david&who?

Because I don't find the local women attractive? I am not running into another relationship. Just wanted to know if I do are there any penalties I face?

Because I have never been alone and it suck?

Okay, so my fiance decided she didn't want to go on with the K1 visa process. I had filed on May 27, 2022. Received I-797C acknowledging receipt of the application May 25, 2022. I sent a notarized "letter of withdrawal" on 10/13/2022 to the California Service Center. I keep checking MyUscis and there has been no update. Now I know they take forever to do anything but... I tried calling someone but of course could never get through to a human being. Is there an additional step I need to take? Will this affect any possible future K1 petitions? I know what you're thinking, don't jump back in. I have heard of a WAIVER, Is this something I can request at this point? I have also heard of a 2 year ban on future applications. Any truth to this? For those of you curious why my K1 went array here you go. My fiances family, once they knew she was engaged to a "millionaire American" began moving in the her apartment with her. First a cousin, then a niece, then the eldest sister. Now, me being American didn't think this was a good thing. My fiance was going to need more family support $$$ but I was less than willing to support the entire family. She began getting requests daily from friends and family to send them "load". The three additional family members did not work and offered no financial aid of support. (They were all broke) When asked if I could triple her monthly support I replied that the problem was not "inflation" but her lazy-###-bloodsucking family members. (Of course I didn't voice those actual words but but I wanted to) To make a long story short my fiance became cold and within days she said she "just wanted to be friends". I had warned her that her family members would try to break us up as I knew they were jealous of her for many reasons. Any answers to the withdrawal process? 2 year moratorium? P.S. In hindsight I realize that I dodged a lifetime bullet as her family members would have ALWAYS been in need. While I wouldn't mind helping out in an emergency I don't want to support the 18 member family for life. Broken-hearted...Dave

Mahalo for the kind words. Yes, I can see that VJ had changed since the last time I really used it 12 years ago. It's full of judgemental people making snide remarks. Making statements that they know nothing about. I will not post anything here again. I'm done with VJ.

Now that's a rather inappropriate and judgemental comment if I ever heard one. Coming from you Boiler, I am shocked.

I NEVER said that all Filipino men are horrible. I have heard this from many people (dozens I have personally spoken to not just my fiance. Men and women included.)

She does not work overseas and never has. She lives in the Philippines.

This is not the account I wish to close I want to close my old account. Not DaveAndRudyLove account.

Thanks for staying on top of this . I really appreciate it.

Oh yeah I forgot. I pay her 1000 a month for 4 years to buy out her share of the house. Only 50k for a 750,000 dollar home on Maui. So I currently pay her 1529. a month. I stand corrected.

No, honestly I was looking for an older woman but had no luck. Many of them were "stuck" in a marriage to a man who had deserted her and their children. Many were Separated, and that's a disaster in the Philippines. I had no luck. I was actually introduced to this girl by my trike driver in the Philippines. He had a friend who's sister just moved from the Provence to the city and he introduced us. No dating sites this time around. Search youtube for David Olsten. You can see the story, the engagement party, etc.

With all due respect the first Filipina did not use me. We were married for 8 years. She had her green card and US citizenship after 2 years of marriage. We had two children, after the US Citizenship together and were very happy. After having the second child my then wife suffered extreme bleeding in the hospital and went CODE BLUE. Emergency surgery, ventilator, the whole works. Complete removal of all her her female parts, uterus and Fallopian tubes. She survived and we were very happy but she became a different woman. She refused and still refuses to take the female hormones that her doctor prescribed. This is when our marriage started to go down the tubes. And I didn't lose much in the divorce. She wanted very little. I only pay 529 dollars a month child support. So she was not a bad person. She was the only one who couldn't see the changes. I actually feel bad for her but she refuses to take the meds.

Thanks, I appreciate your comments.

Mahalo Ryan

I would love to and planned on living in the Philippines but I have two beautiful children here now and could not leave them. I have mentioned the idea of both of us living in the Philippines and she has been enthusiastically positive about that option also.

Security, trust, love, structure, companionship... All of the Filipinos I have spoken to say that they don't want to marry a Filipino because they are notorious for leaving for another woman, or they just don't want to take responsibility for the child/children. I know for a fact that this is a common problem in the Philippines leaving many single mothers to fend for them selves. No alimony, child support, spousal support or responsibility for the cheating boyfriend/husband. And since the Philippines has no divorce these poor girls are stuck in limbo, never able to marry another. It's tragic.

Yes I have a 5 year old daughter and a two year old son. They are my pride and joy. They are my kids for sure. We had to do IVF because I had undergone a vasectomy years ago. We share custody 50/50. She became a US Citizen within two years of arriving in the US.

(I know this doesn't belong here so I apologize to the moderators in advance. I sent this request several weeks ago to one of the mods and have not received a response.) I have an old account kawika69 that I wish to delete. I found a new fiance and no longer want the kawika69 account. I have started a new account: DaveAndRudyLove and hopefully this is the girl I will complete this process with. Please advise how to go about deleting the "old" account. Mahalo, David O

Okay, so my Fiance is 21 and I am 65. I know this is a huge age gap however in the Philippines age is not the deciding factor for young ladies. Does the US Embassy know this or are they going to give her/us extreme scrutiny at the interview? How do we prepare for this? We have provided evidence with our initial filing of us being together in the Philippines. We have provided evidence of our engagement, including the Manager of the Hotel who wrote a letter, on hotel letterhead and stated that he was present at the engagement surprise. We have provided photos together holding up 4 newspapers with the dates on them. I also provided my boarding passes, etc... I know the age gap is huge and maybe I am crazy but I believe that my fiance loves me just as much as I love her. (In 2013 I went to the Philippines and married a 19 year old girl and brought her to the US. She walked out on me after 8 years of marriage and two children. I never saw it coming.) Our divorce was finalized in January 2021. I knew I could not marry in the Philippines again as they do not recognize US Divorce, hence the K-1 visa this time. Tell me, am I crazy?

I know this used to be nearly impossible but just thought I would check. I just filed the k-1 petition and was thinking it would be great to get my fiance over here for a visit with no intent on her staying here, with her returning to the Philippines as we await the at least one year process. Is this possible these days? Just checking... David O