~July 2007 K-1 Filers~

[Jeraly 4]

Ok - have done a big spreadsheet update (our last two K-1ers have been PM'd - totes -previously TonyandTess- have just been approved at their second interview yesterday after being stuck on AP ) Let me know if anything is amiss

[Jeraly 4]

Wow - dead in here today... I'm triple posting literally hours apart

Anyway - does anyone think I am being too harsh here? I'm sorry - maybe I am tired or something but seriously... is this person a first class moron or am I missing something!?

Oh and if anyone is interested in my roach event of the day then there is an entry in my blog I'm getting braver! I think

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

I couldn´t find it there...on which page is it?

Congratulations to the EAD Rach

[rae_and_scott 1]

I've been super busy with work, so I'll just write this real quick:

There are people still waiting for their K interview?! I feel awful for them. I thought our case took forever.

I haven't read your blog Aly, but last night I saw a roach cross the street it was that big. I'm not kidding. Sometimes I have to remember that NYC is gross.

[Jeraly 4]

I couldn´t find it there...on which page is it?

It was post 360 - I checked the link when I posted it yesterday and it was fine but now it goes to an earlier post and I don't know why...

There are people still waiting for their K interview?! I feel awful for them. I thought our case took forever.

I haven't read your blog Aly, but last night I saw a roach cross the street it was that big. I'm not kidding. Sometimes I have to remember that NYC is gross.

Just a couple - totes are hoping to be together by the end of the month now which is great and am not sure what is going on with pinaylang as they were on AP but I haven't heard back from them yet to find out how they are getting on... it is really sad

Haha - I am getting used to the roaches a bit but they still creep me out!!

[English Muffin 59]

Well not so exciting as EAD, but have my biometrics scheduled (luckily for EAD and AOS) on 16th September Kinda looking forward to the daytrip

Congrats!

Bear in mind that the photo they take of you at biometrics is the one that will go on your EAD and Green Card. I made sure that I had a bit of extra 'slap' on that day.

[Jeraly 4]

Thanks for the heads up Gillian - I'll make sure to put on my posh togs and uber slap Or at least wash my hair

I am sooo glad they don't use the one that you have to submit - the photographer made me push my head back against the wall so I have 25 chins. She also made me take off my glasses and the lighting was such that I look orange. So those photos are kind of like a 25-chinned orange rolypoly person - it just looks nothing like me and yuck - it is possibly the worst photo I have ever had taken!

Pity cause my visa one was ok!

[English Muffin 59]

Thanks for the heads up Gillian - I'll make sure to put on my posh togs and uber slap Or at least wash my hair

I am sooo glad they don't use the one that you have to submit - the photographer made me push my head back against the wall so I have 25 chins. She also made me take off my glasses and the lighting was such that I look orange. So those photos are kind of like a 25-chinned orange rolypoly person - it just looks nothing like me and yuck - it is possibly the worst photo I have ever had taken!

Pity cause my visa one was ok!

I quite like my Green Card photo - one of very few that I do. They told me that I could smile (which suprised me) so I actually look like a 'normal' person and not a convict in a mug shot.

[Jeraly 4]

Oh I know - same with my visa one as well - not like the UK pics where you have to look miserable. I must say I was surprised about having to take my glasses off - I didn't have to for my visa pic...

[Jeraly 4]

Oh dear - somebody slap me

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...p;#entry2189451

I neglected to mention the "spealicist" job and that it must be in huge demand as I had never heard of it. Oh and her husband is called Nad...

Oh come on puhleaseeee.... someone join in on this because it is too funny!!

[rae_and_scott 1]

Anyway - does anyone think I am being too harsh

Ha, I think you were a bit harsh, but who cares. There are plenty of stupid questions to go around, so it's really all right.

So Scott and I have gotten in a fight. We really don't fight much, ever, so I feel like its worse when we actually do. He was supposed to go look for a job... I thought he would yesterday, but he said he wasn't feeling well. So he was going to go today, but then at the end of my workday (and btw, aside from today I have been working 12-hour days, so that doesn't help matters) I find out he's been at home all day. Now, I realize the EAD was only just approved 3 days ago. But I am one of those people that is ready to go, so that once things can happen, I make them happen. Scott is a procrastinator (as was evidenced by the fact that it took him forever to send back our P3 during the winter). I love the man, but damn is this frustrating. I guess it wouldn't matter if I had tons and tons and tons of cash lying around, but I'm sure the majority of you understand what a financial undertaking it is to go through an international move and pay for AOS and all that. To make matters worse, I haven't really worked all summer long until this week (I wanted to but no jobs were coming my way), and I freelance, which means when I don't work, I don't make any money. So thousands of dollars are pouring out when nothing was coming in, I've now got about $6k on my credit card and AGH. Sorry I just need to vent. I know couples fight, but he went to take a walk and I am left here feeling like poo.

