Nina and Erwin

It doesn't matter and shouldn't matter.

If he is qualified to immigrate then it should be done as efficiently as possible. If not then publish a clear cut and irrefutable guideline so folks don't waste their time and money.

Completely agreed... I have long become indifferent to this situation.. this immigration. If god is trying to teach me patience.. he is doing a good job. As I stated also to this reply as you did. It doesn't matter the situation.. if it's "NO" fine.. it's "NO".. LOL. But don't drag me and my children threw years of money, separation, and sometimes... deep despair. Just pick up the damn file.. read it.. make notes.. say NO.. and tell me that if I want to be with this man.. I can't be in America. Period. End of story... Fine. Then I/ we all can then make educated decisions on what to do next with our life. But.. this bull ####### of months and months and years and years is torture. Watching my daughter hug the computer screen of Skype and say "nite nite daddy" is something no one should go through... especially... my TWO YEAR OLD. Family first.. in America..??? HA! ALL #######!

Wow.. you think that is the real question? Ok. I will play.. He was deported because he overstayed 42 days.. while we were saving to pay the I-485 adjustment of status. We are always fast to judge. I made a statement and simply stated the facts... we are all miserable.. no matter what the situation is.. GOOD BAD UGLY AND LONG.. quote.. No judgment. Really by your timeline.. the heartache for you has ended. So be nice.. your together .. and I truly hope that you guys are happy... most here are not. He's a good guy ( my husband) we didn't really know each other in the beginning.. he trusted me and listened to me, which at the time.. I was love stuck, stupid, uneducated, at the idea that immigration was NOT like it REALLY is. The reality is he was jailed for 90 days in our country and treated as a criminal.. cause I ASKED HIM TO STAY.. HE LISTENED.. HE PAID A HUGE PRICE.. and so are we now. We Broke the MAIN RULE OF IMMIGRATION... have huge deep.. and long standing money bags for pockets before you fall in love with someone outside this country.

I can't imagine what you are going through. I would call and call and call again my local congressman.. and I would might even visit. I was just complaining on my own topic about this very situation. This is a child.. not a Threat. Not some love struck individual.. pining away for the "finally" love of their life. What a disgrace to family!.. I am so sorry for what you are going through. I wish we could all stand up for each other.. without worrying about jeopardizing our own situations. I may start rallying for something like that. keep us posted.

I just think that it's asinine the money that is spent to KEEP OUT!!

I understand there is a real threat out there, I understand that this also may be an avenue for terrorism. I truly doubt it.. and if it is? Then "they" better get there organization under control.. because there is NO WAY.. "they" .. who ever "they" are can say that this is a organized system to properly keep out the BAD GUYS!! LOL. The REAL threat! Our files are in a basket.. who knows what basket? Paper files in a Basket!! Really..??

I just think that .. someone needs to figure out that we are GLOBAL!! The internet has exploded the possibilities of meeting people all over the world. We claim "the USA" to be so big for our Pants.. that we are leading the way, to something!! What I see is that we are leading the way to Broke people.... and Broken families, single parents, and orphaned children. Whether it's to our jobs.. to pay more and more to the government that's devas tingly unorganized and way over paid.

*** moved to general immigration as topic is not specifically about spousal visa progress or procedures ****

Thank you.

It doesn't get any better at the Embassy either. Or file is on hold because they wanted a copy of my passport showing the visa and stamps from my Trips to Turkey. Tickets, boarding passes, and pictures were not enough. But of course this is not on the list of required items to bring.

I am so Sorry.. The government is under funded and family suffers. Family is what this was supposed to be all about.

Ah ok, that's a shame. Thanks for the link.

Hi Mithmeoi... nice to see you. I am going to Belgium. I got a email from the Belgium consulate telling me what I need to do to go there. The shame is that I have to give up everything here. All I have worked to establish here.. for us to be a family. All these years. I am glad to see that your in the last stretch of your journey. That makes me truly happy since we started here years ago about the same time. I am glad to still be in contact with you after all you have seem me go through. Big hugs to you two.. I am so glad there is a happy story! smile.

from what I see, Detroit is running at around six months (yes from your original filing date)

so not much time left to go

sorry to hear you are still waiting

did you file an omnibudsman complaint?

What is "omnibudsman complaint" I am sorry... can you explain?

Filed January 17th priority date.. still waiting. USCIS said they sent an inquiry to the local Detroit office to have something out to me in writing on a status update by July 2nd. Yeah.. we will see. Senators office to get involved if nothing in mail by July 8th, only because I said I thought that was fair. I have now looked into going to Belgium.. and that is probably the route we will take. I can have a long term visa in 3 days, per the consulate in New York. So ... huge difference between America's values on Family and there.... Over it. I will go to my interview.. which should be soon. Then I am going there.. to wait out this mess.

Where is your local office?

Detriot

Indeed! Ours had been forwarded to Hawaii local office,where my husband resides,from National Benefits Center. Our priority date was Jan 28th and counting since then, it's already 5 months past and hadnt got any result yet. What's quite frustrating around here was the fact that there are filers who applied later than we do and surprisingly gotten the approval already. Is this how the immigration process move around here?

