LucyLovesRicky

I understand you all are venting but be a little more reasonable.

Standing in line having papers stamped is a form of beaurocratic bs. It may not be long and drawn out but it's still beaurocratic #######.

Look I had a fairly long AP and yeah it sucked but I didn't expect anything less. When it was all said and done I appreciated that the embassy/immigration took the time to be somewhat thorough.

Yes, this is partially true. I could just enter Egypt pretty much anytime I want but I still would have to go through beaurocratic bs in order to obtain an extended visa. However, if it weren't true I wouldn't assume that I would be owed a visa to Egypt simply because I was married to an Egyptian.

You are not really into comforting your fellow man, are you? Do you also poke bruises?

People are just venting here, not actually looking for someone to offer your brand of "Tough Love"!

And I have 5 year permission to live in Egypt in my passport wasn't a any bearocratic bs, just stood in a line, paid a fee. Sweet and easy.

Well, it's hard o be reasonalbe these days, Mine comes and goes on a daily basis. I can be more resonable when my heart and soul is not in an almost physical unbearable pain of missing my husband. I wish I could be as calm and logical as you seem to have been when you were waiting for your husband.

But I have never been totally sure we'd ever be together because of lack of co-sponsor and other problems I have not shared. So, I have been in crisis mode for almost 3 years and it's so tiring on the nerves and mind. I have cried rivers in the last 3 years.

I just feel I can't take much more and my husband feels the same. We feel trapped with no way out. We are having a hard time seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.

I am usually a nice person so I'm sorry if I'm being a b****, really I'm not trying to be at all.

I am feeling the same way - I really feel like I am going crazy. I am definitely not sure that we are going to be together - next Tuesday may be the end of our marriage. Financially I make enough to barely support us, have been at the same job for 9 years so that isn't the problem but we have big red flags and no evidence before marriage. If I were a pretty 25 year old Nepali-American girl it would be no problem, we could be married after only knowing each other for 2 weeks but I am white, 16 years older than him and too old to have kids so hard to pull the 'Nepali tradition' card. I feel like it is almost certain that he won't get the visa and I have been fooling myself these last 2 years. I know that if he got denied I am financially unable to fight it, can't afford a lawyer, and if they decide he is a fraud because the CO thinks I am too old or ugly to be lovable or if he gets nervous and messes up our meeting dates etc. and the petition gets sent back to USCIS then really we are at a dead end. I don't know many people that could write an affidavit on our behalf - I can't even ask my own family because my stepfather is paranoid of having any dealings with the federal government. We will just have to give up - since we are already married it isn't as if we could marry and file a K-3 after a denied K-1. It is one thing to say 'well I could go to his country' but c'mon that really isn't feasible. There are no jobs for Nepalis let alone foreigners. There are thousands of Nepalis willing to risk expoitation even death in order to have a better life in a foreign country and I always knew that no matter how much we both love Nepal and want to go back that him coming here and us working for a few years and saving money was part of 'the deal' - if he doesn't get the visa then I really don't think he will want to stay with me. Hopefully I am underestimating his true intentions but I know I cannot fool myself... I cannot give him a ticket to a better life, I cannot give him children, really honestly besides love and support what can I give him??? In a way it is good we are not together now, I am trying hard not to let my anxiety and doubts show so he won't be more nervous than he already is but inside I am going nuts - it has been a nice dream these last couple of years that after a life of loneliness maybe I might have a shot at love and marriage but now my own government will take even that small chance away.

I really feel your pain and I know exactly how you are feeling on some of the points you made. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. I wish you the very best.

Morning MENA members

my interview is on the 23 of march, so please your prayer with ours and everyone else who's waiting

is there anyone else who have the interview on this day, please let us know

good luck to me and all

God be with you and I wish you a speedy AP.

I understand you all are venting but be a little more reasonable.

Standing in line having papers stamped is a form of beaurocratic bs. It may not be long and drawn out but it's still beaurocratic #######.

Look I had a fairly long AP and yeah it sucked but I didn't expect anything less. When it was all said and done I appreciated that the embassy/immigration took the time to be somewhat thorough.

Yes, this is partially true. I could just enter Egypt pretty much anytime I want but I still would have to go through beaurocratic bs in order to obtain an extended visa. However, if it weren't true I wouldn't assume that I would be owed a visa to Egypt simply because I was married to an Egyptian.

You are not really into comforting your fellow man, are you? Do you also poke bruises?

People are just venting here, not actually looking for someone to offer your brand of "Tough Love"!

And I have 5 year permission to live in Egypt in my passport wasn't a any bearocratic bs, just stood in a line, paid a fee. Sweet and easy.

