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    Denied !

    in Africa: Sub-Saharan

    Posted

    First, I am so sorry for your heartbreak. But all isn't lost. You'll get through this and file or whatever and in time be with your baby. Okay now to business.

    Remember this is Lagos so much is expected. High fraud embassy some say in a category all its own. Yet it can be conquered and it has. As others have stated a full indication of the questions can help maybe guide us to help why they came to this decision.

    But some things to process now is this:

    1. Is there a big age difference where the woman (I assume the USC) is older.

    2. Married before, with children

    3. Recent divorce since you two started dating.

    4. Your visit was a short visit

    5. No pictures with friends or family. Especially family.

    6. Did you have as evidence receipts you sent fiancé money.

    Good to have those or not?

    7. Beneficiary has been petitioned before

    8. Petitioner has petitioned other immigrants before.

    9. Filed petition fast. Like after meeting for first time, within a year of meeting.

    Just some red flag issues that Lagos really consider in their "for immigration purposes".

    The biggest thing to knock out red flags is face time as many visits as you can for as long as you can.

    What is okay at other embassies won't hold here.

    Again I am sorry.

    missing husband

    in Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits

    Posted

    I'm sorry to say, but all this talk of revoke this, contact this, report this...blah blah blah...is all pretty much useless and he will stay in the states and be granted all he wishes to be granted. There are a million ways he will make the system work in his favor. My ex-husband did this to me. We were together, he came to the states, and shortly thereafter he met up with other Nigerians and they all advised him on how he could beat the system and he did. He started an argument with me one day over a phone call and before I knew it ..he was leaving. I cried and begged for him not to leave, but he just kept going. I had no idea where he was staying, he changed his phone number, didnt reply to my emails, etc. I went to homeland security 2 weeks later and reported him gone and told them i suspected fraud. After all this...I found out he said I thru him out of the house, treated him bad, etc. He was granted ALL that he wished for and my name was dragged thru the mud just to save himself. If anyone at the USCIS or any of these places had a brain, they wud reason that why would someone go thru ALLLLL I had to go thru to have him come here, just to throw him out? I mean get real. I was the best wife anyone could be to someone, but they dont even contact you to get your side of the story. They protected him as if he was some victim !!! So please dont waste your time and energy trying to fight anything or get him deported or anything. LET HIM GO. Just move on with your life and put all this behind you. You've spent a LONGGG time going thru the process of having him be there with you...dont waste anymore of your life now trying to undo the process....bcuz in the end, it wont work anyways!! The man I am with now, said something to me, that I will now say to you: This guy you were with and all he did to you...

    "one day he will surely be paid with the same coin that he spent".

    :thumbs:

    Remember me?

    in Africa: Sub-Saharan

    Posted · Edited by MnnnB

    Yeah I know Oluyole so very well.. I use to live @ Idi Ishin..Jericho n have couple of friendz along Orita Challenge. I know Top One Garden so well...been there alot of times!!

    Ghana Residence Permit

    in Africa: Sub-Saharan

    Posted

    Hi Folks, A friend at work just introduced me to to this website..Please I really need your urgent response to this post. Here is my story. I am a USC and my fiance is a Nigeria who has been living in Ghana Illegally for 4yrs now. I have visited him in Ghana couple of times and we also went to Nigeria to see his family. We got our packet 3 and 4 with interview date at the Accra consulate just yesterday and we learnt that he will need a residence permit before he can be granted an interview.. Now our concern are these:

    During my visit to him, he was in Ghana Illegal and most of our proof of relationship are from Ghana.

    He's been doing his own business in Ghana and for him to get a residence permit, he will have to register his business which he is cool with. But now he is confused, thinking there would be a problem during his interview because he was an illegal residence during my visits to him in Ghana and now his Ghana residence permit will be issued close to his interview date.

    Does anyone knows how this will work...

    Remember me?

    in Africa: Sub-Saharan

    Posted

    I usually don't get on vj. But when my fiancee read this to me I had to reply. My sister from what I have read. Sometimes we as black women say what we want. But when we get it we are not accustomed to receiving "real" Love. So when a man is comfortable enough to share his feelings with us. Which in most cases is a hard thing for men to do. We don't believe that what he is saying is real. Because in truth we are asking ourselves "How and why does he Love me so much?" The answer is simply beloved. Because YOU deserve to be Loved in such a way. This question is in no means to make mockery of your post. But have you really taken a moment and read what your saying about YOUR husband? Please...please...please pray to your God and ask him to help you heal those wounds that you have endured in past relationships. There's a such thing called Dianetics check into it. I myself am checking into it as well. Because the things that you are doing are things that "we" do when we are afraid of Love. We want it so bad. But when we get it we tend to not know what to do with it. My fiancee expresses himself just like your husband does. And I used to feel just like you do. But one day I woke up and said "WHY NOT ME?!" Why can't I have a man that trusts me with his heart. And Loves me ssssoooo much. A man that Loves me just as hard as I Love him? I deserve that kind of Love. And the moment I stopped being afraid and started to accept his Love. Things became easy. The devil is out to kill, rob an destroy anything God has put in order. Don't let the devil use you to destroy what you Love. It not easy to find good men these days. And if you're looking for the perfect man you might as well stop looking beloved. Because none of us are perfect. What's wrong with that brother feeling good about home? What's wrong with him kicking back and feeling proud of where he has been blessed to be? I want my fiancee to stick his chest out every time he wakes up in the morning. I want him to feel like the King that he is. Because I am happy when he is happy. Home is where the heart is.

