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If you are in California, and your friend works at a court house, then you know that the judge doesn't make the assessment. It's made by FCS after the mediator interviews both parents. In the majority of cases, the judge will go along with the mediator's recommendation. The judge never even talks directly to the parents unless they represent themselves in court. The only time a custody case doesn't go to FCS is if custody is uncontested.

Above all of the other factors the mediator takes into account, the one thing they prefer over all others is a primary custodian who can be a full time parent. The deck is stacked against a father who works, or earns significantly more than the mother. They don't care who "steps up on day 1", and there's nothing in the California family code that would make them care about it.

again, you are so wrong it isn't funny anymore.

Why doesn't the OP consult an attorney instead of going on what ANYone says in this thread? We can conjecture all day long, but that's what they do for a living.

did you read the OP? she has no money so VJ is the best she has at this point. there are millions out there, in line, waiting for some free legal service to call them back. i imagine a lot of lawyers willing to help these folks get quite frustrated considering they whine a lot, but usually are easy to forgive the offending spouse so lots of the legal work become a waste of time after the spouse goes back. i know, if i were a lawyer, i'd not rush in to help unless the situation was a lot more graver than the OP has disscribed. on a scale of 1 to 10, the OP's situation is minor in domestic abuse circles so getting attention from free source won't be wham-bam.

i'm in california and my best friend works at the court house and is involved in these cases day in and day out and i know, from what she has told me, that the father is not biased.

if the father is primary caregiver from day 1 after separation and maintains primary caregiver, the courts will not favor mom. i don't know where you get your information from, but you are dead wrong.

you can claim the courts are down on dad, but that is not true when dad steps up right from the beginning just like a lot of women do. a lot of fathers for whatever reason do not step up from day 1 so women get custody and to some this makes it seems as though courts favor mom. they don't - it is basic training for judges not to bias anyone based on race or gender.

n_deep_jen, all the decisions that judges make with regard to child support and spoual support are made a long time after you actually need the support.

there are countless number of women that go years without any support, because some men instruct their lawyer to delay hearings in every way possible.

when it comes to separation, divorce, child support, spoual support, their is no finger snapping magic. it takes time for the same reason it took time immigrating.... there is a backlog... there are women and men in front of you so you must be able to survive while you wait.

Although the law in most states is written so as not to bias either parent in determining child custody, family courts in most states are still heavily biased in favor of the mother.

they are in favor of whomever keeps the kids from day 1 after separation which so happens to usually be the mother.

when fathers keeps their kids and mom goes traveling or goes to stay with family after a separation then the courts will favor dad.

the courts/judges do not want to disrupt kids from their bedrooms, their home, their schools, their playrooms, the kitchen they have grown to know, their neighborhood friends.. all things familiar so if dad stays with the kids and mom goes, the courts will rule in favor of dad.

even if dad takes the kids with him and they are in unfamiliar surroundings while mom stays in the family's home, judges will still rule in favor of dad if dad has had custody of the kids from day 1 after separation.

to say what you said above would mean that judges are bias. being unbias is job number one for judges so i don't buy that they play favorites.

we are staying in the USA long enough for me to get my US citizenship. we leave before then and i would lose my GC. US citizen... i'd be so proud to be an american citizen!

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Digging this out again. The aforemention son who is 20 until June and in the Philippines has his birth cert corrected.

His mom came here on K-1, all her children except for the son are over 21 and all her children were listed on the 129.

His mom wants to get him here now.

QUESTION: I thought the day he turned 21, he was too old to follow on K-1 visa?

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Another question about the other kids who are over 21.

If the mom becomes a US Citizen (say in 4 to 5 years), how long does it take for her kids to get here after she petitions them?

And, does their marital status make them ineligible in anyway?

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she may already be divorced, and not know it. if she has any friends in the area where she was married they can go to the local courthouse and ask at the records office if a divorce case had been decreed in the past 3 years, using the names of the individuals. if so, a lawyer should be involved to give credibility to the chain of documentation in getting a copy to the phillipines.

He might have divorced in another state.... and might not have too.

I always use English when my husband is around and even when I'm chatting on Yahoo with family in the RP for, in my opinion, it is the most respectful thing to do. Sad to see so many posts in Tagalog when much of the audience are English only.

A lot of Filipinos are afraid to speak in English and write in English when other Filipinos can hear or read, because they are afraid they will judge their English (and laugh at them.... even if it is a silent laugh).

Works for me!!!!

I've been praying the novena to St expeditus and St jude eversince my fiance filed the petition... it works for me...

my st jude novena goes this way:

Novena To

St. Jude

Most holy Apostle, St. Jude, faithful servant and friend of Jesus, the Church honors and invokes you universally, as the patron of difficult cases, of things almost despaired of, Pray for me, I am so helpless and alone.

Intercede with God for me that He bring visible and speedy help where help is almost despaired of. Come to my assistance in this great need that I may receive the consolation and help of heaven in all my necessities, tribulations, and sufferings, particularly -

(make your request here)

- and that I may praise God with you and all the saints forever. I promise, O Blessed St. Jude, to be ever mindful of this great favor granted me by God and to always honor you as my special and powerful patron, and to gratefully encourage devotion to you.

Amen

PRAYER

May the Most Sacred Heart of Jesus be adored, and loved in all the tabernacles until the end of time. Amen.

