Chelle62

WOW so much has happened. Congrats to you all that have gotten married You must all be so happy to be with your loves after all the process. Keith and I are talking more and we are ok. We have no definate plans as of yet but I did put in for the extension and was granted it so we will see. He has until July to decide what he is going to do and if we need to we will ask for another one. We are staying positive and like I said talking so that is a good thing. Its been 5 months since he left me but we are back together and working towards our dreams.

This time apart has showed us both just how much we love each other and it has given him the time he needs to do what he needs to do. Now we know that if it is meant to be it will be. We will also not depend on anyone else to help us with the support , I will do that on my own. Right now I am like 200 dollars short for the years income ... I am trying to find another part time job to go with the one I have along with child support so I am sure it will happen when the time is right.

I have moved into a sweet little cottage, its so cute and I have planted flowers out front so its very homey. I am working and I am working on myself now. I found out that I am alot stronger then I knew. Yes I wanted to give up but my love for Keith is so much stronger then I ever knew that I couldnt just give up without at least trying to work us out. He is doing ok and everyday sounds more like him own self. I love him and have forgiven for all and the past is in the past and the future is all there is in front of us.

I hope one day to post on here that he is back with me and have a wedding picture to share with you all. Its been a hard road but ya know what ... LOVE is worth it

again I am happy for you all and I want to still be apart of you all in this forum cause I do belong here so I am back and I wont give up as long as I can breathe I will continue to fight for what I want

hugs to you all

Love

Chelle

Congrats to all the new approvals, to all of you already in the states with your loves. I am really happy for you all and wish you all the best.

much love

chelle

Ok alot of you already know me and keiths situation. So I have some questions. We are talking now and no promises to each other but we are still very much in love and I want to know what our options are. We did the k1 , we got approval. we got packet 3 and then broke up. Like I said we are talking now so I want to know if I can request an extension on the k1 as it expires in march? I dont want to give this up completely as then we would have to start all over again. If we can get a extension to hold off on the interview until we are ready then what do I have to do and how long will they give us? I also know that once the interview is done and the visa is in hand we have 6 months to use it.

Our biggest problem was a cosponsor as they kept backing out at the last second and that caused alot of stress. If we can get the extension then it will give me enough time to find a second job in order to meet the guidelines. Now where I didnt work much last year.. only made about $ 11,500 that includes child support as I spent half the year in england , will they take a letter from my employers now to cover the money needed to sponsor him if we continue with this route? This part has always confused me alot.

I am willing to move to England to be with him if that is another option for us but right now I want to see what we have in options with everything.

Thanks

Chelle

Yes, if you increase your current income, they'll accept documentation of that. Petitions can be extended in four month increments. It would be good to simply request the extension without elaborating about why. Something as simple as, "We need more time to get our paperwork together." will do nicely.

Thankyou for your reply... Do I contact the london embassy to get it extended?

Ok alot of you already know me and keiths situation. So I have some questions. We are talking now and no promises to each other but we are still very much in love and I want to know what our options are. We did the k1 , we got approval. we got packet 3 and then broke up. Like I said we are talking now so I want to know if I can request an extension on the k1 as it expires in march? I dont want to give this up completely as then we would have to start all over again. If we can get a extension to hold off on the interview until we are ready then what do I have to do and how long will they give us? I also know that once the interview is done and the visa is in hand we have 6 months to use it.

Our biggest problem was a cosponsor as they kept backing out at the last second and that caused alot of stress. If we can get the extension then it will give me enough time to find a second job in order to meet the guidelines. Now where I didnt work much last year.. only made about $ 11,500 that includes child support as I spent half the year in england , will they take a letter from my employers now to cover the money needed to sponsor him if we continue with this route? This part has always confused me alot.

I am willing to move to England to be with him if that is another option for us but right now I want to see what we have in options with everything.

Thanks

Chelle

Thank you all for the good luck wishes...they worked!!

APPROVED

It got so emotional i cried when he told me...he looked rather shocked!! Putting it partly down to hormones!!

I really want to thank you all you have been a godsend for helping pull me through this really long arduous journey.

Yayyyy dawn, I am so happy for you both... I knew it would go ok cause you are such a good person and i am so happy we are friends. now when you get here and settled we need to meet up .. I am ready for a vacation once warm weather gets here .. wooohoooo its done for you so enjoy, cry if ya want cause happy tears are good for you

Lots of hugs to you

Chelle

Good Luck Rob and Dawn, Oohhh I cant wait to hear your news. I spoke with Keith yesterday and he said he was being sent home from work early because of the snow .. havent heard from him yet this morning so not sure if they canceled it today too or not.. I hope she gets to go. I read on google that they got 25 cm in most places.. that is about 9.8 inches and for us here in Maine that is just a flurry lol but for england its quite major I guess. I hope everyone is well..

