JudyKCski

I really appreciate your posting your experience - currently I am not sure if we will go to Buffalo or Rochester for my fiance's AOS after we get married - at least you gave me a heads up as to what to expect!

Congratulations

Judy

Western NY (Allegany Co.)

If your time line is up to date - he has had his interview but it has not yet been approved?

Realizing you have spent time and money in this process up to date and with the miles there are right now between you - I would kindly suggest you send a email to the embassy with his name and the visa numbers you have for him and ask them to stop the process. Tell them what you have told us and tell them you are having second thoughts and then tell them you are going to withdraw your petition. (Someone I am sure can tell you how you go about formally withdrawling your petition on VJ)

Men like your fiance have a way of bouncing back - so do not worry about his feelings. Please do however think of your feelings - you NEED to be TRUE TO YOURSELF first. Do you want to live the rest of your life not being able to be yourself? Personally I was married to a man who was very controlling and believe me you can talk yourself into accepting a lot of stuff even though you know yourself it is not right. Later on all you do is feel very resentful and bitter towards them because you are not being yourself any longer. Please do not make a mistake that could cost you your very soul or life. Remember in some middle eastern countries women are NOTHING.

I for one would not dare to make a trip across the border until things were sorted out. Not quite sure it would be worth the chance of not being able to come back over. Maybe the girlfriends family should make the trip across for the holidays to your friends place would solve things for the short term anyway as it looks like your friend has a long uphill battle ahead of him.

i just wondering what if the embassy didnt receive the medical record yet and its already the day of interview..is the interview should be resched or still can do interview?

I do not think you should worry about it - my fiance had his interview with the embassy doctor later on the same day as his appointment and it took them at least 2 weeks to get the results to the embassy.

Judy

Looks like some of you will be able to go to the Canadian side - however it is nice looking at the Falls from the US side too... just a thought

My brother (US citizen) does not have a passport - he is joint sponsoring with me my fiance who is Norwegian. Why would you have to send proof of citizenship for the joint sponsor anyway as long as they are a citizen?

Just a question only - perhaps it has been a long day and it is time for bed

okay.. so when AOS comes I will possibly have to prove my brother was born in the US?

She is 3years older than me .I think i become parano of lot of persons who their visa's was denied lol

lol I am 12 years older than he is.. age does not make a difference! It is all in how young you think anyways - that is what my 104 year old grandmother said anyway haha.

I think a good sit down discussion is in order - take a blank piece of paper and put the plus and the minus down. Deep down there are alot of men who want to leave a piece of them on this world.

I had this discussion with my then boyfriend (now fiance'). He is now 39 has no children and never had the desire to have any children let alone get married then. He was so angry at me when I had suggested this to him because he is so nice and sweet to find a local girl - get married and have children - as you see - I was the one who felt I was keeping him from what I 'thought' most men wanted. I am 53 and had my baby making machine removed when I was 28 - and I have 2 adult children - and 2 grandchildren aged: 3 and 7 months. BUT I can tell you that 'if' he wants to have a child we can always be a foster parent. Even at my age if it was a possibility to have a baby I am not quite so sure if I would say yes or no - HOWEVER - one does not have to be a biological parent to be a Mommy or a Daddy. I am just happy to know if something happened to my daughter than his answer to me when I told him I would want to raise the children he said "I would not expect any less."

As I suggested above.. write down the plusses and the minuses - you may be surprised as to how you come out.

Good luck to you

I was told by my work to add him as my husband to my insurance as soon as we married as I have just gone back to full time I will be eligible for insurance in October (3rd months of full-time) instead of waiting until the 1st of January and adding him then - so guess we may have to plan on marrying prior to 1st Jan. Guess we will see.

Dee really sorry for what you have been though. I do agree that if your husband grew up with that sort of abusive behavior it may have been passed onto him OR he knows the difference between right and wrong and can steer clear of it.

Another thought and I am not condoning their behavior however I had a step-grandmother who was from Virginia too... they have very odd customs that have been handed down though the ages - some of the ideas they have are absolutely astounding - some are 'hill people' with very strange customs and ideas. Perhaps you should have a discussion with your husband and ask him if there is anything else as far as beliefs in the area.

There are some people who do actually believe if you cross a black cats path it will give you bad luck. I DO know that in Virginia (some areas) you better not even think of rocking a rocking chair without someone in it - alot of people actually believe in "Old wives tales". There must be some sort of a belief if you are outside at night maybe the boogey man will get you or something of that sort ask your hubby and find out. Also, some areas have really strange laws.. holding hands - public displays of affection and such.

Sorry for rambling.. I actually did ask my fiance when I was in Norway about local laws etc - I did not want to be one arrested for what I can normally do at home. haha

Good luck!

Not sure if Finland is like in Norway but when my fiance got his it covered his entire lifetime and he only had to go to the local police department to get a application and return it - they in turn sent him a letter that said he had no police record show up.

If you were a LEGAL resident in another country you would have to get a record from that country also. BUT if you were just traveling outside of the country on holiday I would not think you would have to do anything else. Perhaps someone else knows the answer.. good luck

Not sure if Finland is like in Norway but when my fiance got his it covered his entire lifetime and he only had to go to the local police department to get a application and return it - they in turn sent him a letter that said he had no police record show up.

hi everyone, i need your help. My fiance who's in edinburg TX doesn't know where to get his single status affidavit. i need it for my Prism/CFO seminar here in the philippines. Do u have any idea where he could get it and how much will it cost? thank u so much = )

We do not have those type of papers. BUT if he comes armed with his most recent income tax transcripts it shows your "status", be it Married, Single etc.

