Nicoco

i feel that you should atleast have a heart for all the couples who are undergoin the wait for K1 process...the longingness of each other, the frustrations, the stress of waiting, emotionally draining, etc. because you yourself have undergone it...i think this is not a fraternity group wherein you were beaten up so you wanted the others who is following your step to get a harder dose of what you had...making it harder for us? to be honest...i think when you really love a person, a day without her/him is not complete...so being away for 5months and so on (waiting for process to be done) is more than each one could bear...but see...here we are, just waiting patiently because we are inlove and would wish to be with the man/woman we prayed for to be with us til we breathe our last. Sorry, but i dont like the idea of making it harder for us.

Heh, complain that HIS marriage was a hard and had a lot of struggle, so equates HIS problems with his marriage with everyone else. I'm sorry but don't compare your relationship to anyone here. Just because you had a hard time doesn't mean everyone here will experience the same problems you had.
Anyway, my fiancee and I have been together (or you can say apart since we are separated by 8000 miles of land and sea) for over 6 years, I lived with her in her country 3 months out of the year and we get along great. I see us doing the same when we get married in the US and live together. I'm just tired of the distance like everyone here. I'm tired waking up and she's not beside me. I'm tired of talking through the phone or through video chat as if it's the same thing as in person. I'm tired that our plans to marry and one day start a family hinges on the decision of someone else. It's like you can't even control your own life when you're stuck in the visa process. It's not like in the movies where they fall in love and the credits start rolling... in my movie all I see is me checking my case status a hundred times a day online just to see "Initial Review" slap across my face.

Who are we to judge? Couples meet at a bar, get married 3 months later and nobody is taking their rights to get married because of that. I had seen my fiance twice when we applied, spoke sometimes up to 5 hours daily in a long distance relationship for more than a year, and yet had to wait 7 months just for my POE AND I can tell you I'm in love and ready to get married. So, what If somebody told us a "no" because of a criteria such as yours?...

Agreed 100%.

No. Just no. Yes to giving us more time to plan a wedding but thats about it. Not everyone has an awesome job that makes lots of $$$ but we still deserve to get married to the one we love and have them live with us. Especially since he will be saving up money in Australia while its processing, and getting a job as soon as his AOS is done. Did the people saying raise the income requirement ever think that the beneficiary is a man sometimes? When we have kids I'm going to be the housewife and he will be working, so how much I'm making by myself doesn't matter in the long run (except to the US govt. for me sponsoring him and for helping him support us before we have children). This is what we want for our relationship and we both agree to it.
My man has a college degree and can get a better job than me. I couldn't afford to go to college after high school (though I haven't given up on going). Should I have to be punished for this, when there are ways of living a decent comfortable life on 125% of the poverty line? We have roommates, we'll have savings, and between his savings and my job we will be able to pay our bills and live decently until he gets the ability to work in this country. And its all doable on just ~$18000/yr.
Its not like I'm his welfare check, if someone really loves someone enough to marry them they won't want to be a burden on them. There is no doubt in my mind that the govt's requirement for me to sponsor him is unfounded. I know that they don't know everyone who comes here and want to make sure they don't bleed the system, and I accept that and am willing to comply. But its a bit offensive for people to say there is no way to live a decent life on $18000 a year, when AMERICAN couples do it all the time, and especially since I myself have never taken welfare or unemployment and my life is just fine.
Anyway...rant over Basically don't judge unless you've walked it, because nothing is impossible if you want it bad enough

Even if the k1 divorce rate is 40% as you say... That is still about right on target with the rest of the national average of couples who met here, married here and dated for months...whatever. I dont know how hard this was for you....but because it was made so hard for my husband and myself, we have now waited 2 years and 3 months and still arent even at nvc yet! So....im so glad for you that your spouse is with you, but I wouldnt be so quick to wish it harder as a generalization on anyone in this forum. We already have it hard emotionally and financially and this is not an easy process. Not at all from where im sitting. And I sure would hate to think it couldnt happen at all if I hadnt gone to college. My grandparents have never been over the poverty line their whole lives. They had the happiest 55 years of anyone I ever met.

I'm working my butt off and I am still over the 125% requirement, but I'm scared that I won't make it because BKK doesn't allow co-sponsors. How is this fair to me? OP, are you telling me that because I don't make as much as you, I shouldn't be allowed to marry my fiance?