Much love

Chelle

Just stopped by to see how everyones journey is going. Looks like things are moving right along for you all. Congrats koakland , I am so happy for you both. It must be so nice to know that this part is behind you. As I kept reading everyones messages I must admit I felt some tears build up inside of me cause if things were different , Keith and I would be done too and he would either be here or on his way. but with saying all of that.. I am really happy for all that have got there visas , interview dates , and those that have already joined there loved ones here in america. I wish you all the best and sending big hugs to everyone.

Much love

Chelle

Congrats on your safe arrival to america. I am so happy for you both nick and shannon, I know how you have both waited for this day , it brings tears to my eyes because I can just imagine how happy you both are feeling right now. so happy for you both. You are both great and have helped me alot with the process in the past .

Keith and I have talked and today in a email chat back and forth , he took my hand for the first time since he left so who knows.. a new saying that I have found... two people who are meant to be will always find there way in the end.

Again congrats to you all on your visas and stuff

Love Chelle

OMG,, Shannon and Nick congrats on the baby, he is so cute, I am so happy for you both, also congrats on the interview .. only a couple more days and you will be together, that is so great. Congrats to everyone else also on medicals, interview dates etc. This must be so exciting for you all. I miss you guys but its hard to read somedays even though I am so excited for you all.

Keith and I still email daily from his work, He isnt living where he can be online now so its just a couple quick hellos, how are yous etc from work. He still says its over and wants me to move on, says he cant ask me to trust him again... shame he wont let me make that choice , he feels he has to make it for me. Oh well Nevermind. I am doing ok, still rough days and horrible nights, I still cry myself to sleep everynight and still sleep with his watch and picture , I know silly girl I am lol.

I did finally find a job even though I really dont care about doing anything at the moment but I have to move on with my life. I do have a gentlemen interested in me, he is older, has his own company and wants to take care of me but he is in Germany and I swore I would never go through immigration again so I am staying strong and avoiding this at the moment. We are good friends and he has treated me so well and been there for me to talk to since Keith left me. He has picked me up and held my hand. He is 13 years older and i know thats not alot but for some reason I have a issue with it. Maybe its because I am just not ready for another relationship because my heart is still with Keith and I do still love him adn would take him back in a heart beat.. I dont know.. time will tell what my future will bring.

Anyways I only stopped by to say hellloooo and to see if the new baby had been born yet , yayyyy for Ryan... Take care all of you and I will check back in a few days to see how you all are doing.

I love you guys

Chelle

Hello everyone, I am glad things are moving on well for you all. Soon you will be together and wont have to think about this stuff for a while. Keith has emailed me a few times, from work , still says its over , but today i got one that said he is sorry for what he has done to me, he said that he knows how he feels about me but that is irrelavant to what he has done to me, he also said that he senses everyone hates him now in my family so he told me to forget him. I dont have a clue where he got that from as I havent told anyone in my family , I have kept this all to myself and trying to deal with it by myself. I dont know where his head is at but I have told him I am still here.

The tears are starting to slow down finally , still not sleeping well, still missing him so much and alls I want is for him to hold me and tell me its all going to be ok. I really love him guys and I know he loves me. He said in the email he is really messed up and I dont know how hard it was for him to say goodbye , well if it was that hard then fix it but I guess it is easier right now for him to just let it all go.

I have set him free and if he comes back its meant to be , if not then I had a great time over the last 2 years and I have no regrets. I look at his pictures every day and close my eyes and I feel him near me and that gets me through the day. I have his voice recorded on my pc so I listen to them from time to time just so I can hear his voice in my ears. My heart still aches for him and my soul tells me he will come around someday and realize what he has lost. I know I will be waiting for this day.