If he was married before he will want to bring a copy of his divorce decree.

Just for your reference, here is the link where I found this out http://www.visajourney.com/content/i130guide1

It can also be used for a K1 fiance visa also

Hi,

If I am to use my U.S. passport as proof of citizenship, do I send a copy of the bio page only or the entire passport? I am hesitant to use my birth certificate only because I recently had it corrected and the correction mite trigger an RFE (basically my name was spelled wrong and they just drew a line over it and wrote the corrected version above.) Not sure if that would be a problem. Thanks!

I had sort of the same problem because I had them correct something on my birth certificate when I got my copy for my passport.

I copied the entire passport including front cover to back. Because I used the inner pages it is stamped showing I went to and exited Norway for proof of being there and meeting my fiance). When you type out your cover page have it refer to the copies of your passport you included.

This way it serves a dual purpose. Shows your citizenship AND visitation to your fiance.

I obtained from my former squadron an A5 sized official stamped document titled "Royal Air Force Reserve and Royal Auxiliary Air Force Brief Statement of Service & Certificate on Discharge". It states my name, rank, dates of service, date of discharge, reason for discharge and remarks on conduct, proficiency etc.

Thanks again for your time!

All you need is what you posted you have. My fiance served in the National Guard. Got a copy of when he entered and when he was discharged from duty. Just make sure you make a copy of your Discharge paper and give them the copy but have the original handy if they choose to look at it when you have your interview. Do remember to bring all of your important papers (originals) to the states when you come.

Judy

Only thing to what they have all said that I might add.. is I put my fiance's name and the number the embassy gave me at the top of each and every paper he sent to the embassy that did not have his name nor the number on.

Judy

Truthfully I think it is all a money scam... In my case on Continental there is a dedicated run every day to Norway and a dedicated return to Newark. I have yet to see empty seats. I also may add there are hundreds of people on a list in case someone does not show up for their flight. SO, to charge 2 times more for a 1 way ticket I do not understand the reasoning. I figure on the 10 trips to Norway (20 total back and forth) they can suffer the loss of 1 trip in return. Worse comes to worse I guess I could always use my frequent flyer miles haha.

Hi Vanessa,

I do agree with you however that I had better begin preparing the appropriate information to send over.

Could very well be that they will ask for that. Had I known that these matters would be so complicated, I would have simply disclosed it to begin with.

We are making the presumption that they will DEFINITLEY do something about that.

But I do want to thank you for your post. You have given me more food for thought. Even if I HATE your answer!

Better to be armed with the truth and be prepared than get run over while pretending the train isn't coming.

Best

Just as a FYI I can understand from your point of view etc. Myself, I also said "no" and added amending piece of paper explaining "why" I answered "no" . On this ammending paper told the date of the event, where it happened. Think it was harrassment 2nd degree. That I was left on my own recongnizance, appeared in court and where, pled guilty and paid the fine.

I am very happy that I did this ... I did not go into details as to what happened in my explaination just also sent a little message at the bottom that I work with developmentally disabled and have undergone my background check and continue to work where I do.

My fiance (then friend) of course knew of the entire event after it happened and when he was asked in his interview at the embassy if he knew I had slapped my ex-husbands face, he told them he was entirely aware of it that after so many years of being controlled by my ex-husband I snapped and slapped his face.

So, all I can say is ALWAYS tell the truth and make sure your significant other also knows your history and be aware that even if you do not go to jail or appear in court that those records ARE THERE no matter how big or little.

I read in your profile that you made lots of 3-month trips to Norway-- I don't want to be nosy, but was just wondering if you had trouble with immigration getting into the country for visits? Because I've been to the UK three times (2 weeks, 1 month and 2 months)and each time they've basically interrogated me for details on why I'm there, what I do for a living, what my fiance does, what his mother does, how much money I have, how I saved up that much money at a part-time job, how we met, etc. Just to get into the country. I like to think I'm not the only person in the world that happens to. Maybe Norway's more lax?

Actually I was never really interrogated. First time was asked who I was there to visit I said, "Some friends I met on the internet." After that it was "I am here to visit my boyfriend and friends." This last trip was, "I am happy to be back and I am here to visit my fiance." Guess they could see just by looking at my passport that I had never overstayed I honestly do know know why they did not ask me more questions. But, perhaps me being in my late 40's to early 50's(now) they figured I would have money to do this? I do not know. Anyway come Monday I am back to full time work and my honey will be coming to the US for his first time. There is just so much of my country I want to share with him just like he shared his country with me. I am SO looking forward to his first trip into a grocery store with me and seeing like 15 different types of margarines is going to blow his mind.

Exactly 5 months and 4 days between NOA1 and NOA2.

Vermont Center

All I can say is my fiance has no middle name... and I left it blank. His visa was approved.

Judy

Probably this is a repeat of everything.

Be honest even if there was no court records and no formal charges pressed - if the police came to your home and took you with them you can be guaranteed there is a police record then it can be found though a search no matter if you did not sit in jail - if ever asked you might better always be truthful than not.

Judy

Do not forget if you have one of the computer messenger services (msn, yahoo, skype to name a few) and have selected to save your correspondence with each other. I had saved months worth of messages between my fiance and myself over the months. You can also use emails. Those can also be used to help. Also, bank statements if she sent you money or you sent her money. You can get these from your bank and hers.

Good luck!

I remember we used blue ink because when we first did it in black it did not look like a original copy. Guess they should put in the forms "Sign in Blue ink only!" on the forms.. grr