Brian&Naty

Guys i dnt know how to tell all that in just one Post, but will try to explain the Situation

My Wife and Me met online in 2005 decided to meet in person and when she went back to US filed for me.

came to US got married, even before we got married she asked me to look for a Job, because she was fired from her retail job, even before i got my visa she used to say once u come i will stop working.

well on every thing she have different "Alien" opinion then me .. actually from every body else around.. she dnt like to have any friends and not even saying hello to neighbors and i m totaly different so we have argument all the time about all the things

well 3rd week of my arrival in US i got job it was 4th or 3rd day of our marrige.. i m working... she decided to move to a Big apartment so "SHE" decided that we are going to move 3 bedroom apartment... she said it will be ok she gets partial disability money..

after 1st month of paying rent it was too much and she asked her ex husband to move with us so he can help in rent..

WHAT could i do?? i earn 1200$ and just rent was 830$ .. more over she used to use her ex husband's car whenever needed... so then she started saying buying me a CAR, we went to a car place choose a car financed it. i(Now i realised almost after one year that we have 25% APR because she have very bad credit)

i mean all this mess in her life and i feel like she got me here just to make her life easy.... Her ex husband moved out becasue we moved to a small apartment after few months .. infact we moved about 6 times in just 17 Months:S

i m amazed "Thats American Life"

when i was back home she said to me and my mom .... oh your son dnt have to pay me any thing just help me in the Bills... but eventually every thing came on my shoulders now ... i can not just explain all of this pain i m going through i feel so embarrassed. she is addicted to Alcohal and smoking so i have to pay for every thing.

Some time when we argue she says she will go to USCIS and remove my file...when i say that i will file against u that u r abusing me and using me to make her life better. she Calls me a Terrorist because i m Muslim, she says sorry then.

She is on Prozac and Paxil.

is she right in saying that i am responsible for her all needs she dnt have to work?

we will be married 2 years this agust still waiting for green card.

Please give your opinions

WOW. Well, for thats its worth. document, document, document, everything. Put the utilities in your name if you can. Photocopy the bills, the payments. everything you are paying for. Look for collection notices for debts that she has incurred after leaving her job. Build your case so that you can provide a proper defense when you need it, and by the looks of it, you will need it. Pay with checks that are in your name only. do not give her access to your checking account. cut off her cash flow. do not buy her booze and smokes for her. She may have gone into this relationship thinking that her behavior would change for the better. She was wrong. She just sounds like someone with a lot of problems looking for you to fix it.

So,

I am sitting home on this saturday night while my husband attends his brother's bachelor party. I know that they are getting a few strippers even though both Chris and Jared asked them not to..but Chris has got those kinda friends who just love strippers.

Any way- How do you guys feel about strippers? Do you think it's no big deal for your significant other to go to a strip club or be at parties where strippers are involved? Does it make you insecure if you say that it bothers you?

I really don't see the problem with it in this case. But, I feel like I'm almost sitting on the fence. I'm secure enough in a marriage to know that my husband wouldn't cheat, but at the same time, I know that a lot of strippers do more than just strip and I'm not sure if I want my husband seeing other female parts besides mine.

Ah, I don't know.

I went 1 time in the 7 years I have been in South Florida. I dunno. A woman dressed sexy with a mini skirt on or other revealing clothing has a better effect than one just moving around naked. I guess kind of like a cake. Its the frosting that gives it appeal. take that away, the cake is just kind of boring with nothing on. and who wants to eat that?

I have a few questions: Is St Lukes supposed to keep my fiancee's passport after her exam and forward to Manila embassy? Can she take the CFO seminar without her passport (per previous question) while waiting for visa? How long is it taking now to receive visa from time of actual interview/approval?

Thanks again everyone!!

Hmmm, my fiancee just finished her interview on the 16th. I do not think they require the CFO any longer. Naty will be going to the PDOS prior to leaving. I am sure others will respond soon. But in any case. She needs to make a photocopy of her passport and carry it with her. I am expecting the visa to be delivered this week. about 8 to 10 days. She will pay AIR 21 at the Embassy and they will deliver the visa to her. ( it was P 215) Good luck on your journey.

A very big THANK YOU to all the members of VJ whom have helped Naty and myself through our long and sometimes frustrating K-1 process. Naty was approved on July 16th, 2009 in Manila.

