emilyneff

This is almost the exact same situation as my boyfriend and I. In my post that you're quoting, I think I got confused about getting married vs. getting married then immediately filing for adjustment of status. It sounds (from you and from other things I've since read) that as long as we make it clear he's not intending to stay and it's a legit relationship, they won't have a problem with him coming here to get married. 
 
I'm glad everything went smoothly for you guys and congrats on your spousal visa! I can only hope for the same for us. Your words make me feel a lot less panicked about this process. 
 
 

We got married in the US while I was visiting. So, it can be done! 
If you can I would get married in the US and not go forward with Utah (but that is my personal preference). 
But, as I said if you are worried about him being turned away. Go with Utah and make it work so you can visit him in SA. 

We wanted me to come visit him in South Africa, but our personal schedules are making that difficult. It would be easier if he visited me, but I will keep your words in mind. There's always a risk of using a tourist visa, I'm comfortable though because he's visited successfully before and he has many ties to his country.