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FYI, I'm Indian, lived all my life in India, but speak, read, and write English, French, and Spanish, in addition to five Indian languages, so yeah sure, your story does hold up. The question to the OP was raised since he claims he's a "gora" and went to India for a short while, still manages to speak Hindi well, and his girlfriend's English is good but not good enough for him to understand!!! C'mon, who are we kidding? And while we're on this subject, why don't you take a peek at the OP's earlier postings? Perhaps that'll serve as an answer to the various theories you have!!!

Errr, remember you mentioning earlier that you speak to your girlfriend in Hindi! If you're a "white" ("goraa") American dude who went to India on an exchange program, where did you learn that Hindi from? And you still claim her English is good but that you can't understand it? Sorry pal, your story doesn't really hold up here.

First coming from India to learn English sounds complete bogus, when English is one of common language in the country. Major portion of Govt and legal work is all done in English.
On top if it you sound like a hypocrite you want to live in this country, bring your GF to this country and you want to bad mouth this country.
Just coz you want your GF in US consulate does not have to grant her visa, if you are USC than also you don’t have any right to bring your GF and if you are on Visa you don’t even have room to talk.
If you don’t like the visa processing time, then there is always the option to stay in country of your choice where visa processing time s faster.

OP take it. This is a great advice.

Ok, I get the picture. Now this is what I think, and mind you, this is just a third person's view and opinion and nothing you should go by. I'd still like for you to read through it.
I'm the beneficiary here, and my current husband the USC. Like the two of you, we met through and online portal too. I've lived in India all my life, have never been anywhere except to China and Hong Kong, that too as my brother was working there. I for the life of me never imagined that I'd ever be married to someone on the other side of the planet, but here we are. Perhaps because of what came before, but the best thing in our relationship so far has been the fact that we were very open with each other as to our views on various subjects, and we knew exactly what we wanted. We spent a lot of time and energy discussing our views on personal as well as random subjects, which helped us get to know each other better. Despite all this, I'd say we've just touched the tip of the iceberg. There's an amazing chemistry, and there's also a huge plus that we both respect each other immensely. I wouldn't, for the life of me, want to live with a man who doesn't respect me or who cannot earn my respect.
Any relationship will have its set of misunderstandings, compromises, and what not, but the one thing that really would help it is being able to sit down like adults and discuss your differences of opinion. You are two very different individuals with two hugely different cultural backgrounds, and it's imperative that both of you meet on common ground. One can't be the giver and the other the taker all the time. The roles have to be reversed as and when required. I'd say, if there's an issue, sort it, argue about it, do whatever, but let the other person know that you have issues. No amount of shouting or yelling is gonna be of any help, and I personally am against it. Sit down like two calm adults and discuss issues with each other. Despite repeated attempts, if you still don't see eye to eye on any subject, then it may not be worth your while.
While on the one hand I hope and pray that things go well for you, there's a part of me that's been through some serious **** to know that sometimes it's easier to let go than to hold on to something. I'm sending you a linking that may or may not help you, but nevertheless is worth a look-see. Would really appreciate it if you'd read thru and try to make some sense of it.
God bless you, and if you ever wanna shoot the breeze, we're all here not to judge, but to be able to hold each other's hands in times such as this.
Here's the link I was talking about. http://www.marcandangel.com/2011/12/11/30-things-to-stop-doing-to-yourself/

Could you give me some background as to how you met your husband, pl? It'd help a great deal.
Based on what I've read, there are a few thoughts coming to mind. Please do not take any of that as criticism. Not talking about issues you have now could spell trouble in big and bold letters for you in the future. You need to sort 'em out NOW. I was married to a man for 6-1/2 years, where I took complete financial responsibility for the two of us. We had been living in two different cities, and he moved to mine when we married, whereas I was thinking of moving to his. I was 27 then and working and earning pretty well. He, on the other hand, gave up everything and moved over to my city, where all he did in those years was to sit at home and do nothing. Even though I had issues with it, I didn't raise it for a very long time, which resulted in me becoming a bitter person. There came a point where I couldn't take it anymore, which is how I came to a decision to call it quits.
Your situation is not similar to what mine was, but what I really mean to say here is that if there are issues, you need to sort them NOW. Experience has taught me that just love is not enough in a relationship. Love comprises a major part of it, but there are other things to consider too. No two individuals are the same, and especially in your case, there's a huge cultural difference too, which is only to be expected. I get the feeling that neither of you gave it much thought until after you got married. Perhaps, you should have. Also, a relationship is based on trust, respect, and understanding. One is not independent of the other. Very practically speaking, this issue needs to be sorted out one way or the other now before it's too late. What if after he's joined you there, you realize that perhaps he isn't what you had expected him to be? Don't get me wrong, but I think you should think as much with your head as with your heart.
Both of you need to put things in perspective and see how it works out best for you. Remember, your life is yours and only you can decide what's best for you. If you want to make this work, both of you'll need to sit down and sort out your differences and work on it now; if not, you might as well part ways before it's too late.
This is no criticism, and I'm no one to judge. I'm just a third person who's thinking logically and practically, just cos it's easier being the third person. Only the two of you know what you're going through. No matter what the situation, I only hope that you're strong enough to deal with it any which way you decide. God bless!!!

Hey Loto, You do not need to leave!!! Its time for you to prove your name "Lot of patience". Stay with us!