Well, it's hard o be reasonalbe these days, Mine comes and goes on a daily basis. I can be more resonable when my heart and soul is not in an almost physical unbearable pain of missing my husband. I wish I could be as calm and logical as you seem to have been when you were waiting for your husband.

But I have never been totally sure we'd ever be together because of lack of co-sponsor and other problems I have not shared. So, I have been in crisis mode for almost 3 years and it's so tiring on the nerves and mind. I have cried rivers in the last 3 years.

I just feel I can't take much more and my husband feels the same. We feel trapped with no way out. We are having a hard time seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.

I am usually a nice person so I'm sorry if I'm being a b****, really I'm not trying to be at all.

Nope not the fault of the embassy never said it was.

I see that your interview date was in January? Is this the initial interview? If so, you haven't been in AP long at all. Any hold ups along the way as far as getting a co-sponsor is not the fault of the Cairo embassy.

And as a different viewpoint couldnt that long terrrible wait break up a couple who is truly in love. And by the time they are together they are so tired and stressed from the long seperation and the hell of immigration that they are too tired and wore out to work on a marriage?

I swear we're about to lose our minds and when he ever gets here we're goona be too crazy do anything. Everthing keeps going wrong. It's like fate is sitting back laughing it's head off at us. One of our computer's always going on the blink and needing an expensive repair. Internet on his end ALWAYS crazy. My cheapass phone service no good connection. We can't even hold a decent converstation anymore. IT"S DRIVING US INSANE.

I JUST WANT TO BE WITH MY HUSBAND, THATS WHY THE HELL I MARRIED HIM. We can't afford for me to go there and wait with him until that CO gets off his #### and does that final approval. I swear somedays we just want to kill ourselves to get out of this fricking hell of immigration. I mean NIGHTMARE!!!!!

It's been 19 months since I've seen him and I'm going INSANE.

Yes, this is partially true. I could just enter Egypt pretty much anytime I want but I still would have to go through beaurocratic bs in order to obtain an extended visa. However, if it weren't true I wouldn't assume that I would be owed a visa to Egypt simply because I was married to an Egyptian.

You are not really into comforting your fellow man, are you? Do you also poke bruises?

People are just venting here, not actually looking for someone to offer your brand of "Tough Love"!

And I have 5 year permission to live in Egypt in my passport wasn't a any bearocratic bs, just stood in a line, paid a fee. Sweet and easy.

And as a different viewpoint couldnt that long terrrible wait break up a couple who is truly in love. And by the time they are together they are so tired and stressed from the long seperation and the hell of immigration that they are too tired and wore out to work on a marriage?

I swear we're about to lose our minds and when he ever gets here we're goona be too crazy do anything. Everthing keeps going wrong. It's like fate is sitting back laughing it's head off at us. One of our computer's always going on the blink and needing an expensive repair. Internet on his end ALWAYS crazy. My cheapass phone service no good connection. We can't even hold a decent converstation anymore. IT"S DRIVING US INSANE.

I JUST WANT TO BE WITH MY HUSBAND, THATS WHY THE HELL I MARRIED HIM. We can't afford for me to go there and wait with him until that CO gets off his #### and does that final approval. I swear somedays we just want to kill ourselves to get out of this fricking hell of immigration. I mean NIGHTMARE!!!!!

It's been 19 months since I've seen him and I'm going INSANE.

Hi guys!

This is my first time to post and i need your support guys to help me with our situation. Me and my fiance were together since 2007. We have a big problem now. We cant start filing the K1 petition 'cause we still havent met in person. My fiance is not allowed to travel abroad 'cause he is paying child support. And I have read in some situation posted here that we can apply for a waiver since my fiance cant come here to meet me due to the existing law in his country but i also read some advice that if the petitioner couldnt meet the beneficiary, the beneficiary should make an effort or move by going to petitioner's country to meet him.

Now I am thinking so hard what we should do here? Im planning to apply for tourist visa to see my fiance but applying for tourist visa is very difficult here in my country. And if ever i get approved Im afraid i might be hold at the port of entry 'cause of my reason why i want to be there. I know i must show prrof that i will comeback here in our country and not intend to live in my fiance's country. In my heart i know i will definitely comeback here so we can start legally the K1 process. But if ever i get denied (tourist visa), do you think that is enough reason so we can apply for a waiver? I mean if i get denied, can we use the embassy decision being denied to apply for waiver of not meeting in person and start to file the K1 petition?

Thank you guys in advance!

#1 you will not get a waiver for this reason. Dream on.

#2 Paying child support has absolutely nothing to do with traveling abroad. He told you that? And you believe it?