May the most Sacred Heart of Jesus be praised and glorified now and forever. Amen

St. Jude pray for us and hear our prayers. Amen.

Blessed be the Sacred Heart of Jesus

Blessed be the Immaculate Heart of Mary

Blessed be St. Jude Thaddeus, in all the world and for all Eternity.

(say this prayer, followed by the Our Father and the Hail Mary)

This prayer is repeated also 9 times a day? I will try this prayer...GOD BLESS ME...

You didn't have to file for divorce/annulment in the RP, the minute your ex-husband's divorce from you was final, you were also divorced and single. All you need to do is file the divorce decree in a RP court. Once a judge signs your filing, it is then a matter of record in the RP. Careful here, "it is a matter of record" meaning you were already divorced and you were already single before you filed in a RP court. Filing in the RP court is just to put your divorce on record in the RP, not to grant you a divorce.

The tricky part is that with the decree, you are free to marry again pretty much anywhere in the world, but not in the RP. In order to marry again in the RP, you have to first file the decree with the court so it is a matter of record (to wipe out your marriage in the RP).

The RP recognizes US divorces basically because the RP has no other choice. What I mean is, if your husband divorces you and the divorce is granted with a decree, the RP can't say "you are still married." If your ex-husband is single due to divorcing you, you are also single.

You can cancel the annulment that you have going in the RP, because it is useless, you are already legally single. Annulment is divorce and you don't need two divorces (one is enough!).

If I were your fiancee, I'd go ahead with the K-1 because both of you are single and so free to marry (this is the absolute basic requirement to file the K-1). I'd ask you to file the decree in the RP court as soon as you can. If the RP court hasn't acted before you get interviewed at the USEM, you should document all things related to marriage to the Nth degree then cross your fingers and go to the interview. The worst that can happen is that they'll ask for more documentation. If they don't ask for more documentation, with your divorce decree, you are free to marry in the US even if the RP court hasn't acted.

If your ex-husband won't give you a copy of the decree, divorce is a matter of public record and so you can get your own copy. I think, even a stranger can get a copy of your divorce decree.

(ooops, there I go ahead using my wife's account)

I wish when Pelosi went home just a little while ago for her break, she was met with anti-war protesters to remind her that in 2006, the dems won many elections by running on an anti-war platform.

She hasn't done anything to end any war, NOTHING!

Go to ST. MARY'S for your CFO. They give sticker the same day after your seminar. I did my CFO there in the morning and at night my flight going to USA. No problem at all. Now I'm here in USA 8 months already.

Good Luck...WELCOME TO USA...

GOD BLESS US MORE AND GOD BE WITH US ALL THE TIME...

Even in marriage there limits..... the bigger question is... Do you trust him?...Does he trust you?...

Trust is earned. He isn't earning any trust by keeping her out of his email, he is doing the opposite.

I have been reading through this website quite a bit today as it is my day off ...

I am curious if others here have met their fiance or SO through a relative? And if so did you have any issues along the visa journey because of this?

I will give you a little bit of how my fiance and I met ...

I met my fiance through my father and his wife ( Who is filipina ) ... my fiance and his wife are first cousins ... initially they gave each of us each others yahoo ID's were we have talked every SINGLE day since that first day ... I assume they will look at our case more closely because of this? I would have enough faith in god and the people working at the embassy's to be able to see our love for each other is unbelievably true and committed so I really don't have any worries about this ...

Anyone else here have a similar situation, if so what was or has been your experience so far? For me I wouldn't have it any other way .. I am happy and feel blessed I met her the way I did ... she is amazing.

Thank for reading and any replies !

I hope this link can help you...good luck and GOD bless you both...http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=148854&hl=abspears

If she is got of the country, out of money, out of a job, the only hope she has is to find a non profit of some type for help which would be very difficult.

If he is in the military, it would be a lot easier for her. If he is a civilian, I'm thinking it is next to impossible for her to get child support. It isn't easy for US citizens to get child support unless they really fight for it and even then, if he isn't the responsible type, he will most likely not pay. It is easy to get child support from men who have good stable jobs, because their wages can be garnished if necessary, but men who move from job to job, it is usually a waste of time to try to get child support. They would rather go to jail than to pay.

Just try this link...http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=207970

It doenst matter if your divorce is not final for you to meet her in the Philippines. Suggest your bring along the G325a forms and have them completed and signed by her while you are there. This will save you alot of time later. Also, document your visit with alot of photos. Keep copies of hotel receipts, airline tickets as evidence of meeting. If you have never been to the Philippines you are in for a great experience.

Great advice.

Be sure to realize that 1 G325a form is 4 pages, they appear to be the same, however look at the bottom from and you'll see a slight difference. Have her sign a few of these - if she signs 3 forms, she signs 12 times.

Unless you live in the boonies, there are Filipino or Asian grocery stores or markets so it really isn't a big deal. She can make her own Filipino food if she isn't happy with whatever else is available. It is really that simple. She doesn't have to eat anything other than Filipino food, really.

"Texas hill country" - maybe you do live in the boonies. Guess you have to take a trip to the city and stock up.

And: http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=206046

Nope, she can't do it, can't leave the country until she gets GC.

There is advance patrol, but that has to be applied for during AOS and so you won't get it for a while after applying for AOS.