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12 minutes ago, Jorgedig said:

Girl, he’s not the one.   If this is the situation now, it will not be any better if you marry him.

 

Take your daughter and fly home.   Take care of yourself and your child.   

Thank you. 
 

5 minutes ago, Jorgedig said:

Sorry to hear all this, but you're much better off finding everything out now, rather than after marrying him.

 

Did you only have the one in-person visit before he petitioned for you?  A month and a half is not adequate time to get to know someone well enough to marry them, as you're now finding out.

 

The things he is saying to your daughter are inexcusable.  Please get her out of that situation.  Kids internalize the things said to them, and it can have long-term consequences.

 

Take care and good luck. ❤️

In total we’ve spend about 6 months of the 3yrs of our relationship  together in person. When he visited he stayed about a month each time and he visited a few times. We stayed  In my home. He Met all my family and friends and l showed him a lot of my country and nearbys. 
He pursued me for 2yrs before I agreed to the relationship so we kind of know each other for 5yrs. 
Our relationship worked well before, we video called every single day, he was so supportive but a little controlling which seemed like love and care to me. We were really best friends. Except my real friends didn’t think he was a good match for me. 
The things he say to my daughter and to me have been terrible. We are really beaten up emotionally and walk on eggshells shells. 
We live in his hometown, he was born here, schooled here and lives here but we are yet to meet any of his family and friends, we’ve met a neighbour only. 
I  had spoken to some of his friends over the phone when we were dating but now when l ask about them he says none of your business. 
Today we were supposed to go get a marriage licence and he picked up a fight, so It didn’t happen. Now he won’t talk to me, the silent treatments last a day or 2. 

 

My heart is sore as l write this. 
I’ve been in the US for a little over 2 months now on K1 and sadly our relationship seems to be stuck. A little backstory : we tried for a year and a half to get me a visitors visa and that failed, we were told to apply for a K1 instead. My partner has cancer so the process was painful. Covid was painful. He visited and stayed a month here and there and everything was perfect although some days he felt sick. 
I love this man. 
But since my arrival in the US he isn’t the same person l knew for 3yrs. He’s miserable, he’s sick he’s in pain and l do not know what to do at times. He snaps he yells at me he tells me everything is none of my business when l try to have discussions. 
He also refused to discuss marriage. He said he would plan everything by himself. 
He doesn’t want to go anywhere, doesn’t want to do anything as a family, he hates my daughter and constantly tells her how my nephew who’s back in Africa is so much better than her. 
He’s a executive, work from home but doesn’t do much which I thought was a great thing and we can get to spend time together. I woke him up after he’d been sleeping a few days ago and he said if l do that again he will kill me. 
constantly tells me he will send me back to Africa. 
he hates that I am somewhat independent but doesn’t want to assist me when l ask for anything. 
my daughter got into school and she’s been doing really well my heart breaks to pull her out and move back home but I feel l have no choice. 
why do partners feel they can abuse the other just because they are the US citizen, I do not know if this is being caused by his cancer medicines or if he’s just not interested in me anymore. Ps we haven’t been intimate since l got here 2 months ago. He hasn’t touched me in a sexual way and he hasn’t shown any sort of affection. The most I’ve gotten and managed to sneak in was a kiss on the lips like a little kid. 
I went through his phone and he is in close contact and has phone sex with a certain ex. 
I guess l don’t really need any advice l just needed to vent. 

Keep it in JHB as long as she has all documents in order and she is legally in SA.

Hello everyone. From those that have had their interviews recently and got approved, what was the waiting time from issued and visa in hand? Specifically from issued to visa in hand. Or after issued what’s next? Thanks guys x 

How long after issued did you have it in hand? Please 

2 hours ago, JimBette said:

Due to the covid problems it might take 6 weeks 

6 week is doable, and then interview it’s another month of waiting or? 

What the current waiting time please for interview after nvc forwards your case  to embassy? It’s been 4 weeks. 

7 minutes ago, Jorgedig said:

No.

So what is the good of the expedition then? 

Greetings, Our expedite request was accepted 2 weeks ago and last week we got our Noa2. October filler so it was about time anyway.  Question is does it mean we are expedited all the way through? Nvc -embassy?