Just being inquisitive!

All's welcome for comments.

Regards,

B&B

I am in the same situation. Our priority date was Jan 17th and our case was Transferred from the National Benefits center to the Local Detroit office as of Feb 25th, and it has been sitting there ever since. According to the local office, our file is in the " pending interview Basket" whatever that means?? Very frustrating to see that we are still waiting for this mysterious hand to pull our file out of the " Basket"!!...lol

Thank you so much... helps a lot. I have no one.. to Sponsor me if I were to need one. So.. I guess I have to stay put. I keep wondering when this nightmare will be over. lol

Long Story Short.. Waiting like everyone else here. Today my 11 year old son decided that he wants to live with his Father. Cause you know.. dad's cooler. So... many people here before suggested that I go to Belgium since my husband can't be here yet. Well I stayed in the USA due to my son.. well now that's not an issue as much. The living situation with my son being at his fathers will be a great learning experience for the both of them. So we will see in 3-6 months how that turns out. In the mean time.. I have no reason to be here. My husband and I have been married for 3 years, and have a 2 year old Daughter together.

Now you would think we could be one big happy family. Except how will the situation be if I go there? Anyone no what I have to do to make sure that I can at least stay there through this whole Immigration ####### with America? Can I direct consulate file? Can I go there? How long can I stay? How will this effect immigration here? Since.. 2 days ago I went to the local office that my file is STILL at after 5 months.. and apparently it's in the and I Quote" the pending interview basket" .. what ever the in hell that means? Don't know if it always was in the " Basket"? Have no idea how long.. nor would they tell me that it will take to get out to the " Basket"?..for the initial I-130 interview here at my local office.

I am excited and sad all at the same time.. cause I always saw us here as a family. Now if I have to come back and start all over then that won't be the case.

I just want to spend some time with my husband.. let him be a dad.. let him help with all the single mother things that I have had to do by myself, and tick away the clock at how long it will take for him to come home here.. I have an older child who will marry, my parents are getting older.. I have no siblings or cousins.. so.. I will have to come back due to moral and family values.. I just hope he will be at my side from here and on.

Any help with going there? and what I need to do to prepare.. so I don't get in a bad situation?

Anyone else out there file their I-130 in January? let us know

Well are NOA 1 was 1/17/2013 - still waiting. File was transferred to the Local Detroit office per the UCIS level 2 on March 25th, and we are still waiting. Have scheduled an update inquiry on Tuesday 6/18 hoping that I can have something answered. Will keep everyone updated.

I would just like to say.. I hope the best for you two..!! Read a lot, hire a good attorney!

:thumbs: I see you're onto something very enlightening.

LOL. Wait until Boiler jumps in...

To the OP... In my experience Canada has a Social System, and if she needs assistance with housing I am sure that before you BOTH leave HER country you should start there. She may need to go back to work. She may need to work out staying with Friends. She may need to see if she can stay with MOM. You will be separated.. and she will need to survive. You seemed concerned for her.. then You may need to figure out how to afford housing in BOTH countries.

Original poster.. I am speaking from experience.. trust me when I say.. I am a single mom, thanks to our choices on how to handle this immigration situation. I am here in the US with a 2 year old and WE have to send each other money all the time back and forth until this is all over. I housed my husband in Canada for 6 months to get us through the Birth of our child. I traveled back and forth thru a Michigan / Canadian winter until 2 days before I had our daughter. All I am saying is... it wont be easy.. but you can do it. Stop crying, think logically, and figure out a means to an end. This will be over soon, and you will get thru it. But don't break the rules, figure out cheaper housing for her in Canada, and file for your visa.

We literally have nowhere else for her to stay.

@Harpa Timsah:

How can this be the case? I pay our bills. I sustain US. If she can't come with me, she's homeless. Is there NO way to work around this?

I am just curious? How did she manage before you? The only reason I ask, is I was in the same position with my husband and boy you should have seen the comments I got regarding this same plea here on VJ. Tip.. coming thru the ferry into Michigan is a lot less stress then Buffalo or Sarnia. Trust me I know from experience. But with a truck load at either boarder.. you will likely have trouble and questions.

Maybe I missed something, but I am not understanding why my case is with the Lee's summit MO office. How do I find out what that processing time is? Now I am concerned cause I have never heard of that office. I hope I don't need to call my attorney to find out what is going on? Any information out there on this?

I feel so bad for you. But what this man does it not just a scam, it is fraud. YOu need to report this to the embassy and to immigration so they can black flag him. Belgium has been part of NATO since 1949. black flagging as con artist as he fraudialent has taken money from women promising things when he is married to you, will put out warning to all 28 NATO countries. I called today to a friend who is with Homeland Security and he told me this. So, don't be afraid to say this man has conned you and others. And keep all the proof you found for your divorce.

