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Knowing that he's married to a Filipina makes me shake my head in disgust, but, husband and wife are often a reflection of each other!
(Many times) my husband and I have wondered if it is he/she or both are composing the offensive posts.

We had over a thousand pages of chat logs, printed 2-4 copies each month, brought 'em with me to the Embassy and they didn't even look at it.
Effort was wasted!

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Knowing that he's married to a Filipina makes me shake my head in disgust, but, husband and wife are often a reflection of each other!
(Many times) my husband and I have wondered if it is he/she or both are composing the offensive posts.

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Knowing that he's married to a Filipina makes me shake my head in disgust, but, husband and wife are often a reflection of each other!
(Many times) my husband and I have wondered if it is he/she or both are composing the offensive posts.

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Knowing that he's married to a Filipina makes me shake my head in disgust, but, husband and wife are often a reflection of each other!
(Many times) my husband and I have wondered if it is he/she or both are composing the offensive posts.

No and that is not what that was meaning. Lets clear that up a bit, the grounds for deportation in our case is a CONVICTION of domestic violence not simply needing him out of states because i am financially responsible.
The discussion of my being financially responisble was to his probation officer. He had been going to his probation officer and asking her to let him out of his probation so that he could move to las vegas,,, behind my back.
When i finally got to talk to her and she let me know he was asking to be able to move to las vegas and needed her to let him out of his probation. I explained to her that if she allowed him to move out of the state and he ended up getting any kind of assistance that i would be financially responsible for that due to the fact he is an immigrant and i signed the affidavit. His probation officer wasnt aware of that fact beforehand and decided that the only way she would let him out of probation is if he presented her with a ticket back to egypt and got on the plane. That is not deportation, it was a chance to let him leave back to egypt on his own to get out of his probation...
The Deportation stage came in after he made the false allegations to the prosecutor about me... i had already told him that if we were to file removal of conditions they would deport him because they would find the conviction. and as well if he had gone back to visit his family they would not have let him back into the states due to the conviction.
After he made the false report attempt i notified immigration about his conviction myself and called back again to make sure they will remove him due to his conviction and how to make it happen due to the fact he openly made a threat towards me indicating he would hurt me and he had already done so before. For my safety and my kids, i started the deportation process on him on an actual removable ground.

Well...I'm not saying that the scenario I presented is exactly the way it's really playing but I don't think I'm too far off the mark.
Gilles says...she won't get a job...hmmmm...she did.
Gilles says...she won't contribute to the bills...she did/ does.
Gilles says...I want total control of her money...she's trying to negotiate a reasonable split. (I think a pretty good guess that most of her share is heading back home and will keep just enough for her to make due)
Gilles states he has years of experience in psychology....(I am thinking of the part in the movie (silence of the lambs) where Hannibal talked the psycho in the next cell into swallowing his own tongue...not suggesting Gilles has these mind control abilities but)....Gilles probably knows how devoted a mabait Filipina is to her marriage vows and that if he has her heart...well...be tenacious, be patient and sometimes he deliberately pushes her too far and into some irrational action that he can use as a guilt leverage.
Why does Gilles put up with her if she is so bad? Because he is not done breaking her down.

Please hold on a sec Bob....
1) The whole time...it's only been Gilles side of the story.
2) I wonder if Gilles married a paycheck or a woman.?
3) He admits he's caught in a power struggle that he desires to win.
4) Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.
5) How many Filipinos don't want to help their family? The mabait 1's do.
I'm not excusing her behavior but..but...how many men do you know are succesful at backing their wives in a corner? (and) How many women do you know that when they feel backed in a corner...come out swinging?
How bout this..What if..Gilles has been twisting the truth to garner good ideas on how to get control? .What if..Her desire to help her family is due to the dire situation their in...Gilles doesn't care....Gilles was managing his finances before she got here and now he wants a pay raise? Perhaps.. they made an arrangement/ understanding that she would get a job and take the responsibility of providing for her family on her own shoulders and not his.....etc...
There seems to be some compromises made on her part already but Gilles is not yet satisified. Gilles wants everything his way when it comes to the ....everything?
Just a thought...the more Gilles posts the more questions come up in my mind about his true intent.

You sound like two college roomies fighting over whose turn it is to buy the pizza. (or) Like a father dealing with a hard headed teen.
Here's an idea for you....treat your wife like a wife. Give her shared control of all your finances. Empower her instead of trying to control/ dominate her. (if) You can't trust her enough to turn loose or share the reigns...then what the hell were you thinking when you said..."l Do"...?
Seriously...the more you post the more you show the control freak in you!
Ridiculous!!!

Check your weapon soldier coz it just misfired!!!
I take offense with your presumptive stereo-type and generalization of the Filipina and Fil-Am couples.
Is my perspective clear enough for you?
And I know my husband would not want to be included with your "WE" representation of USCs.

Feeling full of yourself today huh?! Having some low self esteem issues lately? A 9-5 "JOB" may be nothing to you but it is to others. Why are you puffing up your chest about a 12+ hours work shift?
If that's your measure? Then how about try owning a business like my husband does where, it becomes a lifestyle and instead of a job. Don't judge somebody until you walk in their shoes.
There's more to life than just punchin' a clock.
Well...la-dee-daah! Good for you for being such a GOOD reminder (director). My husband and I worked together...we each did our own part and cooperated throughout the process.
I didn't need to be "reminded" bcoz I could handle the things that I needed to do on my end. VJ served as a great resource for both of us.
I think you should compare apples to apples. Apparently your wife was incapable of being much help throughout the visa process.
That doesn't mean those of us "Filipinas" that are capable, are married to "LAZY" spouses.
You need to put things in proper prespective!