I have been asked out on some dates but am not interested as he is my true love and I will stay faithful to him. I have decided as of right now anyways that I dont want anyone else in my life, one I cant take any more pain and two I only want him. Some of you will think I am crazy for still wanting him after all of this but I am not crazy , I am just in love with him. He is my world and without him I am a lost puppy , existing day by day. I pray he gets help and then comes back. When he is well he is the best man ever and he makes me happy. I wont give up on him , never

I love you guys and amm soooo happy for you all

Chelle

I just wanted to stop by and let you all know that I am doing so so now.. I hope you all had a merry xmas and a happy new year. I spent alot of time alone during the holidays but on xmas night Keith did pop into second life where we met and danced a couple of dances with me so that made me a little hopeful. I didnt hear from him again until a few minutes ago through a email telling me to move on with my life, that he has to end it for good because he cant handle pressure. I guess he got into with his parents over all of this too so they arent talking.. Maybe they did like me afterall.

My heart is broken and my tears wont stop. I have told him I will wait forever but he says he will not contact me ever again and is going to remove all web details so that I cant reach him because he feels I wont move on unless he does and he wants me to look back over the last 2 years as a bad dream. I love him , always have and always will. I wont give up hope because if its meant to be he will return if not then he lost one hell of a woman because I was good to him and I gave him all of my love .. he will regret this someday I am sure.

Anyways.. I am happy for all of you, looks like things are moving right along. Yayyy ... big hugs to you all

Love yas

Chelle

I want to say I am so sorry that I made you all worry. I also want to let you know that I am ok and that I didnt have suicidal thoughts. I have been through alot in my life and I am a very strong woman , I guess when things go wrong we forget that but after a few hours of crying the strength comes back. I will never lose hope for Keith and I but if it doesnt work out then it wasnt meant to be which I am a strong believer in this. I love him and I have no regrets. It has been a great ride. I got to visit another country because of him and i got to feel real love inside of my heart. I will wait patiently for him and give him the time he needs , if he doesnt come back to me then I will close the door and wait for the next one to open.

Also to the moderators... Thankyou for caring and taking steps that you felt you needed to take to make sure I am safe. I just had visitors and I must say the officer was a cutie but a young one lol. I do now know that you people including all of my family here care about me so yes I will continue to post here and watch all of your dreams come true

Seriously though I am fine. I love you guys and thankyou again for caring. Its nice to know when things like this happens that there is people out there , even all over the world that care. You all deserve happiness and I pray each and everyone of you get it.

Merry Christmas and heres to a wonderful 2009

Huggs

Chelle

Chelle love

You are my twin I swear...LOL You hold that pretty head up..it will be okay...Im so happy you are doing okay..I wont say wonderful because THAT is not the case..Im just happy your here and still talking!!!

love ya lots!

meri your crazy vj sister!

I love ya lots to girl. I still havent heard anything and he didnt show up. I think he had to much on his mind and wasnt thinking rationally. I tried to call him last night to see if he was ok but the phone in our flat is gone so that means that he has moved out and hopefully gone with his parents. I cant believe I am saying that but that was the plan when I left and his father will take care of him if he is depressed like I think he is. Keith is a good man and I will treasure the time I had his love. I have no regrets as he was so worth this last 2 years. I will not give up hope either. I will wait for him until I feel it is time to move on. He is worth that even with his mistakes that he has made along the way. I love him and my heart hurts for him now as I know leaving me wasnt a easy thing for him to do. I know he is suffereing now just as much as I am. If our love is strong enough which I believe it is , we will find our way back to each other rather it is in a few weeks or a few years. Souls united cant be apart because they will always feel like something is missing. Right from the start I said he was my soul mate and someone from up above brought us together and he agrees. I pray for my baby to get through what ever he is going through right now and I pray that he finds his way back to me

hugs

chelle

I want to say I am so sorry that I made you all worry. I also want to let you know that I am ok and that I didnt have suicidal thoughts. I have been through alot in my life and I am a very strong woman , I guess when things go wrong we forget that but after a few hours of crying the strength comes back. I will never lose hope for Keith and I but if it doesnt work out then it wasnt meant to be which I am a strong believer in this. I love him and I have no regrets. It has been a great ride. I got to visit another country because of him and i got to feel real love inside of my heart. I will wait patiently for him and give him the time he needs , if he doesnt come back to me then I will close the door and wait for the next one to open.

Also to the moderators... Thankyou for caring and taking steps that you felt you needed to take to make sure I am safe. I just had visitors and I must say the officer was a cutie but a young one lol. I do now know that you people including all of my family here care about me so yes I will continue to post here and watch all of your dreams come true

Seriously though I am fine. I love you guys and thankyou again for caring. Its nice to know when things like this happens that there is people out there , even all over the world that care. You all deserve happiness and I pray each and everyone of you get it.

