momof1

Really?? should i have give examples?

I have read many things from some mockers here.. Like it seems weird for who knew i have been virgin with such grace of handsomeness that god gave me...

I feel i'm very cocky now.. sorry.. i just love myself so much

My husband was a virgin until age 30 on our wedding

night. It's your enormous ego that is the problem. I was 21 when I got married. Maybe this ####### would have been cute then but I cannot imagine dealing with it now... And especially not at 45.

Oh that's a big compliment i ever heard here..

Please don't type directly to me. Your magnetizing pull has me considering leaving my husband of almost ten years and our two children. Really, for such a hot piece I would do it. So please, don't tempt me anymore.

yeah cause i can control my animalistic instinct.. i'm human as simple as that.. i mean i use my brain and i follow it.. and not follow that thing.. you know what i'm talking about hahaha

Of course, dear, I know you have the strength of a million men. It must have been so difficult with all the women throwing themselves at you. I can' t imagine how traumatizing it must be to have such hella good looks and yet have to control yourself with all of those ladies. Once again, I applaud you. The moroccan women are really missing out. BRAVO!!!

i was told.. I have sparkling glamouring eyes and the reason i wear sunglasses is i don't want to lead mankind to the temptation through them hahaha...

And somehow, with all that hotness, you managed to stay a virgin for 28 years. WOW!! You are truly amazing.

Party poopers. It's fun to see the forum coming back to life again. It's been boring.

Wooohoooooo!!!!!!!

My best friend, US born egyptian, talks a lot about this subject. She's of the opinion that arab men are selfish in bed. She says that unless you lay out ypur expectations from the very beginning thrn you'll have an unsatisfying sex life forever. My opinion is that men have to condition themself to be giving. That means that foreplay is a must and that you need last longer unless there are medical issues...even then you should see s doctor. Women have to be held accountable toO. If you don't tell your man what you like and need or always encourage him to "just finish"then he has no reason to do anything different. I can't imagine anyone wanting to have sex with a "deadfish" but I guess something is better than nothing.

Its not guilt exactly. I just want him to be safe and happy and have something good out of all of this after losing his child. I do love him truly and you are right. I want closure and to start over and I appreciate what you are saying Momof 1.

And who looks out for you? What good is being given to YOU for losing your son? You deserve safety and happiness too. I hope you know that.

I swear as our ten year anniversary gets closer and closer, I want to kick my husband's ####. Seriously, nothing major but he's gettin on my last nerve. I've just gone through genetic testing for BRCA1 and BRCA2 mutations for hereditary breast ovarian cancer syndrome, and I've been super stressed. I'm fighting with my birth father because he's a pile of poo and refuses to help me gather medical information...or acting like an all around azzhole because my mom left him 30yrs ago. Gaaah!!!! Anyhoo, my results found a mutation of unknown significance on the BRCA2 gene. I don't know how I should treat those results so I'm stressed to the max. My husband just lets me be for the most. I feel like a child throwing a temper tantrum though because when he talks to me about it I get mad and when he doesn't talk to me about it I get mad. So I'm pouring my energy into filling out more family history papers so they can do further testing. I'll have to find a way to deal with that without ruining everything around me.

Thanks for listening

I am intrigued by both of these! I love sweet potatoes, and those Dutch cookies. Will check out...

They now have it at TJs.

Two words for you ladies. Speculoos spread. Mmmmmmmm

When I've ever asked my husband about Something Algerian couples do or Algerian women do, he reminds me he's never been married to an Algerian. He makes no assumptions based on his sisters or mom because a marital relationship is like no other relationship. I've been around MENA women to know they are generally no worse or better... Women are women everywhere. All with good and bad qualities.

Revolutionary Film about the Algerian Struggle for Independence from French Occupation

La Bataille d'Alger (The Battle of Algiers) by Gillo Pontecorvo

Babeloued City This movie I find particularly interesting for two reasons: My husband is from Babeloued and he took part in the Algerian version of arab spring in October 1988. He slept on the streets in protest for weeks, watching his best friend shot, voted for the Islamic Salvation Front before the military junta started rounding up young religious men in his neighborhood. This journey led him eventuality to the US seeking political asylum for his persecution in Algeria. He's a strong man who's been through horrors that I cannot even begin to imagine.

The premise of the film is a young bakery worker who tears out the speakers, used for the call to pray and spreading "islamic knowledge," and comes under fire of the islamic group in his neighborhood. The film was made during the "black years" which was very brave of the filmmaker since journalists and musicians were being assassinated. It's in the local algerian dialect.

I'm 5'4" and he's 5'9"

Married August 2002. Filed I-130 in Feb 2003. I started lurking on VJ in late 2006 when our lawyer had no luck in getting our file forwarded to the NVC. A whole lotta junk before and after that but he returned to Algeria and his visa was finally issued in June 2009. He became eligible to natz last wednesday although we won't file until we return from our trip to Algeria in August. Is there some sort of award for the longest visa journey? Well, we're still chugging along two kids and almost ten tears later

I was looking for older women marrying younger men. But congratulations to you and your husband. Inshalla

Oops I missed that part

My husband is 40 and I'm 30. We have two kids and are quickly approaching our 10th anniversary in 3.5 months. I think we're a success!!!

