Joy&Fernando

Most people dream of having the perfect wedding but we here just dream of having a wedding.
I personally am not fond of a huge elaborate ceremony and it boggles my mind how much some women obsess over every single minute detail of their wedding.
I joined TheKnot.com to help in creating a wedding guest list and wedding website but I sometimes get ridiculous emails like "practice your wedding hairstyle a few times before the actual day!" or "never have a friend or family member bake your wedding cake! Always hire a professional!" Ridiculously absurd. Who cares if your hair isn't perfect the day of your wedding? And if you want to have a friend or family member bake your cake, why not? Again, perfection does not have to be attained. It's one day!
I personally have more important things to think about than the color of ink that I'm printing my wedding invitations in or taste testing the food that will be served at our reception. Among these important things are actually getting my fiance here so we can procede with the said wedding
I don't want to remember the day of my wedding as the exact hue of my bridesmaid dresses or the flavor of the wedding cake or obessing about the exact placement of the table centerpieces.
I want to remember it as the day that I became legally wed to the most wonderful man and that we will never have to be separated again.
Maybe it's the whole immigration process, but my wedding day has really been placed into perspective for me. This whole planning receptions, rehearsal dinners, going on extreme weight loss plans, finding "the perfect florist" and other silly frivilous nonsense is not for me.
I just want to marry the love of my life, honor our cultural backgrounds, family and friends, with a small celebration afterwards and finally begin our lives together

You do realize you don't have to read every post. You can usually tell if it's someone venting; how about you just don't read those posts? The rest of us will try to encourage that person and you can move on to other posts. 'kay?

I see that you have been waiting a good long time for your NOA2, and if you look at my numbers, you know that I know what it feels like. So, instead of complaining about people complaining, maybe you can shed some light on what is keeping you sane in your wait. That is a good percentage of why people complain, it's due to trying to cope with the distance. If you believe you are doing well, let us know what you are doing so that others may benefit.

So how does this one help anyone? Bit hypocritical don't ya think. You say you want topics that help people and don't whine, yet you post exactly what you are ranting and raving about.
No-one makes you click a thread, self-control. Try it.