help us choose plz

[WHsoulmates 0]

wt can i say to describe wt we r feeling now, since she left back to the us 2 days ago all i hav been doing is watching our photos and talking with her on msn, i didnt do anything besides that, it is so hard, this emptiness inside me

i know she is feeling the same and even more all we hav been talking about is getting her back here

and after some thinking we knew that we hav 2 choices :

* either we stick to the usual plan that many of u r applying and fill teh papers from there, and hopefuly we will be together in 8 or 9 months ( we r filling for a k3visa) since she cant visit me that often acctualy we got married on her first visit, waiting all that time is a very hard experience to go through specially that we r both very sensitive people and that she would be by herself in 4months cz her parents r moving to another state leaving her dealing with other problems starting with finding a little flat to rent and the fact that she will be by herself with no one next to her to take care of her plus all the financial problems that would be generated by this

* our second choice is that she leaves the us to come live with me here for at least 6months than we can fill directly at the embassy since she will be considerated as a resident, all she has over there is a car and her job we both know that her boss wont accept to give her any days off to come visit me if by any chance we saved enough moneyplus as he says he is not planning to give her any raise , taking this choice would make it easier on us specially that i hav a house over here and that she gets along in a fabilous way with my family, i may need to hav a second job but it is all good since we will be together , plus filling directly through the embassy will save us money and time cz usually it doesnt take longer than 3months to hav everything done , and u will be travelling to the us with an immigrant visa without having to deal with all the adjustment of statue

if u hav any information or point of view about all this plz share them with us we will be glad to learn from u

[july052007 0]

im sorry that you guys have to be far away.... most of us here are in long distance relationship, most of us here made it and are now together... i dont know what to tell you, but if the most important is being together, do what it takes to be together, it will be hard either ways, but you have to start with something at least to get to the end of waiting... wish you more patience, and keep the faith intact... God bless you...