I am pretty certain without the assistance I found on here, I do not know what I would have done. Visajourney is a tremendous community with so many good and decent people. I cannot say thank you enough.

LOOKING BACK.

In retrospect, the bumps in the road were more based on emotions rather than the actual process itself. Like anything else, its the "not knowing" that rattles the nerves.

In comparison to others on here, it seems that my journey along this path with Naty was rather tame. My heart goes out to those whom have run into missing documentation, failed medicals, mis-understandings, and the collapse of relationships when the burdens becomes too hard. There are reasons for everything in life and even a loss is still a gain in what we can learn about who we are when the going gets tough.

As petitioners, the majority of us are where we are going to be when our significint others join us. For our spouses, girlfriends, boyfriends, and their children, they are leaving the life they know behind, their friends, family, neighbors, the surroundings, good or bad, it takes a lot of courage no matter the circumstances. I told Naty to go out and take pictures of everything she sees everyday. The house and the neighbors, the salon she worked in for so many years. Anything and everything. This will be her history to reflect on and to remind her of home. Funny how even a photo of a doorway can tell a story years later.

Having said that; is what I am bringing to the table, is it better?, is it worse?, is it worth the sacrifice on Naty's part? There is just no way to tell. Prayer and faith has taken us this far, It will have to take us the rest of the way.

It has been 4 long years and during the last 2, we have been fortunate in that I was able to provide Naty with a laptop and webcam so we could chat anytime. There is just no way to oversell the importance of having daily contact. If you can do it, make it so.

For Naty and myself, This part of the journey is coming to an end and a new and ever more challenging journey begins. We will marry on August 21st, 2009, exactly 4 years to the day when I first met Naty in an Internet cafe.

For those of you still waiting. Keep your hopes high and you prayers loud and often. Believe in each other and more importantly, believe in yourself. Every storm ends, every mountain has a summit. For every setback there is a victory just in the offing. You will wake up one day with your sweetheart by your side sooner than you think. Gods speed.

But reading and reading and reading more about the process is driving me looney!

This process can drive you nuts. But, take comfort that VisaJourney is the "goto" place to post questions and look at other people's experiences in the journey. If not for VJ, I am not sure we would have been able to succeed without an attorney. my fiance passed her interview on July 16th and we are awaiting the visa now.

In retrospect. The many things I worried about turned out to be unfounded. Just go through the guide, step by step, gather the needed docs, and go for it. Good Luck on your journey, the end result is soooooo worth it.

Im a little sad because i needed to undergo sputum test. God has a purpose and i believe i will be fine after 2 months. Who among here have the same schedule as me? Hope to meet you guys..

My Naty went through the Sputum test. It was a setback but the 2 months went by fast enough. She was fine. They say about 98% of the tests come back negative. The best news is no news, If she does not hear back from them, this means she is negative. she can call on the date given to her to check her status. They will tell her to come to back to St Lukes with her appointment letter. This means she is negative and you can move forward. She will get her immunizations and than in about 1 to 2 weeks, she will have her delayed interview. Good Luck.

We are awaiting delivery of Naty's visa, she passed the interview.

how long ago did this happen?

what was the reason for the deportation?

And how long are you banned?

well,,they arrest and detain in immigration detention on,,10/2006 and deported on08/22/2007

i was banned 10,,i missed court date and deportation order enter to me,,,i didn't know all that,cause i didn't got mail that i have court coming,,,so simply i missed,,,and i went for I-864 green card interview,,that was denied,cause i enter USA as crew(seaman),,no green card for me,,i can't adjust my status,,,denied,,,and arrested and detain because i have deportation order on me,,,,so that what happen to me guys,,,they deported me on 08/22/2007,,,here i am in Myanmar and now,stuck with DS-230 and civil document,,,,and i used to be crew(seaman) for 20 months,, now NVC is asking for police certificate for that time,,,from SINGAPORE,,,i was like what the hell?,,how i can?,,i was in the international water,,nothing to do with Singapore government,,now i have hell of explanation to do ,,,,anyway,,step by step,,,and it will come to the point where it will be black or white,right?,,thank for ur reply,,,,,,

What flag/country was the vessel registered in? If it was a Singaporean ship, technically.. that's an extension of the Singapore Government so you should be able to get police certificate. You might have to show proof that you were on board. Something like that. Hopefully, everything works out for you.