I'm not a K1, I'm a CR1 who is still waiting for approval.
I think the process is already hard enough for the majority of folk on here. I like many others can,t afford to travel back and forth to the USA on a regular basis to see my husband, he can't take weeks and weeks off work to visit us, we will not see each other again until POE.
It's hard. We were apart for our first wedding anniversary and we are going to miss spending thanksgiving, Christmas, new year, my birthday and maybe even valentines day together again. My son misses his step dad, it's hard for a 6 year old to go though this.
As for the statistics on failed marriages, well any relationship can break down under normal circumstances. This process has killed off a good few VJ members relationships because this process took them past breaking point.
I hope that when I'm all done and dusted and back in the arms of my husband, and know I don't have to leave him thousands of miles away ever again, I can look back and think it wasn't so bad.
I will never forget how hard this process has been and will never tell anyone that is going through it that it should be harder for them than it was for me.

This kind of thing makes me want to go back to school and work in immigration for a job. (after all of this, we should know enough )
I wish you luck. I'm so sorry this happened to you two.
It will be ok, even if it doesn't seem like it now.
You can get through this. Don't cry, dear.
Keep us posted.

YES the senators can help with the visa. something is strange about this, i think the officer who interviewed you had a VERY bad day and she was trying to make the people as miserable as she was. dont give up. NEVER give up, there's always hope and if you two fight with all your weapons there's no way you wont succeed. two heads always think better than one

I JUST RECEIVED AN EMAIL FROM USCIS AND WE GOT APPROVED!!!!!!!!!!!!! YAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!! I'm so happy!!! It's the best feeling ever!!!!! Good luck to the rest of you guys still waiting! It will come!!!!!!! I know it will!!!

That's is SOOOOO awesome!!! YAY May Filers and VSC. I'm so stoked!! Last night for a while my timeline was jumping. It was crazy. Said September 8th for a minute. Now September 11th...Do do do doooooooo....lol
I'm hopeful....but it's in God's hands now.

OOH, now I see what you're talking about, damn you scared me lol thought you still lived with your ex, or, idk had to ask for permission
Anyway, man be easy now, have LOTS of patience with your "asawa ko", don't get too frustrated with the rest of the journey, it's all part of the process and soon enough you'll be done with it, you're with her now, and she'll be "home" soon. Focus on what it's important now, and well, my two cents is, if your ex it's so unhappy like you said, don't make your FUTURE wife go through this, don't let her meet your ex just because you want to show off your happiness. Jealousy it's a real bad thing, and can ruin a relationship forever if you don't watch out for it.
Only love your darling, take care of her and try to not complain as much as before! lol Good luck

@OP: Maybe you have a special vision problem......but I'm 20 years old and I'm a -9 in both eyes. Without contacts, or glasses, I can't see further than five inches from my face.....
What does it have to do with anything anyway?
.........btw I'm half Filipina (not that it has anything to do with anything either...)

SO, he saw the guard 6 feet away from him? And he has an eyesight problem? And he was without glasses? And he needs the girl to go everywhere?
Let's get some things straight?
I believe that anyone who has an eyesight problem, especially that bad, would never forget the glasses, or even if anyone ever did, you'd find a way to get a new one, or yours by mail, etc. That being said, I see clearly a real big MUD - Made-Up Drama, I believe the OP might have some problem, but well none of his pictures he's wearing his so important and expensive glasses. You're failing since the beggining buddy.
Another thing I see that seems very wrong is, if he trusts his fiancee so much, why he didn't give her the money in advance, knowing about his ''condition''? Why she didn't ask you for it while you was still at the hotel?? Or if she did, why didn't you trust her?? When my fiancé was in Brazil, as soon as we'd exchange money, I'd keep half of it, if not ALL of his money, because here, Iam the citizen, I know about the place, where to go or not, how to react to certain situations and people, or how to deal with money in public, and HE is the foreign, so for his (and mine) safety, we had to plan. That being said, made my fiancé realize that I wasn't trying to ''keep his money for myself'', but keeping BOTH of us safe if we were out, we'd divide the money between the two of us in advance, while at home, just in case. Things always worked, and we were never caught up in a bad situation.
I've been reading his posts since he joined VJ, and all I see is a big guy who acts like A KID when doesn't get what he wants, the way he wants, when he wants it. All in all, WHY DIDN'T YOUR FIANCEE PUT YOU IN A SAFE PLACE, CALMED YOU DOWN, AND TOLD YOU TO WAIT??? WHERE IS SHE IN THIS WHOLE SITUATION? (okay, at the medical, but still). She never says a word? You act like a fool, in her home country and what does she says?
Buddy, you're not in America, you do not rule anything there, not even in your own country (go figure, this is why you're going through this process like everyone else), you need to respect the rules and be THANKFUL if SLEC didn't send an email to the consulate to mess with your life. You should be focusing on what the future holds, the good things, and take others advices. Everyone here tried to help you, but you didn't care. You're lucky if she gets the visa, while others (who have more sense) are still waiting. And do not need to reply to this, if you'll say another excuse.
Anyway, I wish you good luck, more sense, and patience for your future wife.