PS NOT paying child support could have something to do with it.

He is probably in arrears with the government. Meaning his children may have lived on welfare for a time while he paid nothing. They will not grant him a paaport until it and all interest is paid in full. They are afraid he will leave the country and never come back to pay his debt.

I feel so bad for my situtaion....my marriage is on verge of divorce....cuz of the embassy people..My interview went fine and at the end they issued me 221g requesting documents...i submitted them..,and its been over 2 weeks no news frm them..

well me and my wife fight everyday on phone cuz its been 1.5 years of marriage and we hardly spent 3 months together. and plus she lost her job because of recession, ....I tried to call her to india..but my parents are against from our marriage cuz my wife is WHITE., she is white american....but i love her and she loves me too...well, I am goin through a lot and i dont know on what basis they issued me 221g....well im soo depressed..and frustated....

i think 221g is favourite for new delhi embassy....

I feel Like i lost everything..-------------No hopes-----------

dont knw wat to do>??

Please try and be strong ur so close. And it's very natural to fight and be stressed out for you both. This process is long and tiring but you are almost done. Hold on a little longer. Me and my husband are going through much the same thing. We are depressed and worried much of the time. And it's hard to be feel close to each other when you are waitning and hoping for so long a time. My 3rd anniversary is in 4 days and I've only spent 1 with him. We were so hoping to be together for this one too. We've been together about 7 months out of 3 years. It's so very hard and I know you 2 are desperate. We haven't seen each other in 1 year and 7 months. We are too.

But we also wait for the embassy. They say they are done with AP and waiting the CO's final approval but his interview was in Jan. and they told us that about a month ago. We have to hold on a little bit longer we're almost done. You pray for us and I'll pray for you and your wife.

OK good, at least I'm not the only one that thought it hurt. You had your whole face done with Threading??? ouch!!

Like I said they found more than I knew I had! LOL! And yeah Ouch!!

OUCH! Still have a scar that's horrible!! She's lucky you aren't sue happy. So could you fill me in on what is eyebrow threading?

THanks for your sympathy!! Here is a youtube video about threading.

They say it's not painful but I disagree. It feels like tweezing, so you feel each and every individual hair coming out, which to me is not comfortable, even though they do it extremely fast. For eyebrows I prefer the wax (when it's done right!!!) just because they're all pulled out at once. Then again, maybe the person who was doing my threading was doing it wrong which made it painful. Maybe I should try again with someone else. I don't think I could do it on my own- looks really complicated! What do you think?

No they weren't doing it wrong it hurts like hell. But if you do it on a regular basis it starts to hurt less you get more used to it. However, in my experiece some people do have a lighter touch than others. I always had my whole face done and I always cried involuntarily when they did my lip. You know I think Mena people are obsessed because they find hair i never knew I had, or maybe it's cuz I'm blind as a bat.

OUCH! Still have a scar that's horrible!! She's lucky you aren't sue happy. So could you fill me in on what is eyebrow threading?

THanks for your sympathy!! Here is a youtube video about threading.

They say it's not painful but I disagree. It feels like tweezing, so you feel each and every individual hair coming out, which to me is not comfortable, even though they do it extremely fast. For eyebrows I prefer the wax (when it's done right!!!) just because they're all pulled out at once. Then again, maybe the person who was doing my threading was doing it wrong which made it painful. Maybe I should try again with someone else. I don't think I could do it on my own- looks really complicated! What do you think?

No they weren't doing it wrong it hurts like hell. But if you do it on a regular basis it starts to hurt less you get more used to it. However, in my experiece some people do have a lighter touch than others. I always had my whole face done and I always cried involuntarily when they did my lip. You know I think Mena people are obsessed because they find hair i never knew I had, or maybe it's cuz I'm blind as a bat.

Atheer we got the same email about 3 weeks ago.

And in response to another email to them a few days ago, they said that they would give the CO in charge of the final review a gentle reminder. I hope they meant that but who knows. But I'm grasping at straws so I chose to accept it as good news. I feel somewhat more hopeful. His interview was on January 4, 2009.

The last email said they are done with AP (I was confused about that).

Atheer I guess your case and my husband's case is lying together on the top of someones's desk collecting dust just waiting for the consular officer to dust it off and open it up. He will need to clear his desk soon. So, it will be very soon for us God Willing.

Granted it was in 1992 and laws have changed but my ex-husband was here illegally. He emtered "WITHOUT INSPECTION". He He was allowed to stay here during the process and was approved. He was even approved for AOS after I had filed for divorce. Best to talk to a lawyer. I would even call USCIS and ask them questions on what to do. You don't have to tell them who you are until you file your paperwork.