Merry Christmas and heres to a wonderful 2009

Huggs

Chelle

Please dont worry I will be ok guys, I have survived my entire life , right now I feel like there is no light at the end of the tunnel and darkness is surrounding me but I am not a quitter and I know this in my heart. I promise I will be ok

Love you guys

Chelle

This will be my final post. It can be deleted moved , I dont care but you are all the only family I have now and I want you to know my story because its all about to end.

When I was 9 years old my parents got divorced, my dad left and I was lost without him, he was the best father there was. My mom was angry and she took it out on me , the abuse started and continued for years. When I was 12 to the age of 16 my mothers boyfriend sexually abused me , my mom didnt care , finally I ran away and went and lived with my father. I was married to a abusive man for many years and I had given up any hope of finding someone who would be nice and gentle with me and then Keith came along and showed me how a woman should be treated. He was gentle and kind and when he touched me it was love. He never raised his hand to me in anger and when he held me in his arms I felt safe for the first time in my life.

My father died when I was 25 years old, he was 46 the same age that I am now. I have struggled with this pain all these years as I was a daddys girl and dammit I need him now.

What kind of a man can leave me on my birthday, what kind of a man can leave me a week before xmas, what kind of a man can hurt me so deeply and just disapear off the face of the earth and not give a #### , what kind of a man can do this?????

Christmas eve is so hard for me as that is the time I would spend with my dad and I miss him so much. Last year Keith sat and held me in his arms the entire night and told me he loved me and that he would be with me for always. LIES LIES LIES

This Christmas Eve I give myself a present and it will be the best present in the world and I wont be lonely anymore, No man will ever break my heart again, no man will ever hurt me again no man will ever mess me up ever again NO MORE

I say goodbye to all of you and I wish you all the best and all the luck with yur loves. Hold them tight , dont take them for granted and tell them you love them everyday and never ever give up because its horrible.

I love you all and I am sorry that I am not strong engough to do this anymore. I am sitting here listening to our son... you light up my life when I sent this to him 2 years ago today he cried and told me this is OUR song.. more lies?

on xcmas eve I will listen to this song, I will light my candle and I will drink a glass of wine, I will be all alone and never will I be again

Goodbye everyone and god bless you all

Hugsss

Chelle

thankyou for all your advice and nice words. No I didnt know that it is valid for 4 months. I have emailed him and told him this and told him to take the time he needs to get his head in order. I pray he comes around

Chelle

thankyou everyone. I have just found out that the NOA2 is good for 4 months. I have emailed him at his work email and told him this. I have also told him to take the time he needs but to not leave me hanging here. I have asked him to meet me in Second Life where we met tomorrow night and that we wouldnt discuss anything right now. Just be together. I am praying he will consider this. If not then I will wait the 4 months and if he doesnt come around by then I will set him free

Chelle

Its over, Keith left me tonight. He said he cant do this anymore, its doing his head in. He is tired of immigration , he is tired of people saying they will help us and then changing there minds. OMG he said Goodbye Chelle and disapeared, I begged him , I begged him but he just said no no more.

I am broken

I have no words... I can't imagine how you feel. I am really so sorry Chelle. As someone has said, maybe he just needed to blow off some steam and his words aren't his true feelings. Either way, I'm sure I speak for all of us, when I say we're here for you and will support you any way we can.

I cant stop crying, I cant breath, this hurts so bad, He said Goodbye , he never says goodbye ever

Keith has just broken up with me, he cant take the let downs and the being apart anymore. He said goodbye , what do i do now? We are weeks from the interview but have no cosponsor and I didnt make enough to do it so I need to know what I have to do now. I am broken , I am lost and I am all alone. This hurts so bad and I cant take the pain. He is my life and without him I am nothing.

Its over, Keith left me tonight. He said he cant do this anymore, its doing his head in. He is tired of immigration , he is tired of people saying they will help us and then changing there minds. OMG he said Goodbye Chelle and disapeared, I begged him , I begged him but he just said no no more.

I am broken

I need prayers. I have finally got brave enough to ask my son in law to cosponsor keith. He is reading the paperwork now. I dont feel good about it but I am praying that he will say yes. I have explained that this is just for the K1 process so please say a little prayer for me. He makes well over the amount needed so if he would do this it would fly through with no problems at all. I was shaking when I spoke to him. but I had to do it. I have to try anything in order to get Keith here

Chelle

CROSSES FINGERS!!

Let him come here to this site and let him know THIS IS NOT A BINDING CONTRACT it is just a support statement saying he is willing to help you get him over here and THAT IS IT..once you both are married it is null and void as you have to do a different support paper AFTER you are married.