A Singaporean ship? Is Singaporean even a legit word? If so then there are Cubaneaon Ships, Japanoean ships.

Thankfully, I'll never have to worry personally about giving birth... but I hear that it's much like passing a watermelon through your nostril.

Waiting on the K-1 petition IS difficult, si man, and it nearly drove me cuckoo. Do whatever it takes to distract yourself in a positive way (violent exercise, cheating at cards, pulling the legs off ants & putting them in water & watching them sink, or other productive societal avenues), and the wait will end. Study the next steps in the process (consular interview, first) and prepare yourself. You can do it, si man.

For proof I used 3 or 4 reciepts for flower deliveries, a few emails, copies of IM chats. (You can turn the Archive function on in Yahoo Messenger to save them). I also printed out call histories from my computer to her cell phone. The rest is obvious. plane tickets, photos, passport stamps, and finanacial reciepts. )

OH.......She was approved yesterday @ Manila. We will marry on August 21st. exactly 4 years to the date we first met online.

As more I explored here, I noticed every one get their NOA1 in less than 10 days.

I don't know why only ours, sent petition on 6 April, get phone call three days later say we need submit another form. Mailed to them again on around 22 April, however, we get NOA2 on 6 June which said our petition was received on 24 May.

I don't know where our petition was during 22 Apirl to 24 May. As we definitely mailed it by Fedex...

Now we are stuck....should be two months ealier...

Don't know what we can do? Feel very disappointed about US government and very unfairly treated.

This is not a process to set your watch by. Everyone has a slightly different experience. Just hang in there, focus on your task ahead, you will have many. Good Luck.

That's right, it means she has a negative result and will get vaccinations and be scheduled for an Interview!!

Good Luck!!!

......I am thinking of the payment she made in the bank. I am not sure but I think there is also a courior fee.

OK, so the interview will be immediately following the vaccinations? or some number of days? The more time I have the better.

Thanks to everyone for the quick responses.

That's right, it means she has a negative result and will get vaccinations and be scheduled for an Interview!!

Good Luck!!!

......I am thinking of the payment she made in the bank. I am not sure but I think there is also a courior fee.

Hello all

My sweetheart was told there was a small spot on the left lung and to go for the Sputum Tests. She did that and then we went into the 2 month waiting period for the results. We received no call prior to the June 30th Deadline and called today, July 1st, 2009 as instructed.

She was told to bring her Appointment letter, Passport, and receipt for Air21. They said Next Monday, which will be July 6th or Thursday which will be July 9th.

I think from what I can read in here is that she will finish the St Lukes processing and then she will be sent over to the Embassy for the interview. Can someone please verify for me if this is the case?

I am thinking of joining her in Manila for the interview so I need to book a flight quick. God I PRAY THERE ARE NO TYPHOONS.

Thanks everyone

God Bless

Brian

That is too bad. I was careful to read all the chats before I sent them as evidence. I am not sure what they will do with that or what a blue slip means.

Hello guys! My fiance received our approved NOA2 last week. We filed last July.

Anyone received theirs this month? I'm wondering when to receive our case#. Some other cases only took days before they receive their case from NVC.

Good luck to all of us.

Yes, mine went in on August 29, 2008 and I recevied NOA2 on Janurary 26, 2009. NVC on Feburary 2nd, 2009 and the best one yet. Naty recieved her notice from Manila on Feb 14th.......Valentines Day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Congratulations to you!!

Oh My GOD!!!! you poor girl. I hope they fix this for you soon. Good Luck, may your wait be over soon.

I arrived home from work and retrived the groceries from my trunk as I do everyday I approched my mailbox and with my one free hand opened it. I see the letter from Vermont, I became kind of stunned like a deer caught in the headlights Regaining composure, I opened the letter apparantly with grocercies stiill in hand. I read Then I saw the the box with the Notice Type: APPROVAL NOTICE Then it took a moment to register Then Groceries went flying. Eggs broke everywhere. This was indeed a moment forever etched into my memory even though I know soon it wil be superseded when I see my sweetheart coming through that arrival gate.