@OP: Maybe you have a special vision problem......but I'm 20 years old and I'm a -9 in both eyes. Without contacts, or glasses, I can't see further than five inches from my face.....
What does it have to do with anything anyway?
.........btw I'm half Filipina (not that it has anything to do with anything either...)

@OP: Maybe you have a special vision problem......but I'm 20 years old and I'm a -9 in both eyes. Without contacts, or glasses, I can't see further than five inches from my face.....
What does it have to do with anything anyway?
.........btw I'm half Filipina (not that it has anything to do with anything either...)

@OP: Maybe you have a special vision problem......but I'm 20 years old and I'm a -9 in both eyes. Without contacts, or glasses, I can't see further than five inches from my face.....
What does it have to do with anything anyway?
.........btw I'm half Filipina (not that it has anything to do with anything either...)

@OP: Maybe you have a special vision problem......but I'm 20 years old and I'm a -9 in both eyes. Without contacts, or glasses, I can't see further than five inches from my face.....
What does it have to do with anything anyway?
.........btw I'm half Filipina (not that it has anything to do with anything either...)

hmmm generally speaking, you're right. but there are times when calling your wife/fiancee by her country name is actually funny. well....i seriously find it funny when my fiance calls me "his crazy romanian wife" or "crazy white woman" LMAO. he did then when talking to my mom and i found it funny as hell, not a bit rude or insulting

im nobody to give you advice, but did you consider not being in the spotlight right before the interview? it could cause you trouble. stay unnoticed until after she has the visa in hand, after that you can explode.

VJ Family -
My fiancee finally arrived on Friday 9/2 and my family and I were waiting for her with flowers and balloons at airport. I didn't travel with her.
During her POE, not a single questions was asked she explained. She was just asked for the brown/yellow envelopes since we front loaded application (there were 2). It took about 5 minutes. Harassment level was zero.
It's an awesome feeling to have my beautiful fiancee next to me. We live in San Francisco and she's been adjusting to the weather.
I bought her a North Face coat before she came and it came in handy. She definitely needed it. She seems really happy and already spoke to her parents via Skype a few times. Her parents miss her but happy.
As I mentioned before, being with my fiancee couldn't have been possible without your guidance.
For those still waiting, I'm sure when the time comes, it will be awesome for you as well.

Who's WE? Speak for yourself! Your post EVEN made me feel embarassed. Sheeesh!!!
That's a three bonker. :bonk:

btw - did she passed the medical exam? If she did then that is huge as many of us have to have the sputum culture test. If she has passed then who the hell cares what happened before she passed the exam? She passed for cripe sake. That's more than half the battle right there.

I was thankful the day I found something pure. You know when you play that game the Sims, your character must choose an aspiration, or a life goal? Do you notice how you, playing as God, choose for them by making them like and understand things that pertain to their goal instead of telling them straight out, “this is what you were made for?” They grow and slowly realize that what they want to do in life and more importantly, WHY. It’s something they discover through living life. And for me, I was working for something "pure."
I had a lot of unpure things happen to me in the last two years. And amongst those things, I found Ice. He wanted to marry me. At age 20!! It's rare to find a guy, especially like him, the typical GUY, to want to marry. I was 19. He wanted to marry me. He said he would find me when we got older if we had to be apart for a long time. But we decided to stay together when he went back to Thailand.
And I can't explain the feeling of PURE sadness, sadness because of pure LOVE, but it's a wonderful feeling that is unfortunate to have when you're getting on that plane to leave him or her, but it reminds you that you have something that nobody can take away. And THAT is what I'm thankful for.
As far as something that happened that was cute this week.....he's been quite mean to me lately, actually. He's taking diet pills and it's giving him depression and he's taking it out on me. But when I said "you're so heartless, honey..." he said "that's cause you stole my heart." That was kind of cute.