I think when you are almost 10 months into your visa journey, and you hear it will be more time, your heart just sinks. After our RFE, USCIS went past there allotted time. Called USCIS they put in a service request to the service center working on our petition. Friday I get a email, stating that our case is pending background checks and can take up to 160 days more. Wow.... I am hoping that background checks now and we are cleared means that it will be an easier AP for my husband. In October we will be married for 2 years. I think it is most defiantly time to call my senator, maybe it will help us along. Anyone else dealt with this and did it turn out ok in the end!!!!

We went through a lengthy name check before the I-130 was approved in addition to an interview at our local USCIS office. The I-130 was filed in February 2003 and was approved(finally) in July 2005. So...about 2.5 years. The good news is that name checks, background checks, or other random AP don't take nearly as long now as they did then. It was very common at that time for name checks to take 4 or more years.

It'll just take a little longer than normal, but you'll be fine in the end.

congratulations!!!!

Adverse credibility simply means they don't believe you. It doesn't mean you lied, committed fraud or filed a frivolous claim. Those words actually have to be used in the IJs denial. Having said that, an adverse credibility finding does put doubt on what you have said previously and what you will say in the future. We didn't find the credibility finding to be a hindrance to our case. I should add that we took appeals up to the 8th circuit in hopes of reversing the ruling... Which was unsuccessful. The waivers were still approved.

For the aggravating factors, they are negative factors in your case. They can be things that do not show good moral character, multiple petitioners, likelihood of becoming a public charge, denied asylum claim...etc. You will have to attempt to flip those negatives to positives.

I have to ask what you are paying that money to your lawyer for. Did you discuss beforehand what they would do for that money?

While I partly agree with much of the poast above, there is quite a bit more that I would like to add.

You will have to prove that it is an extreme hardship for you to go to MX to live with your spouse AND that it is an extreme hardship for you to remain in the US without him for the duration of his ban. No one is forcing you to leave so don't use that word in the wiaver preparation. I know it feels that way but the adjudicators don't take to kindly to that word. Extreme hardship is loosely defined as hardship above and beyond the normal hardship one is expected to experience during the prolonged separation from a loved one. Each case is unique and what demonstrates hardship for one may not necessarily do so for another.

Here are some ideas: Medical conditions that cannot be readily treated in MX due to poor medical condtions or lack of money. Loss of education/career opportunities in MX. Country conditions due to petty crime and narco violence---must be specifically related to you and not in general terms. This means that the specific state where your husband lives has violence specifically directed towards americans or a lack of jobs in that area. Mexico is a huge country...what happens in Ciudad Juarez isn't the same as what happens in Puebla. Loss of family ties in the US-relative who relies on your care and there is no other relative to help. Parent of child from previous relationship will not allow you to travel with child out of the country.

Husband is the sole provider or your bills are too much for you to cover on your own in his absence. You have an interned relative that your husband assists you in taking care of, loss of career/education opportunites because your spouse isn't here to take care of children, all of your family lives in the US, medical conditions that must be treated in the US and your spouse must help you by working or taking care of children so that you can get the care you need.

These are just a few ideas. Don't forget to argue both sides(why you can't stay or leave). Support every claim you make with satisfactory evidence. Use US govt sources(like travel warnings or country condition reports from travel.state.gov) because they are the most difficult for DHS to discount. Know all of your aggravating factors and minimize them where you can.

Most importantly, take a good honest look at yourself and your capabilities. While many file waivers pro se, without representation, through Mexico not everyone is qualified to do so. Do you like and are good at research? Can you write an extensive emotion-less term paper style packet? Do you really know what it takes to be approved? Do you know exactly what the process looks like? Are you aware of how long an approval takes? Do you know how long an appeal or other options take if you are denied? Are you clear on your spouse's entire immigration history? Any throwbacks? More than one unlawful entry?

It's a very huge and daunting task that should not be taken lightly. I suggest you at least consult with a lawyer to see where you stand.

You didn't say what your inadmissibility is. It might help us to get a clearer picture if you tell us a detailed timeline of your entries into the US, how you entered, and any other pertinent information.

As for country conditions, always try to use US govt sources like country condition reports from travel.state.gov or travel warnings. They will have a hard time discounting information put out by the US govt. While Amnesty international and Unicef, amogst others, are credible sources they can easily be explained away.

You will need to explain why your wife can't move to Belarus AND why she cannot live in the US without you. Depending on your inadmissibility, your child may or may not be a qualifying relative for the waiver application.

I wanted to add that although our waiver was filed abroad, my husband also had denied asylum with adverse credibility finding. I won't lie to you but I don't want to squash your hopes either. The denied asylum, according to experienced waiver lawyers, is a major aggravating factor in a waiver case. Why that is I have no clue. I just know that it is.

To give you some hope, my husband was inadmissible for fraudulent entry under the visa waiver program, visa overstay, deportation after his denied asylum claim. The only aggravating factor was the denied asylum. Tons of positive discretionary factors, terrorism at a recent peak when the waiver as filed in 2007/2008, and a life threatening medical condition for our then 4 year old child.

Personally, I wouldn't pay a lawyer a single cent if he wasn't preparing the waiver for me. What are you paying for if you need to do all of the research yourself? What exactly is he contributing? I paid our lawyer $5k to prepare our waiver and she wrote a 17 page brief outlining our hardships, helped and directed me in collecting needed personal documents and guided me in writing my qualifying relative letter. That's what you pay a lawyer for...not to do everything yourself.

Yaaaay!!!! Good luck.