Feeling full of yourself today huh?! Having some low self esteem issues lately? A 9-5 "JOB" may be nothing to you but it is to others. Why are you puffing up your chest about a 12+ hours work shift?
If that's your measure? Then how about try owning a business like my husband does where, it becomes a lifestyle and instead of a job. Don't judge somebody until you walk in their shoes.
There's more to life than just punchin' a clock.
Well...la-dee-daah! Good for you for being such a GOOD reminder (director). My husband and I worked together...we each did our own part and cooperated throughout the process.
I didn't need to be "reminded" bcoz I could handle the things that I needed to do on my end. VJ served as a great resource for both of us.
I think you should compare apples to apples. Apparently your wife was incapable of being much help throughout the visa process.
That doesn't mean those of us "Filipinas" that are capable, are married to "LAZY" spouses.
You need to put things in proper prespective!

Please hold on a sec Bob....
1) The whole time...it's only been Gilles side of the story.
2) I wonder if Gilles married a paycheck or a woman.?
3) He admits he's caught in a power struggle that he desires to win.
4) Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.
5) How many Filipinos don't want to help their family? The mabait 1's do.
I'm not excusing her behavior but..but...how many men do you know are succesful at backing their wives in a corner? (and) How many women do you know that when they feel backed in a corner...come out swinging?
How bout this..What if..Gilles has been twisting the truth to garner good ideas on how to get control? .What if..Her desire to help her family is due to the dire situation their in...Gilles doesn't care....Gilles was managing his finances before she got here and now he wants a pay raise? Perhaps.. they made an arrangement/ understanding that she would get a job and take the responsibility of providing for her family on her own shoulders and not his.....etc...
There seems to be some compromises made on her part already but Gilles is not yet satisified. Gilles wants everything his way when it comes to the ....everything?
Just a thought...the more Gilles posts the more questions come up in my mind about his true intent.

Please hold on a sec Bob....
1) The whole time...it's only been Gilles side of the story.
2) I wonder if Gilles married a paycheck or a woman.?
3) He admits he's caught in a power struggle that he desires to win.
4) Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.
5) How many Filipinos don't want to help their family? The mabait 1's do.
I'm not excusing her behavior but..but...how many men do you know are succesful at backing their wives in a corner? (and) How many women do you know that when they feel backed in a corner...come out swinging?
How bout this..What if..Gilles has been twisting the truth to garner good ideas on how to get control? .What if..Her desire to help her family is due to the dire situation their in...Gilles doesn't care....Gilles was managing his finances before she got here and now he wants a pay raise? Perhaps.. they made an arrangement/ understanding that she would get a job and take the responsibility of providing for her family on her own shoulders and not his.....etc...
There seems to be some compromises made on her part already but Gilles is not yet satisified. Gilles wants everything his way when it comes to the ....everything?
Just a thought...the more Gilles posts the more questions come up in my mind about his true intent.

:rofl: This is (perhaps) the most decisive relationship ending act I've witnessed on VJ. WELL DONE!
In 5 hours you went from....I think I'm done to...I bought the ticket and she's GONE!! (well...tomorrow)
I just wonder how the rest of your evening and night is going to play out...? Wonder how much sleep your going to get?
BTW...just an off the cuff observation...I don't think trying to get, your bride to be, to "MIND" you is the best strategy. Maybe give that 1 a little more thought before trying to employ it next time..?
oh..and ..the chair flying thing...maybe not such a good idea either...but all in all....
BRAVO!!!!

Sorry about your situation.
Domestic violence is horrific, confusing, and should not be tolerated for any reason!
(based on your side of the story) You should contact the police and file a victim protection order (VPO) immediately. She will be served the VPO w/in a couple days or sooner and be ordered to leave the home and she is not allowed to return (except with police escort to retrieve some personal need items otherwise risking incarceration, unless you invite her which will void the VPO if she can prove your invitation) until a court hearing is held and the matter settled. (if) The court rules in your favor then an extended order will be imposed and she faces possible jail time. BTW...you better be able to support your VPO claim or you risk being charged. This is a very brief explanation regarding the mechanics of a VPO, there is much more for you to learn and please consult with an attorney regarding VPO rules.
The fact that she admitted her offenses to your friends can be used as testimony because it is not "hear say". The confession was made by her directly to your friends. This can be used as evidence to support your claims. I would take pictures of any damage to the home to further support your allegation. The testimony and pictures will at least create some doubt if indeed she is able to effect a debunk of your claim and possibly stave off the courts' interest to come after you.
(if) You cannot afford an attorney then ask the police to provide advice on how to acquire a public assistance attorney.
I am curious if drugs or alcohol are being consumed before or during the conflicts. The reason I ask is because I'm wondering if you might be more tolerant, thinking, it's the booze and not her.
Please consider something...you are currently caught up in a nightmare that is freaking your rationale and senses. To do nothing about it is ludicrous and is allowing the violence to escalate. Taking action to end the violence could indeed be the salvation of your marriage and more importantly, maybe save your life.
Do yourself and her a favor and take the first step. Contact the proper authorities!!!
Good Luck!

OK...I will remove myself from the conversation. I just felt the boy needed a wake up call. How can some1 be so unaware? Asking about the sexuality of a nationality (filipina). Sexist, immature and dim witted. He exuded enough confidence that I thought he would appreciate it. I was wrong.

Think I'm just cranky - but the UI is kind of pale.....does that makes sense? I prefer more definitive frames around things