~July 2007 K-1 Filers~

[*julez* 124]

So hello again everybody I had some troubles with the laptop so couldn´t post for a while again. I noticed Weedebz got her visa in the meantime, so congratulations So I finally managed to put some wedding pics up on the web so there you go you can take a look http://profile.imageshack.us/user/Starbuck17/ Hope you like it

Btw it´s been a month. We are very happy. I settled and am busy all the time doing lotsa different stuff - not working for money yet ofcourse though I hope and believe everyone who is having some troubles right now will be fine it just takes some time.

Hugz everyone

And also I am now officially a July filer too since Aly got me this special certificate, so there I can hang out here without being shout at

Congratualtions Marta!!! You look lovely! Thanks for sharing your pics!

[tucson_chick 0]

congrats marta! BEAUTIFUL pictures!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[bakofoil 27]

What a beautiful bride! You look wonderful, thanks for sharing

[StillThePrettiest 4]

hello all

I've been missing for a while, but not for any big reasons... just been ill, and busy, and away, and feeling a bit stalled in this whole process since we're back to 'nothing's happening' once again *heavy sigh*

anyway, just thought I'd put this slightly random thought out there -

I was talking to a friend the other day about a book we'd both read - she recommended it to me - called The Five Love Languages... I was VERY sceptical of it when she first gave it to me; I don't tend to read self-help books or similar, and this sounded impossibly twee... but she said I should persist, and I'm glad I did

now, to save you having to read it yourself, I'm just going to summarise the main points, on the off-chance that it might be of some use to people here; we're all going into a different phase of our relationships right now, so maybe some reflection might be helpful

the basic premise is that everyone understands love, and displays love, in different ways, and that if you generally show your love one way, when your partner's (or someone else; it's not just about romantic love) 'love language' is something different, then you're likely to run into trouble

the author splits the love languages into the following five:

1. Acts of Service (doing little jobs around the house, etc)

2. Quality Time (stopping everything else to spend time listening, or going somewhere, etc)

3. Words of Affirmation (verbalising the things you like; about their appearance, the way they do something etc)

4. Gifts (obvious! but not restricted to the expensive stuff )

4. Physical Touch (also obvious, but NOT always sexual! sometimes just a hand on the arm etc can be enough )

the idea is to think about how you best understand love, and how you demonstrate love to other people (often the same, but not always), and then to think about your partner, and what his/her main love language is

it's been so interesting talking to people about this; it seems so simple - simplistic, even - and yet sometimes it's so easy to miss... someone might go out of their way to always do the dishes and take out the garbage and vacuum once a week, but if their partner's love language is Quality Time, there might still be issues

anyway, that's a VERY brief summary, but I hope it's of use to some people... just thought it was worth sharing

[a-jeanne 2]

Congratulations Marta - awesome wedding pictures. You're beautiful!

Weedebz - CONGRATULATIONS on your approval in case I didn't say it earlier.

I have been away for a while from VJ - so much to do. Phil already received packet 3 and we have sent that off to the embassy - in fact he dropped it off when he arrived back home last week. We are just waiting now for the interview date. He already had the physical and is glad to have that over with.

How long between sending packet 3 in and getting an interview scheduled? Do they let you know by letter or can you go on line and check? Stupid questions again I know...

Phil's trip last week was uneventful through immigration. The only question they asked - "what do you do for a living?" That was it. He is planning a trip on March 15th if we don't have the interview by then. He has also extended his work and will retire on March 31st instead of February 29th. The plan was changed because he is going to Bangkok for his school reunion in April and will go back to England afterwards to get his belongings and head home on the K-1. So, he is trying to get one more trip to see me before the Bangkok trip. I have decided not to go as 40 hours on a plane in a weekend will be a bit much for me. It took me almost a month to get over Figi - can't imagine Bangkok!

Hope everyone is doing well - I have to check on CBR to see where she is...

