biker4Eva

Wow! That's efficient! Are you sure you didn't make a typo? I'm impressed. I applied for mine on April 7th 08. I got my prima facie on April 14th. I haven't heard anything yet. I'm still waiting......
Could you tell me what kind of evidence you had? Did you use a lawyer? I didn't have a lot of evidence. Mine was filed in a hurry cuz my husband had threatened to call USCIS. I just wanted it on record. Was yours a straightforward approval or did you get an RFE. How long had you been married? Did you have any kids?
Thanks

Wow! That's efficient! Are you sure you didn't make a typo? I'm impressed. I applied for mine on April 7th 08. I got my prima facie on April 14th. I haven't heard anything yet. I'm still waiting......
Could you tell me what kind of evidence you had? Did you use a lawyer? I didn't have a lot of evidence. Mine was filed in a hurry cuz my husband had threatened to call USCIS. I just wanted it on record. Was yours a straightforward approval or did you get an RFE. How long had you been married? Did you have any kids?
Thanks

Thanks for your reply. And sorry about what you're going through. I met my husband in January '07 and we started dating shortly afterwards. He was really nice at the beginning. We got married in November '07. He had been sexually abusing me while we were still dating but I was too ashamed to leave him. I just couldn't imagine life without him. I loved him so much. I was so dumb. I couldn't talk to anyone. I was so ashamed. I didn't want people to judge me. Anyway, the abuse got worse in December. I should have left immediately. He practically raped me one night. I was on my period and I didn't want to have sex but he kept on insisting until finally I gave in. But in the middle of it, he turns me around and with no warning whatsoever, penetrates me anally. It was the most painful thing I have ever felt. I kept saying stop! but he didn't care. I hated him so much. I was so ashamed. It only got worse after that. I'm crying just relieving what I went through. The last straw came the week before valentines '08. He was gone for 3 days after that incident and when he came back, I had all his clothes packed in a bag and a note telling him that I didn't want to find him at home when I came back from work. I just didn't think I would be strong enough to go through with it if I confronted him face to face so I slept in my car that night and hoped he would leave. He was gone when I came home the next night. Along with my passport and some important documents.
Anyway, my evidence included a 15 page affidavit detailing what he had done to me. and of course the usual documents proving bona fide marriage, our life together etc. I did not have any affidavits from witnesses. the neighbors who witness the verbal abuse are latino illegal immigrants and I don't know if they would agree to write one for me. I should see a counselor. But I just don't seem to have the energy or the willpower to do anything. I feel so weak and so down all the time. I don't even have friends. I eat a lot. I have gained 20lbs. I just feel like I am letting myself go but I don't seem to have the will to do anything.
I don't know if I presented sufficient evidence to prove abuse. If I get an RFE, I will have to find a lawyer to handle it.

If he does not have evidence of physical abuse and it is only mental, emotional and psychological abuse, he needs to prepare a very strong self-declaration. He should detail the emotional abuse he has suffered and how it has impacted his life (low self-esteem, thoughts of suicide, depression, etc) He also needs to probably get a psychological evaluation. A psychological evaluation can be done by a licensed therapist. Is there any financial abuse? He needs to detail this. My self-declaration was 14 pages long (double spaced). The declaration needs to have at least 3 specific incidences of abuse. For example, he can write about how she locked him out of the house and how he felt about... was he ashamed? did he sleep in the cold? that can be one incident. He needs to write about his feelings.
He does not need to mention that his wife is BIPOLAR. This is not necessary and in fact, it seems callous to accuse your wife of being bipolar. He should concentrate on the actions and behaviors of his wife, not speculate on what she might be suffering from. For example, my husband was an alcoholic. But I never in my declaration did I ever accuse him of being an alcoholic. I simply stated that he drank a half a pint of hennesey when he woke up and another bottle when he went to bed. He abused me sexually. I was terrified. When he was sober, he scared me. When he was drunk, he scared me. I was in constant fear. Describe the abuse and how it impacted you.
And he needs that psychological evaluation.

I'm so happy for you. It is indeed a long wait. 11 months and counting for me. Did you receive an RFE? How much evidence did you present.

I'm so happy for you. It is indeed a long wait. 11 months and counting for me. Did you receive an RFE? How much evidence did you present.