I do not think the co-sponsors realize that at all and assume they will be stuck for a lifetime...not true at all

Things I found on here......

The I-134 is used to show that the Non-Immigrant K-1, or K-3 visa holder wont become a charge of the state, between the time they enter the country and adjust status and become a legal permanent resident.

So if one person cannot show sufficient resources to meet the Charge of state reg. Then an additional person can show willingness to make up the difference using an additional I-134 and financial evidence. REMEMBER THOUGH: the cosponsor for the 1-134 for the K1 visa is NOT held liable and it is only to show that they are in support of getting them here ONLY. It is not a binding contract.

here is another

At any rate, your future inlaws should be informed that signing the I134 for your sponsorship is completely 'non-binding' in any legal sense. There is no part of the INA (Immigration and Nationality Act) wherein there is any code which gives the I134 any legal teeth.

there are more so I hope these statements will help you. I was also told the same thing when i had to explain to my son who backed out because he feared he would be held liable for him. When in fact he would not be. BUT son could not as his job is still considered temp...SO mine all worked out and so will yours sweetie!!! Got my toes fingers and anythign else i can crossed..CROSSED! BIG HUGS!!!!!!!

Thankyou, I have copied your quotes and sent it to his email. I still havent heard anything so hoping no news is good news. Dear God in Heaven please let this happen. Thankyou also for the hugss.

Chelle

I need prayers. I have finally got brave enough to ask my son in law to cosponsor keith. He is reading the paperwork now. I dont feel good about it but I am praying that he will say yes. I have explained that this is just for the K1 process so please say a little prayer for me. He makes well over the amount needed so if he would do this it would fly through with no problems at all. I was shaking when I spoke to him. but I had to do it. I have to try anything in order to get Keith here

Chelle

I had sent a email to the embassy in London with just our case number on it and recieved a email back saying deleted without being read. Well today i got a email from them with my email attached to it lol.. They sent me all the info for the packet 3 and medical , I already had it as someone nice from here sent it to me ... anyways I have talked to keith finally, didnt go so well, he is very angry that yet another has backed out on us. That makes 3 promises and 3 backouts at the last minute. I have never seen him the way he was tonight, I am worried about him now. He has always been so strong and acted like nothing could get him down but since I left England he has been down but tonight it was anger. I can understand as I am feeling the same thing. He says we will make it and we will be together but without a cosponsor I dont see it happening.

I can try what I posted earlier but from what I have been reading here its not going to make a difference at all and will probally be denied. I will continue to pray for a miracle and anyone that wants to join me I would appreciate it. I know god answers prayers so I will keep my faith strong.

I dont belong to a church , so I cant imagine anyone helping me with that. The problem is , I have explained to a few that could afford to help me that this is just for the K1 and that as soon as we are married we will file AOS and then I will have made enough to sponsor him but people read that little word * sue * and they get scared. I have explained that this one isnt law abiding but they dont see it that way. What happened to people helping people in this world. I need a miracle... Its xmas time isnt that when miracles are suspose to happen... Please alls I want for xmas is a cosponsor that will stick with there word and help me to bring my man home.

Huggs

Chelle

Thankyou for the replys. I am trying to figure this all out and my head is in a better place today. I didnt sleep at all last night as fear took over, hence my post. I havent been able to speak to Keith yet so that hasnt helped. My question is this... At the first of the year up until I went to england so 6 months I worked for my brother in law , it was under the table so no taxes were taken out. If I get a W2 from him can I claim that , yes I would claim it on my taxes also but is this possible, if so between that and the other two jobs I worked at before I left along with the child support that I have recieved I would be over the amount needed to sponsor Keith.

I figure the interview wont come up until January so can I use 08s income instead of 07s. I will also be working for him again now so that gives me a steady income of 500 a week. Is this possible???

Please say it is. as 2007 I only made 11,084 with that is the child support added in. Someone please tell me how to go about this

Thanks

Chelle

Huggsss to you all

I LOSE , My last chance for a cosponsor has just emailed me and backed out. There is noone else. I cant do this anymore. My heart is breaking and I cant stop crying but it looks like its over now. I cant wait for another year to be with him , my heart cant deal with it my head cant take it. I am lost Everything is going wrong in my life now. I am all alone and noone can help me His interview is weeks away and we made it this far and now its over. How do I tell him? How do I go on without him in my life. Why did God bring him to me only to have this happen? Do I deserve this ? I cant take it