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On the split, I'm not really after assets. I'm looking to keep the custody of both pets, and to have debt of mine linked to his financial abuse reassigned to him. That includes a tax debt around $20k that he's not paying at all and not being a citizen I can't default on it. That means I can't have his wages garnished until I'm a citizen and/or litigate for it in the divorce. It also includes his skipping rent when he felt like it, currently not paying rent despite having moved out due to the full OOP but refusing to sign himself off the lease while fully aware that it's preventing me from renewing it. It includes his having undercontributed to all expenses for 3 years, like not paying for groceries or for household supplies and paying a tiny portion of the rent all the while earning about as much as I was and having had stable employment throughout the relationship. For instance last year my Adjusted Gross Income was $37k, his was about $60k. He was paying $1200/mo out of a $3700/mo rent and I was paying the difference + groceries + household supplies + pet supplies + energy + Internet etc. Then I got hit for the second time in a row with a $12k tax bill because with these expenses I wasn't able to withhold anything on my freelance activity; which he deems is not for him to pay. Meanwhile he spent his income on alcohol, sex clubs, clothing, tacky jewelry, drugs, trips to Mexico, criminal defense lawyers, PIs, etc. And a bunch of other things financially. The total amount that I can argue he reasonably owes me ranges in the $45-75k so if I get a court to compel him to pay me half that I'll be happy. I'm also looking for judicial acknowledgement of what I was put through, for an OOP as long as possible, and for whoever his next victim is to have a chance for a heads-up that they wouldn't have if we had gotten the annulment he has been trying to get. Meanwhile, he opened a frivolous annulment suit in another State, heavily relying on the idea that I would not secure and pay a lawyer on time and file the correct motions, and that he would get a default judgement, all the while actively evading my proper divorce filing process server for months. As far as abuse goes, our marriage was all in a one-party consent state. As far as battery goes, he committed menacing, criminal mischief, assault, reckless endangerment, assault with a deadly weapon, stalking; and I provided evidence for like 15-20 occurrences of these crimes. He cheated on me, he made immigration threats, he attempted to get me into a psych ward on a false report of suicidal ideations because I had him evaluated the week before for non-consent detox; he committed coercion, extortion, he tried to frame me and to acquire founded or unfounded leverage over me to shield himself from any attempt of mine to hold him accountable. And so much more. I provided 12 transcripts of audio recordings amounting to like 10-11hrs of audio; pictures of injuries and of apartment trashing and of him drunk; FB/Whatsapp/text screenshots such as the landlady asking me why all the neighbors are telling her amidst a whole weekend of him screaming graphic death threats to the neighbors for blocks of 10-15hrs at a time that they have been periodically us physically fighting right after hearing long-### dog shrieking sounds strongly suggesting he's being strangulated; screenshots such as me injuring myself at 9pm and spamming him for hours on FB to tell him I need him immediately because I need to go to the ER and he eventually (at 1am) goes, visibly annoyed "I'm busy I'm with a fuckbuddy" and shows up at home at 6am before leaving for work. He had left at 7pm for a drink real quick before we'd go to the movies, which, obviously, didn't happen. I also provided 7 Domestic Incident Reports, one deposition for a criminal case, one ER summary for a neck sprain due to him pulling my hair, one for when he claimed I had suicidal ideations and the shrink diagnosed me on the spot with adjustment disorder with mixed anxiety and depressed mood, one after he inflicted me with minor scratches on hands with kitchen knives because I actively prevented him from stabbing cops and EMS with these. One email thread where a couple's therapist says he's cancelling the 3rd session and refunding me because he had a sleepless night dreading facing my husband again even though the sessions were on Skype. What else ? Oh on Pride 2023, I come back home at 10:30pm, the dog (100lbs) is loose and unsupervised, presumably has been for hours, so naturally I find a lot of pee and several huge turds in the bedroom (his crate is in the living room, at the exact farthest end of the apt). I sit down and start a breathing exercise to keep my composure and a building security guy knocks for me to come pick him up downstairs, tells me that he punched him when he went to pick him up at another floor because he was very drunk and attempted to access the wrong apartment. So I pick him up downstairs and in the lobby in front of witnesses he started to scream at the security guy, to insult him, and called him n**** several times. I can go on, there's a reason why my statement is 50-page long. So, yeah, I believe that my B/EC case is pretty straightforward, that the quicker I will be a citizen the more I will be able to stand up for myself in all the upcoming litigation without being as worried about the backlash he may put in motion, and also I've been trying to move and to travel abroad as little as possible until I'd be a citizen, so I don't want to wait 2 more years. A combined I-751 abuse + N-400 is by far my best route to safety. I sent my request for B/EC waiver on 9/8/2024. The joint I-751 receipt date is in early Aug 2023. I filed N-400 online on 9/19/2024. Online estimate is 3mo to N-400 decision, which is why the fact that the service center is taking a while ingesting my case amendment request is stressing me out. I don't want for the N-400 to end up being denied or disrupted by that.

Because I am not eligible for a divorce waiver as I am litigating it (and all the legwork I put for the abuse waiver is readily usable by my family lawyer in the divorce proceedings) and it will take a good while. On the other hand, I am VERY eligible for the abuse waiver. Additionally, I have use for the protections afforded by that waiver, and I filed N-400 a few weeks ago. I wouldn't be eligible for the N-400 for another two years if I had requested a divorce waiver instead. Also, our lawyer who did the joint filing said she couldn't file a waiver amendment for me because it would be a conflict of interest. Finally, thank you for your answer reply to my question about processing delays.

Do yall know by how much it delays processing? I sent a bit over a month ago a request to amend my I-751 case from joint to abuse waiver with a bit over 400 pages, and I put each type of evidence in a separate folder, then used paper clips for thick exhibits. I know they received the packet via FedEx but I haven't received any acknowledgement yet that it was scanned (like a receipt notice, or a status update saying their received my correspondence). Do they ever reject packets because of paper clips and folders or should I just be patient? The original joint application packet is about 100 pages thick and was prepared with a lawyer. I prepared the abuse amendment myself. 210 pages are transcripts of audio recordings, 40 pages for the statement, 35 pages for a collage of pictures, 15 pages for our respective Amazon order history, 15 pages for cover letter + detailed list of exhibits + list of qualifying acts for which I have corresponding exhibit references, ~20 pages of police/court records, ~10 pages of medical stuff, etc, our most recent lease, a notice to cure from the landlord. So it all is relevant stuff.

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Do you still have a pending I-751?

Found Receipt Notice and Biometrics Reuse notice attached to the case online. Current status is "Case Is Being Actively Reviewed By USCIS". I'm assuming it's gonna keep that status for at least a few months. USCIS account entry says case completion estimate is 7 months. It's calculated based on field office right?

Just filed N-400 online earlier today. Haven't received an NOA yet. I also sent a packet a little under two weeks ago to amend my existing I-751 joint case filed 13 months ago, adding a Battery/Extreme Cruelty waiver (428 pages). I haven't been notified of anything on the amendment of my I-751 yet, so I imagine I might not receive my N-400 NOA before they check that my I-751 amendment request is duly registered.