Stupid stupid money problems. I should realize they don't matter. I do realize that. It doesn't take the stress away though, and doesn't take back the stupid fight.

[Jeraly 4]

First of all look at the thread I linked to and make fun of the person (in the nicest possible way of course ) - that will make you feel a little better at least

As for the fight - I can relate - Jeremy is much the same. He has been working 12 hour days as well, his job is fine apart from the people he works with - I think I mouthed off already about his fellow manager who basically passes the buck to Jeremy, lets him work all the cr@ppy shifts and deal with all the awkward nasty situations. Anyway - he has been meant to be looking for a new job. He looked once when he was all fired up about things and that was it. Just like the Bank of America (and the $300 they took from us) - he got all fired up, we wrote a three page letter together then nothing was done about it.

I know how you feel it makes me want to shake him because in his situation I wouldn't rest until it was dealt with because it would frustrate me until then.

But from the other side, try to give the guy a bit of a break. It *has* only been three days like you said and I know that I will find it intimidating getting a new job in a new country - maybe he feels the same? Have you asked him? Maybe you can sit down and talk and set a target to apply for X number of jobs a day or week so he doesn't feel like he is never doing enough and you feel like he is at least doing *something*. Perhaps show him your credit card bill and say that because of that, belts will have to be tightened until he can get a job. Cut back on things you don't need (particularly if they are things he enjoys - I know that sounds horrible) and then maybe he will realise the amount of money and support you are putting his way.

Also give him a little time to get his head around working - I know I don't like dealing with change and a situation where I literally am not allowed to work, to overnight being able to is daunting - I know I will prolly need some time just to mentally set myself straight and get my head around the fact that I am able to work now. That might just be me though because I am weird... I hadn't thought of it until now but yeah - I am pretty certain I will freak out

I hope this helps a bit - I just kinda rambled

[rae_and_scott 1]

It does help, thanks Aly. It's always good to get another person's perspective.

You are right; I'm sure he's intimidated about finding a job (especially b/c in Canada he worked retail and feels like somewhat of a failure for not having a "real" career). But yesterday I tried to be really reassuring, b/c the truth is, he does have tons of experience (5 years), even if it is retail, in something he really enjoys, and I'm sure he'll be able to find a similar job here, no sweat. He just has to GO OUT AND DO IT. And I guess that's what frustrates me -- Scott doesn't have 12 hour shifts to keep him busy -- he's home all day long. He's sleeping in while I'm up early getting ready for a long day.

But, I do need to chill out. It's not like this has gone on for weeks. It's been a couple of days. I know I am more high strung with getting things done ASAP and it's not like I don't know that Scott is not this way. This is something we'll be dealing with the rest of our lives, I'm sure! I mean, not the job issue, but the basic personality difference of go-getter vs. procrastinator. The problem is, I never know when I should hold it in (generally unhealthy) or say something. I guess I just need to figure out the right way to say what's on my mind without upsetting him.

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Okay he just came home and I think we've kissed and made up.

Fights suck!!

Thanks for listening Aly.

[Jeraly 4]

Haha - yeah I know what you mean - I have a teaching degree and decided not to go into teaching in the UK so that made me feel bad. Now I am here with my new fresh start and new life and I feel like I should have some 100k a year super job that is fulfilling and something I love - especially as my brother has just got a $22k a year promotion I was always the high flyer of the family and I kinda feel like I lost my "position" to him...

Ahh - sibling rivalry at its best I'm just expecting a *really* great Christmas pressie from him

[tucson_chick 0]

Haha - yeah I know what you mean - I have a teaching degree and decided not to go into teaching in the UK so that made me feel bad. Now I am here with my new fresh start and new life and I feel like I should have some 100k a year super job that is fulfilling and something I love - especially as my brother has just got a $22k a year promotion I was always the high flyer of the family and I kinda feel like I lost my "position" to him...

Ahh - sibling rivalry at its best I'm just expecting a *really* great Christmas pressie from him

hi guys!

our visitors are here. first thing they did was giving #### about how small our bathtub was.

now they are still asleep which gives us time to veg, watch telly and write emails.

the one girl threw up twice after dinner and already once before breakfast. she is so skinny that she will most likely not be able to keep up with our sightseeing plans.

about the jobsearch:

i started looking for jobs (like 8h a day while eric was at work) exactly 2 weeks after i came here and eric was really impatient with me and told me all the stupid time how easy is was to find a job and stuff, i could have killed him.

i was trying so hard and he just made me feel like #######. i was still struggleing with arriving and it hurt my pride that it took me longer to find a job than anticipated. and erics impatience didn't help a whole lot.

*sigh*

i guess i will take the visitors to a mountain or shopping mall and leave them for death.