If your i-30 was withdrawn, your i-485 will automatically be denied and your ead revoked.
I know you feel depressed but you have to act fast, put evidences together and file vawa, If possible before the letter get to you.
You will be put in removal proceedings if you do nothing fast, but once you file vawa you will be untouchable untill decision is made.
Withdrawal of your i-30 and threatening to kick you out of the country can be regarded as extreme cruelty and can be added to other abuse you suffered to build a solid case.
Act fast and don't give up.
See a psychologist and ask for a report
Draft a declaration
Get an fbi background check or police report from you county
Get pictures of you both together,pictures of dinner dates and trips, wedding pictures, pictures with family and friends.
Take declaration from your friend and pastor of whom you told about the abuse.
4 passport photos
If you are not motivated enough consult a lawyer.
Keep the process from your spouse.
I wish you Goodluck....