking care of you before you get here and who is taking care of you if that marriage fails in the first two years. Let me know if you need help.


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What are the chances that if I go back to the Philippines and cancel my AOS application, I can get a US visa in the future? Im really lost, please help me.

Its hard to say what your chances are to come back to the US. As a tourist? probably slim. There's too many variables still. But IF you do get back to Philippines, make sure you are divoced and make sure you have all the paperworks with you. So when or if you meet someone from the US in the future, you wont have a problem with your K1 or CR1 visa.

Good luck!

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I'd fight at least to stay. It seems to me that you entered into this in good faith, assuming that your relationship and marriage were going to be for all time, and that you had left behind everything to be with your husband, and now he is wanting to send you back like a meal that was not cooked right? If he does divorce you, get some of his money and make sure that your divorce lawyer has him cover the fees for the immigration lawyer that oyu will need to try to fight to stay here. I am fairly incensed at anyone who would enter into this process and then toss it aside so casually after 6 months stranding someone in a place far from home and with no money. It's the sort of fast food, cable channel changer mentality that drives me nuts about most Americans. If there's a problem with something, get a new one, don;t bother trying to fix it. :ranting::ranting:

Sorry just feeling a little stress and let a rant slip through. If your man doesn't want to try to fix things and just wants the quick fix of dumping you and sending you back, then i say get a good lawyer and take him to the cleaners.


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think twice before saying 'I love my husband and dont want a divorce'. why does he want a divorce from you? it seems like he's taking your love for granted.

what kind of guy is your husband? did you get to learn much about his moral character during your engagement? did he respect you & demonstrate love & commitment? because how he treated you during your engagement is the best indication of whether you can trust him. from the clues in your story, it sounds like he might be the unfaithful type who doesn't value commitment, and sees others & sleeps around behind your back. if that's the case, just let him go. he doesn't deserve you, and God will punish him for his sins.

sorry, just don't want to see a fellow woman taken advantage of while she's blinded by love.

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I'm sorry to hear that your marriage didn't work out. It must be hard what you're going through now esp. that you don't have any family or friends to support you here.I would suggest you try to seek a legal advice from an immigration lawyer of your chances of staying here. I hope things will be better for you in the days to come. Good luck and God bless.


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to answer some questions, yes I was petitioned through K1 visa. I dont have really funds for hiring an immigration lawyer and thats why Im here seeking advice on legalities and what i can do to continue to stay here inspite of going through a divorce and not having a greencard yet. im expecting the interview sometime this July but will I be deported because Im going through a divorce or do they wait till its finalized? what do i say during the interview? Im really lost.

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to answer some questions, yes I was petitioned through K1 visa. I dont have really funds for hiring an immigration lawyer and thats why Im here seeking advice on legalities and what i can do to continue to stay here inspite of going through a divorce and not having a greencard yet. im expecting the interview sometime this July but will I be deported because Im going through a divorce or do they wait till its finalized? what do i say during the interview? Im really lost.

Here's a web page that may help you with some of your questions. If the divorce affects your AOS negitavely, you may be able to get your employer to sponsor you on an H class visa. You really need to consider suspending sending all your extra cash back and save for a divorce lawyer.


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Hmmmm always remember there are 2 sides to every story.

Yes and the husbands side is porbably that he was cheating on her before she moved to US & now decided he wants the other girl.

im sorry but something is obviously wrong with him. when someone changes the mind after only a few months of marriage it has to be for some reason and it just sounds like the guy did something behind her back.

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Hi kababayans,

Im new here but need some advice. I came here and got married December 2007. it's May,less than 6 months married and my husband wants a divorce. I love my husband and dont want a divorce but I cant be on a marrige on my own.I

I filed my AOS and EAD on Feb 2008 and just got my EAD card. I'm working now and can barely support myself. I dont really want to return to the philippines right now because of the stigma of divorce.I dont want to be 26 and divorced so early into the marriage. Wala akong mukhang maihaharap. I dont want to go back to all my friends and family with my tail behind my back after I defended this marriage albeit wrongly. I had a good career there and if I return now, I dont have any money on my own because I send my extra cash to my family. This is another reason I dont want to go back-I have siblings I need to support. I'm well educated and have good working experience.

My question is: What are my options after divorce when my AOS is still pending, I dont have a greencard yet and my husband will definitely not support my getting a greencard. He actually wants me to leave ASAP so that I wont be able to get it because we are expecting an interview this June or July or he is afraid Ill be TNT which obviously I wont be doing. What can I do while we are going through the divorce process? I dont even know how long it will take. I was thinking of going to Canada or Middle East instead so atleast Ill still be earning more. What are the chances that if I go back to the Philippines and cancel my AOS application, I can get a US visa in the future? Im really lost, please help me.

Hi nemesis20,

I feel for you. This must be totally devastating for you. But you seem to be a really strong woman to still go on with the battle. Is there really no hope for your marriage? Have you tried to consult a marriage counsellor? Gosh, sorry to sound so romantic but I really believe there still is hope for your marriage.

Well if in case you cannot save the marriage and if your husband has already filed the divorce, then I think you should also consult an immigration lawyer. Maybe you can check the Philippine Embassy in your area if there are people there who can help you out. Or maybe you can check out Gurfinkel Immigration Consultants...i don't know if you have them in your are but they help out Filipinos with immigration problems. Try also searching the internet for free consultation of immigration lawyers, maybe there is one out there who can help you for free.

Will be praying for you. God bless you girl!

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Thank you all so much for the replies.I am trying to work out my marriage. It's complicated.I was not trying to point fingers at anyone nor solicit pity. My husband is not a bad guy. I just stated the facts to ask advice regarding my immigration case. If it really doesnt work out I will try to call Phil embassy or try to get working visa. But I am like other Filipinos who believe marriage is for keeps and problems can be overcome.

Regarding my case:

I logged in at USCIS and it says there that last update was Feb 25, 2008. Seems like no one is working on it. I see most people's cases filed same time as mine being touched. I tried calling but they couldn't help me. Last notice I got was from National Benefits center.

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Yes and the husbands side is porbably that he was cheating on her before she moved to US & now decided he wants the other girl.

im sorry but something is obviously wrong with him. when someone changes the mind after only a few months of marriage it has to be for some reason and it just sounds like the guy did something behind her back.

wow... you are bitter...

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