I talked to her.. and yes that was basically what she said.. that she wants me to send a formal request.. and gather the information to turn it in. Sigh.. That will have to come shortly. Cause I have been living breathing this.. and immigration.. before I hang him out.. I need to take a breath. Cause I do love him.. and still love him. Im bitter yes.. and would love to.. uhmm well.. I could think of alot of mean things. But I want to put this behind me, and cry.. and be mad.. and lick my wounds. Then it will be time to do the right thing.. so yes he can't do it again. I would never wish this pain on anyone. Yes divorce is next..

OMG! Yes, I remember that thread...

The thing that struck me the most was how he seemed to instantly have an explanation for every single thing that happened, it just felt to convenient like a slick con-man. IIRC a lot of VJers were telling you to step back and think about it as someone looking in from the outside. You were just too deep into the situation to see things that weren't adding up to everyone else.

Well I'm glad the process works as it has brought a lot of his behaviors to light BEFORE him getting LPR status and being tied to you financially.

When he asks you to forgive him just explain that ever since the volcano eruption you've been unable to recover and therefore can't deal with him anymore!

I wish you only the best and hope you find the strength to get through this and the serenity to find calm as you move on.

Your right.. I remember everything you said.. that it was all #######. That things did't make sense.. and all i did was defend. Really though.. how stupid can he be to have someone like anyone of us.. fighting so hard.. and not see what a good thing is. All i can say.. is the pain is setting in.. but the strength is growing. The volcano.. for him was the perfect excuse.. and I brought it.. cause I never saw the ticket. Until of course.. ICE needed it.. to put his but back on a plane.

So sorry to hear of your plight. You can report him to Immigration. There is a hotline for this just research on it. I have a good friend who reported her Ja'can husband for fraud and the investigation is underway. He was GAY the whole time and married her (while she was deeply in love) for his papers.

Unfortunately, the one that is TRULY MARRIED AND REAL AND IN LOVE often do not see the signs. Again, the signs were there but failure to recognize can cause evident harm.

I advise you to let Immigration know immediately. Take care of your baby best way one knows how. People makes mistakes and we learn from them.

With this kind of case, it makes the Immigration SO HARD to believe those who are truly in love, married, been together for a long time and those whose marriages are really and truly real- to get their status expeditiously.

Again, I am sorry to hear. Life goes on nonetheless.

PS. De man want a kick inna him head. HURTFUL!

Be Blessed.

That's the first time I have laughed.. since all this.. Thanks for that..!!!

Wow I'm embarrassed to hear that he is Belgian. But a lot of the things that you mentioned he did or said, make no sense.

Any Belgian citizen can move ANYWHERE in the EU without having to do paperwork (besides address change). Also it's really impossible to be homeless if you are a Belgian citizen, unless you want to be. There is so much financial help available. I also don't see why he would use someone to move to the US. Belgium has a much better healthcare and social system. If he can't survive in Belgium, he could possibly not survive in the US.

If you have other questions I can help. I'm really sorry you went through all of this.

I have tons.. but I do know one thing for sure.. that I do have a translated letter from Belgium that they were not going to help him with any assistance.. cause at the age of 1 yr old.. his parents moved to the Netherlands.. and since all of his benefits were paid into the Netherlands.. Belgium told him that he would have to get help from them .. then of course.. Netherlands.. said we don't care .. your Belgium. Trust me at this point I wouldn't believe a thing.. but I do have that in Writing and translated. .. He had no one that he could write in his address too.. that was the address issue

I am so sorry Nina :/

Do all the administrative stuff to cut him lose and hang in there.

I am sure your little daughter will understand when the time comes to explain.

You might want to look into making sure he has no parental rights also, for her sake and yours.

HI Shanh,

Nice to see you.. I talked to the Immigration consulate today.. She wants me to send a formal request to revoke the I-130 I told her the whole story. Matter of fact I read to her the original post on here.. She said she was sorry.. and she can't tell me what to do. But that she did say that if i truly want to close the case that I would have to revoke the I-130 and inform the National Vise Center for them to pull the file back.

I am so beside myself.. and she did want me to gather the information that I have and turn it in.

I hope I dont endure what you just went through. My petition was sent back for review cos they suspect us of fraud but now I see why they do that. It's to protect people like us Americans who are blinded by love. I haven't seen any siigns yet though and wanted me to get pregnant the last time I visited but I refused. Pray for me that I dont go through that. I will remember you in my prayers.

I will for sure.. keep you in my thoughts and prayers.. I will send a friend.. smiles

There's some dutchies here, so just ask away.

edit: closure is good, goodluck with it.

K.. he said that without an address he cant get work.. I want to remind you that he is Belgium.. cause he was born there.. until he was a 1yr old. Has lived in the Netherlands since.. He says that he cant' get his social money cause he was out of the country to long.. ( over 6 months) He says that he can't open a bank account cause.. he brought some insurance that if he lost his job that it would cover it? But when he lost his job.. they didn't so now he owes 25.000 euros to a Bank there.. He wont tell me what bank... so he can't put a home in his name or get work or open a bank account.. something about that doesnt add up to me.