    There will be differences because you are from two different cultures. I knew when I met my fiancee that if I wanted our relationship to work. I would have to change my way of thinking. Being humble and submissive isn't easy when one has been the rock for so long. For some reason we as Black America women feel if we humble ourselves and become more submissive to our man we are giving up our power. When in fact the power lies in being submissive and humble. If you want a healthy marriage you must be willing to change. And if he Loves you he will do the same. And you have already said that he is changing.

    As for you comment about his level of maturity. I must say that you coming here on vj where thousands of people. Strangers as well as his family and friends can read the things that you are saying about YOUR husband. Isn't very mature. This is YOUR HUSBAND that you are talking about. Referring to as a negro. Really?! There are single women looking for a man that expresses his Love. And works on becoming a better man for his woman. And here you are on world wide internet putting your marriage on blast. For Real?! Not only are you putting your marriage on blast. You even have your photos on here for everyone to see. This act of immaturity is just NOT cool.

    All I can say is that I pray that you get it before it's to late. Like they say "You don't miss your water until your well runs dry" IJS!

    Here is a poem I wrote the day I asked myself 'WHY NOT ME?'

    You know we get so messed up so often by these men. When a man comes along that simply wants to Love us. We say "He is to much how can he Love ME that much?" He is doing everything that a REAL MAN should do. But yet we shut down. Because of our own insecurities and mistrust. We have been let down so many times and had our hearts treated as if our heart doesn't even matter ( so often by the same brotha). Our delicate hearts so fragile and bruised snatched out at will and then loaned back to us when HE is ready to Love us back. Tossed to the side and forgotten about. Like a mistake in a book that has been erased. We make ourselves not Love back. But you know what! I had to open my eyes and say "WHY NOT ME!" So I had to learn how to receive REAL LOVE and know that I am WORTHY of it. And at the same time trusting enough to give REAL LOVE back. Never thought that I would ever hear myself say those words. But if I don't keep it real I am not the ~SoLiD~ woman that I say I am. ~SoLiD~ #HesBreakingDownMyWall!

    Im sad today

    in Off Topic

    Posted · Edited by MnnnB

    could these be early warning signs?

    has anybody else had fights with their loved one for the littlest things. I understand the distance is having an effect on us. just curious what fights you guys have had.

    We do have issues but never last for 2dayz...Mind you, it can never be ALWAYZ rossy..Dnt let that discourage you.

    Should we Lawyer up?

    in Africa: Sub-Saharan

    Posted

    exactly you have answered your own question what can a lawyer really do? And in Lagos a lawyer or no lawyer there is no "swaying" There have been older women in the Nigerian portal that have been successful. What you need to do is just start and be detailed and organized and make sure u address the age difference like are you out of child bearing age etc....It has been done so it is possible. Goodluck

    How do you address the age difference??

    Visa Approved

    in Africa: Sub-Saharan

    Posted

    Good day all,

    I want to thank my God for the success of y interview and all VJ members. The Visa has been approved, i am now making arrangement to travel. Praise thy Lord. Halleluya.....

    These are the questions they asked

    1. Who petition for you?

    2. When did you meet?

    3. How did you meet?

    4. What is your brother's name?

    5. Which school did my husband attend in Nigeria before he travelled?

    6. Which school did i attend?

    7. The course he attended in Nigeria

    8. Why study Nursing since he read Law in Nigeria

    9. Did he find it difficult getting a job?

    10. Did you meet in school?

    11. Where does he work?

    12. What does he do?

    13. Where does he live, city and state only

    14. Which church did he go to?

    15. How often do you talk on phone?

    16. What do you talk about?

    17. Does he have problem in his place of work?

    18. You filed for K1 before

    19. You had problem with Khurt. (Who is Khurt?)

    You have a lot of document, ok I am going to issue you a visa, thank you, pick it up next week. The CO did not even ask of any document I came with, she was going through the one my husband filed from the uscis. I thank my God for everything.

    Congrats

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