[a-jeanne 2]

[Ovaltine Jenkins 5]

Thanks everyone I got the dress in Czech

Concerning the book of Five love languages...it´s interesting. Though you can view love from many other angles like that. Like when somebody is just the giver or just the taker (of whatever...feelings, thoughts, gifts, fun, etc). I think people should try to find the balance in things. There are so many different people out there and each of them looks for or appreciates different qualities. Therefore it´s not that easy to find your match. The Five love languages is something that could be applied on friendships too I think. Same with the giver/taker...sometimes some people just seem to suck out of you all the time which can make you upset or something, but then if you look at the person from a different point of view then you can find a giver in him/her too...so it´s kinda complicated ;-)

[StillThePrettiest 4]

you're exactly right, Marta

of course, there are many, many angles and ways to view relationships... I would never suggest this is the be-all and end-all, but I found it worthwhile enough to want to share it

and you're right, too, that this can be useful in friendships, and family relationships, and so on... when I fist started to discuss it with my friend we found it so illuminating to talk about our families, and mutual friends, and try to work out their LL

I guessed you got the dress in Czech... it reminded me of some of the exquisite work I've seen there

you truly do look SO beautiful in those photos, and Scott looks so happy!

[*julez* 124]

Audrey - you can call the US DOS to see if Phil's interview has bee scheduled. US State Department: (202) 663-1225 - press 1, then 0. You should hear something in a few weeks, and maybe even sooner! I'm glad things are finally moving along for you guys!!!

And you can count me amongst those who are tired of the snow! As is Griff! He keeps asking when to expect spring weather and I keep telling him May. I think the weather is the thing he has the most difficulty coping with. Although, he's already adopting the true Buffalo attitude toward weather, so if its 30 degrees and sunny, he's like, "Its a gorgeous day! Not too cold today!", or "Well, at least we didn't get more snow last night" So, I think he'll survive.

[StillThePrettiest 4]

Audrey - you can call the US DOS to see if Phil's interview has bee scheduled. US State Department: (202) 663-1225 - press 1, then 0. You should hear something in a few weeks, and maybe even sooner!

that's how we found out

still nothing via snail mail

[tucson_chick 0]

congratulations for the interview!!!!!

big news here: i have a job interview on friday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

the job isn't my dreamjob and the pay is only mediocre, but it would be a start!

FREE HUGS FOR EVERYBODY!!!!!!!!!!!

[bakofoil 27]

Congrats on the interview! I really hope you get the job!

I finally got Packet 3. The embassy sent it to the wrong address so it was delayed for a week whilst being redirected. I phoned NVC TWICE to ensure they had my new address and they even read it back to me. Grrr!

Anyway, I overnighted it to London. So, hopefully no more setbacks or delays.

[StillThePrettiest 4]

that's great news, babblesgirl! one more thing off your mind

I'm a bit behind, Tucson... did you get the employment stamp at JFK? or is this an interview to start after you do AOS?

[tucson_chick 0]

that's great news, babblesgirl! one more thing off your mind

I'm a bit behind, Tucson... did you get the employment stamp at JFK? or is this an interview to start after you do AOS?

i went through JFK and got the stamp and applied for AOS 12 days after arriving here, so i hope that my EAD arrives before the stupid stamp expires.

i'm crashing in front of the TV since over 2h, unable to move or motivate myself to do anything *sigh*

[my_lany_23 0]

So hello again everybody I had some troubles with the laptop so couldn´t post for a while again. I noticed Weedebz got her visa in the meantime, so congratulations So I finally managed to put some wedding pics up on the web so there you go you can take a look http://profile.imageshack.us/user/Starbuck17/ Hope you like it

Btw it´s been a month. We are very happy. I settled and am busy all the time doing lotsa different stuff - not working for money yet ofcourse though I hope and believe everyone who is having some troubles right now will be fine it just takes some time.

Hugz everyone

And also I am now officially a July filer too since Aly got me this special certificate, so there I can hang out here without being shout at

thank you so much for sharing your wedding pictures... You are such a nice couple-.--

as for us.... our interview and medical had been today ..............and.......................

WE ARE APPROVED yeah its over (at least for now)