I would just call USCIS and ask them what is the best thing to do.

I have a friend who is a member of VJ and she posted some questions on here for me before I was a member. The members here DID NOT have the correct information. USCIS told me exactly what to do.

I am not insulting VJ members. I'm just saying that in a thorny situation like this it is better to get the information you need straight from the horses mouth.

Hello everyone I'm Monica

I had another account that I had just registered maybe about a week ago but had yet to post in the forum because I was getting a feel for the board. Sorry if this in the wrong thread

Well I was so happy and excited that I had someone. We had discussed marriage but not taken it too seriously because we had about 16 months of knowing each other. There wasn't going to be an answer until we both met and seen if something was possible. He is from Cairo, Egypt.

I am so upset because i believe that he was only using me (money) I feel so ashamed for believing him and giving him money. Me being a college student I really don't have much but I did what I could to help him. I believed everything he said, I had talked to his sisters briefly, seen his mom..we did cam to cam chats a lot or through skype we had cam and voice chats. I had too much access into his personal life, even have his job resume..have family pictures, everything that tells you that he's being honest with you including job info and some access to job stuff and would not dare lie to you..because I had all his info..including his home address. (I mailed him letters which leads me to believe it was his home)

Well now he said, we should just be friends being as he started to get so "busy" with work and said he did not have time for anyone else. It hurt a lot but I agreed to it, and did see it as being best for "us." During that conversation he started to tell me that we would be friends and that I would always have him as my friend as someone that will encourage me and give me his opinions in matters that I needed help with. He even promised that even if it took him years he would still return me the money. Maybe I'm wrong here but I just found out that he was blocking me from the chats! I have this feeling that he said all that to me because I can potentially harm his career or life, since I have so much access. To be honest if I found out he was/is using me the most I would do was tell his sisters, I'd consider the job thing but it's his livelihood I really can't be that cruel, he made it clear he doesn't want them to know, threatened me with disappearing from my life if i mention it to one of them. What an a**hole...silly side of this is that I still care for him a lot. I hope so much that I'm in the wrong here but something tells me that he just can't wait to get rid of me.

I really need someone's opinion, I'm going crazy with all of this and just need to see the light. What hurts so much, that just kills me is that I somewhat fell for him and had already started to look ahead as to what the future could bring for us and all of it was just some lie coming from him.

Can someone just give me some advise or just tell me that I'll be fine?

-Monica

Consider yourself lucky that he didn't milk you dry of finances and use you for a Visa, And if you married him you'd have a 2-4 year wait to be with him anyway. Believe me, it a hell on earth beyond belief. Chalk it up to life experience, and try and be more carefull next time.

No need to seek revenge because usually all that does is cause pain and regret to yourself and brings no relief or satisfaction.

Yes, this is so sad it breaks my heart. The poor lady who died and those injured. This is one of our favorite places in Egypt to Visit. We had so much fun there so many times and I guess that is an additional reason to feel so saddened.

Hang in there and just roll with it... the ride is just about to begin... (so far you've just been standing in the long long line!) However, the good news is, you get to ride WITH him!

Thank you so much for that it brought tears to my eyes. It's very sweet and makes me hopeful.

Thanks everyone for your replies and support. It means a lot in this VERY stressful time. Thanks for the number Mohamed 123. Yes, I call it but not too much. Because my heart and mood usually plummets when I hear those words still in administrative processing.

I know we should be happy now after all we've been through. I never dreamed how hard it would be to wait for this final step. Close, yet so far.

God help us crazy people who choose to go through this hell on earth. I am choosing to remain positive especially after my 15 year old daughter chewed me out and gave me a reality check. "Mom your supposed to be happy, he's almost here and just one year ago you didn't even have a co-sponsor. Stop making yourself sad."

She's right but I'm a big baby. I want my husband already.

God yes, me and my husband both are about to crack! I had severe health problems the first year but was somewhat relieved of them after I got to spend six months with him. But now that it has been 1 1/2 years since I've seen him, the cost, the waiting, the loneliness, and college, and a daughter, not to mention the stress of wondering when and if the embassy will ever produce that magical Visa. I just feel so helpless and hopeless, I can barely function at this point. I had to drop one class, and am seriously thinking about quitting entirely and sittling and stewing in my depression.

So, now im wondering when all the other health problems will begin again due to this excess stress.

Lord help us all throught this insanity.

You also asked did they tell him they needed something else at the interview.

Here's a link to my post that addresses that exact thing.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=172306

I think they are always trying to get us off their backs but you should stay positive. Email them soon and ask if there is anything that you could be of assistance with seeing that its final review. But first have your hubby email them asking about status as well. We both communicated with them back to back.

Keep @ them and always in a polite way.

Did they keep his passport? Or say anything about needing further information to him @ his interview?

I sent an email to the embassy in Cairo and recieved this response.

Dear Madam:

The case is pending the officer's final review. We will process the case to conclusion once that is completed.

Regards,Consular staff

His interview was Jan. 4. It is a different response than usual. But do you think its just a standard get off our backs and leave us alone form letter type of thing?

I chose to take it as good news and hope that they will be done soon. Anyway, anyone else have an opinion?

Thanks,

Lucy

This is the origianl email I had sent them when I got the response I already posted.

My husband had his interview on Jan.4, 2009 and his visa was approved and they kept his passport and said that he would recieve his visa in about a week. It has been several weeks, so I want to know if perhaps you need some other document from us to complete his case?

Is he currently going through Security Checks? Please, how much longer will it be?

Thank you,

So it sounds like I already did some of the things you suggested. Yes, they did keep his passport.

He has also emailed them but I think he's doing something wrong they have yet to answer one of his emails. I guess I'll ask him to forward one to me so I can see what he's saying.

However, he's quite touchy on the subject right now, so maybe not. Both of our nerves are strung out to the breaking point.

I sent an email to the embassy in Cairo and recieved this response.

Dear Madam:

The case is pending the officer's final review. We will process the case to conclusion once that is completed.

Regards,Consular staff

His interview was Jan. 4. It is a different response than usual. But do you think its just a standard get off our backs and leave us alone form letter type of thing?

I chose to take it as good news and hope that they will be done soon. Anyway, anyone else have an opinion?

Thanks,

Lucy

I knew a couple that was in the exact same situation. Met them at the Embassy in Cairo. He was a student. Never served in the Military. Was quite young, 25 I think. They filed DCF. He was actually approved and his date to arrive in the US was set.

But somehow, someone realized he hadn't served his time in the military. So, he was not allowed to come. He was still in the military last I heard and she told me she would have to start all over again when he got out. I haven't heard from them in quite awhile but imagine they're in the middle of the immigration process again by now.

I wish I had gotten more details about who stopped him from coming; the embassy, the airport, egyptian gov. or by what means he was actually approved for the Visa in the first place.

My husband is from Mexico and I was born in the US. We have been married for 2 years. We were married here. We went to an immigration lawyer to see if there was any way to get him a legal status. He didnt give us much hope. I am new to this site and need help. I am not sure if the lawyer is being truthful or if there is something else that we can do. If anyone has any advice please let me know. thanks

My ex-husband was in this exact situation. But we were married less than 2 years before we filed papers. And it was way back in 1993 so I'm sure things have changed a lot. He had no problems and he handled all the paperwork and all the fees, so I can't really say exactly what papers, I just signed them. I just can't remember and I don't have copies anymore. He never got in trouble or deported.

But I did have to high-tail it to Mexico after he was interviewed. They didn't believe him and wanted to see me and pictures. I can't believe we were too stupid to send pictures with him. But then again I wasn't too happy with the marriage already, so didn't care as much as most people going thru the process.

I even divorced him before the papers were final. But he still got his greencard. Boy, was he angry when he thought I had screwed him out of the greencard. We had a young daughter though. And I did go to his AOS interview with him.

Don't remember much just explained the divorce and was insulted by the officer when she stated that my daughter didn't even know her Dad, which was a crazy lie. She was about 1 year old and ran around in the new environment like a little circus monkey. She wasn't paying attention to questions, like "Where's Daddy?"

I'm sorry I guess this wasn't much help.

When we got married I called and told my insurance carrier that I was now married and asked them to add my husband to my home and auto ins. policies. They did and didn't increase my premiums. They asked if he had a drivers license and I said International only... they said fine and told me he would need to get it before my policy renewal in April.

Saturday I got a letter from them telling me that I will be cancelled because he doesn't have a US drivers license. I phoned them and suggested that they exclude him as a driver, and he just won't drive until he gets his license, but why cancel me???? They said they don't insure people who are married to people who don't have a valid license. WTH?????? I asked them if they would cancel me for marrying a blind man! Why cancel me because he doesn't drive??? This seems like a load of manure.... My Mom hasn't driven for 10 years and it hasn't affected my dad's insurance...

Has this happened to anyone else? He isn't driving as it is because we only have one vehicle... but that fact doesn't seem to matter to them...

LOL! That's the most ridiculous ####### I've ever heard. Who do they have running that company. Sounds like a skit from Saturday Night Live!

I'd pitch a big ole fit on them, and embarrass myself and everyone else within hearing distance.